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Well, how you tell someone is everything. If she made no suggestions or provided no insights and THEN explained the experience wasn't so great, well, a sex partner has every right to be at least disappointed in the news. Or, the one time things went poorly I did say,"I think I had an off night". In the moment, let the other person off easily. Then, you can control the narrative with a mind that's more clear. Also, the experience is less' fresh' emotionally. One a personal note: Now here's an extreme situation. I realize weight can be a huge issue and difficult for people to resolve. Wonderful couple. The wife was gorgeous. He was handsome a few pounds ago. I admit to having some extra liquid courage in me at that Club. When we declined he was a bit assertive as to reasons. We never give reasons, and don't expect them, even if we're declined. And I said, to my husband's horror, "You get to the gym lose 25 pounds and your in. Literally." We saw them two months later, he had lost 30 pounds and tightened up his body a smidgen, too. His quite joyful wife said,"He couldn't have done this without you". I walked up to her, gave her a gentle kiss on the lips and then went to him and said,"I'm a girl of my word. If you still want me, you can have me". The sex was amazing for all concerned. Again, weight is a bitch to control.

Just remember, this type of effort requires both sides acting like grownups about it. Remember, you are in love with each other. You're simply considering sex with others

Katrina here. Rules, or not. Boundaries, or not. You play with the fringes of sex and sometimes your 'nose' gets 'bloodied'. Sometimes you orgasm like you never have before. Other times you get 'fucked into next week'. Other times, you get all of that. Rules, while in the throes of sexual passion are pretty dang foolish. You can have them, yet.... You learn from broken rules, you don't get depressed over it. His greatest fears became real. You agreed to 'terms and conditions' that he should never have asked for in the first place. Meanwhile, when you know you're doing something wrong and still do it, that's not nice either. We've always had sex with a 'no crime, no foul' point of view. Inaction , lack of transparency and lack of trust placed yourself here. Forgive each other, be grownups and move forward. No one died. You learned a few things. Being a stay at home mom is a noble pursuit. Yet, if he's endangering his health, that's not how you do that successfully. Frankly as a mother and wife, the fact you have any time for fringe sexual pursuits, tells me that perhaps you're lacking focus . He needs to get healthy, you need to be Mom and you both need to focus on your marriage for a while. As far as the,"Oh, I didn't get to explore sex when I was younger ." Well boo-hoo-hoo. You cannot change the past and you cannot focus on the present while craving the past. There's a nifty movie called Eyes Wide Shut. It's about a marriage. The husband is craving a place of sexual adventure and fringe experimentation. What he doesn't know, until later, is that his wife came from that 'place' and now wanted the family and marriage they had. In the end, they both return to their marriage. Not by regretting anything, yet valuing what they were in the present. Forgive each other. Move forward. Be transparent to each other. Perhaps get a really good marriage counselor where you're honest. And, once again, for you, some other guys cock is not going to make things better. I finish this as a woman who occasionally enjoys sex with others. I enjoy it a lot. My sex partners, including my dearest husband, seem to feel the same way. Yet, if it stopped tomorrow, so it goes. Because, it's not the woman who can have one hundred lovers, it's the woman who can make love to one lover, one hundred different ways.

We discussed condom use before we met others online. Prior to our first swing my only sex was with my husband and we never used a condom so we bought some and tried it at home. We laughed about the whole thing trying to roll it on. I can’t say it felt different, it was more a mood breaker. Since meeting others we aren’t using even if we know it’s riskier. One poster on here states she enjoys knowing something is swimming in her, I enjoy the feeling of a man squirting just like I know the men enjoy me squirting. Is it a physical or psychological feeling of the man unloading or is it the after when I enjoy the wife licking it up. It’s all part of the fun we are having.

Talk about taking one for the team...

Not only because women can more easily get a man for sex, but also because women want it just as much if not more, and can easily take on multiple men without performance issues and have multiple orgasms. Plus, homosexual "action" between women is common.

@Numex true there are many ways to have a non-monogamous relationship. The biggest critique I've heard regarding the type of open marriage discussed in that article usually comes from the husbands. Husbands who think an open marriage is a license to fuck other women are often surprised when it turns out their wives are getting alot more action than they are.

Daniela doesn't feel she is dominant enough even when she is cowgirl because the guy can buck upwards as she rises. That's why she liked having him against the wall, unable to move much.

That paragraph is so full of manipulation I don't know where to start. A little barter, I'll give you waht you want, even though I am the one that needs to apologize IF you give me what I want, and then you fucked up again... If you want your husband you have to give up the swinging and threesomes. Period. If I was your husband I'd be talking to a divorce attorney and do everything I could to get you out of my life. It feels like you need to sow a few wild oats and you're not going to do that inside your marriage. Admit what you need and move on. Have the courage to fend for yourself, financially, and go play. Stop hurting your husband. S

Did you see what he posted? Look back at his posts where he stated he was a cheater and his wife took revenge by joining Ashley Madison. Follow his posts where they agreed to that open marriage and learned to accept both of their wants. They evolved into swinging with him saying he rather not watch her play. I am not aware of definitions, I just figure Hotwife is a husband showing off and Cuckold is a spouse being humiliated. If I am mistaken I’m sorry. We are not into labels we enjoy our life without putting those labels on.

Sorry, but cheating is a boundary that I don't cross. Like I said, it's not the sex, because we have swapped for 4 years, it's doing it behind my back. If they cheat on you, they will steal from you. Sorry but this is nonnegotiable for me!