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They do both.... I happen to find both the male penis and the female clit/labia extremely attractive. I guess I like the penis partly because i have one and have enjoyed it for many many years. I love to suck a cock to completion as it's kind of a challenge. And I can't suck my own. If I could I seldom leave the house. I love to suck a woman as well. Love the scent, the folds and the juices that flow. Nothing better that giving another person, male or female pleasure.

My physical beauty lol. I can’t say blowing your gasket too soon is a good thing, it’s also not a terrible thing. I want to please my partners, I feel that if they don’t blow their gasket I am doing something wrong. How many partners have I just had oral sex with where their pleasure was my pleasure. I will never know what a partner is thinking, if it’s something other than me I won’t take it as a negative, it’s a partner still thinking about my pleasure if they are trying to delay their own.

Bob, This is a forum for discussing LifeStyle topics - NOT a pickup place. Have you tried SLS, Kasadie or SDC - those are the places you'll find other swingers. Yes, you'll have to pay.

njbm, I don’t think that’s generally the case. Another member of this board and I each (we figured out later) sometimes attended a regularly-scheduled hotel-suite party in central Florida. At the end of the pre-party social hour everyone took a seat and the hostess went around the room asking people to introduce themselves (first name only) and describe what they wanted to do that evening. I can only recall one man who described himself as bi. But there were a fair number who described themselves as bi-curious or heteroflexible. I don’t think it was a differentiator as to whether they engaged in anal, top or bottom. In my opinion the choice of bin or bi-curious was more an indicator of how comfortable they were with their sexuality.

Been there. Hilltop on Arizona. While we were deep in the moment a helicopter started circling overhead. Didn't stop us, kinda felt sorry for the jealous suckers stuck in the air.

Bob, I can understand that you'd like to swing with another woman. Are you dating? If so, then you know the trepidation that comes with asking a woman, "Are you interested in sex with others." Since we in ENM are just a fraction of the population, just bumping into such a woman is way against the odds. And being a single man is no picnic. You've got a leg up, I think, in that you'd be empathetic to what the other woman is thinking. But you'd still got to find such a woman (or a couple,) and get through the competition. Would it be possible for you to look up the partners of your past, explain that your wife is no longer with you, and ask if they have any contacts that might want to meet you? You might also wind up getting invited into threesomes, or house parties or such where you can meet eligible women. Good luck.

We both have. I love women as much as men now. My husband loves women but totally enjoys sucking cock with me and getting fucked. My favorite and his, position is the both of us side by side spot roasted. We love seeing each other sucking and getting fucked so we will switch directions to watch the other at the same time taking it each way. He loves when I take it anally at the same time as he does as well. When anyone asks him if he is bi, he no longer hesitates and if they ask him what he prefers he always tells them about what he prefers with me, other women, and then the guys. We've had young wives ask him about the bisex and his description is so amazing you can see the ladies toes curl, breasts become alert, legs together, eyes batting, face and neck flushing, and squirming - lol. We have several waiting to get into our group I believe due to him. He definitely identifies as bi but does not seek out bi men, is not attracted to men, but is attracted to couples, if that makes sense. I am agree with him, it's about the couple not either or.

To have a 3 some with a Bi couple. She takes turns sucking each us guys, the we take turns eating her pussy and tits. Then when she is ready, she mounts her husband, facing his feet. I watch as she guides his cock into her wet pussy and squats to get every inch in. the she look at me and says, any time you are ready. I take a deep breath, and put my hand on her, then slowly slide it down to her pussy. I rub her clit a little then move to her lips and his cock, feeling his cock going in and out, all covered in her cum. Soon I'm using both hands, one rubbing her clit, the other on his cock. Soon I'm fondling his balls firmly, their pace quickens, as the both tell me to do it harder. She begins squirting, and I feel his groin tighten, and feel cum rushing through his throbbing cock, as they both cry out. I keep up using my hands on them both, and feel their aftershocks. Then they relax, she asks if I was going finish. I get between their legs and begin licking her cum from his balls, and cock, then move to her pussy. As his cock slides out, I begin sucking it and squeeze the last few drops of cum out, then I put his whole sack in my mouth, rolling his balls around. When I stop, She squats over me and tell me to suck her clean. I see his cum oozing out and pull her to my mouth lick it, and then suck his load out. I finish by licking her crack, lips, her inner legs, and up to her clit. They ask how I liked my first Bi encounter. I reply, I Loved It !

Unfortunately I’ve gone over a week without ejaculating then I just had to yank one out.

YES ! Watching my wife having sex with another man. I had such an urge to feel her pussy and his cock ! I did suck his cum out of her pussy. Since then, I have been VERY Bi-Curious ! And if there is a Bi-couple encounter, it will be as far as he will go.

I've done 1-4 many times, especially 1 and 4. The back yards usually haven't been too risky, but cars in parking lots are always risky. You never know when the POPO are going to swing by on a patrol.

My Ex encouraged me to be with his friend all the time. There wasn’t any jealousy when I told him I enjoyed being with that friend. My time and many nights were filled with more than sex, we had laughs and so much fun. It was never who was better, he knew I had all the fun that it was supposed to be. Our problem started when we figured my Ex was away when I became pregnant. At first it was denial until reality was figured out. Sex usually happens pretty quickly, if not the first date or second by the third it’s expected or wanted. My friend was funny when she offered to be there if it comes to the point where I open up to a New Romantic relationship. She volunteered to be part of his first threesome sight unseen. Wouldn’t be funny if it wasn’t his first? My Ex used those words in our divorce. The words still ring in my head. I am working on exorcising the hurting words.

One of my very gooier but also very vanilla friends posted on Facebook a lovely photo of 2024’s final Super Moon, also called the Beaver Moon because it is occurs in November, rising over a body of water. The reflection of the moon on the water made for a lovely image. She added a caption noting that she didn’t see any beavers. She is so sweet, but also very strait laced, almost to the point of prudish. It was all I could do not to comment or Messenger her that all she needed to do if she wanted to see a beaver was sit in a chair in front of a mirror, pull off her panties, and spread her thighs. 😉😂

My wife tells me that sex with her favorite play partner is very good and she looks forward to seeing him and sometimes with his wife. It makes me happy that she enjoys him so much as well as other play partners. Does it bother me? Not at all. If she told me that some other man was a better cook than me, would I be upset? No. Marriage includes sex, something to enjoy together, but that is not the whole picture or even the most important part. Daniela and I share a home, a daughter, a life together; times like with no one else. Sex is something we really enjoy together, but if she can find that part of life even better elsewhere, then fine, it doesn't diminish what we have. At some point when the relationship becomes sexual and then more serious, you should tell. Not because you owe it to any guy but for two other reasons: to see if he genuinely loves you as you are, what made you the person you are, and because if you view the lifestyle as my wife and I do, you can't go back. It is a higher form of human development, true to our real human nature. You are neither a freak, nor what you did sordid. Other people were sordid. When things get serious you open up, not to see if he wants you - that's backwards - it's to see if you still want him.

I don't think that is true. My wife, (she passed away), and I were in swinging for 3 years. She loved sex with other men with me watching and helping. She also loved helping me with other women. But she wasn't open to "exploring", where I was. (still am) We loved eating each other after sex with other couples. But I wanted to explore more sex. She would not suck a guy off if I was there. And I wanted to watch, then kiss her with her mouth full. I wanted to feel her pussy while she was having sex with another guy, and her feel my cock with another woman. I still want to Explore ! But haven't found a woman that is open to swinging. And yes, I am Bi-Curious.

Awww. “Tragic Story” is eye opening making me look at my life. Divorce is so common today, too many of us rushed into marriage too young. It goes back to being accepted and afraid of being alone. I am lucky to have a good support system of both sexes. One of my closest friends is also divorced and is someone who lived through my crazy life warning me of the dangers. She helped me get out of a toxic and very dangerous relationship. We have another friend who we discuss very openly our lives and relationships. They are quasi therapists for me. I feel they understand my life even more, a therapist or my therapist who is a straight married woman. When I meet a man or get interested in a man I wonder when I should open up about my sexuality. Will a man want me because of my unorthodox life before he wants me for who he sees? My friend and I discuss these things with the understanding that my therapist doesn’t have. Thank you for understanding my crazy trip and well wishes. I wonder what some of the older or more seasoned on here think. I want to think that decades from now I am as thoughtful as the real people here and able to give the good advice others have given me.

I believe you can only see a Full Beaver Moon from behind, thighs spread.

Isn’t it a joke when men say they think about sports during sex? I thought guys just say that. When I’m with someone I think about sex and the person I’m with. I would be mad if I’m with a man doing my best to please him and then find out he was thinking about a football game. I know most men are once a done for a period of time but for me I want to orgasm as fast as I can

Good luck. But this isn't a very good pickup bar.

I explored more. During the lockdown we talked about what are we going to do being together 24/7. I can’t remember what brought up swinging it was Rocky started searching swinger sites I think. He found a couple where the woman was bi and asked me if I could do it. What I remember was sex with no kissing because of Covid. Rocky and I were excited to do this, secretly I was scared like hell. Looking back I don’t know how I did it but I am happy I did. Why not?

No MM activity with the guys I've been with, but I can relate myself. I had no interest in pussy until my husband started fucking other women and some let me watch. Afterwards, I felt compelled to go down to eat his cum out of her. It opened up a side of me i didn't know that I had.

It was about last Thanksgiving or Christmas that I started to develop a real curiosity to know what a woman experiences when sucking a cock. My wife has given oral to a handful of other women, so she knows what it’s like to perform on both genders … I want the same knowledge. I have no idea whether I’ll like it or not, but I’m determined to try it! We’ve been actively looking for the right man to enjoy a 3some that will include MMF. So I guess that yes, I’ve moved from straight to bi curious. After I finally get that experience, I’ll have to either go back to calling myself straight or drop the curious part. ;-D

That paragraph is so full of manipulation I don't know where to start. A little barter, I'll give you waht you want, even though I am the one that needs to apologize IF you give me what I want, and then you fucked up again... If you want your husband you have to give up the swinging and threesomes. Period. If I was your husband I'd be talking to a divorce attorney and do everything I could to get you out of my life. It feels like you need to sow a few wild oats and you're not going to do that inside your marriage. Admit what you need and move on. Have the courage to fend for yourself, financially, and go play. Stop hurting your husband. S

Yes, I have fantastic orgasms when a woman fingers good or uses a toy in my ass. And yes, if done right it does massage the postate, making for great orgasm, and a larger amount of cum to share 🙂 Love to have a woman use a strap on in my ass.

I have been ejaculating sooner than I like lately. Today I picked up a box of Trojan condoms called extended play or something like that. It has a lube inside that slightly numbs the penis. I will report back on its effectiveness.

How many guys out there, love to eat their wifes pussy after you cum in it -- of if another man cums in her ? I ask, because I would suck my wife's pussy after sex all the time, even when it was from another man. And she would suck our cocks & balls. Do you women like that ?

The father was Ward Cleaver and the most famous quote from the show was from his wife "Ward, don’t you think that you kind of hard last night on the Beaver?"

No way to find past partners. It was in Tenn & Ohio. I'm in Iowa now -- Quad Cities. And being male ---- well. Age too. But the sex drive is strong.

Surely she remembers the Cleavers and Beaver Cleaver from her youth.

After a little practice, I found it wasn't a problem. Think of it this way. Maybe you're talking to somebody on the phone, and at the same time you're cleaning the kitchen. If somebody knows you well, they might sense a little pause while you look for the sponge, but maybe not. The point is not to forget your cock is inside an attractive and willing woman and thrusting. You just need a little distraction to get yourself off the edge, and delay your orgasm. Nobody (including my wife) ever pointed out that I wasn't totally into what my primary purpose was - fucking her.

The question is whether you two have the same sense of adventure and tolerance for risk and failure. It doesn't involve just sexual matters, but just about everything like taking a high reward/high risk job in a different and strange city or country, buying a fixer-upper house, going on vacation to take up a new sport, eating unusual food, etc. If you can laugh about the failures together and move on instead of trying to lay blame, then it's a match. If not, play it safe and stay home; some people prefer that. That doesn't mean there's no sexual adventure, you can still watch porn and play with toys, staying home and playing it safe. Maybe the husband is ok with and wants his wife to play with a guy they both know several times and that's enough. Sort of the middle ground in the lifestyle. After agreeing on the risk/reward plan you both need to acknowledge that mistakes will be made, by you and by your spouse. The important things are to admit you mistakes while forgiving AND forgetting your spouse's mistakes.

I am with a therapist weekly that has helped me greatly. Coming to the truth that I was being abused and willing say no is the first step to recovery. I thought I loved someone and denied it was the feeling of being wanted that I loved. I had to accept what one calls a kink can eventually turn into abuse slowly. I had to look deep inside myself of why I became a swinger, why I was having sex with so many others. Is that a kink? Each man is different in how he enjoys sex, something I enjoyed sharing. I will try to share what opened my eyes to abuse, it took time for me. This post is difficult for me, I will try. Those who know me know how difficult my divorce was and my reasons for divorce. How my next relationship grew is still a question even to me. I met my abuser in a very innocent way. A friendly man who listened to me in a fatherly way. He is an older gentleman, I use gentleman very loosely. I still question how I allowed myself to be talked into a bed with him. He called himself a Shmoozer, I was shmoozed. Our first time we were together was nice, he was caring, didn’t rush me and kept praising me. The only thing that was wrong was he is older which didn’t show itself sexually. I should not have told him my sexual past. I’m sure that gave him carte blanch to do things he only dreamed of. He looked at me as a young girl and started treating me as a school girl. Fun at first it was a little uncomfortable. Little by little he bought me school girl stuff, the first abuse was a spanking. He found more and more reasons to spank me. Right now I can finish this answer. I’m working and it goes much much further. I’ll try to answer later.

To me, this is very selfish and would be a deal-breaker. He is immature, greedy, and controlling. The most important part of being in a relationship and in the lifestyle is taking pleasure and satisfaction in your loved one's sexual play and fun. He's doing the exact opposite. My advice? Dump him and use the contacts you've made in the lifestyle to keep looking for someone who is generous. There is a guy who will appreciate you and be a good partner for your sexual and life journey.

With 15 years as swingers, my wife never sought out girl/girl play. A few - very few! - times a woman would approach her and Mary would let her kiss or perform oral on her. But she never ate a woman out, or started a F/F situation. Many times she would tell the other woman she wasn't interested, one time when the woman wouldn't back away Mary got a little aggressive with her. It never hurt our swinger encounters. The rule of swinging is the same as that for drinking wine: If you don't like what you're drinking, don't drink it. If you like what you're drinking, drink more of it.

We have a 13 year age difference in our relationship so the age thing doesn’t really matter a whole lot! Saying that she has no interest in people her parents age and I have no interest in people the age of my adult daughters. Ideally somewhere between our ages is usually ideal, but would really depend on the person. I always find it funny when people assume older people can’t relate to younger people and will have nothing in common. I guess I am to believe once you hit a certain age you become out of touch with what is going on in the world and no longer are willing to learn something new. I also find the comments about stamina being equal funny. At 53 I have better stamina and am in better shape then loads of people I meet in their 30’s. How a person eats, exercises and takes care of themselves makes a bigger difference on that then the age they are.

I think it is easier to be bi with a female involved (mmf) rather than a mm one- on- one. The wife involvement tends to give license for bi experimentation for normally straight males, at least it was for me. I could lick a cock after it was dipped in vagina but could not get the courage to suck outright.

We both are bi, and enjoy watching each other in a bi-bi situation. Do you share this?

Neither do I, but there are differences to appreciate, savor. Two things for me are Lora's hair and the contrast between her dark skin and the pink between her legs.

At one point I was mildly curious about having an African-American woman. One night at our club we bumped into a mature couple (we were also mature,) which had such a lady and her Caucasian husband. After the usual mating rituals (dancing, discussion, more dancing) we headed into a room with them. They were fun, I'm glad I had the experience, but it wasn't earth-shaking or anything.

When we started swinging in the '90s male bisexuality was forbidden - at least in the Lifestyle circles we moved in. But by the early 2000s we saw that start to change. For us, the Lifestyle has always been about trying new things and expanding our boundaries so before we knew it we found ourselves enjoying 3somes and 4somes with bisexual men. Although I still limit my m2m play to oral, mutual oral among the guys has become part of our standard repertoire and we now prefer couples and singles who are open to male bisexuality.

Oh that’s so hot! My wife loves cum in her mouth and I love kissing her and sharing cum kisses. We haven’t played with a bi male yet, but I’d love to suck cock with her and have him cum in our mouths to share! Turns me on so much!🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

In general, hormonal contraceptives work by inhibiting the body from producing the hormones which cause ovulation. If ovulation does not occur, the volume of semen isn't an issue because there is no egg to fertilize. However, as there are a wide array of hormonal contraceptives, I highly recommending researching the specific "pill" your wife is using to determine exactly how it works. Also remember the pill does not prevent sexually transmitted infections, so condoms are a good idea in general. Birth Control Pill: Side Effects, Effectiveness, How the Pill Works, and Types

Tied between puppy pile and doggie 69. We've done doggie 69 where I am the doggie, but have never tried being the licker of the pussy. (and cock!) Would love to try that one!

WOW that was pure genius to read....what a fantastic recount of that experience you had...a fantasy in its own right! Maybe that will get added to our Swingers Bucket List...thank you for sharing! :-)

Dusty and I are both bisexual. more to enjoy.

Jess and I are both bisexual.

I enjoy it when my wife straps one on me. She only does it once in a great while as she is not very comfortable with it. I wish she was but I don't pressure her. I massage my ass almost everytime I shower. It makes me have an orgasm almost everytime just by rubbing the outside. She loves to massage my ass during sex. The cornhole is not about being a homosexual it is about sexual freedom with the one you love.

Hmmmm..... As Trixie and I explore the Anal regions we have mentioned using a toy or two on me. I guess we just might have to try this! I have never cum from anal stimulation, but I have always wondered what the prostate massage would feel like.

Finger Wave huh, I'll look it up and give it a try. Thank gentlemen - I knew the prostrate was the key as well as all the nerve endings in the anal region aided in extra reception. I had just never seen a male hit the roof like that. And it didn't happen when we had first begin to play like this. Now it is everytime! Not certain how I have gotten better all I know is what I am doing is working wonders on my man. Nice to know it is common for those who play this way. Cannot imagine guys not going for it. I am the same with my orgasms and though I love many forms of sex, the ways that bring the massive multis-orgasms are of course the one I seek after the most. Well it's my hubby's b'day soon gotta go prepare for some extra fun for him. I might try the Finger Wave thing if I can master it in time...

Welcome by the way! I have brought the topic up to my wife. She hasn't said yes, but she hasn't said no either. She has used her vibrator on me a few times, and it drives me crazy! Im still hoping she says yes to the whole strap on thing eventually!