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Hello My name is Leah, also known as PSULioness an alumna of Pennsylvania State University where I belonged to a sorority I will not name. A little over 8 years ago I attended a football game with friends I knew from school that ended up a snowy day and a day that changed my life. I know some here think I was bullied and quit posting because of an individual saying nasty things to me which I only wish was the reason. I will now try to clear up any thoughts or questions on what happened in my life. If you are uninterested please skip my what may be lengthy history. First I want to thank a few friends who supported me through some trying times the last few years. I never thought I would seek guidance from older than me strangers who I found to be wiser. To continue, on that snowy day, a friend and guy friend convinced me to stay with them instead of driving in the snow. The 3 of us shared a bed in a local hotel which I agreed to innocently. At the time I was living with my future husband and was monogamous. You don’t need to be a scholar to figure what happened that night. To this day I don’t know how things went from innocent to much more. My girlfriend who was in the middle put her arm around me while I was sleeping then went further. How or why I didn’t stop her I can’t say. I never had any sexual desire for any girl in my life. I’ve told this story so many times I wonder how much is memory or how much is how I remember it. That night I became non-monogamous and had my first of many bi-sexual encounters. I’m not sure what bothered me more, the girlfriend or having sex with a guy I didn’t know. It was around that time I found out some of my sorority sisters were bi. That’s all background to me getting married, my husband getting to enjoy my friend’s openly sexual parties, me sharing my friends with him and me coming close with my husband’s best friend. Details aren’t important but his friend became my best friend when my husband traveled for business. My husband encouraged me, I didn’t do anything that he didn’t approve. My narrative turns now. At that point we decided to start a family and I became pregnant, something we were very happy about. That is when darkness set in, I had a feeling that his friend was the father. Stupidly I continued to be with our friend after stopping birth control. Call it bad timing, it had to be our friend. That is when my lies started, I had the pregnancy terminated, telling everyone I had a miscarriage. Dark days led to fights and a divorce. Darker days were ahead. I met a man who took me in. Older than me, he was a swinger and used me as an entree to parties. Things got worse after we moved to New England. He started to have friends come over just for sex. I swear he was a pimp, the men were nasty. I should have run away but had nowhere to go, I couldn’t admit what I was doing to my parents in NY. The sex also took a turn, he started being into sadism, spanking. The men he invited wanted to spank a young girl. He made me dress in school girl clothes for the men. I just couldn’t do it anymore and called a friend who saved me and moved me back to NJ. That is the reason I stopped posting, not because of nasty comments, I only wish that was the cause. I’m doing better now, moving on with my life with the help of good caring friends. Thank you to the friends I made here who check up on me and my well being. As my Dad would say “Peace”☮️

So sorry to hear of the sad events that occurred in your life. Glad things have turned around for you. Open sexuality can be light and fun, but in the wrong hands it can be destructive. I always enjoyed your posts and I am happy to hear that you have moved past bad situations and I wish you future happiness and fulfillment.

We met our first on a cruise so there may be something about vacations that loosen your inhibitions. The couple we swapped with joined us on a nude beach followed by plenty of liquor on the ship. All these years later I say it was the best romantic night in our swapping life. The way he touched me, kissed me and made love to me is burnt into my memory. He saw be naked as I saw him that day on the beach yet it was so much different alone in a cabin and allowing him in me. MT how did you feel when a stranger entered you that first time and did you have concerns? We meet our firsts who don’t live near us and I’m wondering why you don’t contact them or meet them.

Thank you all for advice, guidance and help setting up our first meeting of someone for sex. We had previously set up to attend a party that we drove hours to get to then decided not to join. Our first swing was terrific with vacationers at an adult only resort. No planning it happened in a very fun meeting. Since coming home we wondered what meeting others would be. With help we used a profile to search for a long distance meeting. We had plenty of fun looking and wondering, we also had plenty of frustration. We weren’t in a rush to meet others knowing the longer we waited the more difficult it would be for me. My husband did most of the searching and I would read the profiles he chose. We found an attractive younger non married couple. I thought too much younger and I posted my thoughts here. The advice we were given was they weren’t that much younger and age is a number. Some of you stated that you met others 20 years older. More advice, meet at a neutral site to see if we liked them stipulating no sex on first date. It worked we liked them, we felt they liked us. We set up a “date” for the next night if we could get someone to watch our kids. Next night was our first swinger meeting. It went well, even great. The best part is I know that I can swing. I can meet others for sexual pleasure without guilt. I felt this was my only opportunity, if it didn’t work out I most likely would go back to a quiet life.

For my wife, it's not putting on a show per se, but she enjoys knowing I am watching and enjoying watching her having sex with another man. When we first got into it with MFMs, she always wanted me to be directly involved. Over time, she learned she really enjoyed me sitting back and enjoying the view.

Concerns? Extreme fear that someone would find out. We had a little foreplay, I never saw a penis like his, I learned uncircumcised. Having had sex only with Timmy before that I could tell it was different but not sure how it was different, but it was perfect. I wish we could get on a plane to visit, they don’t live in the US.

Although we in our poly family have ventured into occasionally having casual sex outside the family, there is a deep romantic, loving connection among us five in the family. Sex and love and children among us makes me feel unusually lucky. Blessed, as they say in the South.

She was an angel sent by God. I'm not joking. Me too, but none of it was with my husband-to-be. In high school (Catholic high school), I did hand jobs, oral, and anal with several boys but only let one touch my pussy. Until Red, who is part of our poly family still. Most religions are to control people.

We def have a bit of an exhibitionist streak 😜

I enjoy when Mike watches me and says he enjoys watching.

I don’t want to put on a show or watch a show, I enjoy being made love to. I want my partner to pay attention to me without having to prove anything to an audience

What the exact words were I don’t remember. She was telling us about the other resorts, one was Hedonism, I don’t remember the others where there is sex parties and nude beaches. I let her know I was a virgin when we married and Timmy is the only one who I had sex with. We joked about that, I then said I did have other kinds of sex before. Don’t know why I told her about hand and oral sex before we married. She said she loss count on the men she had sex with. We talked about my childhood and didn’t want my reputation in our town talked about. The conversation was going to an embarrassing way about did I ever wonder what it would be like with another man. Think my sunburn didn’t cover the other shades I turned. We talked religion and then others finding out. She said nobody at the hotel is from my town and she thought Timmy would enjoy another woman. I said I don’t remember the exact words that convinced me, maybe that we will probably never get this chance again. Now we know it’s hard to get a second chance of meeting but not impossible.

Hehe, thanks. 😈 Not her first time with a girl. She's openly bisexual and had dated women before we were together. Ahh that would've been hot. But no, us being so new we kind of followed their lead at the time and everyone came with their own partners at the end.

We vacationed at an adults only resort, not a swingers resort, and met a couple who told us their story. They are swingers and I think they went to Hedonism several times and told us wild stories. Timmy and I lived a very sheltered life, he was my only. I don’t want to call it seduction that we fell for, it was eye opening.

You have heard excellent commentary. Yours was a learning experience. Over the decades (OMG, it has been decades…) we have adopted a fairly standard approach. 1. We prefer a phone conversation or brief video call prior to the first meeting. We want to know who we are meeting. We like video, as the camera is pretty good at telling us whether the posted photos are 20-years-ago or accurate representations of who the couple is today. 2. First meeting is in a public place, usually a light meal, always messaging “no expectations, we do not play on the first date”. 3. When we meet the couple for dinner, we are asking ourselves four questions: a. Does this couple behave like a couple? Do they have the gentle banter that signals that they are in love and on the same page? b. Is there any depth? Does the conversation get beyond sports and weather? c. How do they treat others, such as the (anonymous) waitstaff? Are they engaged and kind? d. Can we see ourselves naked in the hot tub with this couple? 4. We always find a way to excuse ourselves for a moment — perhaps to take a call. This gives the other couple a chance to check in as well. Both of us have unquestioned veto power. No excuses or explanations required. We do this midway through the meal just to get a sense of how much we want to chat with/reveal to the other couple. 5. We always end the meal on a gracious note. Later, we will discuss things between ourselves and figure out what sort of a thank you note to send. Great matches in the LS are … rare. Cherish the ones that you make. And don’t ever “take one for the team.”

I’ve read in profiles: “If you don’t look like your pictures, you are buying us drinks until you do.” P.S., we have met couples who post as 10 years younger than us and are 10 years older. People notice.

If we are meeting a new couple near home, we advise them that our first meeting is vanilla only. Meaning we are going to have dinner, drinks, dessert or whatever but not sex. This way, my wife and I can privately discuss whether we want to meet them to play. Sometimes one of us notices something important about the other couple, good or bad, but we can’t discuss it in front of them. Or one of us is excited and the other one is repulsed. This method takes off a lot of pressure. And avoids potential embarrassing moments. All bets are off if we are at a cruise, resort, house party or club. We’ll play without dinner, but we do have to meet a little. Those are easier places to start a lifestyle connection.

Sorry about the negative experience ☹️ It sucks that you had a bad experience while you're still sort of new. That can sour things but please don't let it. Think of every bad experience as a lesson learned, grow from it, and make your next one better. I think maybe adopt a new rule to not do separate rooms until you have done same-room a couple times first. I know some couples are into the separate room thing, but honestly we don't get it. For us, half the pleasure is watching your partner.

We canceled out on Mexico now for the third time in the past year. Last week at the Casino, during the week, we went to the 360 View Chophouse for a snack and drink at 11 PM. From there, down to blackjack and craps... Julie can feel more comfortable with masks on and late during the week. It tended to be cool so Julie's nipples really popped. There were maybe an 1/2 dozen couples of various ages around the casino and a few dozen men. There really was very little reaction about Julie's dress...... Robb