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Contacted by half our age we changed our profile looking for 25-35 we are getting messages. We are honest in posting our age which doesn’t deter younger contacts. If they are willing we are willing.

I figure that is a joke about a candidate making a comment. The truth is most women never saw or touched another woman down there. What I didn’t realize when we first started meeting others is that women have a better knowledge of seeing penises, all the women have seen, played and had in their mouth some or many men. Almost all have tasted a man and his ejaculate having no knowledge how other women taste. We all know our own bodies, our own anatomy, our own vaginas, never seeing any other vagina close. Men see other men in locker rooms, not up close but they can see what’s hanging. I don’t say I’ll grab yours, I do ask do you want to touch mine or do you want me to touch you first. I figure the woman never saw a vagina other than her own, I offer an up close examination. When age is a factor I know my own anatomy changed over the years. I don’t want to scare a much younger woman seeing a vagina that way.

We are early 30’s and feel our upper limit is 8-10 years older. How young is too young? Is a 25 year old young lady and her boyfriend too young for us? If they were married would it be different? We only know them online. A big plus there were no nudes given or asked for. Age and marital status are my only question. *Just a note. We are very new to this with only one time on a vacation as experience.

Ms. Gold wants to know, just what are these 'panties' that you speak of?

I get what you're saying about keeping things a bit more personal rather than going to big crowd events. My partner and I have been exploring similar ideas, and we've found that online adult meetings can be a great way to connect with couples who are on the same page. You can take your time getting to know them over drinks, and things can evolve naturally without any pressure. It's kinda like building a friendship with... let's say seksitreffit in mind, if you know what I mean. Have you guys tried any online platforms yet?

Thank you, but I couldn't see being any other way. I knew from her past that Daniela likes, wants, needs sex and relationships with other men and women, so I was aware of what I needed to do to make her happy. It took two years for me to get up the courage to tell her that I would be happy if she no longer wanted to be monogamous, but I would remain so. Women have the advantage that they have the capacity for much more sex than a man, and she never made me feel cheated, deprived or left out, even when she was seeing other men alone. Our journey to joining other couples for mutually swapping bound us closer together. May things go well for you, both in your marriage and pure enjoyment of sex.

Alan posted that I was bi before we met something he labeled me with. I was just a shy college girl looking for acceptance. My first experience with a girlfriend and a boyfriend was not with lights on, I didn’t inspect, only saw what I think I saw. I went home comparing myself to what I thought I saw. There wasn’t easy access to research, pre Google. I had a makeup mirror to do self inspection or watch myself and a toy, not to compare with others. Was a big clitoris better, I thought hers was bigger. Getting older I learned more, swinging has taught me plenty. How I would love a man to tell me how tight I am. Do I need vaginal rejuvenation? I didn’t notice hanging scrotum on Alan even if it has happened. Now I’m going to worry a younger man will say he doesn’t feel anything.

Searching we looked for someone our age. We discussed age and it wasn’t a strict age we wanted people who acted close to our age. 15 years younger would be too young even if my husband wouldn’t agree. @cplnluv1 you sound like the Pussy Whisperer that knows how to let a woman be comfortable in her sexuality. The first time I did that I needed to have a fun talk with the other wife first. It went I’ll grab your pussy if you grab mine. Grabbing was one thing , doing the oral had so many laughs. In the end we both did it pretty well.

Funny that after answering our 10 year preference we were contacted by a couple 15 years younger than me. How they got our email is more surprising. Several years ago we met their friends that contacted us through a swingers site who were looking for a first for the wife. What I’m reading they met on that same site and the ones we met gave us as a referral for a First. A nice compliment out of nowhere. Alan has been corresponding with the new couple who he thinks are more than 15 years younger. Two negatives are they are young and they sent a nude picture without us asking. Not a sex picture, just naked. We stopped meeting newbies last year and have a smaller group we enjoy. I’m not fully sure why we were chosen. Alan said the couple they contacted were not confident in being in the first for her and that I handled their first so well. I think the nude photo worked on Alan. What man doesn’t enjoy younger women? My question is why do younger people want us, they know our age. Alan isn’t wrong when he says we should enjoy, there isn’t anything wrong meeting them.

You sound like a very good man. A very selfless man. Mine seems to only want this if he's doing it too...which to an extent I understand...but this journey is teaching me a lot about myself and my boundaries. Who knows if we'll ever play at this rate. I don't think my husband has this kind of selflessness in him to actually allow me to grow comfortable by playing first...to see that is all going to be okay. But your love for your wife is beautiful.

Same. My wife is recreationally bi. Now that's not right! I think maybe you've met a lot of selfish women. Ugh!

I think I'm too old for this game. Once I've come, I'm probably not going to be able to get it up again the second time. I wonder what the girls get out of it . . .

Friends of ours in Florida are generous enough to organize these types of events. Last winter, we attended a dinner out with about 30 people. They hosted a hotel takeover, but we were still up north. They post these events on SDC, which is popular in Florida. We prefer to meet at vanilla events, rather than sex clubs where you get down and dirty right away with strangers. We like to meet, get to know what makes people tick first.

Thank you for kind words. I never left “here”, I would check in from time to time holding off posting. Without contributing I was able to read posts from a different perspective wondering what was real and what was fantasy. I am pretty sure I know. There are a number of members who have given me support, I have even allowed myself to open up to one very special couple. Several years ago we met them, they knew about my original problem and gave me full support. I just found it easier to talk to an older woman, about 20 years older telling her things I had a hard time explaining to my friends. It is her who said I should come back here to post my thoughts. She understands that I need to clear my head without direct contact, a healthy way to express my thoughts even though I do see a professional. I am finally feeling healthy enough to regain my life and enjoy that life again. Thank you for your support.

We have a 13 year age difference in our relationship so the age thing doesn’t really matter a whole lot! Saying that she has no interest in people her parents age and I have no interest in people the age of my adult daughters. Ideally somewhere between our ages is usually ideal, but would really depend on the person. I always find it funny when people assume older people can’t relate to younger people and will have nothing in common. I guess I am to believe once you hit a certain age you become out of touch with what is going on in the world and no longer are willing to learn something new. I also find the comments about stamina being equal funny. At 53 I have better stamina and am in better shape then loads of people I meet in their 30’s. How a person eats, exercises and takes care of themselves makes a bigger difference on that then the age they are.

We also started in our early 50's, and the limits that we put on our SLS profile was 40-60. But we didn't really pay much attention to that, if the couple that attracted us was outside those limits but otherwise attractive, we'd meet with them and see. At the club when we were looking for hookups, we didn't even bother asking about age. My advice to you, MT, would not be to worry too much about age. You'll find attractive people of all ages in the LifeStyle. Just beware of immaturity and craziness, those types tend not to make good bed partners.

We are experienced swingers. We usually soft or full swap. But if a newbie couple wanted to watch and be watched, we would do it.

It depends! My first experiences were with friends my age, a few years on either side. Parties back at school where I graduated led to both a little younger, some old sorority sisters had married or were dating men who are older, not much older, less than 10 years older. Now in my mid thirties I recently had fun with 10 years younger. Today I’m thinking he is telling stories about an older women he had. I am afraid of older men for a reason. After my divorce I met an older man who treated me well at first. He was my knight saving me until he became the dark knight. I realize abusive relationship happen at all ages, abuse is physical and mental. My husband who was my age was mentally abusive to me which led to our split. My older shining knight was abusive in so many ways which became darker with his friends abusing me too. I know not all older men are not monsters, I just can’t get passed my experiences.