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I was always adamant on enjoying a partner privately in a separate room away from my husband and others watching. My feelings go back to our original, and still my favorite swap partner. Normally we meet our friends for vacations, cruises, and occasionally at their home. This past weekend they came to the Jersey shore with several other couples who were interested in going to our clothing optional beach. Swapping for us started on a cruise and a visit to a nude beach about 10 years ago. Those who know Gunnisons beach know there isn’t many hotels on the beach, our friends rented a shore house a half hour away. Also you need to get to this area early if you want to get a parking spot. We met them on the beach and being the locals we brought the best bagels, lox, cream cheese and a Jersey specialty, Pork Roll. No fights, Taylor Ham. Meeting on a nude beach is the best, no problems later being naked. Back at the rental things went perfectly as all was done in a huge family room. No pairing off for private play as I usually do, it was just fun for fun’s sake. Mr S2P and I were the newbies to most of them and became the attention of those who wanted to welcome us to their fun. This is not the first time we were with a party group, I always felt uncomfortable in front of a crowd. I enjoy staying with one partner so I needed to change my attitude and let go.

Once we were on Gunnison. A couple moved their chairs closer and closer to us. We had dinner with them. Played the next night. They admitted they were trying to pick us up, which was flattering. Another time we met a group at Gunnison. Chatted with a couple we did not know. As we were leaving, we asked where they were staying. The hotel room next to ours! Blah, blah, blah, dinner, we did each other. I said we often have sex with the couples next door.

Well.. heres a long overdue update. Last weekend we had an intense session that involved dvp with a realistic dildo that is about the same size as me (8x6) and her giving me head while using the dildo. Lots of orgasms and squirting. The following night we went out to dinner and I asked about it on the ride there and if it was something she'd like to do for real. She told me that she doesn't think another guy could be as good as me in bed and that she would be grossed out by someone else sweating on her. She said it is her biggest fantasy, but wants to keep it that way. So that is probably the end of it from my end. Thanks for all the suggestions, but I guess this is the end of the road.

Guys, What's your favorite thing/things about having same sex fun? Are there things you enjoy more with a man than a woman? For me, oral has always been something I enjoy more with a man. Giving and receiving. Also, from a simplicity stand point, I can sometimes share a few emails with a guy, meet up, chat for minimal time and if things click, we can usually be naked within minutes. And after we're done, the conversation is usually... "Hey that was fun, hit me up again this week when you're horny and have time"

When we lived in Monmouth County my wife and I (sometimes with visiting friends) often went to Gunnison. We only liked to stay for a couple of hours, so it worked out to arrive later in the afternoon, when the beach wasn’t crowded and parking spaces were plentiful. it seemed like people were more likely to try to pick us up later in the day.

After years of not being tested I ask my doctor to be tested. No questions of why from her I now get tested whenever I have bloodwork, not every month.

We don't even bother going through our doctors anymore. We just go straight to the lab and pay out of pocket.

I tell my doctors to test for STDs when they do my blood test every four months. I've never been questioned as to why -- I'm pretty sure they can figure it out. General Practitioners are used to the dangers of non-monogamous sex. They see it every day. They won't be judgmental (although they may suggest using condoms.) And, don't forget, you're covered und.er HIPPA, so your predilections stay private.

Update: Timmy went to pay for the room and was told it was already settled. My update on our meeting: Our friends are very nice, we clicked from the first meeting. I wonder how others feel meeting the same people or having a closed group. Our first meeting we faced an unknown, there is only one first meeting. Nerves were gone this time, I knew what they looked like and knew how they played. The unknown was gone. This time we outnumbered the men, 3 of us only 2 men. I understand the limits men have, first is strong, 2nd is nice, third is iffy. The 2 men were both interested in the new “unicorn”. Timmy was quickly up for the other woman. There were comments about lesbian side or Bi side, the evening took that turn quickly. I wasn’t surprised by this, I expected it. What I didn’t like is they never told the new unicorn that I get very wet and gush. It was strange for me.

In 1997, a guy who was a VP in a tech company, and later became president of AT&T, told me, "Oh, that Internet thing? It'll never amount to anything." True story!

Among those in our closed group of married couples, with some it is making love with true emotional attachment, and with others it is just fun sex. Daniela and I have both types.

Concerns? Extreme fear that someone would find out. We had a little foreplay, I never saw a penis like his, I learned uncircumcised. Having had sex only with Timmy before that I could tell it was different but not sure how it was different, but it was perfect. I wish we could get on a plane to visit, they don’t live in the US.

Now this is going to sound a bit lame but, I enjoy the conversation. Of course I enjoy sucking a cock but, I think what I like most about having a buddy who I share the bisexuality with, is the great conversations. With vanilla friends there is just too much that you can't talk about. With women we all have to watch how crude we talk, right?

It just sort of came up between the two of us. My husband liked to talk dirty to me during sex, and he would start asking me about my fantasies while we were in the middle of things. Even though i've always had fantasies about seeing him with someone else, or myself being with someone else, I never said anything in fear that he would get jealous or mad. One night while we were in the middle of having sex, my husband asked me what I wanted. I took a deep breath and told him that my biggest turn on would be watching him go down on another woman and my hubby's face was like this He admitted that his fantasy is watching another guy fucking me, and we both just sort of laughed and said "So since this obviously is a huge turn on for both of us, then why don't we make it a reality?" We haven't done anything yet, but we talk about it all the time, and are seriously considering it.