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This is for men, married or single. Would you be down to use another man's cum as lube when going down on your wife/gf or his wife/gf?

45 + years

I agree with the others that not getting going the first time is pretty normal. Getting insurance from a doctor isn't a bad idea. If you decide to get some medication, make sure you get real stuff from a doctor, not some stuff from mail order places. Don't worry, once you do get it up and running you'll likely finish must faster than you normally do because of the heightened atmosphere. The lifestyle is heavily weighted to the ladies. They get 90% of the attention. They can go as long as they want. For us guys, well, we're along for the ride. We have to worry about getting hard, staying hard and then not blowing too fast. As long as you're good with your wife having a good time and having an endless stream of guys who seem to be well endowed and stamina for days, enjoy the ride. It is quite fun.

The first time you try something like this, the unexpected often happens. Yeah, it happened this time. But just because it did one time doesn't mean it'll happen again. First, get out of the back seat of the car. You aren't in high school anymore. Find a place where you can lay down, be comfortable. You know, a hotel room, a bedroom. Secondly, take an ED med. Yeah, that'll help. Thirdly, just enjoy the situation. You'll be amazed at how hard you can get while enjoying the sight of your wife and another man. And finally, and most important, stop fighting about it! You encouraged her to do this, now that she's given in, you're upset about it? Relax, take it easy, let the good times roll. Best of luck to you.

As a woman, I take satisfaction in the knowledge that even after I'm cleaned up that a small but living part of the men with whom I had intercourse is still swimming inside me. Humans are inherently non-monogamous, so sloppy seconds and all that is natural.

PeterJ, that was my experience as well in my swinging days. First one of us cums in his wife, then the other. Rest for 30 mins, go at it again. Didn't give it a thought in those pre-Aids days. Even going down on her after one of us cums inside was no issue, even though we didn't consciously plan on licking cum. Sloppy seconds is the best lube there is. She was well lubed by the end of the session.

I brought the idea of a threesome with another man to my wife about four years ago. Originally she was very against the idea, but after the topic being dropped multiple and me bringing it back up, she came around to the idea of it in the last few months and now really wants to try it. Last Saturday on the way home from a concert we on a whim met up with a guy she had been talking to a while who she really wanted to have sex with. We ended up meeting him at the side of the road late at night and we all got into the back seat of our car. My wife was in the middle and she was going between the two of us kissing us. We then both sucked on her nipples and I fingered her. It was at this moment I realised I wasn’t hard and the more i thought about it the more I couldn’t get hard. My wife started to suck the guys cock and then she came over to me. She tried to get me hard but nothing would work. She asked me what I wanted to do and I cut it off and said I couldn’t do anymore. I have thought about this moment for over four years and now this negative experience has really set me back with my self confidence and I now see what I was originally enjoying in the backseat, as a negative, whereas my wife is the total opposite. She loved the whole thing and was disappointed it was cut short as she wanted to go the whole way with us. My confidence is now at an all time low and it has caused arguments over the last few days because my wife is now really invested in it and is dying to do it again but I am so terrified it will happen to me again. My self esteem is so low that I’m starting to believe she is more interested in the other guy, even though she constantly tells me it’s just sexual feelings towards the guy and nothing more Was just wondering if anyone had any advice for me as I’m really struggling to deal with the way everything played out. Any advice is appreciated Thanks

A minidress, i,e., a stretchy body dress cut short at the thighs.

Guao better explained impossible. get some ED pills, I had to at the beginning, even that when I was with my wife I was rock hard but in a swinging setting I could not get hard at the start. It will pass as you ease.

You should have let her complete her activities to her satisfaction. Enjoy the show and try again next time. It's not just about you.

We have a 13 year age difference in our relationship so the age thing doesn’t really matter a whole lot! Saying that she has no interest in people her parents age and I have no interest in people the age of my adult daughters. Ideally somewhere between our ages is usually ideal, but would really depend on the person. I always find it funny when people assume older people can’t relate to younger people and will have nothing in common. I guess I am to believe once you hit a certain age you become out of touch with what is going on in the world and no longer are willing to learn something new. I also find the comments about stamina being equal funny. At 53 I have better stamina and am in better shape then loads of people I meet in their 30’s. How a person eats, exercises and takes care of themselves makes a bigger difference on that then the age they are.

Several years ago, I attended a party in the Inland Empire, billed as a bisexual party. I didn't have any bisexual shenanigans but I met a lovely gal about 70. I was about 55. We had a wonderful time, starting out the night together. drifting apart for a while, the reconnecting at the end of the night. I insisted on a condom for the first encounter, then we went bareback for the end. She was a prize and came easily, and really turned me on as well.

It is hard to believe that 10 years ago we decided to add some spice to our marriage looking for a unicorn. What we found was a young lady and her older boyfriend. I was 40, she was in her 20s, the boyfriend closer to our age. Over the past 10 years we met both older and younger most were within 10 years of our age. Now that we are 50 we have a group we became close to, a few years older, a few younger. Age is strange because I think of all of us as young and as many stated, age is just a number. This summer we met a couple, friends of friends that I would never guess were closer to 70, I figured 60. On the opposite side we have a friend in her 30s who introduced us to a new boyfriend.

Still a fantasy is to fuck Gwen right after another guy has cum in her. So I guess the answer to the original question is yes.

My first MFM threesome was more than 40 years ago. No one I knew used condoms in those pre HIV days, and the woman in the couple was on the pill. Her husband ejaculated in her first, while she was giving me oral. I came in her and then over the next few hours he came in her again and so did I. So, both he and I fucked her with the other’s semen in her pussy. It didn’t even occur to me that we were fucking into each other’s cum. A few months ago I played one evening with a couple who are also social friends. Planning ahead of time he wanted us to both cum in her. We did, but I don’t recall which of us ejaculated in her first…🙄😂 More relevant is that I’m in my mid-70s and they are less than a decade younger. She needed lots of lube (we both have wide erect cocks and his is long) and it’s just a fact of nature that elderly women don’t produce much natural lubricant and elderly men don’t evacuate at nearly the volume that young men do. So for those of us on Medicare all we have is memories of sliding our cocks into a well-fucked pussy that is dripping with male and female juices.

I was asked that not to long ago, i said i dunno. But now for sure why not?

I haven't specifically placed cum on my penis and then put it in my wife or a woman I've been playing with. But, I have had sex many times with my wife (and a few times with another woman) after another man has cum inside of her. I find it incredibly sexy. I love adding my own cum to another man's cum inside of my wife, and she loves it too.

Why would you need lube to give a woman oral?

It's the big three: love, communication and trust. You can't have too much of any of the three. Realize that you don't have to do anything you don't want to do...in fact, you Shouldn't EVER do anything you don't want to do (also known as 'taking one for the team'). Insecurity (and jealousy) comes from not enough of at least one of the big three. It can (and usually does) take some time to 'get over this'...realization that your partner is okay with this, that nobody is going to condemn you for doing it, that it isn't cheating if you are doing it together and with each others knowledge and permission. Still, some people are not 'wired' for this...sad, but that's just how they are. It took me awhile to feel more comfortable with swinging, and there are still times that doubt and worry peeks in on me (strict religious upbringing), but I keep working on overcoming it when it does happen. Take your time, there's no pressure and no rush. You have the rest of your life to work on this...and it's also okay if you don't want to do this as well. Just keep talking as that will build more trust which, in turn, leads to increased love making it easier to keep talking...

We have started with swinging for 35 years ago. We were curious after we have read an article about swinging and lifestyle. It took a long time and a lot of discussion bevor we made first step with a couple first time soft swapp, both we have liked, the next swinging evening the first step with full swapp, we have had enjoyed it. Till today, we have never regretted and we enjoy our lifestyle.

That is a great start. There's nothing wrong with that. Things don't have to be the same all around. That's part of the fun. Don't pressure yourself (or let anyone else) into feeling that you have to do something. Ever. Just gently explore when and if the time comes.

Yes, yes, yes. Love this. Me and partner both love to share my cum. Either from her mouth to mine or her pussy to my mouth, combined with her juices. Its so pure. She also loves to taste herself off my cock. Really can't wait to mix another guys cum in with ours. You guys are inspiring

What does it for me is watching my husband tenderly making love to another woman missionary, them kissing passionately. Afterwards, him fucking me doggy like an animal while I eat her out. Doesn't happen much lately, but still a good experience when I get it.