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Our first LS experience was an MFM 3sum and, while it's very common for men to have erection problems at first, I had the opposite problem. I got too excited and finished in about 30 seconds. The terms of the 3sum were that my wife (then girlfriend) would only perform oral on him, but my lackluster performance caused us to change plans. It takes me a while to recover, so I spent the remainder of that encounter watching the other guy expertly fuck my wife to orgasm. That was a bit of a mindfuck but we still enjoyed the experience enough to continue and I didn't experience erection issues until our first MFMF experience a couple months later during our first visit to a swing club 😀 It doesn't always play out the way you hope but hang in there!

The above advice about not having an erection is excellent. There's a common misconception that guys can get hard anytime, anywhere, for any length of time, for any reason, like our pensises are on-demand switches we can do with as we will. It's not like that. We're humans. Sometimes things can overwhelm us. Sometimes we're stressed. Sometimes something is so new it's too much to handle. This is perfectly normal, and is in no way a reflection on you, nor your interest level in having threesomes. The first time my wife and I played with another couple (a soft swap), I had trouble getting and maintaining an erection. The woman I was playing with was wonderful in every respect. That first time was a real struggle. We got to play with the same couple again about a month later. I got hard and stayed hard that time, no issues at all.

Or a crowded beach, but I wouldn't want to be the only couple that was "involved."

Petra, it appears I was not sufficiently clear about the circumstances. This is a young couple who had perhaps an hour previously exchanged wedding vows that included implicit commitment to sexual fidelity. I was struck humorously that their reception play list would include a half-century-old song about a woman who was not exclusive with her partner and the singer’s dismay at her infidelity. I have no reason to believe my niece and her new husband are swingers (nor to think otherwise.)

I find this touching, romantic. Two people who didn't decide to "get into the lifestyle" after years of marriage, but most likely met while being non-monogamous, fell in love while playing with others, and got married with the expectation that play will continue. A marriage with the full human sexual experience.

The bold/ital lines make it clear that Cecilia has other partners in her bed. As to why the singer is "down on his knees" he specifically says that he’s begging her to return to him. As a side note, at her wedding last year my niece and her new husband had “Cecilia" on their reception music playlist. Their respective sets of parents had even met when this song was recorded in 1970. 😂 The bride and groom had just spoken vows that espoused the traditional language of "forsake all others", so it made me chuckle that they would include in the evening music a song in which the singer perceives his partner as having been unfaithful to him.

Like everything in this lifestyle the fantasy does not always line up with the experience! Remember this is something you pushed for and it sounds like many years. Do not be upset with her for finally embracing the idea and enjoying it. You wanted this and now she does. That does not make her a bad person. As far as you not being able to get it up that is a completely normal thing in these circumstances! It is something out of your normal comfort zone. The more you obese and think about it the more likely it is to happen again. Also agree with above poster that the back seat of a car is probably not the idea setting for a first experience. I am going to be honest and blunt. If she is still interested why not take the pressure off yourself and her and let her have sex with another man of her choice with you present without the obligation that both of you will have to be having sex with her or neither? Let her enjoy the experience and enjoy her having pleasure. If you do get hard join in and if you do not be supportive. No pressure on you means no over thinking. This could eventually lead to what you wanted in the first place. If you can’t get over feeling jealous or that she wants other men more then you stop now and fix what you already have. It can’t be just about you and your wants. She needs to feel like she is getting something out of it other then being your slut wife.

Most do, some don't. One woman who we play with has large, soft, pink nipples that stay very soft when she cums. Instead, her vagina opens along its length and the walls get hard. Just one of those differences.