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First, I have no problem with your comments or being "judged." We're all here for an honest exchange. The wives weren't trying to humiliate or make fun of us. It started as a discussion with another couple about women sucking dick and doing anal, whether they enjoyed it, and whether it was physically good or just the sense of pleasing a man. The way men do anal different than pussy, whether swallowing is fun for the woman or just done to please the guy, etc. So as the four of us talked back and forth, the wives said, "well, you do it," and we agreed, sort of reluctantly, but also with the understanding of what they do for us. Admittedly, our attempts by us men, were awkward, inexperienced and funny in a way. We knew this couple, and the other one I did the gay stuff with, very well so it was about as comfortable as I could have expected. Not enjoyable, but not so bad. For me, anal was the worst both ways, getting oral done on me the least objectionable. One of the other guys thought it the other way around. It depended on what was easier to ignore. Between a man and a woman you might think that a mouth is a mouth and an ass hole is an ass hole, but not so. Talking about sucking dick, I told the women that we men eat pussy so they're not doing anything special. My wife said, but so do we, that's much nicer.

Daniela and I started in the lifestyle in what I now know is hotwifing, but not because I enjoyed the idea of her fucking other men, just because knowing her past and seeing her need for sexual variety, and I wanted her to be happy. It was made especially easy for me because the guys she got with at first were guys she had been with before, so it was no big deal for me. I have come to appreciate watching or sometimes just knowing that my wife is having sex with other people, particularly how it is different from how we do it, seeing the fun she is having, and now instead of being just a so what to me, it does turn me on. Also, although originally I was happy with just her playing because she always gave me as much as I wanted, Daniela is the one who got us into swapping. She's really into FFM play with other couples and wanted to bring the dynamic of watching me playing as well. If that makes any sense.

We discussed condom use before we met others online. Prior to our first swing my only sex was with my husband and we never used a condom so we bought some and tried it at home. We laughed about the whole thing trying to roll it on. I can’t say it felt different, it was more a mood breaker. Since meeting others we aren’t using even if we know it’s riskier. One poster on here states she enjoys knowing something is swimming in her, I enjoy the feeling of a man squirting just like I know the men enjoy me squirting. Is it a physical or psychological feeling of the man unloading or is it the after when I enjoy the wife licking it up. It’s all part of the fun we are having.

Bareback is the epitome of swinging. When we began swinging we played with just one couple. Both the girls used contraception. My wife Amy has IUD and Lesley my partner took the pill. Amy has stuck to one playmate since she detests condoms. I can tolerate using acondom but look forward to bareback sex wih my playmates once we have become familiar. Amy and i don't go to swinger clubs or participate in orgies. We both look dforward to seconds.

I had the opposite situation, a buddy’s mother had a thing for me and a bunch of the guys. Most likely she would be in a lot of trouble if this ever got out. I was invited to LBI, to a summer house by my friend and his parents. It was the parents, my friend and another friend. The dad was a coach on my little league team and the mom was always nice to me. I don’t remember having a thing for her but looking back she was a MILF. We were on the beach when she asked me to go back to the house with her to get the lunch we left in the fridge. I didn’t think anything about it, the house was a block from the beach. On the walk back to the house we talked about the girls who were sitting near us, she said she saw me staring at them. My friend’s mom said she saw me getting excited, I don’t think I did. I think I should stop here, having a thing works both ways.

Not my friends’ moms, but my mom’s friends. They would smile in their make up at their social gatherings at our house, ogle me, and tell my mom openly and endearingly about how handsome I was. At the time I was embarrased. It is only now as I am older than they were back then that I get the hots for them. They are a part of my fantasies now. What would have happened if….

... and from the same team at that.

When we first started, we only had a few chance encounters with random people, so definitely condoms were a must. We're now in a group with just another couple, and an occasional single woman, and we all agreed to go without condoms. The single woman aspect is tricky since she is not with us all the time, but we feel she's been honest about her sex life, and she tests frequently. We've only recently started experimenting with the husbands and cum. Personally I love being cum on, and especially love it when my husband is still going after the other hubby cums on me. But sloppy seconds is a newfound joy! And my husband, who was very, very shy about touching any fluids in the beginning, has loved the sloppy 2nds, and also enjoyed eating creampies or off my boobs. Of course I don't judge him for that, in fact it's a huge turn on for me that he has dropped his inhibitions, and will try anything that he thinks turns me on. Great viscous circle! He does lose his desire to eat/play with cum after he has cum, which is understandable, although a bit of a double standard. There are many times when I'm "done" but continue to play, for the fun of it for me, and also for everyone involved. To each their own, and it's been my experience that our tastes and desires change the more experiences we have in the lifestyle.

Swinging with condoms verses without feel almost like entirely different sports. We much prefer establishing friendships and closeness with other couples and moving towards bare. Ideally, sex with condoms is just for the 'getting to know you' phase with LS friends. The intimacy, excitement and connection are just so much more intense without that barrier!

To this day I prefer separate rooms for a number of reasons. I’m not sure how long ago we swapped partners on a cruise, 9 or 10. The morning after that night I went back to my cabin and saw the other wife, who is now a good friend in bed with my husband. Thinking now I was jealous, we were younger and she is beautiful. I think another reason was while my night was perfect the next time I had sex with the man I made love to it was in front of my husband and the sex was not love making it was me being fucked in front of others, completely different. On that same cruise I was watched while a woman spread my legs. I know my husband loved watching us and enjoyed watching me having sex with the husband. Since that trip and our first swap we did swapping and we did parties. I also had sex with other women both in front of others and alone privately. The sex is much different alone. I discussed the reason with my husband many times and understood. When I have sex in front of him or in front of others I feel submissive. I let others take the lead more than I do. I suppress my enjoyment or orgasms, like can you suppress and orgasm. When alone I feel freer to be me, I’m not dominant just not as submissive. The part about watching my husband or watching others at a party is not that exciting. I don’t think I’m jealous watching my husband, I could say I’m more jealous of women who look great then I say I still look pretty damn good too. I just feel better without being watched or watching.

Well everybody is into something different i guess. We've been doing this and every permutation possible for 26 years and it still excites the hell out of me. I think she may have been bored with a couple partners along the way but never me. Like I've said here 100 times, seeing my wife with another is like a 1000 volt shock to my system that hurts so good. It was 26 years ago and still is today.

Mixed emotions or boredom. I see there is another poster saying she likes to be alone with a partner, I’m not alone. When I meet women I’m there for fun with her. I don’t want her to feel unconditional either or worry what a looker would think. Even my one nighters are private times, time for me to have fun and be spontaneous. I enjoyed my road girlfriends because what we did was always both fun and spontaneous even after multiple times together. My Angel, my wife, meets men who are cheaters, men looking for an affair, men looking for something that’s different from their everyday life. My wife has her fantasy fulfilled by men looking to fulfill their own fantasies. She tells me about the men, some don’t have sex at home. Some never had oral sex, she said this very common. Never had a blow job and even more never ate a woman. My wife doesn’t want a long term affair, she admits she wants new partners. That is her excitement, men treating her like a queen, others treating her as a whore, some giving her gifts. I figure most men are looking for escape like I do, being themselves or being who they wished they were. I have been involved with some of her meetings, did things that were different for all of us. My thought is the men wanted a 3some and then were uncertain. Watching my wife doesn’t cause angst or jealousy, I’ve witnessed before. Watching her blowing a guy is no longer exciting and watching her on her knees getting rammed is a so what. What I like to watch is my wife with another woman where I get to watch and participate.

I did tell how our open marriage started. I was a cheater and my wife found out. I had two regular girlfriends in different cities and would occasionally meet others on business trips. My wife in what I call revenge joined a famous cheaters site. Was I supposed to be jealous? It ended up her cheating saved our marriage.

@NoAngels - is that bc seeing your wife with other men stirs mixed emotions... a bit of angst and perhaps some jealousy?

My goodness, what a post. First, the OP never said he was a cheater, he and his wife had an open relationship. He also said he enjoyed swinging, just not in a situation where his wife is present: That can include separate rooms. It is a choice they made together, so if they're fine with it I'm not going to criticize. My definition of hotwife is this: A married woman who has sex with others with her husband or SO's approval. If the woman humiliates her husband while doing so, then he is a cuckold. If humiliation is not present in their relationship, they have a stag/vixen dynamic. To the OP: I'm a man who tremendously enjoyed watching his wife. We had many encounters with single men where they enjoyed my wife and I simply watched, or participated in an MFM. During foursomes, moresomes, house parties, etc. I was more interested in the females I was with than watching my wife. But that's me. If watching your wife isn't exciting to you, that's just fine. You seem to have worked out what the two of you want.