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Bob, This is a forum for discussing LifeStyle topics - NOT a pickup place. Have you tried SLS, Kasadie or SDC - those are the places you'll find other swingers. Yes, you'll have to pay.

They do both.... I happen to find both the male penis and the female clit/labia extremely attractive. I guess I like the penis partly because i have one and have enjoyed it for many many years. I love to suck a cock to completion as it's kind of a challenge. And I can't suck my own. If I could I seldom leave the house. I love to suck a woman as well. Love the scent, the folds and the juices that flow. Nothing better that giving another person, male or female pleasure.

That paragraph is so full of manipulation I don't know where to start. A little barter, I'll give you waht you want, even though I am the one that needs to apologize IF you give me what I want, and then you fucked up again... If you want your husband you have to give up the swinging and threesomes. Period. If I was your husband I'd be talking to a divorce attorney and do everything I could to get you out of my life. It feels like you need to sow a few wild oats and you're not going to do that inside your marriage. Admit what you need and move on. Have the courage to fend for yourself, financially, and go play. Stop hurting your husband. S

I agree with what you said above in this post, but with one minor quibble: In my experience, the men in my life weren't looking for a "woman like me" who likes to have multiple partners and be in non-monogamous relationships, and/or have partners as well who they play with. They loved me so much that they took joy in my happiness of not having to choose between the two men in my life. Neither David nor Red had engaged in this type of relationship before, so it wasn't like it was a kink of theirs. It took me two years to get over my shortcoming of not being able to find the same joy in their potential sexual pleasure outside of me. Once I as well understood and found that aspect of love for them, it was also better for me. A long way around of saying that you don't need to find someone who is into the lifestyle, find someone first who loves you so much that he is happy for you to find pleasure being in the lifestyle.

I consider myself, and list myself in my profiles as bisexual, not bi curious. I tried it, I liked it. I want to do it again! I don't do well with anal bottoming, I wish I did. Guys seem to really like it. With my wife at home, (we don't swing much or at all these days) I love it when she does my ass with a smallish dildo, just enough for the friction and a little prostate contact. She's a little squeamish about that, she's afraid she'll hurt me. I guess we just need a little more practice. Conversely, I love to suck cocks! It's kind of a challenge to see how far I can get one in my mouth and whether I can make the guy cum. So many guys these days want to hold back when I want them to cum, it's frustrating. Of course I love mine sucked too. I love giving my cum to my wife, but I love it taken from me too. Do you know what I mean? I love to lay back and have her (or him) lubricate my penis with coconut oil and rub it up and down and take as much as they can into their mouth and slowly work me up to a lovely orgasm and either swallow, let it drool out of their mouth, or rub it and make it gush all over! So I guess when I engage in bisexual activities, I like the same things as when I'm with a woman, less the PIV aspect.

Unfortunately I’ve gone over a week without ejaculating then I just had to yank one out.

My Ex encouraged me to be with his friend all the time. There wasn’t any jealousy when I told him I enjoyed being with that friend. My time and many nights were filled with more than sex, we had laughs and so much fun. It was never who was better, he knew I had all the fun that it was supposed to be. Our problem started when we figured my Ex was away when I became pregnant. At first it was denial until reality was figured out. Sex usually happens pretty quickly, if not the first date or second by the third it’s expected or wanted. My friend was funny when she offered to be there if it comes to the point where I open up to a New Romantic relationship. She volunteered to be part of his first threesome sight unseen. Wouldn’t be funny if it wasn’t his first? My Ex used those words in our divorce. The words still ring in my head. I am working on exorcising the hurting words.

My physical beauty lol. I can’t say blowing your gasket too soon is a good thing, it’s also not a terrible thing. I want to please my partners, I feel that if they don’t blow their gasket I am doing something wrong. How many partners have I just had oral sex with where their pleasure was my pleasure. I will never know what a partner is thinking, if it’s something other than me I won’t take it as a negative, it’s a partner still thinking about my pleasure if they are trying to delay their own.

Awww. “Tragic Story” is eye opening making me look at my life. Divorce is so common today, too many of us rushed into marriage too young. It goes back to being accepted and afraid of being alone. I am lucky to have a good support system of both sexes. One of my closest friends is also divorced and is someone who lived through my crazy life warning me of the dangers. She helped me get out of a toxic and very dangerous relationship. We have another friend who we discuss very openly our lives and relationships. They are quasi therapists for me. I feel they understand my life even more, a therapist or my therapist who is a straight married woman. When I meet a man or get interested in a man I wonder when I should open up about my sexuality. Will a man want me because of my unorthodox life before he wants me for who he sees? My friend and I discuss these things with the understanding that my therapist doesn’t have. Thank you for understanding my crazy trip and well wishes. I wonder what some of the older or more seasoned on here think. I want to think that decades from now I am as thoughtful as the real people here and able to give the good advice others have given me.

I thought about this all night feeling the need to continue. I stayed with him because I needed acceptance. I pretended to enjoy our game pretending to be his bad little girl. His spankings became more intense and sadistic. He went from slapping to using his belt leaving welts on me. It always ended with him making me do oral on him. He’d yell at me to suck his cock which was my relief because he would stop hitting me. His sadism got worse with restraints and choking. Things became more degrading with him urinating on me. Then things became worse when he invited friends to humiliate me. Some of the men were really disgusting. I found out he was getting paid by the men he invited. I was called a slave. It took courage to run for my life, I thought something much worse was going to happen so I had to escape. I am trying to get back to a normal life if I can figure out what normal is. Do I want the vanilla life as some call it or do I want to continue in a normal sexually open life? I wonder if I should tell my past to a guy I might have feelings for. I’m afraid there are those who won’t want to date a freak with a sordid past. Can I go back to being whom I’m not. Still trying to figure out who I am.

I am with a therapist weekly that has helped me greatly. Coming to the truth that I was being abused and willing say no is the first step to recovery. I thought I loved someone and denied it was the feeling of being wanted that I loved. I had to accept what one calls a kink can eventually turn into abuse slowly. I had to look deep inside myself of why I became a swinger, why I was having sex with so many others. Is that a kink? Each man is different in how he enjoys sex, something I enjoyed sharing. I will try to share what opened my eyes to abuse, it took time for me. This post is difficult for me, I will try. Those who know me know how difficult my divorce was and my reasons for divorce. How my next relationship grew is still a question even to me. I met my abuser in a very innocent way. A friendly man who listened to me in a fatherly way. He is an older gentleman, I use gentleman very loosely. I still question how I allowed myself to be talked into a bed with him. He called himself a Shmoozer, I was shmoozed. Our first time we were together was nice, he was caring, didn’t rush me and kept praising me. The only thing that was wrong was he is older which didn’t show itself sexually. I should not have told him my sexual past. I’m sure that gave him carte blanch to do things he only dreamed of. He looked at me as a young girl and started treating me as a school girl. Fun at first it was a little uncomfortable. Little by little he bought me school girl stuff, the first abuse was a spanking. He found more and more reasons to spank me. Right now I can finish this answer. I’m working and it goes much much further. I’ll try to answer later.

This turned out to be another great thread. To cplnluv1, there could be so many reasons and all the ones I can think about should be taken as a compliment. Your login name for one, a loving example, wisdom, emotional stability, etc. I do hope it is a great experience.

Whatever your wife gets tipped she should give the $ to the dancers - she'll be a hero.