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Good that you put your girlfriend first and you Very considerate and generous of you. Did you go down on her as well?

Our first LS experience was an MFM 3sum and, while it's very common for men to have erection problems at first, I had the opposite problem. I got too excited and finished in about 30 seconds. The terms of the 3sum were that my wife (then girlfriend) would only perform oral on him, but my lackluster performance caused us to change plans. It takes me a while to recover, so I spent the remainder of that encounter watching the other guy expertly fuck my wife to orgasm. That was a bit of a mindfuck but we still enjoyed the experience enough to continue and I didn't experience erection issues until our first MFMF experience a couple months later during our first visit to a swing club 😀 It doesn't always play out the way you hope but hang in there!

go to cap d'adge between July and mid August. there is a swinger beach packed where anything and everything goes. people are repecful but mind that you will be rounded by a healthy amount of men masturbating while you have sex. As soon as you finish they will move to the next couple having sex. This section of the beach is jam packed and it is100% nudist. yep not even a tiny tanga

You were sufficiently clear, I was insufficiently attentive, misconstruing what you had written. Thank you for pointing it out. The only possible explanation is that, in an insufficiently caffeinated state, I mistook "espoused" for "eshewed."

I find this touching, romantic. Two people who didn't decide to "get into the lifestyle" after years of marriage, but most likely met while being non-monogamous, fell in love while playing with others, and got married with the expectation that play will continue. A marriage with the full human sexual experience.

The above advice about not having an erection is excellent. There's a common misconception that guys can get hard anytime, anywhere, for any length of time, for any reason, like our pensises are on-demand switches we can do with as we will. It's not like that. We're humans. Sometimes things can overwhelm us. Sometimes we're stressed. Sometimes something is so new it's too much to handle. This is perfectly normal, and is in no way a reflection on you, nor your interest level in having threesomes. The first time my wife and I played with another couple (a soft swap), I had trouble getting and maintaining an erection. The woman I was playing with was wonderful in every respect. That first time was a real struggle. We got to play with the same couple again about a month later. I got hard and stayed hard that time, no issues at all.

Thank you everyone for your advice. It has helped a lot. After sitting and having a real good talk with my wife about the whole thing, we now feel like our bond is even stronger now. I’m now ready to throw myself back into this head first and take everyone’s advice and relax into the situation and not panic if it’s not happening for me and be fully supportive of my beautiful wife. Thank you all. As always any more advice for us as a couple is greatly appreciated

As a woman, things are slippery enough. For me, the satisfying aspects of taking multiple men p-in-v sequentially (four is the most I've had) physically is my repeated orgasms, and psychologically is my sense of desirability and power to satisfy multiple men in the way a man couldn't satisfy multiple women.

I agree with the others that not getting going the first time is pretty normal. Getting insurance from a doctor isn't a bad idea. If you decide to get some medication, make sure you get real stuff from a doctor, not some stuff from mail order places. Don't worry, once you do get it up and running you'll likely finish must faster than you normally do because of the heightened atmosphere. The lifestyle is heavily weighted to the ladies. They get 90% of the attention. They can go as long as they want. For us guys, well, we're along for the ride. We have to worry about getting hard, staying hard and then not blowing too fast. As long as you're good with your wife having a good time and having an endless stream of guys who seem to be well endowed and stamina for days, enjoy the ride. It is quite fun.

Guao better explained impossible. get some ED pills, I had to at the beginning, even that when I was with my wife I was rock hard but in a swinging setting I could not get hard at the start. It will pass as you ease.

You should have let her complete her activities to her satisfaction. Enjoy the show and try again next time. It's not just about you.

Get back on the horse! And do use ED meds if medically prescribed.

Like everything in this lifestyle the fantasy does not always line up with the experience! Remember this is something you pushed for and it sounds like many years. Do not be upset with her for finally embracing the idea and enjoying it. You wanted this and now she does. That does not make her a bad person. As far as you not being able to get it up that is a completely normal thing in these circumstances! It is something out of your normal comfort zone. The more you obese and think about it the more likely it is to happen again. Also agree with above poster that the back seat of a car is probably not the idea setting for a first experience. I am going to be honest and blunt. If she is still interested why not take the pressure off yourself and her and let her have sex with another man of her choice with you present without the obligation that both of you will have to be having sex with her or neither? Let her enjoy the experience and enjoy her having pleasure. If you do get hard join in and if you do not be supportive. No pressure on you means no over thinking. This could eventually lead to what you wanted in the first place. If you can’t get over feeling jealous or that she wants other men more then you stop now and fix what you already have. It can’t be just about you and your wants. She needs to feel like she is getting something out of it other then being your slut wife.

The first time you try something like this, the unexpected often happens. Yeah, it happened this time. But just because it did one time doesn't mean it'll happen again. First, get out of the back seat of the car. You aren't in high school anymore. Find a place where you can lay down, be comfortable. You know, a hotel room, a bedroom. Secondly, take an ED med. Yeah, that'll help. Thirdly, just enjoy the situation. You'll be amazed at how hard you can get while enjoying the sight of your wife and another man. And finally, and most important, stop fighting about it! You encouraged her to do this, now that she's given in, you're upset about it? Relax, take it easy, let the good times roll. Best of luck to you.

Perhaps. For the present however, I live it every time Red or David goes at it with Clair or Lora (or Shannon). It's an inescapable and wonderful conflict that although I am in love with Lora and Clair as well, David and Red were mine, all mine, first. You're right though that telling my story of inner turmoil could be artistic expression.

I haven't specifically placed cum on my penis and then put it in my wife or a woman I've been playing with. But, I have had sex many times with my wife (and a few times with another woman) after another man has cum inside of her. I find it incredibly sexy. I love adding my own cum to another man's cum inside of my wife, and she loves it too.

We play in a super trusting safe group and over time have gotten so used to cum it is no big deal as far as any negative issues. It does however turn most of us on so much that we had a cum shortage for the longest. No kidding. Darn the economics of supply and demand. Good thing over time we befriended these two amazing gay couples who all love our men as much as we do. That gave us four more penises. :0 Of course we ladies are such good friends with them they love it when we suck with our men. Sharing cum is an enormous part of our group sex. We all agree = Best kissing EVER with our mates!

It took my husband even longer, but once he saw all I was willing to do and how much fun it was, step by step along with me gave in. We absolutely have no regrets! The more the merrier these days and we definitely do get our big sex drives well fulfilled. Worth all time and patience it took.

The weekend went well, as it always does with these two. Shannon visited us and we got her a hotel room, although she stayed with us at nights as well. Clair went to and stayed at Joe and Shan’s house. It was sort of amazing how we, especially the guys, teamed up on Shannon at her hotel room. She just likes being in a group sex situation and playing hard. The guys just love her tits. As I described earlier, when she’s wearing a bra, she looks normal. But when those mammaries are let loose they hang down like two tubes with nipples covering the entire ends. Very strange but also very attractive. The request by all of us was for her to get on all fours so we could look, play, and suck them. Each of us (David, Red, Lora, and me) had alone time with her and some two on one with her. We also had fun family time with her and the kids. Shan will make a good mother. She was helpful and a break from the usual routine. Clair and Joe had a more romantic sexual time. Joe likes his one on one “dating” time with another woman. And keep in mind that Clair’s coming out as bisexual was from the other side compared to the one Lora and I did. Clair was a 100% Gold Star Lesbian before she decided that she like men as well, so her hetero experience isn’t all that deep. She dated and had sexual relationships with a few guys before I introduced her to my husband David and invited her to have sex with him. That was her first really serious hetero relationship, and as it turns out she stuck around, brought out my Lezzie side, inadvertently got pregnant, all of it to mutual our benefit. So anyway, she is enjoying her time with Joe and developing that relationship. Shannon had to go back earlier than Clair needed to, so they had some FFM threesome fun as well before Clair came home. And Joe was interested in details of his wife’s sexual adventures without him (we talk). Clair is truly the matriarch of our family. The children were literally jumping for joy when she got home.