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My wife tells me that sex with her favorite play partner is very good and she looks forward to seeing him and sometimes with his wife. It makes me happy that she enjoys him so much as well as other play partners. Does it bother me? Not at all. If she told me that some other man was a better cook than me, would I be upset? No. Marriage includes sex, something to enjoy together, but that is not the whole picture or even the most important part. Daniela and I share a home, a daughter, a life together; times like with no one else. Sex is something we really enjoy together, but if she can find that part of life even better elsewhere, then fine, it doesn't diminish what we have. At some point when the relationship becomes sexual and then more serious, you should tell. Not because you owe it to any guy but for two other reasons: to see if he genuinely loves you as you are, what made you the person you are, and because if you view the lifestyle as my wife and I do, you can't go back. It is a higher form of human development, true to our real human nature. You are neither a freak, nor what you did sordid. Other people were sordid. When things get serious you open up, not to see if he wants you - that's backwards - it's to see if you still want him.

My physical beauty lol. I can’t say blowing your gasket too soon is a good thing, it’s also not a terrible thing. I want to please my partners, I feel that if they don’t blow their gasket I am doing something wrong. How many partners have I just had oral sex with where their pleasure was my pleasure. I will never know what a partner is thinking, if it’s something other than me I won’t take it as a negative, it’s a partner still thinking about my pleasure if they are trying to delay their own.

I explored more. During the lockdown we talked about what are we going to do being together 24/7. I can’t remember what brought up swinging it was Rocky started searching swinger sites I think. He found a couple where the woman was bi and asked me if I could do it. What I remember was sex with no kissing because of Covid. Rocky and I were excited to do this, secretly I was scared like hell. Looking back I don’t know how I did it but I am happy I did. Why not?

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How many guys out there, love to eat their wifes pussy after you cum in it -- of if another man cums in her ? I ask, because I would suck my wife's pussy after sex all the time, even when it was from another man. And she would suck our cocks & balls. Do you women like that ?

I agree with the rest here that the only opinion about you that is negative is your own. No one else, including me for what it's worth, considers your past sordid, you life unorthodox, or your sexuality unusual.

One of my very gooier but also very vanilla friends posted on Facebook a lovely photo of 2024’s final Super Moon, also called the Beaver Moon because it is occurs in November, rising over a body of water. The reflection of the moon on the water made for a lovely image. She added a caption noting that she didn’t see any beavers. She is so sweet, but also very strait laced, almost to the point of prudish. It was all I could do not to comment or Messenger her that all she needed to do if she wanted to see a beaver was sit in a chair in front of a mirror, pull off her panties, and spread her thighs. 😉😂

The father was Ward Cleaver and the most famous quote from the show was from his wife "Ward, don’t you think that you kind of hard last night on the Beaver?"

Awww. “Tragic Story” is eye opening making me look at my life. Divorce is so common today, too many of us rushed into marriage too young. It goes back to being accepted and afraid of being alone. I am lucky to have a good support system of both sexes. One of my closest friends is also divorced and is someone who lived through my crazy life warning me of the dangers. She helped me get out of a toxic and very dangerous relationship. We have another friend who we discuss very openly our lives and relationships. They are quasi therapists for me. I feel they understand my life even more, a therapist or my therapist who is a straight married woman. When I meet a man or get interested in a man I wonder when I should open up about my sexuality. Will a man want me because of my unorthodox life before he wants me for who he sees? My friend and I discuss these things with the understanding that my therapist doesn’t have. Thank you for understanding my crazy trip and well wishes. I wonder what some of the older or more seasoned on here think. I want to think that decades from now I am as thoughtful as the real people here and able to give the good advice others have given me.

Isn’t it a joke when men say they think about sports during sex? I thought guys just say that. When I’m with someone I think about sex and the person I’m with. I would be mad if I’m with a man doing my best to please him and then find out he was thinking about a football game. I know most men are once a done for a period of time but for me I want to orgasm as fast as I can

Good luck. But this isn't a very good pickup bar.

After a little practice, I found it wasn't a problem. Think of it this way. Maybe you're talking to somebody on the phone, and at the same time you're cleaning the kitchen. If somebody knows you well, they might sense a little pause while you look for the sponge, but maybe not. The point is not to forget your cock is inside an attractive and willing woman and thrusting. You just need a little distraction to get yourself off the edge, and delay your orgasm. Nobody (including my wife) ever pointed out that I wasn't totally into what my primary purpose was - fucking her.

Certainly I am no expert with this but for any future men in your life, regardless of who the man is or his age, unless he asks what YOU want first and lets you go first without expecting anything from you in return, including him being able to play unless it's fun for you and something that you want, don't venture into the lifestyle with a guy expecting a permanent relationship. My wife told me that the reason she thought that our relationship could work as marriage is because she told me about her past and I not only accepted it but also thought it was good, it made her the wonderful woman that she is. Then I told her she could find sexual fulfillment outside our marriage while saying that she is enough for me. She is. Some would say my wife is "a freak with a sordid past" that a guy "won't want to date." That's probably true for a lot of guys, but we men are out there who love women like you and my wife - daring, intelligent, strong, know what they like. I was going to say "good luck" but instead the better thing is "stay persistent" for what you're looking for because there is a guy who is looking for you. Not because he wants to have fun in a "sexually open life" but because he wants you to have fulfillment in a "sexually open life."

I'm neither the jealous or cuckold type when Daniela is with another man, whether I'm there or not, but it does gives me some primal, emotional reactions, as does my play with other women. When Daniela has sex with another woman, however, it is a big nothing to me, like her masturbating. Some sexual kick but no real emotions. That's why I don't even consider it when assessing our "firsts" in the lifestyle. I think that this is true for most men, even vanilla guys. Girl play many be arousing, but has zero emotion associated with it.

That the way it just seems to be. I thought I was totally straight, but what flipped the switch for me was watching my husband David having sex with Clair, one of the few in our early days who let me watch her with David. I vividly remember still my feelings after he ejaculated in her and seeing his cum in her pussy, my urge to kiss her pussy and get it out of her with my mouth. Clair started out totally Lesbian before she became bi, so she was up for it. I was eager, but needed a few lessons before knowing how to be on the giving end of cunnilingus.

We have a 13 year age difference in our relationship so the age thing doesn’t really matter a whole lot! Saying that she has no interest in people her parents age and I have no interest in people the age of my adult daughters. Ideally somewhere between our ages is usually ideal, but would really depend on the person. I always find it funny when people assume older people can’t relate to younger people and will have nothing in common. I guess I am to believe once you hit a certain age you become out of touch with what is going on in the world and no longer are willing to learn something new. I also find the comments about stamina being equal funny. At 53 I have better stamina and am in better shape then loads of people I meet in their 30’s. How a person eats, exercises and takes care of themselves makes a bigger difference on that then the age they are.

One of the few advantages of being an older swinger: you can't get pregnant after menopause. As exciting as bareback and cream pies may be, we devoutly use condoms when playing. We don't pretend to know who has been where.

In general, hormonal contraceptives work by inhibiting the body from producing the hormones which cause ovulation. If ovulation does not occur, the volume of semen isn't an issue because there is no egg to fertilize. However, as there are a wide array of hormonal contraceptives, I highly recommending researching the specific "pill" your wife is using to determine exactly how it works. Also remember the pill does not prevent sexually transmitted infections, so condoms are a good idea in general. Birth Control Pill: Side Effects, Effectiveness, How the Pill Works, and Types