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I block people if they are narcissistic and if they don't give a rip about me and just about themselves. Liers , cheats, and dirty dogs, I have no time for !

A friend of mine showed me one in HS. The cover featured a POV photo facing down at a woman on her knees, mouth open, a circle of 4 or 5 hard cocks around her face. Inside were those grainy b&w photos of people who looked like our parents - engaged in unspeakable acts and seeking willing partners. My friend and I laughed and made fun - but my mind was reeling. I had no idea a lifestyle like this was available! From that moment on I knew I wanted to be a swinger when I 'grew up'. I would casually float the idea to girls I dated, and if they were repulsed I honestly saw no future with them.

We've been blocked by people that we've reached out to, even when they haven't replied to a message on SLS. My assumption is that we were simply not what they were looking for. I refuse to take that kind of thing personally.

Your wife is satisfied with you as her only lover! This is not a terrible thing and something you should appreciate. Maybe in the future she will change her mind, but for now enjoy the fact that you have a woman in your life that is dedicated to you and enjoys having a fun sex life with you. Better than being with someone who is never satisfied. We have resorted back to being only with each other for now after years of experimenting in the lifestyle. Our sex life has never been better. If someone comes up in the future that really peaks both of our interest maybe that will change, but for now we have not been actively looking. One thing that we both agreed on is that when we were with other people we were always wanting each other instead. Appreciate the good things you have in your life instead of always longing for what you don’t. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

According to other folks on the board who have more recently frequented Gunnison Beach (which is part of the Sandy Hood federal park) you cannot have sex there. If you do and are caught you are subject to arrest on non-trivial public indecency charges. I will tell you that the situation was different 25 or 30 years ago. Sex wasn’t frequent, but some people pitched tents and had sex out of sight of others and that didn’t seem to be a problem. It was not unusual to see a nude couple on their feet fully embrace for perhaps 20 or 30 seconds. I once saw a couple, a young woman and a late-middle-aged man, 69-ing right next to the path just after it divides from textile to nude. I thought that was a bit much. Once we went down to the southern end of the beach in the late afternoon and Kathy masturbated herself to orgasm with a pocket-rocket vibe. She was still sufficiently turned on that she did it again on the drive home. 😂

Can't wait to hear the details!

As a typical teenager, I had a lot of potential interests as career options. And then... Every. Last. One. Of. Them....went right out the window the first time someone sat me in front of a computer. I knew right then and there where my future lay, career wise. And so it has been, ever since then...decades on. As for swinger mags? Yep, saw them when I was a late teen/early 20s kid. Scandalous! How could people do such things? I mean, seriously? Ewwwww! No way! Friends felt the same. Fast forward ...and whaddya know, I'm in the swinger community myself 😄

Thanks. Maybe we can work the boys a little harder. 😉

When we started out we just sort of played around the edges of that fantasy for a long time. I wanted it. She wanted it. But I get that women tend to approach this stuff cautiosly so i would only mention it playfully from time to time. We started going to nude beaches and after a while opportunity struck while on a nude beach in Fla. and our first LS experience was a 3sum with a guy we befriended there.

My #1 thing is to make her go wild. From what I have gathered, it's definitely 2 guys at the same time. I don't really have any interest in watching and certainly don't like the idea of her going out on her own. It would be a couples thing to bring the current bedroom stuff from me + dildo to me + real thing. I'll bring it up again, but in a more supportive manner using the advice provided. Thanks again

What GoldCoCouple said * 1000. It's true; single men in the lifestyle are like leaves on trees. They're everywhere and anywhere. Supply FAR outstrips demand. So, your wife can be quite picky if she wants to and likely still get what she wants. If you make a profile on a swinger site (follow GoldCoCouple's advice about getting on one; find the right one and JOIN), and indicate you are looking for single males, you will likely be bombarded with contacts from single males, especially if you live within ~50 miles of a major metro area. Some filtering can be done. A piece of advice I've given out often; when you make your profile, make it at least somewhat long. Within it, bury an otherwise innocuous statement like "If you contact us, tell us what your favorite color is". Why do this? Because if you receive a contact from a single male and it doesn't answer the question, it's obvious they didn't read your profile. There are single males out there who just spam the same contact email to every couple they can find who is open to single males. I'm guessing you don't want a guy like that. So, this provides an easy pre-filter for single guys who contact you. Too hairy is certainly a valid concern. If I could offer a counterpoint though; one of the best lovers my wife has ever had in the lifestyle was a guy who was very hirsute. She just couldn't get enough sex with him, and absolutely loved having sex with him. Some other input; there are a number of different ways to dip your toes in the pool without actually jumping in. The idea of going to a sex club is one, but it can feel more intense than other ways of dipping your toes. You can go to a regular nightclub that seems to have your demographic, and let you wife dance with other men. You can sit in the shadows, and be there for her and watch. Nothing has to happen on her part, except have some fun dancing. Not into dancing? Have her sit at the bar while wearing a nice dress and heels, while you sit off in the corner. If it's a busy club, there's a pretty good chance one or more guys will talk her up. She doesn't have to do anything except enjoy her drink and have some conversation. Another way; go shopping together, and have her pick out guys she thinks are attractive. She doesn't even have to interact with them, just point out ones to you that she thinks are attractive. My wife and I have done this a number of times; she'll say "mmmmmmhe's a yes!" Another way; go to a swinger meet-and-greet. Most major metro areas have at least one group that puts on meet and greets for swinger couples. They're usually not sex-on-premise sorts of get togethers. You're just there to meet like minded people. It's usually almost all couples, but even so it's a way to meet people who actually have engaged in non-monogamy. It can be eye opening to realize swingers are just your average person you see in a grocery store. There's no pressure at such meet and greets. Another way; go to a clothing optional beach. That might seem a big step, but once you're on the beach and everyone else is naked, you'll feel awkward wearing a swimsuit...and off it goes. People (usually) aren't having sex on such beaches, so there's no pressure. Just the idea of other men looking at her may be quite erotic for her, without having to do anything. You can amp this up a bit, by wandering off and leaving her seemingly by herself for a while, but maybe within eye sight. . This is sort of like being at the bar of a club, except it's with her clothes off. There's a fair chance a guy might come round and talk with her. Since there's no pressure to have sex, it can be tantalizing to be laying there naked talking with a guy she just met. The situation you seem to desire is having her be a hotwife. Not cuckoldry, but her getting to have sex with whomever she'd like. That doesn't mean she would have sex with lots and lots of men, or it could mean that! It's up to her, and that's part of being a hotwife. There are lots of guys who thoroughly enjoy their wives having sex with other men, and are quite content to not extend that to inviting couples or single women into the mix. My wife and I have been with multiple couples, but our play has involved single men a lot more. I really, really enjoy her having sex with other men, whether I'm there or not. It sounds like you are similar, or at least will be once she does! There's a forum for hotwifing couples at ourhotwives.org. You might find that interesting. Don't get me wrong; this forum will love to have you here, and we'll be happy to keep answering questions. I'm just adding on that other forum as another input point for you. In support of all of this; communication is paramount. GoldCoCouple is right about discussing this outside of the bedroom, and it seems you are already doing that. This is really great! Let her know you support her 100%, love her completely, always will, and that you want her to fulfill her fantasies, whatever they may be! And yes, please do let us know how things progress!

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