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Thank you all for advice, guidance and help setting up our first meeting of someone for sex. We had previously set up to attend a party that we drove hours to get to then decided not to join. Our first swing was terrific with vacationers at an adult only resort. No planning it happened in a very fun meeting. Since coming home we wondered what meeting others would be. With help we used a profile to search for a long distance meeting. We had plenty of fun looking and wondering, we also had plenty of frustration. We weren’t in a rush to meet others knowing the longer we waited the more difficult it would be for me. My husband did most of the searching and I would read the profiles he chose. We found an attractive younger non married couple. I thought too much younger and I posted my thoughts here. The advice we were given was they weren’t that much younger and age is a number. Some of you stated that you met others 20 years older. More advice, meet at a neutral site to see if we liked them stipulating no sex on first date. It worked we liked them, we felt they liked us. We set up a “date” for the next night if we could get someone to watch our kids. Next night was our first swinger meeting. It went well, even great. The best part is I know that I can swing. I can meet others for sexual pleasure without guilt. I felt this was my only opportunity, if it didn’t work out I most likely would go back to a quiet life.

Congratulations! I'm glad it turned out well for you. I was raised by strict Catholic parents with all that it entailed, especially one sex partner for life, a husband. The biggest lesson I learned in my journey is that humans are not monogamous. Not only should we enjoy sex with others even within a marriage, but there is great joy in having our spouse do so as well. All the best in your adventures finding additional pleasures and having fun.

I am just opposite, I like fast funk music playing and in front of people, especially if my partner likes to also. I can think of 3 different times at parties having sex surrounded by partygoers. I like it more if I don't know many of the people, yet they are shouting encouragement.

We are sorry for you and what is happened to you. We have had nearly the same experience for 30 years ago, than after we have made rules that they were no for discussion or modifications for swinging with others couple: - First meet restaurant or bars to know each others and to speak about goes and no goes without compromise. - Second meeting it is always in club for to play in one room, when we get feeling after first play it will not work or it begins with rules changing or we found out there is deviation from what have spoken. We break at once and given them a single that we us it isn't working. - When we have had a nice night with the couple in club and all four are happy how it was going, next step we can meet in private but always first to our house. Take it like a bad experience for to make it better next time because in lifestyle they are more beautiful and nice experience and meeting from other couples that they are like you and think like you. Sorry englisch is not my mother language.

Searching for the right couple on a match site whether as a single dating service or a swinging site always brings up questions. Alan and I had similar fun and frustration in our searches with many bumps and misses. Our first wasn’t great, just like the first time I had sex, but it both opened a new world of fun. A little additional advice, don’t worry about age, older or younger. You will find friends of all ages if you open your mind to talking, not everyone will be right for you. We look forward to all the positive posts of your new matches.

Yes we do anal semi regularly and she enjoys it but kind of the same for her unless she's already REALLY turned on. (Example, The other day she sent me some nudes I didn't know she took and we both got so turned on looking at them I fucked her mouth, pussy and then ass on a Sunday afternoon with no prior planning almost immediately and she had those screaming, shaking, face turning purple orgasms. 🤣) But we've done DP with me and a toy a few times (we even have an anal toy that straps on to my cock) and when that's done right she LOVES it.

If the male or female for that matter as a couple; remember """" it's just sex """... Had numerous adventures with both males and females with my wife. As my pointed out, she becomes super aroused watching me having sex with another woman... Especially when she knows she gets to eat her out afterwards. Both physical and mental stimulation at its finest.

Sex between her and I was marked off her bucketlist September 12, 1978 !

Everyone has their own quirks. The more you meet the more you learn how different each is. Viva la Difference

That is so funny. It is strange that some have rules that don’t make sense to me. No anal, fine. Even no oral but that would be a deal breaker. Condoms again I understand. But Kissing lol.

I can understand some put restrictions on what they do with others we chose to be in the moment or go with the flow. We met very nice people who had a no kissing rule, no kissing on the mouth, no French kissing. Knowing the rule was a distraction for me, I don’t think of kissing as intimate or meaning anything more than any other contact. The real strange thing was she had no problem doing oral sex to completion.