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I thought bisexual meant being romantically attracted to both sexes, I was corrected, it is sexually attracted too. When Alan asked me to have sex with another woman so he could watch I said no, I’m not gay. He knew I had sex with females before we met and just wanted to watch. Many women we met claimed they were straight and curious, some very emphatic they weren’t bi. I always assured them I wasn’t bi either. If you need to label me in the strict sense go ahead. I hate labels. The first woman Alan and I met is attractive young woman that we both enjoyed sexually. The ultimate act two women do sexually is oral sex. She was very willing with her overbearing boyfriend urging her. I need to be attracted to a person before being sexually attracted to them, romance is not part of the attraction.

Most guys get social pressure not to get serious about a woman who is a slut. Believe me, from personal experience and talking with other middle aged guys, you'd rather have a wife who likes sex too much, more than you can provide and needs to step out once in a while, than a wife who has little or no interest in sex.

In my limited experience, I would say that around a quarter of women are to some degree bisexual, and half of them are full-on pussy eaters. That comes from the time when I was setting up my husband David with my female friends and acquaintances. That's how we met Clair and Lora. In our family, Clair started her sex life as exclusively Lesbian, until she decided that she liked men and dick shortly before playing with David. Lora was more straight, but had sex with girls in college. Both of these women were part of the one-quarter who let me watch them with David, which turned me on to wanting to eat and reclaim his cum out of her. I liked it.

This statement is extremely profound! My nonswinging friends are in the other boat as many men who are husbands know. Their wives are indifferent about sex and that is the worst. Even after pleading with them to hear their husbands, to hear the sex therapists, to hear the sex advice shouted practically everywhere, to hear me, they often brush it off as if to say, "My man is a good man, he will never leave me/us (the kids/family), he is happy, we schedule sex once ever few months (but seldom/if ever follow through), he loves me & us, we are comfortable." See how sad indifference is? They have their heads so far, well you understand, they can't see because of it. Our couples are wonderful examples of - you'd rather have a wife that likes sex to much - as we wives embrace frequent bi sex with multiple trusted friends the increase of sex has been multiplied in each of our marriages. For me, the more sex we have the more I want with my husband, as well as with our friends.

I am Mr.(anti-) STD, but when swinging, we have never used condoms or dental dams for oral sex. It may be safer, but it does not seem appealing. We use condoms for intercourse with other people. Seems to be the consensus for swingers.

That's what I found. It took me those two monogamous years and some contemplation to realize that Daniela needed her extracurricular activities, or at least wanted them. The thought of her with other men neither bothered me nor excited me, at least at first. So as we talked about our past sex life, I convinced her that not only was I ok with her being with other men, dating, fucking, whatever she wanted, but it would also make me happy to know she's getting what she missed, basically sexual variety. At this time Daniela needed more, but I got all the sex I needed from her. We discussed the best way for her to play rather clinically, although I could see was getting excited when we talked, and settled on her contacting two exes and us getting together in a vanilla setting to discuss it among the three of us. She subsequently saw them both separately without me there at first so everyone would be comfortable; for me they were exes, they fucked before so it was fine with me if they did it again. Then Daniela wanted me there for MFMs. It was an incredible journey from there, her wanting us to get with couples so I could enjoy the freedom to explore as well.

Experience has taught me the same! But when you're young and possessive pride can get in the way of a good thing. If your woman likes to fuck that makes you a lucky man! Give her the freedom to explore and you will be repaid countless times over!

Thinking about it, Daniela and I were sort of like that. We weren't swingers before we started dating, but as we got closer it was clear that we were both seeing (i.e. fucking) other people. We even talked about it obliquely, like how, as said above, we spent the night or weekend at someone else's place. As we started the marriage conversation, we became monogamous and continued for about two years after we got married. We both just assumed that the other expected it, but we continued to talk about our past and it led to Daniela hotwifing for a while then us doing traditional swapping.

When my husband and I first got started in the LS together (we had both dabbled in it with previous relationships) I was more than turned off by the idea of him sucking dick. The very thought disgusted me. However, one night, after a hot wife experience in which I sucked another man, we were talking about it. I was expressing to my husband how much I had enjoyed him watching me swallow another's man's cum, and the thought hit me: I love almost everything about sex. I thoroughly enjoy giving and receiving oral to both men and women. I love anal and vaginal sex. If it's okay for me to enjoy giving blow jobs, and eating pussy, why should or would it be different for him. The more I thought about it, the more the thought intrigued me. I knew he had done It in the past and enjoyed it. I made arrangements for a mmf threesome and asked my husband to help me suck the other guy off l though still just a little apprehensive. From the moment my husband took the other guy's duck into his mouth, I was mesmerized. I give a damn good blow job, but alas, my husband does it even better. I couldn't look away. Now, though it's difficult to find, my favorite threesomes are when my husband and I share a cock to start out. Now, my next fantasy that i want to bring to life, is to watch my husband suck dick, and get a facial, so I can luck the cum off his face. Yummy!

When we meet a new couple, in person or online, a big question is whether my wife is bisexual. If I were to ask her, she would say no. But for lifestyle purposes, she will play bi. It doesn’t bother her, but it is not her inclination or preference and she could live without it. But here is my gripe. My wife will and has performed oral on other women. I never remember anyone reciprocating! The odd thing is that my wife has a funny secret. She is devastatingly effective at cunnilingus. I asked her what her secret is, I wish that I were as effective. She says you have to put the work into it. I have seen her results and it is noteworthy. But she is not inclined to perform oral in that literally no one reciprocates. Maybe we have met a lot of half hearted bi women.

Same. My wife is recreationally bi. Now that's not right! I think maybe you've met a lot of selfish women. Ugh!

Pretty much the same here @Numex Thankfully when I met my wife we had both been through relationships with ppl who had incompatible sexual appetites and we both knew we needed a bit of sexual adventure in our lives. Neither one of us would have fared well married to jealous, possessive people. By the time my wife and I got married we were active members at a swing club, and already had several mfm and mfmf experiences together. So if my wife slept with my best man before our wedding I would likely have admonished her for her poor timing, then probably would have suggested ongoing 3sums with him. Dead serious.

Hi all New to this site, just joined. I only found out the name of how I am after 30 odd years. I am 52, always loved watching my husband around woman, he is a natural flirt anyway, but I get so turned on by him enjoying himself, that I asked if he wouldn't mind asking a woman to sleep with him while I watched. When it happened for the first time, it was a dream come true, and after all this time it is still the same. However, I would like a regular lady, we did have a girlfriend whom was my friend in a social way, but was more of my husbands friend in a bedroom way, however, she has since met someone else and has settled down. We have joined all sorts of sites to find that one exclusive lady but its a nightmare and you get people thinking your weird to playing games and winding you up, this is not for us, we are genuine. Not sure if anyone else can help us here, or direct us to where there is an interest for this sort of life style, but I have been researching now for about 5 years and its just negative after negative. My husband did meet another lady recently, but after the first time of me watching, she thought it was strange me allowing my husband to play with another woman, so we never saw her again. This is the biggest issue we have found, and to be honest, still after all these years I do not know how to approach it. I am an attractive 52 year old and my husband is an attractive 55 year old. Any genuine help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you

My wife is in love with another couple that we play with. She sees them/him often and they exchange "I love you," in front of me. It doesn't bother me at all. Daniela is married to me, we share a home and child together and after whatever she does with him/them, she comes home to me. It also gives me a sense of pride and security that another man (and his wife) loves her and he doesn't just see Daniela as another pussy to fuck and push aside. Most importantly, other people loving her so deeply is the best insurance if anything should happen to me. Yeah, I have life insurance but there are other people who have "feelings" for my wife as well.

That's why we're in a closed group, bareback for all, all the time. Even anal. Tested, tested before we started and no playing outside the group.

We were concerned about disease, and both of us religiously required condoms for PIV intercourse. But because it seemed the risk of disease transmission for oral sex was less common, we made the decision to accept the very small risk, and didn't use any protection for oral, either way. Neither of us ever contacted any detectable STI. Of course, my investigation into oral sex risk is dated - at least a decade old - so you might wish to do your own research.

I am usually a slow cummer because as someone said above, I enjoy it too much and don't want to end. If I feel myself getting close to orgasm/ejaculation, I instinctively back off. So I usually go 30 to 45 minutes. If it's just my wife and me, she'll cum twice or thrice in that time, but if we're in a real hurry I can do it in 5 minutes. In a swinging situation I will go as long as my partner wants, maybe 15 minutes, an orgasm, then stop, eat her out if she likes, then move on to another woman for another 15 minutes or so and cum in her. There was one time, however, I kept going and didn't cum until I finished with the 4th woman.

I might be wrong, but I *believe* it’s frowned upon and that 99% don’t use them. And a condom on the other male addresses only half of the equation … what about your male going down on the other female? Are you going to insist on using something such as a dental dam? Pretty much 100% of women are going to ask what’s the point of giving them oral at all in that case.

Find a like-minded woman. As you can tell from these posts, we're out there. Find her, treat her right, give her and let her have the sexual thrills and adventures she wants, then marry her for the journey.

Having my Lesbian side, I understand as well the thrill men get from woman's breasts and butts.

We all (David, Lora, Red, Clair, and I) are still playing fairly frequently with Joe and Shannon. At first they mostly stayed in a hotel near us for foursomes, up to all seven of us together for sex. (It took two babysitters to watch all our kids.) Now, those from our family visit them one or two at a time for threesomes or separate room MF or FF overnight play. So yes, you are correct. An occasional fuckfest has it's place, but alone for a night is special. Including that moment of the first morning kiss with my husband after we both spent the night being with another.

Being alone with one lover. We started swapping spouses in separate cabins on a cruise and to this I prefer swapping to partying. My favorite is still my first who lives far enough away that it’s not an obsession. Since that first we have attended parties with group sex where I feel I am not myself, a little inhibited. If we are swinging give me one partner for the night alone in a private room. I’m not one who enjoys being passed around or looking for multiple partners just for a sex act.

My recurring thought is either of our guys with his dick in my pussy (doggy or missionary) and my lips and tongue on either Clair's or Lora's freshly sloppy pussy from the other guy. Fortunately, it happens often.

Absolutely acceptable in a club. When you are in a club, almost everyone will ask before joining or touching...and if they don't ask, it's usually best to tell someone affiliated with the club. That sort of thing is REALLY frowned upon. Usually any night is fine, but always check with the club beforehand. Some clubs have different themes or things for different nights. Usually Saturdays are the best (also busiest) nights to go. As for being body conscious...I wish that everyone would go to a club just once in their life...sure, there are some 'better looking' people there (but looks don't guarantee that they are nice, or considerate, or polite, or not complete asses), but most of the people will look just like the people you see in the market...there will be people of all shapes and sizes, and they will (usually) all be having fun and playing (if they choose so). For every body type, there is someone else who is into that body type. One visit to a club usually makes a person much more comfortable with their (almost always SELF PERCEIVED) "flaws"...in fact, some people will even be attracted to those same "flaws". We all have baggage, we all have things we wish were better...skinnier, bigger, whatever, but it's what makes you, you. Almost everyone (meaning there might have been someone who didn't agree but never spoke up) has come away feeling better about themselves after going to a club because they learn that their personal fears are either not noticed or not important to who they met. All shapes and sizes accepted and appreciated!

I am a 47 year old female. For years, I too have had fantasies about watching my husband with another female. I’m also very bi-curious. I’m most interested in the aspect of giving pleasure, more than receiving, and would love to be a “third” person involved, enabling my husband and the other female enjoy themselves. I discovered the term cuckquean a few months ago and was (at first) so excited to find that there were others like me! (As well as a name for it) If you attempt internet research, there isn’t much information out there for a female cuck. Unfortunately, most of what I’ve found involves humiliation - and that’s not anything I’m interested in. On this site, someone recently advised me to look up stag/vixen rather than cuckquean. Stag/vixen doesn’t include humiliation. I continue to struggle to find much information on the topic. There’s so much more “out there” about men who enjoy voyeurism with their spouse than women who do. I’m glad you posted...it makes me feel less alone or unusual when I read about other women who have the same desires! *Side note: my husband and I haven’t had a “swinging” experience yet. After almost 18 years together, I opened up to him about six months ago about my fantasies. We’re planning our first trip to a club sometime in the Spring. I have such nervous butterflies!

This is a big thing with men in reverse, why should not women get the same thing! I think this is great that you like to watch. Have you tried doing a MFF and just softly help the other female. That way you get a close up view and can encourage both with full support. i am sure there are women into the MFF scene that are more into men than women and then you just watching would not be so strange. Would like to here how this goes!