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We have not played separately. Also, if one spouse has a cold, the other spouse is probably a day behind. On a related note, we have friends whose profile says “same room, separate room, front seat, back seat, same state, separate state.”

DriverX here. I grew up on the poor side of the poor side of the tracks. I vowed if I succeeded financially I'd never be the person watching every nickel. To be a gracious host and be generous. These days I'm in a very good situation and fortunate that doing a little extra is easy enough. So a fifty-fifty split was a bit unequal. So what ? Not only would I have been grateful for the Champagne earlier, I get to have sex with your wife. That's worth being seen, especially by her, as generous, even in a small way. I have found, when it comes to being petty about money, people will rise to the occasion like a Phoenix from the ashes. Also, when a person is desperate for control, as this guy was, they're the type that always tries to take control with money all under the guise of being 'fair'. Now, this guy has certainly been in this situation before. If keeping things to the penny mattered, he simply asks the waitress to have separate checks at the start of the meal. No fuss, no muss. They do it all the time. One time we met a couple at a Club. We decided to get a hotel and he suggested something of a low end quality. Nothing wrong with that. Economically, it made sense for them. Yet, I didn't want to harm his ego by saying,"Let me get this". I simply said I have a kajillion hotel points, I can get us a suite at the Hilton and it won't cost either of us a thing. The next few hours were great. A happy play couple really puts out and they were very, very happy. Even Katrina said she could tell the other husband made an extra effort with her that night. Happy (well fucked) wife, happy life.

Neither of us would go play without the other even though we would both be like "Go play"

Like NWAtl, we would stay home to take care of our spouse. Even though both would say, go, have fun. On the other hand, we had a foursome planned with a regular couple once and the wife had to go out of town - a sudden family thing. We invited the husband over for an MFM and had a great amount of fun. Bottom line, you do you, just make sure there's no hurt feelings.

When we play outside our poly family, which is infrequent other than with one couple, we have no rules about being alone or who needs to be there, for us or them. Every couple has their own approach, however. Part of it for us, I think, is that with all our damn kids someone, usually more than one, has to stay behind. For me personally, in our early days of our strictly MFM relationship and when it came to me wanting David to play as well, many of my female friends were eager to fuck my good-looking, safe, polite husband, but few wanted me there to watch. Not being there is a different kind of thrill.

We're a both bi couple and find it hot if the same cock has been inside both of us. It's a relatively rare event but has happened including both top and bottom. Love eating out my wife while being fucked. She loves to watch/encourage and suck me while it happens too.

I am a sensual, sweet, slightly sadistic Domme. I am an artist, I work with My hands and on My feet. I like a good foot rub at the end of the day. I'm looking for someone to teach, train, and enjoy. No experience necessary. I am willing to consider part-time availability subs as well as prospective full time live-in slaves. Someone who wants to grow and be molded to My design, who will accept training gracefully and accept punishment gratefully. Loyalty and trust are key in any relationship, I will not play with anyone until I have gotten to know them. I respect limits, and will help you explore your boundaries.

Well, Nicole Kidman is 57 and her next film is essentially softcore porn in the vein of Unfaithful and 91/2 weeks. Your wife should feel great about herself.

Katrina here Well, there's what you know and what you don't know about another couple. Especially if you haven't met. They may be complete frauds or wannabes . Or, they could tell you were onto whatever game they were playing. You can even say,"Thirty-nine out of thirty-nine certs agree...." If I'm actually chatting with someone, I tend to be more open to them. Two examples from house parties: House Party One: This man I'm chatting with says that I'm out of his 'league'. I replied,"I thought that was for me to decide ". House Part Two: Most everyone is naked at this point. We're chatting, about physics, of all things. He explains he realizes he's on the small side. I say," I think your cock is just as hard as any cock that's been inside me making me cum like a freight train." And that turned out to be some very good sex. Great kisser, too.

Yeah, past tense. Definitely past tense.

We went out to dinner with this couple after the hypnosis session. We split the bill 50-50. The hypnotist said “ You do realize that you two ordered two drinks and we had none.” I had to exert every ounce of self-control not to mention that we had them over our house for a pre-game champagne, cheese, grapes, nuts, etc. set up at our expense. And hosted the session at which he asked me if I had any condoms. I think you see where this relationship is going (went).

It's amazing how often people open their mouths and fuck everything up. It reminds me of that old saying "it's better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubt".

Thank you for your expanded comments, Numex. Like texting, sometimes it is hard to get the full context from the brief comments that everyone writes here. Kudos to you for breaking new ground. You qualify as a “try-sexual.” It actually reads as a hot scene.

@Numex good for you and the ladies for having an open-minded experimental mindset. Very often, the best swinging experiences are when boundaries are being pushed. As long as feelings don't get hurt it's all good!

At first we went the hotwifing route and I didn't need to see what my wife was doing. It's not that it turned me off or anything, I was just agnostic about it and figured that they would have a better time alone. When Daniela wanted to start doing MFM with me and her partners, I started to become an observer and appreciate her many styles of sexual expression beyond what she did with me. It then turned to her wanting to see me with other women so we got into swapping, and we appreciated seeing each other even more. Now we in a group of regular swapping couples and in order to get in as much activity as we, actually just she, wants we often play alone. Someone has to make dinner and watch the kids you know, so back to playing alone around 2/3 of the time.

First, I have no problem with your comments or being "judged." We're all here for an honest exchange. The wives weren't trying to humiliate or make fun of us. It started as a discussion with another couple about women sucking dick and doing anal, whether they enjoyed it, and whether it was physically good or just the sense of pleasing a man. The way men do anal different than pussy, whether swallowing is fun for the woman or just done to please the guy, etc. So as the four of us talked back and forth, the wives said, "well, you do it," and we agreed, sort of reluctantly, but also with the understanding of what they do for us. Admittedly, our attempts by us men, were awkward, inexperienced and funny in a way. We knew this couple, and the other one I did the gay stuff with, very well so it was about as comfortable as I could have expected. Not enjoyable, but not so bad. For me, anal was the worst both ways, getting oral done on me the least objectionable. One of the other guys thought it the other way around. It depended on what was easier to ignore. Between a man and a woman you might think that a mouth is a mouth and an ass hole is an ass hole, but not so. Talking about sucking dick, I told the women that we men eat pussy so they're not doing anything special. My wife said, but so do we, that's much nicer.

Well, how you tell someone is everything. If she made no suggestions or provided no insights and THEN explained the experience wasn't so great, well, a sex partner has every right to be at least disappointed in the news. Or, the one time things went poorly I did say,"I think I had an off night". In the moment, let the other person off easily. Then, you can control the narrative with a mind that's more clear. Also, the experience is less' fresh' emotionally. One a personal note: Now here's an extreme situation. I realize weight can be a huge issue and difficult for people to resolve. Wonderful couple. The wife was gorgeous. He was handsome a few pounds ago. I admit to having some extra liquid courage in me at that Club. When we declined he was a bit assertive as to reasons. We never give reasons, and don't expect them, even if we're declined. And I said, to my husband's horror, "You get to the gym lose 25 pounds and your in. Literally." We saw them two months later, he had lost 30 pounds and tightened up his body a smidgen, too. His quite joyful wife said,"He couldn't have done this without you". I walked up to her, gave her a gentle kiss on the lips and then went to him and said,"I'm a girl of my word. If you still want me, you can have me". The sex was amazing for all concerned. Again, weight is a bitch to control.

... and from the same team at that.

Talk about taking one for the team...

In my bum does little for me, except to please a man. DP, however, is wonderful. The definition of synergy.

Very interesting. And it does make perfect sense.

As you well know, having been there for a long time, the LifeStyle goes in cycles. They are impacted not only by exterior factors (people available to swing with, Covid, etc.) but also by personal factors. Has your wife gone through life changes lately? Has she had a favorite lover who backed out for some reason? Or a hundred other factors. Take stock, find out what (if anything) has changed, and then change yourselves to compensate. Or, just wait for the merry-go-round to turn again . . . Best of luck.

Damn, wife and I were going to play with one of our regular couples this weekend, but she caught a bad cold. Wish she could come along to play, but ya know, feeling unwell is feeling unwell. Of course, she and I already established that we can play alone with other couples if one of us got sick. Still, it would have been more fun. I've gotten sick myself, and couldn't go with my wife to play with other couples. At least my wife promised to sent pictures to me after the fun, which I still enjoyed. How would y'all feel if your spouse couldn't come with you to have some fun, due to being sick?

Sounds like the wives were trying to humiliate you guys. No bueno. Boo!

I certainly don't judge you on M/M contact (bi-oral myself) but this statement is confusing to me... You are not sexually interested in men, but took turns fucking one another in the ass so that your wives could laugh and make fun of you??? What am I missing?

I tried it twice, with two different men on several occasions, both oral and anal, both receiving and giving to orgasm/ejaculation. Not because I wanted to, I wasn't interested at all, but because my wife and the other guys' wives pushed it and we wanted to make them happy. They did enjoy it in a non-sexual way, smirking and laughing at us. Never again.