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Life has many paths with some roads leading back to the starting line. Eight years ago I spent a night with a college friend and her boyfriend after a snowstorm at a football game. Plenty has happened to me since that night, engagement, learning some friends were swingers, getting married, an open marriage, a pregnancy that was terminated, a divorce, an abusive relationship and lots and lots of therapy. My life returned to what some call normal, dating men and occasional women. That original friend married, not the boyfriend I knew, had disappeared from my life and now reemerged. Not the scene of the crime she called and asked if I wanted to join her and her husband to the football game at our school. Reluctant to be “used” and anxious to feel free, I agreed. I found out another sorority sister my ex and I had played with had also married, a guy I never met, were also going to the game. The hardest part was reliving my last few years, I only gave an abbreviated retelling. With that all told both of the husbands couldn’t have been sweeter to me.

Age is not a barrier to having an active role in the lifestyle. A friend of mine, sadly no longer living, for a couple of decades organized with her husband (and after his death by herself) sex parties that attracted people from their 30s up through their 60s and in some cases significantly older. If you are breathing and reasonably healthy there’s no reason you shouldn’t be enjoying partnered sex into your 90s. (My brother-in-law walked in on my 85-year-old mom and her 92-year-old boyfriend engaged in missionary intercourse.) I’ve posted elsewhere on the board that about ten years ago, when I was in my mid-60s, at a party I played with a couple in their mid-80s. (They celebrated their marriage in the late 1940s by hosting an orgy on their wedding night.) I’m in a longterm ENM marriage and regularly play with one couples in their late 50s / early 60s and another who are in their 40s.

“Life is a sexually transmitted, terminal disease."

There are posters who always added to discussions in a sensible way, posters who would be interesting to have a drink with if nothing else. There are seasoned posters and younger posters. Every so often I wonder if someone just lost interest in posting because some of the more questionable posts. I don’t know any of the posters other than reading the posts and then one day you notice they haven’t posts. Alura, Padoc I figured aged out of the lifestyle or lost their partner. AdamGunn was another who I realized is not here or Psulioness who had to be young and funny. Maybe they got busy with other parts of their lives. Cancer doesn’t know age.

Deeply sorry to see this. People come and go from forum life and so often we never find out why and assume the best, but it's always worth sparing a thought for them and for wherever they might be. Hope he found peace with Laura.

If any of the old goats on SB are still around, we've lost a legend. Al of Alura passed away on the 10th, joining his wife who passed some years before. Goddamned cancer! You may recognize Alura's name around here on some of the older posts, giving sage advice, and blessing us with his earthy sense of humour. I've enjoyed a years-long internet friendship with Al, and I will deeply miss our conversations. I always meant to get down to Oklahoma to meet him in person and regret that I never did. If anyone has memories to share, please do.