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Life has many paths with some roads leading back to the starting line. Eight years ago I spent a night with a college friend and her boyfriend after a snowstorm at a football game. Plenty has happened to me since that night, engagement, learning some friends were swingers, getting married, an open marriage, a pregnancy that was terminated, a divorce, an abusive relationship and lots and lots of therapy. My life returned to what some call normal, dating men and occasional women. That original friend married, not the boyfriend I knew, had disappeared from my life and now reemerged. Not the scene of the crime she called and asked if I wanted to join her and her husband to the football game at our school. Reluctant to be “used” and anxious to feel free, I agreed. I found out another sorority sister my ex and I had played with had also married, a guy I never met, were also going to the game. The hardest part was reliving my last few years, I only gave an abbreviated retelling. With that all told both of the husbands couldn’t have been sweeter to me.

We didn't even start until we were around 55. IOHO, it seems like the older, more established the relationship, the better prepared the couple is to be successful with swinging. While both of us either wished or even tried swinging at an earlier age, the relationships we had at that time couldn't survive swinging...actually couldn't survive in general. Now we are finally in a place where the love and trust are strong enough to survive swinging. As far as we are concerned, 55+ is a perfect time to start swinging!

"...the sex shed is a little old place where we can get together. Sex shed baby, yeah!" - B-52's There was a show on one of the streaming services called "How To Build a Sex Room". Wasn't the best show, but I recall that there were more than a few good ideas in it (as well as a bunch of junk that they used to fill the time). Done as a home improvement type show, but there was some nuggets among the drivel. I did like the naughty wall paper and some of the other toys they featured. Might be worth a look...

The furniture matters. Have a browse over to Liberator.com, which is a company local to Atlanta. Quality is high, maintenance is easy. Feel free to PM us as to the specific pieces we have and what we like. If money is no object, get a Sybian. The ladies are guaranteed orgasms to whatever level satiates each of them.

Definitely one of those "sex swings."

After several years of active swinging, there really isn't too much left on the sexual bucket list at this point... Bareback makes group experiences soo much better, we've enjoyed that in 6 sums and it would be hot to increase that number to 8 or 10. Creampies, cleanup, sloppy seconds, amazing! We've enjoyed some m/m play, but I haven't had a man cum in my mouth before--I suppose that would be on the list. I suppose the thing I'm really craving is a separate, extended date or minivacation with a particular girl who is becoming increasingly special to me...

Looks like you are getting back to enjoying life. You are not the first woman to divorce or to be abused. You are fortunate to have good friends who support you. My advice is to be honest with your therapist, what happened to you is not your fault and nothing to be ashamed with. Your history is a learning experience teaching you what to be aware of in future relationships. You are young and have plenty of life ahead of you, enjoy it for you not for what others want.

We haven’t taken the leap yet, but a few of our biggest fantasies to do together are: 1. A couple swap of the guys sitting right next to each other while the girls switch places and suck our dicks until we cum on the other girl’s face right there together 2. FFM threesome where the girls eat each other out while I fuck them both from behind and she finishes me onto the other girl’s face and makes out with her 3. MFM threesome taking turns on each end of her and we both cum on her face 4. Full swap with doggy style right next to each other 5. Sex/blowjob on a hotel balcony where people can see and hear us

It’s great to have friends you can trust.

Thank you for still being around. You're part of our community, and we would sorely miss you. We're all in your corner, and cheering for you!

Thought I'd revisit this thread..... Would love to see Marla on a bed blindfolded, with a group of at least 5 or 6, a combination of men and women, things start off with all the them giving her a massage....and then watch things get more intimate while she remains blindfolded. Men and women giving her oral, she giving oral to men and women and sexual intercourse with the men.

We had made one years ago and I think we pretty much scratched everything off the list. Now it feels like we spend more time helping fulfill other people's sexual bucket list which is still fun.

Yes we do anal semi regularly and she enjoys it but kind of the same for her unless she's already REALLY turned on. (Example, The other day she sent me some nudes I didn't know she took and we both got so turned on looking at them I fucked her mouth, pussy and then ass on a Sunday afternoon with no prior planning almost immediately and she had those screaming, shaking, face turning purple orgasms. 🤣) But we've done DP with me and a toy a few times (we even have an anal toy that straps on to my cock) and when that's done right she LOVES it.

Does your wife already do anal? I do and it is ok, but not great, it doesn't get me off by itself. DP, however, is exquisite and gives me intense orgasms. Highly recommended, but if she's not already used to having a dick in her bum hole, get used to that first.

While we've been in the lifestyle for a few years our experiences have been infrequent (usually reserved accommodated by visiting a nearby club when we are on vacation. ) There's still alot on the bucket list. The biggest being just an uninhibited full on orgy with 10 or more people. Just the thought of getting lost in a sea of bodies fucking and sucking and looking around to find my wife having her own pleasure while I'm having mine makes my cock hard. Just a house party in general is something we've never done. Would love to do a reverse gangbang where it's me and several women having their way with me. Would also want to do a regular gangbang where me and several other men fuck my wife. While we've had full swap foursomes and FMF threesomes, we've never had an MFM threesome. Wife is very picky with single men and we thus far haven't met one that she wanted to do that with, but that is also on our bucket list. Particularly to DP her or even adding a third to make her air tight. So, hopefully this go around we'll get to knock a few of those off. 😈

Keep nurturing conversation. You can also try some things, like going to a strip club together (if she is bi, or bi curious). You can go to a regular club too, with her dressed somewhat provocatively and let her explore reactions of men around her. You could go to a swinger's "meet and greet"; things usually don't happen onsite, but it opens possibilities. Lots of ways to have a look at the water, if not dip your toe in it. With all of these you can then discuss with her how she felt, what seemed exciting, etc.

A good game of truth or dare might provide you with some clues - only if she is willing. Don't push her!