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I asked the question if the sex was different with condoms so Timmy and I decided to have sex with one. We bought condoms last month when we were invited to a party the we ended up passing on so we didn’t have to go buying any for our test. We are meeting a new couple later and condom use is a possibility. Our first use came with laughs and mistakes before finally doing it. First thing the sex wasn’t as spontaneous we had the box of condoms on the night stand unopened, first mistake. After some foreplay, oral sex, we stopped to open the box. Second mistake, opening the packet, another mood killer because I had a hard time opening it. It gets worse, I rolled down wrong, lube inside. I should have known. Now the Test. Once we got started it was the same for me, Timmy said it sucked, especially when changing positions. Truth for me, I missed the warm drippies after and the staying together even when he gets well uh softer. Now I know if we need to use tonight, I know to check the right side or just let him put it on. Even if I don’t feel a real difference in my mind it’s not as sexy, just safer. Timmy will just have to deal with the loss he claims, it didn’t stop him from the happy ending.

It is really all about timing, knowing your cycle and understanding conception process. Keep in mind that healthy sperm travels quickly into a healthy woman’s reproductive track and lay in wait in her fallopian tubes (both) for a healthy egg. Sperm can reside there for five days plus a day of ovulation so as much as six days. we became familiar with this method knowing several couples in the past that this was their method of birth control. It actually is very limiting for women in the lifestyle as far as safe play dates per month. The days immediately following the end of her period up to 8-12 days. After that if they have ejectulate in their body it can survive and fertilize her egg for the next 5-6 days from last ejectulation. it’s never 100%.

The Lifestyle isn't a good place if either one of you has a hangup about cum. If done correctly cum happens and winds up in and on ppl. Just normal really.

The Queen has always been a cum lover personally for me as well as swing partners (assuming good hygiene). After decades of pleasure and giving Manopause hit with a vengeance……and it all came to a stop. Natures cruel joke.

Yeah some guys can't perform with a condom on. When I was in my 20s, you could have used a vice grip and made no progress on compromising my hard on. Now? I do ok, but condoms definitely make it more difficult.

Both. The guy in my mouth likes to cum there, and guys like to watch me make a show of rolling it around with my tongue before swallowing. I do it, however, because I like taking a guy's suff inside me. As a bi woman, that is actually my preferred way to get cum on my mouth and tummy. Sucking a guy who's been in a pussy but didn't cum yet is nice too.

"I also find it very empowering (but I realize that some women find it demeaning, which I respect and can see that viewpoint) but I love having that control. We've also just recently started to enjoy "sloppy seconds" (because we have a small, closed group) " In the days before AIDS, gotta applaud sloppy seconds for sure. Pounding a cum filled vagina...man, what a release.

My wife contended that no matter how much lube was used, a penis with a condom on it never slid as smooth and easily inside her as a bare one. If she didn't use lube, she often felt the rubber pinch her at the mouth of her pussy. However, with the exception of one other man, she always insisted on condoms for disease protection. But there was never a choice for her between using a condom or no penetration - she opted for sport fucking every time! She and her guys experimented with various condoms, especially thickness/thinness and ribbing, and she said that normally there wasn't much difference - there was still a condom on, and she rarely had a problem reaching orgasm, so the ribbing didn't add much. The biggest problem was that some guys simply couldn't perform with condoms on, so she had to be slightly satisfied with foreplay and oral.

For me, it's not only less enjoyable but not worth it. Not only is the "feel" blunted and my orgasms not as good, but I also don't get to feel the pulsing of his orgasm. I especially miss the ejaculation itself, the deposit of his cum in me, the pleasure of keeping it inside for a while, and the knowledge that at least a few of those swimmers (a living part of a man!) is hosted within my body for a few days.

From the male perspective, there is a massive difference in intercourse with a condom and without a condom. There were times back in college where I passed on sex because I had to wear a condom. I couldn't feel anything so why bother. There are very thin condoms these days where you'll at least feel the warmth but the friction is still significantly different. With that said, we always use condoms when we play in the lifestyle.

Men can feel the difference and my GF says she can too. She prefers no condom but she uses them. There are a couple of really close friends that we have which she doesn't use them with (and they do get tested) but for everyone else she does. She doesn't use them for oral though as she hates giving oral with a condom. As far as who puts the condom on, it varies. I would say usually the guy does but I have seen my GF put it on a guy before. The reality is, condom or not, you are always going to be taking your chance of an STI. But condoms certainly do help reduce your chances. And there were times when my GF was rather careless and didn't use a condom when she should have. This was mostly earlier on when we were in our early and mid 20s. Although I told her to use condoms things were more casual between us so I didn't really push it that hard. Now she is much more on top of it. But even now she has had a slip up. My point is that there is always some level of risk if you're going to play. You just have to find the best way to mitigate those risks without losing too much pleasure from your play.

Women on the board here will respond with their personal views on whether intercourse with a condom physically feels different. I’ve never had a woman say it does. I’m not sure with adequate vaginal lubrication — natural or added — there would be much difference. But for a number of women I’ve known there’s a big psychological difference. Just a couple preferred condoms because they didn’t like sex to be "messy". Keep all that semen out of me! Some just didn’t care. And some really liked having their partner’s semen in them. That made sex more gratifying. From a male perspective, putting aside the (very important) considerations of contraception and transmission of STIs, I cannot imagine there are many men who think intercourse with a condom feels better than without. For me there’s a huge difference. And barrier oral, whether dental dams for performing on women or condoms for receiving oral myself, well, why even bother. My wife and I once tried using a dental dam. For me it was like licking a balloon. And not really any better for her as a recipient. Circling back to your concern about contracting STIs through unprotected sex with casual partners, your concerns are well founded. It’s a matter of balancing risks and rewards. Other than celibacy there is no 100% way to be completely safe from contracting an STI. Not speaking of your relationship of course, but there are plenty of non-lifestyle folks who are sexually exclusive with a partner who have contracted an STI from that sole partner because that partner had sex with others. Members of this board have widely differing approaches to risk assessment and mitigation. Risk tolerance varies widely. @Numex is in a closed smallish group of couples who all signed a (virtual) blood oath not to have sex of any sort with others outside the group. To my recollection he’s never spoken of any other steps the group has taken to mitigate risk. Others have said that in casual encounters they use condoms and otherwise avoid fluid sharing, but eschew those measures with regular partners with whom they’ve developed a trusting relationship. ‘And some, by my observation often those who play with others weekly or even more frequently, wouldn’t dream of having unprotected sex. Finally, I predict that as you and your husband ease yourselves into a life of non-monogamy your fears of STIs will abate, particularly as you arrive at a level of risk acceptance that feels right for you and your husband.

As I remember, they kept the mags at the rear of the store. I was pretty lucky. Out of six request for MFM, I got two hits. Took about 10 days to get a response. It felt like Xmas morning seeing the letter in the mailbox! God, I had a hard-on for days as we talked on the phone sizing each other up. My first couple was about 10 years older than I. My first bi experience (well..border line). He wife was gorgeous. My first experience of licking a woman's clit while her husband was fucking her. I couldn't bring myself to suck his cock, but I did fondle his balls while I licked her. Ahhhh....good times and good memories.

Because of the guilt he will feel for what he did and the fact that he lost a wonderful woman, the likes of whom he will never find again, he will come to realize and regret the mistake he made in leaving her. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but soon and for the rest of his life.

What early on got Daniela and me sexually excited was recounting our sex lives. Hers was much more interesting than mine. The stories still do intrigue us, although I long ago ago ran out of experiences to recall, she pops up something new every so often.

Hello all, I have read hundreds of posts here and feel like there is a common theme of husbands trying to get consensus about what their wives are thinking and this will be no different. My wife has expressed an interest to have 2 men at the same time more times than I can count. We have been together for over 20 years and married for about 14. She wants to try dvp, spit roast, sucking 2 at once, and more. She is wild in bed and we often play with realistic dildos to simulate. If I talk about it, she gets instantly excited. We had a weekend trip away in December and I brought it up during the ride. she got ultra wet and was super horny talking about it. We had crazy sex and she talked about it during it. she expresses odd concerns like "what if he is too hairy, isn't clean, or has long nails". It feels like she is making fairly trivial excuses and that she is already mentally ready to go. If there is one holdup it is probably a fear that I would go through with it and then want her to have women join - we did that once 20yrs ago and it went horribly and I wouldn't entertain it again to be honest. We had a nice night out recently and she was all horny on the ride home and we looked up a sex club with the intention to have sex in front of others. When we pulled up to the parking g lot, she decided it was a bad idea. not sure what is going on. How would you proceed?

After a week at a house vacation with a large group it’s not only men who watch. I’m not a voyeur normally, I don’t need to watch anyone including my husband have sex but one night we cheered on two women with the men giving oral. I left my shy self behind and laughed and enjoyed with the crowd.

Thinking every man is bigger I was fascinated watching her suck other men. One man I know was much larger than me in my mind I asked if I could video my wife sucking. Casting to my tv later on was fun.

I rather watch a woman suck me. I even enjoy watching my wife sucking me.

I LIKE TO PICTURE A BIG LOAD SPLASHING ALL OVER MY WIFES AMPLE TITS AND HER PUSHING ME TOWARD THE AROUSED NIPPLES AS SHE TELLS ME TO GO SUCK AND LICK HIS CUM UP. HER LOVER PUTS OUT A HUGE LOAD OF THICK SPERM COVERING BOTH TITS. I RESIST AT FIRST BUT I WANT TO SO BAD I JUST ALLOW HER TO GUIDE MY FACE TOWARD THE JUICY REWARD FOR LETTING HER GET WELL FUCKED BY A NICE YOUNGER COCK. GREAT IDEA WHAT A TURN ON

It sounds like a hot idea but once I get to that point the moods over, so....

I absolutely love it!

My husband (95mustang) is totally straight. Although I have told him that it is a fantasy to see him do oral with another man, we both agree that it would be better keep to fantasy for us. It doesn't bother him that I fantasize (sp) about this, but it will never happen. Some fantasies for us should just remain fantasy.

I thought it was 3 guys and I was drunk?

That is probably my #1 fantasy... to see two guys together.