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Someone asked me why I enjoy doing a sex act which has had me thinking the reason I do at the strangest times. I even woke up in the middle of the night thinking of the answer and thinking of the first time I did this act. I used the search button to see how others answered, I’ve searched the internet how others feel about the subject and the reason some women give for doing it. Prior to being asked I hardly ever thought about my limited premarital sex acts or why I was able to enjoy this one thing with several boyfriends. BLOWJOBS. The question was why do I enjoy giving my husband blowjobs. Some answer there is joy in giving someone you love pleasure, something that is true for me and should be enough of a reason. The more I think the more I know there are other reasons, I didn’t always love the person I gave a blow job and didn’t love the men I just met. I feel I am not the only one who gave a blowjob before having lost her virginity. Others were more advanced and guys expected things. I went from through the clothes touching to using my hand. The first time making my boyfriend ejaculate was very exciting to me, but messy. As others mentioned that sexual excitement makes us “wet” too. My next step was a blowjob, a penis a barely saw in the dark, only felt already erect. What made me kiss and then take him in my mouth was my wanting to as much as he wanted it. Over 25 years later I visualize the taste and scent. His moans and movements made me excited. I don’t know why I continued knowing what was next, I enjoyed it. I only had a few boyfriends before Timmy yet each one was happy that I enjoyed the feel, the texture, the growth from soft to hard or was it the power, or the safety of staying a virgin. Do men feel the same way when doing oral to women or do you make it just the first part of sex. Will you be satisfied if she orgasms and doesn’t reciprocate? Has everything changed with swinging or do others enjoy what they always enjoyed. I saw the poll Do you swallow, do those that don’t is it because of taste or something else? I don’t have answers to feelings or the why I enjoy, I just have an increased imagination and thoughts now.

Well, there's a lot of things to think about here, and Numex is an expert in this. But, I'd assume the dynamic is pretty clear here - EVERYONE, including the wives, must be unanimous in a decision to let the single woman in, and in the 'rules' of her joining. If there's even one person with any reservations, that person should be able to veto the opportunity.

We are also in a closed group of married couples and were approached by a single woman who wanted to join us but didn't want to keep her sexual activity exclusively in the group. Being single, she still wanted to date and fuck a guy if she found the potential for an on-going relationship. It took very little discussion for all of us to say No.

As a man, I always enjoy giving oral sex to a woman. Often it hasn't been reciprocated, and that's more than okay with me. I remember one time at a house party, one woman that I knew well said to two others that I was excellent at giving head. They looked at each other and said, basically, prove it. They took me into a bedroom, they undressed, laid on the bed together. For the next half hour, I worked on one, then the other. Both had orgasms, both wanted me to go on until they were satisfied. I had a ball, feeling these two women's body's, tasting and smelling them, feeling not only their pussies - a really good licking almost always includes a finger inside her - but their legs, arms, bellies, breasts and asses. When they both finally pushed me away, I didn't have any real desire to have sex with them, as my wife was waiting in the kitchen for me to join her for a four-way swap with a different couple. In different circumstances, would I have made love to one or both of the women I gave head too? Yes. But the fact that I remember the challenge so vividly reminds me that good sex is about making your partner feel great. If you do that, you will be a very satisfied customer. Now, turning it around, there have been times when a woman has given me a blowjob, and has chosen not to take it any further than that. In those times, I've always felt a little disappointed.

She is a doll, Alan and I adore her. We met when she was married and now she is almost like family in a good way. She doesn’t mind our rule of being tested regularly.

We enjoy the dynamic that singles, whether male or female, bring to couples-only parties. We feel like 3 is never a crowd!

Our group is not entirely closed, we just find a mutual enjoyment in meeting for our fun. We went years looking for new partners which became exhausting and disappointing many times. We don’t have a rule about outside play, all couples are open to have fun away from our group. I understand the reason for a closed group, safety and less chance of disease or infection being primary. Recently we allowed a divorced younger woman who has a lifestyle history to join our party.

Of course keeping in mind also that women can satisfy a surplus of men better than men satisfy extra women. Some woman or women will be dealing with trying to revive a limp dick. It's often written here how a woman is screwing one guy while simultaneously getting another off orally. How often do we read about a guy doing double duty with his dick in one pussy, licking another, while successfully getting both to orgasm at the same time?

@Numex when i was dating my wife she told me she worked part time as an artists model, posing nude often in front of classroms of people. It really intrigued me that she had the confidence to do that, and i surmised she may be an adventurous enough spirit to explore the Lifestyle with... and i was right.

Hi All - It's been a while since we posted, mostly because we've been super happy! We've found a like minded couple, and get together with them once a month or so. We wanted to find someone we could be exclusive with, and enjoy all of the benefits that "cum" with that. ;) But, as with all good things, something's come up. The other couple has recently met a single woman who has expressed interest in being in our group. She's very pretty and open to the same things we enjoy, the problem is that she's much younger, and therefore, more sexually active with other partners. Whereas the other couple in our group has been exclusive between themselves and us, this opens up potential issues with playing bareback. Of course the two guys in the group are over the moon excited, I guess single women are called unicorns, bc they don't really exist? Funny. And yes, I and the other wife also find her attractive and we like the idea of playing with someone younger. But it does ruin the dynamic we currently have, which I in particular, really love (the cum play part of it is what drew me to taking the plunge in the lifestyle) Just not sure what to do - add to what we have, while also adding condoms, or try to keep what we have, and miss out (and disappoint the others) Advice?

For sure, and even though ATM I'm the lone holdout, no one is pressuring me about it, and we're all happy to go on as we were, at least i'm pretty certain of that. I've met the woman for drinks, nothing remotely sexual, not even the conversation and she's enjoyable to be around (a definite requirement for me). She also sent us PG/R rated photos, and, uh, wow! So there's that. I'm just completely on the fence. Love what we have now, but she could add a fun, sexy dimension.

Such a good point. I think there's an allure, almost a mysticism to a single female that makes it more exciting. The reality is of course very different.

And how did it go? Were you playing bareback before her?

Daniela and I have had sex with all the members of our group multiple times, me just the girls, her both the guys and girls. We've found, however that any time a new combination comes up or a new situation, it creates more excitement and whether we are together or separate.

Daniela is on reliable birth control, but if she were to get pregnant, I would be open to it being my child. But the ultimate decision would be hers.

You were wise beyond your years. There are so many posts here that start out, "We've been married 25 years, how do I get my wife interested in swinging"? rather than starting out with a woman interested in or already swinging. So is that what you did with your wife?

A friend of mine showed me one in HS. The cover featured a POV photo facing down at a woman on her knees, mouth open, a circle of 4 or 5 hard cocks around her face. Inside were those grainy b&w photos of people who looked like our parents - engaged in unspeakable acts and seeking willing partners. My friend and I laughed and made fun - but my mind was reeling. I had no idea a lifestyle like this was available! From that moment on I knew I wanted to be a swinger when I 'grew up'. I would casually float the idea to girls I dated, and if they were repulsed I honestly saw no future with them.

As a typical teenager, I had a lot of potential interests as career options. And then... Every. Last. One. Of. Them....went right out the window the first time someone sat me in front of a computer. I knew right then and there where my future lay, career wise. And so it has been, ever since then...decades on. As for swinger mags? Yep, saw them when I was a late teen/early 20s kid. Scandalous! How could people do such things? I mean, seriously? Ewwwww! No way! Friends felt the same. Fast forward ...and whaddya know, I'm in the swinger community myself 😄

Back in the nineties, when married to the sequel, We took out an ad in "Alabama Tennessee Georgia Swingers" mag. Black and white cropped pics included. Got a lot of responses. met only 2 over the years. Fast forward 10 years.....at a house party as a single male. Host pulls out a mag he recently picked up at a gas station. There is our ad from 10 years earlier, pics and all. And people say the internet is forever.......

Something else to blame on my parents. Waiting to tell my shrink about this.