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I live in an apartment complex that has many sidewalks. On this beautiful Sunday morning, I'm sitting on my patio, watching the foot traffic, many. of them are attractive women of all ages. I can't stop myself from wondering how many of them got laid last night - and how many were screwed by men who weren't their significant other. I'm betting at least a couple of them. Okay, so I'm a pervert . . .

Only a few months into the Lifestyle and we are enjoying a meetings more each time. Our biggest problem is how long our meetings are with babysitters or Grandparents waiting for us back home and us not wanting to meet others who are too close. Other than a party we ghosted Timmy finds fun meetings for us. He started with new criteria of bisexual women, a non-thought my whole life. He said I get more excited thinking about the women, I won’t answer that. Another observation is I’m not hesitant anymore. With the limited time we have after a short get to know time we all know why we are meeting. Where I worried about getting nude I now have no hesitation. Are we lucky or is Timmy finding the right people, I am enjoying each new meeting more and more. Last night was no exception, I’m allowing myself to be free to enjoy without holding back. Timmy said on our drive home that this was our best so far, I just laughed. It looks like Timmy is very attentive while we play, he sees more how I am playing. So next time I will watch him more. He made me blush when he said what I looked like with the wife, he said if I was with my girlfriends before we met we may never had. NOT TRUE.

Michael reminds me that years ago we both enjoyed plenty of oral sex when I had to go off of birth control for medical reasons. I laughed some things never change. That is what we all want. How did it go?

The Lifestyle isn't a good place if either one of you has a hangup about cum. If done correctly cum happens and winds up in and on ppl. Just normal really.

Both. The guy in my mouth likes to cum there, and guys like to watch me make a show of rolling it around with my tongue before swallowing. I do it, however, because I like taking a guy's suff inside me. As a bi woman, that is actually my preferred way to get cum on my mouth and tummy. Sucking a guy who's been in a pussy but didn't cum yet is nice too.

For me, I feel very safe within our small group. It's only one couple, plus my husband and I. The four of us get tested regularly, and we play bareback, and I take full advantage of the fun that brings. I think if it weren't for the allure of a single female - a young, very attractive one at that - then this would be a non starter. Since my original post, I had another meeting with her which was a little more flirtatious than the first, and I must say I'm quite taken with her. She's smart as a whip (why is that an expression?) very sweet, and giving. She's also forthright about her sexual past, and her plans going forward. (I don't know if anyone remembers one of my earlier posts about the couple we met, but the wife of that couple has already exchanged panties with this woman) I've proposed to my husband and the other couple that she can join us on a limited basis, every other month, only after testing. Everyone seems agreeable to this, and while I haven't heard a final word, I have a feeling we'll move forward. Thanks to everyone! I'm constantly amazed at my journey to this point. 3 years ago? I was a very different woman. I appreciate all of you.

I have a question too. I never had sex with a condom, is it different? Can you feel a difference during sex and during his ejaculation? Also who puts the condom on him, you or does he do it himself? I’m not afraid of becoming pregnant so it’s all the diseases and infections that scare me. My first female sex involved the wife and the ejaculate of her husband, that wouldn’t happen with a condom.

That very start foreshadowed what was to come. Her then boyfriend, future husband, left her when she told him about that night. We didn’t know them then, he only returned when she included him in the parties. In our history we found men who say they enjoy watching yet have deep feelings of jealousy. Even if he played with all of her friends he just went along with her desires. The relationship with his friend was her husband’s safety net. He felt if he had a trusted friend watching out for Leah she would not look to other men. In reality she ran to that friend as soon as her husband went on business trips. Was it a romantic relationship or better sex I don’t know, Leah can’t or won’t say. I think a combination. That is correct, we don’t want to judge. She found what she thought was a safe man, mature, older, what she called a professional. She was being taken care of, maybe a sugar baby. We all have kinks that can’t be judged, I say she was being abused. Leah told me this man became controlling, selecting men for her to have sex with. His big kink was spanking and watching others spank her. I don’t know what woke her up, even though she has opened up to me she still hides some of her ordeal. She is seeing a therapist, she says, that she says is what she needed. When I read posts I find myself analyzing the deeper meanings. I met too many women who I felt were pleasing someone else by meeting us. Some women hid this very well, I tried to catch those relationships before playing. Alan and I finally decided not to be the cause of abuse in those marriages and stopped what we were doing.

If you're going to steal a line, don't steal from the classics.

Wise words, Tricia. In my experience overthinking is a sure way to kill sexual joy and fulfillment.

To be clear, when birth control methods are compared the standard of comparison is what percentage of women in a large cohort practicing that method will become pregnant over the course of a year. So, in the context of a lifestyle ONS both look pretty effective. Over the years, and to my chagrin, two of my occasional FWB partners became pregnant. (I was a slow learner…🙄) In neither instance was sex initially planned for our time together. The regular partner of the first was vasectomy-safe and she hadn’t been practicing BC. We were together for several days and toward the end she said she thought she might be getting close to the beginning of a risky point in her cycle, so we stopped having penetrative sex. The second did not then have a regular partner, but was in the middle of her period. "I’m bleeding like a stuck pig," she said to me when I inquired about her BC status. In both cases the women had abortions. In one case there were no serious repercussions for our friendship; in the other we remained friends, but there was significant damage. I’m sorry these women and I were not more prudent partners. In terms of the lifestyle, I don’t believe I ever slipped my unwrapped cock into the pussy of a woman who might even possibly have been capable of conceiving. From a moral perspective I would not wish to be part of creating a human life that I was not prepared to appropriately support through its childhood and into adulthood. From a practical perspective, though the risk might be remote, you could end up being financially partially responsible for a child created with a partner with whom you were barely acquainted.