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Thank you all for advice, guidance and help setting up our first meeting of someone for sex. We had previously set up to attend a party that we drove hours to get to then decided not to join. Our first swing was terrific with vacationers at an adult only resort. No planning it happened in a very fun meeting. Since coming home we wondered what meeting others would be. With help we used a profile to search for a long distance meeting. We had plenty of fun looking and wondering, we also had plenty of frustration. We weren’t in a rush to meet others knowing the longer we waited the more difficult it would be for me. My husband did most of the searching and I would read the profiles he chose. We found an attractive younger non married couple. I thought too much younger and I posted my thoughts here. The advice we were given was they weren’t that much younger and age is a number. Some of you stated that you met others 20 years older. More advice, meet at a neutral site to see if we liked them stipulating no sex on first date. It worked we liked them, we felt they liked us. We set up a “date” for the next night if we could get someone to watch our kids. Next night was our first swinger meeting. It went well, even great. The best part is I know that I can swing. I can meet others for sexual pleasure without guilt. I felt this was my only opportunity, if it didn’t work out I most likely would go back to a quiet life.

Both those things are real, not a video. More interesting are real couples having real sex on display to amuse the mind before getting down to it yourself.

Concerns? Extreme fear that someone would find out. We had a little foreplay, I never saw a penis like his, I learned uncircumcised. Having had sex only with Timmy before that I could tell it was different but not sure how it was different, but it was perfect. I wish we could get on a plane to visit, they don’t live in the US.

She was an angel sent by God. I'm not joking. Me too, but none of it was with my husband-to-be. In high school (Catholic high school), I did hand jobs, oral, and anal with several boys but only let one touch my pussy. Until Red, who is part of our poly family still. Most religions are to control people.

We met our first on a cruise so there may be something about vacations that loosen your inhibitions. The couple we swapped with joined us on a nude beach followed by plenty of liquor on the ship. All these years later I say it was the best romantic night in our swapping life. The way he touched me, kissed me and made love to me is burnt into my memory. He saw be naked as I saw him that day on the beach yet it was so much different alone in a cabin and allowing him in me. MT how did you feel when a stranger entered you that first time and did you have concerns? We meet our firsts who don’t live near us and I’m wondering why you don’t contact them or meet them.

I was raised in a very strict rural area where sex was never discussed in my house. The fear of God was my upbringing. Everyone knew who were the “loose” girls. My sex life stopped short of losing my virginity before marriage, my husband was my first. I know that is old fashioned and after meeting a more worldly woman on our vacation we realized that our beliefs were just fear. I now the stupidity of ridiculous godly fears. Thankfully we are young enough to enjoy ourselves now for many years.

Searching for the right couple on a match site whether as a single dating service or a swinging site always brings up questions. Alan and I had similar fun and frustration in our searches with many bumps and misses. Our first wasn’t great, just like the first time I had sex, but it both opened a new world of fun. A little additional advice, don’t worry about age, older or younger. You will find friends of all ages if you open your mind to talking, not everyone will be right for you. We look forward to all the positive posts of your new matches.