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I finally have something unexpected and thrilling to share, and it's nothing short of spectacular. One of our gay friend invited me and Mr. A out last month during gay pride weekend. We had dinner and drinks with a large group of people and we happened to sit next to a gay couple visiting from Europe...friends of friends...and I'm not revealing the country for reasons that will become clear. They're both super handsome, although I'm not a fan of orange pants for guys. Anyhow, we chatted and they revealed that one of them was married to a woman over 10 years ago and the other one had girlfriends throughout high school and college. They explained that sexuality was much more open in their country and many of their friends also experimented with both sexes in their teens and 20s. I asked a ton of questions, and it was only fair that we told them about us a bit. So we said we are swingers, both of us are bisexual in swinging situations, and we also like cuckold and BDSM play. Three hours of sex talk later, the gay boys asked if we wanted to go back to their hotel room to explore. They were just so nice, said all the right things, so we obliged. To the juicy details! There were many firsts for both me and Mr. A that night, but three things stood out. First is that I had a DP orgasm for the first time...ever. The boys introduced me to a new position for DP where I laid on my side, with one of them behind me entering my ass and the other one in front of me. Mr. A was holding one of my leg up at first. With this position, they were both able to get really deep inside me, and the most amazing thing was that they were perfectly in sync. One cock rams deep in my ass while the other cock pulls out of my pussy. Slow or fast, it's always in sync. Mr. A got the birds eye view and he said it looked like a piston. I don't know what a piston is but I do know multiple orgasms. The second discovery is purely mental and emotional. Close to the end, Mr. A and I were both in doggy position while the two of them were fucking us in the ass. Mr. A and I were facing each other and we watched each other got rammed up the butt. I felt this total erotic connection with Mr. A. At one point Mr. A grabbed my hand, and looking into Mr. A's eyes while two big cocks tearing up our assholes, I had never felt hornier and more turned on. It's part cuckold, part emotional connection, part physical sensation, with the whole being I had never felt my brain so sexually charged, and the strange thing is that I knew Mr. A was feeling the same way. After I took two big loads down my throat from the gay couple, it's Mr. A's turn but one of the boys said "allow me." So I watched him grabbed some massage oil and then gave a thorough handjob to Mr. A. It wasn't just up and down but various techniques (he later told me it's a tantric practice called lingam massage). He edged Mr. A with the handjob for over an hour, and then it happened. I saw Mr. A winding up for an orgasm from the tightening of his stomach and pelvic muscles but I've never seen one that took so long. It was building up and building up, and then he must have shot his cum 3 feet into the air. Our friend kept up the handjob as Mr. A ejaculated over and over, withering his whole body. Mr. A told him t stop because his cock was getting sensitive, but no stoppage here. His orgasm lasted so long that at the end he was having orgasmic spasms but no cum appeared. I have never seen that. He said it was the most intense orgasm he ever had, which is saying a lot considering how long we've been in the lifestyle. It was an amazing night. The problem now is how can we do it again since they went back home. We will just have to take a european vacation soon...real soon.

I had an experience last night that will definitely be my memoir if I ever sit still long enough to write one. Fox was out of town for an extended period of time, and this happens to be the first and only time that we have spent a significant amount of time away from each other since we have been together. I honestly enjoy spending as much time with him as possible. This is the first time in my life that I can say that I thoroughly enjoy my partner. Man, if I knew then what I know now, but c’est la vie. I digress. Due to a crazy work schedule in my private practice during the day, Fox running all of our marketing and SEO (he tries to explain all that to me and I hear the teacher from Charlie Brown) throughout his work day then both of us spending our evenings working on the show, we are pulling 12-14 hour days, six day a week. Oh, and I failed to mention that we are in a global pandemic! Needless to say, we have not been feeling as sexual as we were and want to be in the very near future; adulting has absolutely put a damper on our sex life. Don’t get me wrong, it is still amazing but we are so tired at the end of the day we both pass out from shear exhaustion. Being an essential worker (read that again using an entitled voice with a hair flip for dramatics) if extremely draining! Again, I digress. Fox feeling extremely flirty and adventurous while on his trip sends me a challenge/request to be extremely naughty. As the day progresses I send naughty pictures and flirty messages, remember I am at work. Then I get THE message. This message implied that I would be getting a visitor at home and had a list of directions for me to follow. I want to remind everyone that I have never played without Fox so I was extremely nervous and unsure about this whole situation, but being the good girl that I am, I obliged. My instructions were to go home, get ready for a sexy evening (meaning make sure my legs were shaved) and to put a note on the door saying “Come In.” Can anyone else feel the anxiety rising? Only me, yeah, freaking out! I was told to adjust the security camera to point towards the couch so he could watch this adventure live, be naked on the couch playing with myself with my favorite toy and to be ready for a sexy single man to come play with me. I was also instructed to be extra slutty and to have fun. Granted, I know this particular single man but I have never met him. Before you ask, yes I took a few shots to calm my nerves! So here I am freshly shaved, slathered in lotion, naked, playing with my favorite toy on the couch waiting for a sexy man to walk through my door and do naughty things to me. No pressure! He arrives and immediately wastes no time! There were minimal pleasantries exchanged before he plunged his face between my legs enjoying all that my vagina had to offer. It might have been that I knew Fox was watching, or the extra shot I took right before he got there but I threw myself into the experience fully and didn’t look back. I woke up this morning feeling sexier than I have in a long time. This man, whom I have never met, only chatted with, made me feel like a goddess. He told me how sexy my curves were, how good I felt in various positions, I moaned, I made sex faces according to Fox, and I got fucked! He finished about 45 minutes later (we were on a shorter time schedule) by squirting his manliness all over by belly, which was only fair because I had squirted all over him a few times, put on his clothes, thanked me for a great time and left. Fox frequently tells me all the same things, and in my mind that is normal, but hearing a stranger say it was empowering. This was definitely a confidence booster that I didn’t even realize I needed. Knowing that I am prone to getting scared and not following through, Fox made this spontaneous and gave me just enough information to keep me intrigued and adventurous. I feel so much closer to Fox right now, a deep connection that had been buried by the strains of life. I cannot wait for him to get home so I can properly thank him for orchestrating this amazing adventure.

I, as in Stephanie, had a very interesting weekend experience that caused me to learn so much about myself. Fox and I went on a date with a fun and sexy couple that we met on one of our websites. The date started out as usual, getting to know each other, a bit of verbal flirting and moved into us getting a hotel room. I won’t go into much detail other than it wasn't a terrible experience between me and the guy but it wasn't as much as I would have liked for it to have been. He was a great guy, just a bit to gentle for me. I kept looking over at Fox and the woman and I was experiencing a bit of jealousy, not because he was with her but because they were having such a good time and I wasn’t. The man wasn’t terrible by any means, he was just not providing what I was into. Looking back afterwards, I feel that I should have spoken up and said something, but I didn’t because I didn’t want to ruin Fox’ fun with the woman. But I did learn a few very important lessons with this experience. The most important revelation from this experience is I don’t want a man who tends to be submissive. I am submissive by nature and if you are not going to take control of the situation and fuck them then I don’t want to be part of the experience. I have Fox to make love to me, I just want to be hard core fucked when we are playing, but again, I did not express my desires so here I was in a situation that I wasn’t enjoying. Secondly, I feel as if I would have had a much better time if I would have had a connection with the couple before jumping in bed with them. I might have had a completely different experience with the couple and enjoyed his passive nature if I had known them longer than a hot minute. Armed with these new revelations I now have some things to ensure before I sleep with a couple; 1. Is the man going to be more dominate, take control over the situation and fuck me? Ensure that this expectation is established from the onset of our flirting, and 2. Do I have a connection with the couple that encourages me to be more open and forthcoming about my needs and desires. I am learning that when I am in these situations, I will automatically default to what is comfortable to me and that is go along with other’s want instead of expressing my needs. Fox is very observant and realized what was happening and provided an out for me which was greatly appreciated. It is my responsibility to be in control of my experience, but that is much easier said that done when I am in these situations and Fox is having such a great time. With that said, I am human, and I have emotions that I can’t control at times and I must feel comfortable with expressing those when I do feel them to Fox because he is my protector. I know that this lifestyle is not easy and I am personally navigating the obstacles that arise from it, and I legitimately try to practice what I preach to my clients, but when shit happens I am also honest and open so that others can learn from our journey as well. You are not in this alone, we all make mistakes.

When we arrived at the club on Saturday night we noticed a few couples that looked familiar. We hadn't been to this club in a while but we used to frequent it, so we knew some faces just looked familiar from having seen them there, and others might have looked familiar from having seen them online. One couple in particular seemed familiar and kept looking at us. We had some friends meeting us there, and shortly after they showed up, the male half of this couple came up to us and asked "are you Julie & Pet?" "yes, we are". "Hey, we met you guys about a year ago at....." At that point we remembering looking at their profile on SLS and the email history (they had no face pics) regarding having met at said party last year. I remembered their names form the email exchange and said "Oh, you're D right?" "yeah, and my wife is R, she's over there (points to her)." Ok. Great. He heads back to her and we decide we should be pleasant and go say hi to her. So, we decided to get up and give ourselves a little tour of the club to see what was new and as we walked past them, we stopped and said hello. He was all smiles and she seemed just kinda pissy. No smiles for her, no real pleasantness or nice to see you. We headed off to continue our tour and eventually returned to our seats with our friends. Later in the night, we headed upstairs and they followed. Again he was all pleasant and talking about how much they'd wanted to see us again after they met us before..... and she said...nothing. No smiles, she kinda wondered off at one point. Now granted, I wouldn't say we were interested in the couple right off, but we might have been had there been any sort of personality mesh from her. Basically, it was a situation where I wouldn't have felt I was taking one for the team if Pet had clicked with her. However, it seemed there was no interest from her whatsoever. I'm not even sure she wanted to be there. We did talk a little about the club and how they preferred the other club in the area. They've also been visiting our favorite club a bit (although not when we've been there evidently) and loved it (as do we). However, all of this info came from him. She said almost nothing. Eventually, we headed back downstairs and hit the dancefloor a bit. As we exited the dancefloor, she grabs me and says "Will you please dance with my husband!" (this was not a question, it was more of an exasperated demand to which the only allowable reply was "um ok"). So, I looked at him and he says "not right this second I've got to use the restroom" (or something) and walks off. She heads back to her seat and I head to mine. At this point I'm not feeling great, my stomach is hurting a bit (I just had surgery a few weeks ago and I'm still recovering, this was my first night out). He returns and asks me to dance and I oblige. However, I find that dancing is making me feel worse so I stop and head back to my seat. We left shortly thereafter. The next day we've already got a message from them (him?) about how great it was to see us and they'd like to get together..... Obviously, at this point there's little interest on our part, and it seems that there's no interest on her part. I really can't tell what her issue was. But, I know we are going to end up seeing them again, likely at our home club. I have no idea what my question is

On Saturday Fox and I went to a house party for St. Patrick's Day with people we had never met before, which was completely outside of my comfort zone, but hell we only live once, right! Considering we are quickly becoming more public on our journey I need to become more comfortable with partying with new friends. We dressed up and walked into that party as if we had been there many times before. Fox tends to own any room he walks into for several reasons; his stunning looks, his strong masculine presence and he was wearing a sexy kilt. I immediately went into what I call "Stephanie Mode". For anyone who knows me personally knows exactly what that is, but for others that is when I make everyone feel comfortable, relaxed and ensure that they are having fun by bringing out their shy, hidden elements of their personality. I didn’t know any of these new friends, but we were all going to have a great time. This was so much fun! We talked, got to know each other’s likes and dislikes, boundaries and absolute hard lines in a fun and playful manner. I could tell there were several friends, including myself, who just wanted to have fun with like-minded people but not necessarily play. Fox and I are natural party starters in many ways, and we ensured it was a great time for all. I even got stuck in a skirt that it took a pit crew to get me out of, but they prevailed. Yes, it was embarrassing but I rolled with it and laughed! While we didn’t play with other couples, other than some kissing and rubbing, it was one of the best nights that we have had together in a long time. We are fans of house parties and will be doing hosting a show soon on how to host a kick ass house party and we will be inviting several of our favorite party host on the show to tell use their secrets and pointers for hosting a great party!

My wife and I are sitting unclothed out on the covered, screened-in deck of our rented mountain cabin after about twenty minutes in the hot tub. Our two cabin mates are having noisy sex in their second-level room. We all plan to get together a little later for a game of Fast Track. Then we might have another dance of four-person Horizontal Mambo. This week-long gathering of 64 couples of the Senior Travel Club has thus far been fabulous. My wife and I have both made new intimate acquaintances. Yesterday evening I was the happiest sixty-seven years-of age man in the World having had two monstrous orgasms with two different women within a single hour. I'd be content with that even if no more intimate contact happened the remainder of the week. This has affirmed for me that "use it or lose it" is more than just a clever aphorism. I'll send an update later this week.

I can't be the only one this has ever happened to... our old friend jealousy came to visit me recently and that made me say some things in a manner that was not reflective of my true feelings resulting in a bit of damage in my relationship. During a play session with another couple I noticed that my partner was doing things with our lady friend that he hasn't done with me in a while. So instead of doing the right thing and communicating effectively about it I went about it completely wrong and did something never wanted to do and that is hurt him. First let me tell you what I did and then I'll tell you what I should have done. Looking back at the experience I now see that I probably had feelings that I didn't understand in my alcohol infused state during play time that resulted in my sabotaging my experience. That is called jealousy. I saw him doing things to her that I wanted him to do to me but instead of using that as a relationship builder, I completely messed up, got my feelings hurt and sent him a text message. In my defense, which is mute at this point, I felt the text message would be received in a more upbeat way. But that's the thing about text messages; they are recieved through the voice of the reader not the intention of the sender. I tell all of my couples to never talk about important issues through text and then what did I do... Here is what I should have done but hindsight is always much clearer than the presented issue, right? I should have figured out what he did with her that I wanted from him and said something to the effect of: "I really liked watching you do ---- to her, do you think you could do that to me tonight?" Yes folks, that is the mature way to deal with jealousy in this situation but of course, I did not have the forethought to behave in this way and I hurt my beloved partner because of my inability to effectively communicate my needs. I am human, sharing your partner is difficult at times but I have made it even more difficult by allowing jealousy to sneak in. I know we will make it through this stronger but it doesn't stop the initial damage my stupidity has caused. Have you every experienced something like this? If so, how did you handle it?

Over the last year or so of our adventures into the lifestyle I have kept a blog on 360 of thoughts and encounters I thought others might enjoy. While 360 is a suitable forum for my postings I'm always running the risk that they might be deleted or my account suspended because of the adult nature of the posts. There is also the draw of the undesirables which I'll probably rant about at another time, lol. Until then, my last post there and first post here: I have realized in the hotwife lifestyle, men are at a slight disadvantage. I’m not talking about the sex, because the sex between my wife and I is the best it has ever been and it keeps getting better. What I am referring to is sharing in the excitement about a recent encounter with a friend. Due to how society generally views gender roles; women are able to have vanilla friends enjoy in their excitement. My wife has several of these friends and with each retelling she gets to experience the excitement. “You did what to him in the parking lot? OMG I am so jealous!” How many guys would react similarly? “Your wife did what to him in the parking lot?” I have shared with a few vanilla friends about our lifestyle and the responses I’ve received have been “Why?” and “How can I meet her in a parking lot?” So my excitement sharing is very limited and that has lead me to another realization. I need this forum to express my excitement and hopefully get a few “OMG I am so jealous” comments, lol. Our adventures have declined over the past few months, partially because we’ve tried to change up how we meet new people. But we’ve found that our original set up works best for us. After feeling comfortable with someone new (through chats, emails, phone calls, etc) we set up a public meet. My wife meets him and if things go well we all rendezvous for some fun. Most recently there was a guy we met through sls that my wife met and she really enjoyed the few drinks they shared. So much so after the establishment closed at midnight they found their way to the backseat of his SUV. On her way home she filled me in on the overview of the evening, “we talked about this and that and then this…oh and I blew him…” I couldn’t resist attacking her when she got home, but I did restrain a little to allow her to describe the evening. My wife takes great pride oral skills and so do I for that matter, lol. With her night ending so well and then coming home to my welcome, she remembered why we enjoy this lifestyle so much and how important it is to us because of the benefits we receive as individuals and as a couple. I hope someone can appreciate my excitement. The woman I’m married to, the love of my life, the mother of my children is also the fulfiller of my fantasies, what’s not to get excited about?

Ok. Hi. I'm not even sure how to start this. Ugh. Ok. Here it comes. Brace yourself ? Hi. My name is missy. Today is the first day I came across this site and boy am I glad I did. I'm not only new to the site, I'm new to the lifestyle as well. There was a turning point in my life about a year ago and when I came out holding my head up high, I just idk I started looking at life differently. I started to Appreciated the little things. Like the sunset, and the sound of children playing. Realizing that nothing is worth your peace. My boys had just moved out and I didnt know what to do with myself. I decided that I wasn't gonna die miserable. I mean I dont know exactly what triggered my curiosity at that time but it really doesnt mater. I opened a tinder account and matched with women only. Not men. Not really sure at that point what to expect. I was in an great relationship with the an amazing man that I still believe today is my person... my forever, My favorite human, Mark. So I started matching with women and eventually met up with someone I connected with. Nothing happened sexually but we had plans to meet again. I felt I was cheating on mark at this point cuz I haven't said anything to him. I had a great time with this woman and the guilt was too much and I confessed. To my surprise he was more than accepting. We talked all night about everything. He was really happy I chased my desire. That was the night my whole life changed. To my surprise, he has been involved in the lifestyle for a long time. More than 10 years. I had no idea... I wanted to know EVERYTHING! We talked and talked and ended up opening a SLS account, had earth shattering sex and then went to bed. At work the next morning I had so many things running through my head. I mean girl on girl is soooo different than the 2 of us participating ya know. So i gathered my thoughts and did what I did best, I googled it. I needed to know everything I could. I needed to be confident that it was something I was capable of. I read so much about why couples get turned on and how to handle your feelings and overcome them. I was prepared for whatever came my way (as much as I could be). Our relationship was solid and understood the difference between love and desire. Obviously I experienced it first hand. Not soon after, he left town to visit his family. I was at his place bored on a Friday night and my curiosity got the best of me. I started chatting on SLS. Insert Mike here. We just hit it off right away. And I invited him over. TO MARK'S HOUSE. I didnt invite him with the intention or expectation of sex. He was new to this all too had no expectations whatsoever. Anyway we ended staying up til 8 am, fucking Everywhere. In Mark's house ?‍♀️. Mark doesnt know this happened. I did tell him all about mike and hiw I just knew they'd hit it off. I was excited to have met someone do perfect for US. I just left out the sex part. So one Saturday morning Mike called asking if I would wanna go to a swingers club with him that night. Of course I was like HELL YES ILL GO! I was so nervous but kept my composure. Regardless that I drank so much. But it was amazing! Mike n I were both so nervous but curious that we together just him and I had an unforgettable night. Dancing and singing and it was a perfect introduction to the club scene. Neither of us talked to anyone else thete but we got our feet wet ya know. At this point, Mike and I were spending a lot of time together. I was always open w mark about everything... until.. yup. We caught some feels. I started seeing some jealousies in mark. I'm not gonna lie, I was surprised. He was always supportive but never wanted to meet him. So now here I am, in love w two completely different yet so much alike men at the same time. Mark is everything I want and need and he is perfect. But mike was everything he wasnt. Mike was wild and crazy like me. He was spontaneous, reckless, and loved life to the fullest... we were literally the same person. Mark is more reserved and a different kind of fun and I could never imagine not being with him. Eventually did meet (I invited mike to a concert that mark and went to) and they ended up getting along exactly as I knew they would. I was a little jelly. To my surprise, mark later told me he contemplated leaving at one point. Fast forward... So here I am, with neither of them romantically but very close to them both. Oh eventually mark and I did have a 3some (with a girl of my choice) and it was absolutely horrible. She was so needy that it took away from our 1st experience. I'm still coping to this day with my feelings about it. The image of him fucking her pops in my head every now and again. And its haunting. But the situation was circumstantial. Ok so let's fast forward to present day. The first time I went to a swingers club was with in August with a man (mike). I decided to back that very next weekend, ALONE, and almost every weekend since. I'm now part of the family ❤. Every time I go, i go with no expectations and a curious mind. I have fun and whatever happens, happens. I never feel obligated or by no means desperate. I often leave with no interaction. And I have no regrets. I've never felt inadequate or undesirable. I realized that women intimidate me. I am not confident enough with a woman and that's why it hasn't worked out. I've always ended in my comfort zone... men. So my experience is minimal and it's all because of my self doubt. I'm working on it. Let's fast forward one more time to December. It was a night that I was approached by a couple to join and well let's just say it ended up him and I in one room and her and another guy in a different room. There was no conflict or anything it was all good. By this time its extremely late and I'm still a ball full of energy when I stumble across this tall stacked bald hansome specimen, Dylan. Btw at this point my hair is in braids and I'm wearing a hoodie and sweats, not at my best lol. Even still, there was this instant attraction. The desire was overwhelming. Within 5 minutes of meeting we were bangin Hard. There was so much passion and sexual tension between us, that was one of my best sexual experiences to date. We exchanged numbers and went our ways. He texted me the next day (thankfully he provided his name because I didn't remember it nor did I care at that point) and we just picked right up where we left off... the texting was hot and exciting and intense. We couldnt wait to see each other again. And here I am today so confused about how in such a short time all that lust, all that desire and passion is gone. Like completely non existent. I am confident in myself and who I am as person. I am a kind, generous, happy being. And I worked hard to be the woman I am today. But you know, I do need more from him. He never ever compliments me. I mean never. I often say to him how I rushed and wanted to look pretty for him, fishing for a compliment. He just smiles and blows it off. I'll send him a selfie and he doesnt even acknowledge it. The last time I even said to him, I feel really pretty today I was hoping seeing my face would make you smile. His reply to me was I did smile. ? I've talked to him about how i feel about this. Not once but twice! Still, Not one compliment. It's not that I need him to validate my worth. What I need is to know he feels that way for me. I mean, I addressed it and he made no attempt to be more aware so idk I cant. Every morning I send a good morning text. And I am ALWAYS very generous with compliments to him. That's who I am. I dont think he needs reassurance that's hes hot but he has no doubt of my desires for him. So with this already on my mind, I received an email from a member on one of the sites we're on... confused I logged on and he messaged this male asking if he would be intersted in a 3some and to fuck me. WHHAAATTT?? he literally left my house that morning (no sex) and messaged this random person to fuck me. AFTER just the night before we had a very intense conversation about going in swinging together, as a couple. PLUS I was no lie begging him for sex before he left that morning. I cannot even put into words how I felt. What hurts me most, is that's the moment i realized he doesnt know anything about me. He doesn't know the person I am. For him to even think that was ok, showed me such. 1. I was very clear that he cant push me to do something i dont want to do. I will not do it. How does he even know I'd be attracted to this man. He didn't. It didnt matter to him. I am by no means going to do anything in that sort for his pleasure. And 2. It would never happen. He already put me in an uncomfortable minded. I will never set up a meet with expectations. I'm all about meeting. But I cant have that hangin on my head or I wont be in the moment right there. No expectations, no pressure. And there is no exceptions. If I dont have some kind of connection with the other person and just do it cuz its expected, I'm not going to enjoy it the way I need to. That has NOTHING to do with the lifestyle. It's me. My character. Its who I am. In any situation. So regardless of all that, we arent intimate but he wants to have someone else fuck me... he doesnt deserve m heart. He doesnt even know this yet. I know it's the right thing to do. But I dont know if I'm being dramatic or if this shit is normal. But it doesnt feel right. I told him I wasn't ready to bring others in yet. I told him! That I need to be confident in our relationship or the experience will be shit. But he apparently missed that part. He missed ALl of it. Im Sorry this turned out to be so long. I dont blame you if you dont make it to the end. However it felt really really good to remember mark and I together in that way. And remembering all the insane crazy things mike and I did. My heart feels warm rn. Thank you for reading. (Sorry about the spelling error) ~M

We live in a really small, gossipy, buckle of the bible belt town. We aren't natives, and although we have been here 20 years now, we will never be fully accepted for lots of reasons, one of which is we are and always will be outsiders since we can't name one much less 20 relatives that live within a mile of us. There is a single guy that she casually knows through him being a customer of her company who likes to flirt with her, and she likes him and will flirt back. Lately he's ratcheted that up, and so she responded in kind and was throwing out some double entendres about what her sexual availability might be, thinking it was all in good fun and also to see how would react so she could gauge the possibilities there. The crack in the door was subtle, but once it was there, he went from 20 to about a 120 in a second, which kind of answered her question, and not in a good way. We long ago gave each other hall passes, which have gone unused by choice. It would be something new to us, but lately she is thinking the idea of having a few select single guys for the occasional romp in the hay might be something she is interested in and I don't care at all as long as she is safe and happy. After this guy ramped it up so fast though, we both agreed that he seems the perfect choice in all ways but one - he isn't a swinger, or not that we are aware and he hasn't hinted at it. Not being a swinger, we just don't trust him to know what the score is, where he fits into things, and how to value discretion. She has told him she is very happily married, has been for a long time now, and fully intends to stay that way. Being where we live, and that he is a talker and part of the local crowd, we decided it is just not worth the risk. After talking about that, the only option we really see is going to the larger towns and trying to find a single male swinger there. But, you are back to square one on the sorting out process to even find someone you might like, and given the logistics involved, even checking out some possibilities would be a time intensive deal, which is something we don't have a lot of. So, that makes things difficult. We're still thinking on it, but her comment at the end of this conversation was "I hate this town!"

I wanted to respond to the thread: Where did you get your sex education? but I didn't want to write a wall o' text and derail the thread so I have opted to answer it here. When I was about 4 or 5 years old, I was friends with the next door neighbor girl. She was a couple of years older than me and she had an older brother that was at least a year or two older than her. I remember being at the side of our house, next to my dad's old beat-up Oldsmobile (that no longer worked) and my friend, M, asking to show me "mine" while she showed me "her's". We didn't touch each other but just showed our pubic mounds. I think I had concurrent thoughts of, "Cool, looks like mine," and, "What's the big deal about these things?" Now, her older brother, A, was friends with another neighborhood boy, probably around the same age as him. I'll be blunt...I didn't like either of them. I found them to be scary but since one of them was my friend's brother, I had to interact with them a lot more than I cared for. One day, A and his friend wanted to pair up with M and I. I didn't know what game it was but I was paired with A while my friend, M, was paired with the other neighborhood boy. They had us split up, one pair on the right side of the house and the other at the left side. I was told to lie down on the grass. To this day, I can't recall what exactly happened because things moved pretty quickly. Maybe he was starting to lift up my shirt or unbutton my pants. I don't know. What I do know was that I was looking at the window of his house and his much older sister looked out and had a horrified look on her face that quickly changed to, "No, no, no!" Before I knew it, she had rushed out of the house and helped me up from my position. At that moment, even though I had no idea about sex, I knew we were doing some wrong...what ever it was. So, my mom took it upon herself to give me the sex talk. Since I was so young, I didn't understand most of what she was talking about. And I was bored. Not to mention, I had that feeling of, "Well, what ever sex is, it must be wrong to do it." I don't recall my mother ever sitting with me again to talk about it. There were a couple of permission slips to attend a sex education video class at school, in 4th and 5th grade, which I went to. I'm not sure if I paid attention to them but it probably made my parents more at ease knowing I was getting some kind of education about it. Also, during those primary school years, I remember friends whispering about "getting their period". "Did you get it yet?" I was "lucky" (/sarcasm) enough to begin mine at 10 years old. My mom had confided in me that she was amazed that I wasn't freaked out about menstruation. However, I was freaked out about a different neighborhood boy groping at my developing breasts on the school bus, every day after school in 5th grade. And I wasn't the only one he would do that to. I remember having a hard time telling my mom about it. Was it something I was doing to make him grab me? Would I get in trouble? Would she be able to do anything about it? Sadly, I'm not sure my mother really understood what I was trying to tell her and if she did, she wasn't sure what to do about it so I had to endure the pawing for the rest of the school year. However, I had conflicting feelings about these incidents as well. Even though it was unwanted touching, I found myself also aroused by it. These were my earliest "sexual" experiences. I had no others until I met Mr. Sun. My other sex education came from reading (and re-reading) any and all sexual scenes in books, I would masturbate to them over and over again. There was even a general medical book that had detailed drawings of the penis and how to place a condom on one. Eventually, I would luck out and figure out I could find sex stories on the internet and print them out. I even came upon stacks and stacks of VHS tapes of porn that my dad recorded and watched a few of those. Obviously, this wasn't an ideal way to begin my sexual education but life is hardly perfect.

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Ok so here goes! After years of talking about bringing others into our sex life T. came home with a young friend from work. It started with drinks and light teasing that moved into full on flirting. The conversation somehow moved to shaving and T. said that she had forgotten to touch up that morning and if she had known we were going to have company she would have. Well our little friend stated that she trimmed but had been unsure about going bald. I asked if she would like to watch me shave T. I could tell by the way T. moved in her chair she loved the idea. Our friend nodded yes and then blushed. That got me going big time. We moved into the bathroom and I took T.s pants and panties off while asking our new playmate to run some warm water, I could see her nipples stiffen under her shirt. T was soooooo wet at this point I could have done the job without any shaving gel. Through the whole process our friend just sat on the counter quietly, but never took her eyes off Ts pussy. We asked if she would like to help T. trim me up and she just nodded. I was so hard (and nervous) with this new shaky hand shaving around my shaft and balls while T. directed her strokes. After she finished T. looked her in the eye and said your turn, with that she sat her down on the edge of the tub and pulled her shorts and panties off in one move. She had the lo bush and seeing the ok of a scared rabbit and I thought she was going to have second thoughts and ask to stop but one look at the soaked panties on the tile and I knew she would not. T. lathered her up and motioned to me to come shave her. Shaving that new virgin bush and seeing a smooth beautiful pink pussy emerge had me throbbing and dripping. We all took a break and had drink but no one was in a hurry to dress. To my surprise T. told her that she wanted her to sleep with us but she wanted her to follow directions. Still just a nod, our new friend who had no problem talking about anything once more went totally submissive when the subject turned to sex. T. went to the bed room and I walked over and started stroking her thighs as I told her how hot I got shaving her little snatch she was shaking and soaking wet. when T. came back I let her lick my fingers to see that our girl was ready, she took her by the hand and walked towards the bed room, T. had set up our play straps on the bed and sat her back spread eagle and tied to the bed, with that T. laid across her belly and told me to fuck her the whole time telling out little captive how good it felt and what she had in store for her. I came so quickly and T. had her lick and suck me clean while she licked her pussy. We traded up several times that night with the final being me in T's ass reverse cowgirl while our friend licked her wildly. That was our intro. Into the lifestyle and our friend stayed around for a couple of years always bubbly and talkative until sex, taking on the shy submissive roll till she moved away. While we have several couples we play with the submissive Girlfriend is still our favorite and we love it when we find someone that fits the roll from time to time. Give us a shout and we'll talk about what we would like to do to you!

My wife and I have hosted thirty-eight private house parties over nine years. Yesterday's party was the best ever. Twenty-two people were in attendance. Everybody had an opportunity to play. Three people stayed overnight with us. The food was great and the conversation was great. And every time my wife and I start thinking that we have experienced everything, we are proved wrong by having new and amazing experiences. JoAnn has never been shy and is typically the first to lead somebody up the stairs into a bedroom. And that she did. But what she has consistently told me is that she had no interest in having the attentions of two men at the same time. I believe she will be changing that tune. She had the attentions of three men and I could hear her calls-of-the-wild for more than an hour. I find the term gang bang to be undignified and so does she so let's say "serial sex". And while she was keeping these these guys occupied, it was an open-field of unoccupied female companions from which I could choose. I decided to offer deep massage to anybody who wanted and had the girls waiting in-line for their massage, each of them receiving a gentle offer of a "happy ending". Massage client numbers three and number four are the ones who accepted this offer. And here is where my story of "firsts" begins. Massage client Number Three: It is a very large vanity for a man to have wild sex with a woman who is thirty-two years younger and to actually be able to keep pace with all of that youthful energy. This woman and her husband have, in spite of their young age, had quite a bit of experience in swing. So I was doubly flattered when she crooned into my ear, "You're good. I'll want to do this again." Massage client Number Four: This might seem like a big step to take but it seemed natural to me. A long-time woman friend brought to the party a person new to swing lifestyle. The woman is post-operative transgender and to make a long story short, any hints that the surgery had sculpted the landscape were encountered only infrequently. The sex was amazing for both of us and went on for at least thirty minutes with another thirty minutes of pillow talk. Yes, it was our best party ever. And we experienced "firsts". We are thankful for the friends that make all of this so good for us.

How do you deal with babysitting, swinging, and family dinner all in the same day? Lots of quick thinking and makeup. Chinese New Year fell on 2/8 this year, but we always have our family dinner the week after to avoid the crowds, so that meant dinner with my parents, my sister's family, and my brother's family on the night of 2/14. When Mr. A and I decided to celebrate Valentine's Day on 2/13, I agreed to babysit my sister's two kids on 2/14 during the day so my sister and her husband could have some couple-time together. Well, unbeknownst to me, Mr. A had planned a surprise for me for the afternoon of 2/14 by inviting my friend-with-benefits, who I have not seen in a while, to come over for a threesome. I found out about this little surprise the morning of 2/14, when I told Mr. A my niece and nephew are coming over in the afternoon. Yes, there was a failure in communication. Need to think quick.... My sister dropped the kids off around 1-ish. I gave them $60 and the key to my car, telling them to go see a movie. My quick planning also involved telling them to text me what movie they are seeing and what time it starts. My special friend arrived at 2pm, kids texted saying movie starts at 2:30pm. Perfect! I have 3 hours. Next step was to use our spare bedroom for the threesome because the window looks out to the front of the house and I can see and hear when the kids come back. Well, time flies when you are having fun. I was in the middle of being dp'd when the phone buzzed with another text...the kids are on the way back. I told the boys they have 30 minutes to unload or else. They performed well under pressure. My FWB finished and left while Mr. A got his sloppy seconds and went to the shower. I was lying there sweaty and exhausted, and then I heard the garage door open. I put on a pair of shorts and a t-shirt closest to me. I looked like I was in a wrestling match. I told the kids I was working out, and then my niece said "Your nipples are sticking out; you need a sports bra." Oops. Somehow, I think she knew. By now I didn't have time to shower before dinner, so I washed my face, put on my makeup, grabbed a fistful of tissues to put between my legs, and off to family dinner with my niece and nephew in tow. My parents don't know we are swingers, and it's the strangest feeling to see them after the threesome....almost embarrassed but also feeling naughty, like I was getting away with something. I didn't get passed my sister though. She was sitting next to me and whispered "Did you just have sex? You look totally flushed!" Ok, more powder on the face...lots more powder. No one else said anything. I made it.

Big Cocks Bring Out Her Inner Slut! And I LOVE IT. I've actually had the opportunity to watch my wife get fucked by a big cock. Yes, she did get wetter than ever. I fucked her after she had fucked him for an hour or so while she sucked him off. Her pussy was stretched out and Oooh so sopping wet. She was on her hands and knee's sucking his dick while I fucked her slutty, well fucked, pussy. Her ass hole was so relaxed I easily slipped my thumb in, then index finger, then two fingers while I fucked her. She moaned and orgasmed as he came in her mouth and that pushed me over the edge. I had one of the most intense orgasms ever! The build up of watching her fuck a big 10inch coke can sized dick and orgasm multiple times was fantastic. It's like fucking my favorite porn star!! Damn I'm one lucky husband to have such a wonderful wife!!! When she fucks this Guy I notice a couple of things that I don't notice when it's just us: 1. She sweats! She sweats till her long hair is soaking wet. 2. She blushes deep red when she orgasms with him and she cums and cums and doesn't want to stop fucking him. 3. As soon as he cums she's stroking his cock and sucking his balls trying to get him hard again asap! One night we had been playing for two hours with him and his wife. I had cum in his wife twice, he had cum in my wife once. His wife who is so very sexy and erotic had so many orgasms while we fucked I lost count. She gets as excited watching her husband fuck my wife as I do. She channels her eroticism and excitement into fucking me and licking my wife's pussy. That particular night three of us were exhausted, but my sexy slutty wife was still on top of him just riding his big dick saying, "I can do this all night long". Her wet hair was swaying and her big tits bouncing as she came again and again. She was so beautiful, the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. Damn I love her! So yes, I don't care what people say. Size matters. I have a 7inch dick rock hard, but a really big, thick, cock will bring out the slut in my beautiful wife like nothing else. She loves my rock hard dick and say's she still prefers fucking me above everyone else.... Love is a special thing! I’m one lucky SOB , for sure.

My wife and I have fantasized about me watching her with another male. We've been talking about this for quite sometime now, lately though it has been brought up alot, specially her giving oral while i watch. It really turns me on and it definitely turns her on, yet we've never had the courage to go thru with it, i think am ready but she gets really nervous everytime we come close to do it. Anyone else experiencing the same jitters ?

Re: How do I bring up swinging to the wife??? Well folks, we had our first experience last night. It was truely awesome for both of us and we can't wait to do it again. Monica looked fantastic as we left our house. She was wearing a silk while blouse, black skirt and stockings, and heels. The ride to the hotel was about 30 minutes. We were both nervous, but excited about what was about to happen and the nerves were causing the car ride to be very quiet. At one point, I simply looked at her as said "excited?" She gave me a big smile and said "yes, are you?" We assured each other that we were cool with what would happen and we agreed that we could both throw in the towel at any point if something was not going as we liked. Once we were in the parking lot, we sent a text to Pete, our "organizer" to let him know we were there. We wanted to make sure all the men were there before we went up to the room. He quickly replied to our text that the men were there and waiting. We then proceded up to the room. During our discussions with Pete, we determined that the ideal number of men would be four. Pete agreed that that was a good number but he wanted to have some flexability to assure he could get four. Pete wanted to set a range of four to six so he could be sure of showing up. Pete also agreed that if playtime came and six was too many, he would exclude himself from play. Monica was shown pictures of about thirty men that she could choose from. She simply looked at the pictures, and told Pete that she had no objections and no preferences. The hotel selected was a Hyatt Place which feature a large open floor plan, king bed, sofa with chase lounge, leather ottoman, and a desk. Pete's selection of a hotel turned oiut to be perfect for group activity. We knocked at the door and Pete answered and welcomed us in. We entered the room, and we noticed there were six men in the room including Pete. Pete introduced Monica to the guys and asked her if she was cool with the number. Monica said she was cool with it as long as she could put the red light on whenever she wanted. Pete told her everyone was briefed on the rules we set down and poured her a glass of wine which she finished rather quickly. After a couple sips of her next glass, she told us she wanted to get started before she lost her nerve. I took my place in the rooms office chair and told Monica and the men to act like I was not there. The five men sat on the sofa and the ottoman, and I sat opposite them in the office chair. Pete and Monica stood facing the five men. Monica gave me once last glance to make sure I was ok with this and I nodded back and said "have fun." She smiled and faced the men. Pete then slowly started stripping my wife while the guys watched. Pete started by removing her blouse. He then had her turn around and he was teasing them by pulling her skirt up a few times before finally removing it. He then continuted until Monica was finally standing naked in the middle. Once she was naked, Pete invited the men to "come check her out." The five men quickly had Monica surrounded and she had twelve hands attempting to caress her body. One of the men fingered her, felt her moistness and said "I think your enjoying this." She responded with "its awesome!" Then, Pete led Monica to the bed. Monica laid down on the bed, and two other men followed into the room. Pete laid down beside her and began to play with her right breast and lick and suck her nipple. Another of the men did the same on the other side while a third began to perform cunnilingus on her. Monica then exclaimed "Oh my God, this is awesome." While these three were taking care of her orally, the other three were undressing. It didnt take long to realise my wife was about to have her first orgasm of the night. Soon thereafter, the three men left her side where they were quickly replaced by the other three men. As the second group got Monica off for the second time orally, the first three undressed. After Monica's second orgasm, Pete led her by the hand back into the living room area. Pete then stopped in the middle of the room where one of the men had placed the pillows from the sofa on the floor. Pete then told Monica "we enjoyed checking you out so we thought you might want to check us out." Monica got the 'hint' and got on her knees. She was quickly surrounded by the men and began to service all of them orally. Unfortunately, this was the one time of the night that I couldn't see very well since she was very tightly surrounded. Monica made no effort to end the 'blowbang' part of the night, and the men were certainly enjoying her oral pleasure. After what I thought was a long time doing that, Pete again took the lead and led Monica back to the bedroom area. The two of them got on the bed, the other five men stood around the bed, and I continued to watch from a little further away. Pete then got on top of Monica and slid his cock inside her. I saw her get the "crazy" look she gets in her eyes when she first starts to fuck. Pete started to fuck her and quickly worked up a good pace. As she started to moan I heard one of the men say "fuck her!" Another said "give it to her!" I thought the men's comments were as hot as the action itself. Monica later told me she enjoyed that immensely. Pete gave her a vigorous, but quick, fucking. After a few minutes, he was replaced by another of the men who did the same. This repeated until each man had at least one turn. Then, between men, Monica turned over and said "do me like this." The cylce then repeated itself with each man fucking her doggie style. The vigorous fucking made Monica cum hard, the fact that the men fucked for just a couple minutes at a time each allowed them to stay fresh to go again. The men and Monica changed it up several times between, doggy style, missionary, and her lying on her side. The fucking lasted an extremely (in my opinion) long time and I lost count of how many times she orgasmed. She told me on the way home that her orgasms were happening so close to one another that it was like a constant orgasm. After what seemed like an hour, Pete again led Monica to the living room. He said, "Round Robin" to the men and the others immediately got in a circle around her. Pete told her to bend over and suck him while another stood behind her to fuck her. The men on the sides of her were caressing her breasts, legs and back. After another vigorous fuck, the men shifted do that she had another two in front and behind her. I noticed that a couple of the men were taking condoms off after fucking her this way and as things continued, more came off. While I didn't expect it when we planned things, it was begoming obvious to me that the guys were planning on trying to do a bukkake on my wife. After Pete saw the last guy removed his condom, he told Monica to "kneel now" which she did on the pillows. Again, this was a point where I couldn't see as much detail as I would have liked. As soon as she was on the pillows, the men were in on her close. One of them quickly started to cum, and from the position, I knew she was taking it in the face. The other men quickly followed suit. By the time I saw Monica's face again, she was completely covered. Monica has reluctantly taken facials from me before but I know she is not really a fan. She was extremely into the moment and was willing to do it as a thnk you to Pete and the guys. Pete later told me that of the many gangbangs that the group did, that was their first successfull bukkake. The night did not end there. We continued to hang out in the room. Throughout the night, Monica went back to the bed for one on one sex with each of the guys while the rest of us watched. This on the way home, and this morning, Monica told me that was the best night of sex in her life. She told me that she was sore, but said it was a good sore. She and I are both looking forward to another encounter with Pete and company. We are also going to more agressively seek out opportunites to meet groups like Pete's as we have the opportunity to travel. I also want to send out a thank you for all the advice we have recieved on the board. The advice I/we have recieved here. The board was instrumental in bringing our relationship to the point where we could talk openly with each other about our fantasies and desires.

That's what I just messaged a GF that is going with us to a social tonight. It's her first time going and I can't help but remember how nervous I was going the first time, or even how nervous I still get sometimes. I can only imagine what she must feel like. She knows she will know 3 people at the party. Myself (of course), and she will meet Pet at dinner before we go. And, she will know the SM that introduced her to the idea (well, sort of). Evidently, she has another female friend who is also in the lifestyle and has told her about it somewhat. This female friend introduced her to a SM as a potential FWB. The SM happens to also be a friend of mine (met via the lifestyle). When my gf saw that he had only 2 friends in common with her (and one was the girl that introduced them) she started putting 2 and 2 together. First off, he asked me how I knew this SF. We went to HS together and I haven't seen her in 10 years. Then he told her about my book (without saying it was me), but when she saw the author she put 2 and 2 together and it finally equaled 4. At that point I messaged her asking if she'd read my book yet (as a way of letting her know that I knew and all was cool) and we've been chatting ever since. Fast forward a few weeks and now she's ready to visit a social, however rather than make our SM feel awkward (you'd have to know the SM in question), she asked if she could go with us and if we'd introduce her around. So, sure, why not. It's not every day you get to take a SF to a party! I'm really impressed by how excited she is about going. I hope it lives up to her expectations. We've all told her that this will be a smaller party, good for getting her feet wet... but not to expect much. Fingers crossed for a fun night for all. Oh, and this is what I'm wearing. fyi: Got the corset on Amazon for $16

I was at work yesterday, when a young nurse walked by. Just so you know I'm a power limited contractor doing mostly comercial work. As she passed she looked at me, then she turned and looked again, she continued down the hall and around the corner. Not that unusual as we were blocking half the hall with our ladder. I have never been the kind to turn female heads so I didn't think anything of it and went back to work. About an hour latter the same nurse walked by again and did the look and look again thing. She turned around and asked if she could talk to me. We walked down the hall a bit to get away from my co-worker and she said "Aren't you on sls" Well at this point I saw no reason to lie so I said yes. She then asked if I would like to join her for lunch later, I agreed to meet her in the cafateria. At 12:30 we sat down at a table as far away from others as we could and chatted. It turns out that her and her boyfriend had just joined sls a few months ago, soon after joining they broke up and she was the one who had paid for the account so she kept it. She hadn't tried to contact anyone and just sent no thanks to the people who had contacted her. We talked for awhile longer, I tried to answer all her questions of which she had many, we were running out of time so we made plans to go for a drink when her shift ended. We met up at a local bar at 4:30, she had run home and changed, OH MY GOD, the differance in her apperance was shocking, when we met at the hospital, she had been in baggy scrubs, her hair in a bun, no make-up, glasses and honestly she had looked very plain. When she walked into the bar, she had changed into A short skirt, a tight sweater, put in her contacts, she had applied her make-up very well, what she had done drew your attention to her bright blue eyes. I didn't even reconize her. She stopped at the bar and got a beer and came over to where I was sittting, thats when I realized that this gorgous thing was the nurse I had lunch with. She sat down and we picked up where we had left off at lunch. She didn't seem at all like a 23 year old. We spent the next 3 hours talking about swinging, relationships and her sex life. I think that I easied her fears about casual sex. She really wants to try threesomes, moresomes, and all the kinky sex fantisies that she has had since she first had sex at 14. All her boyfriends have been the wam bam thank you mame kind and her one go round with another woman had turned out bad, the other girl changed her mind halfway through and refusd to go down on her after she had gone down on the other girl. Her only orgasms have been self induced. I have to admit by this time I was quite hot for my young nurse, but I had decided that I wouldn't try to do anything with her that night. We talked for a bit longer and then I drove her home. She asked me to come in but I refused, we had a lingering kiss and she got out of the car and went inside. I raced home and Leah and I had some hot sex as I told her all about the conversation. About 11 pm Kelly texed me, notifing me of the great orgasms she'd been having all night. For the next hour Leah, and I had a great time sexting Kelly, all three of us got off again. Today Leah and Kelly talked on the phone for what seemed like forever to me. The two of them are getting along great. I think that if I had pushed for sex right away, I would have gotten it, but this feels more like it might be a longer lasting thing. We have a date set up for the middle of next week at her place, and we are both looking forward to it. K

L just read my retelling of our disney adventure and asked me to relate another episode from our younger days. It was a beautiful summer day in 1991, must have been late August because our son had just turned one, L's mom had come to town for a week for his B-day party and to visit. It was early Saturday morning when she said to us " why don't you take the day to yourselves I'll watch the little one." Now as most of you know when you have a little one and the mil offers to take him for the day so you can get away as a couple you jump at it. We spent a few hours deciding what to do. We called a few friends and decided to hit the beach since it was such a wonderful day. Lake Superior is not known for its warm water but the beaches in the Duluth/Superior area have some of the best sand anywhere in the world, perfect for laying around in the sun. So our friends Tim and Chris and Jo and Kevin joined us for a day in the sun, Now we wern't planning anything too wild, We had had Tim and Chris over for "cards" a few times but Jo and Kevin had never played with us before. L had picked out her most flattering bikini, a tiny top that barely covered her nipples and a french cut bottom that was all the rage at the time, with the dareing V cut in the front, the point of which was just millimeters from the top of her slit. The other ladies were dressed much the same, I always say that women dress to make other women envious. Now we are the lucky ones that we have a boat that we can take to the more secluded parts of the beach, far from the parking areas, We dropped the boat in the water, loading it with all the essentials, Beer, wine coolers, snacks, and what not. In about 30 min of crusing we had beached the boat at the tip of Park Point, there were no people in sight. We got down to some serious sunning, having a few drinks and letting the tension wash away. After an hour or so the sun was getting hot, well at least for those of us from Northern MN so us guys pulled out a football and started throwing it around in the shallows, soon the three ladies joined us, the cold water, Lake Superior only get to about 43 degrees so even in the shallows it is still quite chilly, Causing some portrubences in the bikini tops. Soon the game changes to some touch football on the sand and in the shallows. Being the bad boy I am I "accedently" pulled L's top off, she's such a show off that since there was no one around she continued playing topless, Chris not wanting to be out done soon took her top off as well. After the game we all dove in for a quick cool down, and then went back to the blankets for more sun and a snack. L's nips were still hard as pebbles and unlike Chris L's breasts were pale, afraid of getting burned L asked Chris to pass the sunblock, evedently Chris was feeling a bit frisky and offered to put the lotion on, L didn't even hesitate she just pushed her chest out at Chris and nodded her head. Tim, Kevin, Jo and I we all mezmerized by the two topless women, Chris took her time useing small dabs of lotion on her finger tips working each one in completely before adding more. Jo was blushing a deep red as she watched, L was panting by the time Chris was done, you could see the small wet spot on the crotch of her now otherwise dry bikini bottom. L turned to Jo and reached behind her and removed her top, freeing her rather large tits, for her part Jo just sat there, L took the bottle of lotion and did to Jo what Chris had just done to her. By this time all three of us guys where getting quite uncomfortable in our speedo's, there was no doubt that we were enjoying what we were seeing. Jo's nipples must have been very sensative because she was panting and grinding her hips, L took one of Jo's nipples in her mouth and sucked and nibbled at it, Jo groaned deeply, her hands gripping L's head giding her to her other breast. L has always had a thing for breasts and she had mentioned Jo's several times to me after they had been to the gym together. Chris not wanting to be left out joined the other two women, and started kissing Jo, soon a three ladies were streached out on the blanket, sucking and kissing their hands wandering, I don't know who was first but soon all three ladies were bottomless as well. L was the first of the three to go down on someone, she started licking Chris's shaved pink snatch her finger dipping in and curling around to hit her G spot, Chris was never one to last long and she was soon screaming her delight, L quickly switched to Jo as she tasted Jo for the first time Chris crawled between L's legs and started eating her out, the three of us guys had a great view of her tongue spreading L's slippery folds. As L licked Jo's pussy Jo was pinching her nipples. Kevin was in shock, He didn't know anything about our relationship with Tim and Chris, I stepped up beside him and handed him a cold beer and asked "Hey man are you ok" he at first mumbled something that I didn't catch but then repeated him self with a "Hell Yeah" and took a gulp of beer. I went on to tell him about our relationship with Tim and Chris, and asked him if He and Jo wanted to join us in a swapping situation. He didn't respond at first but you could see the permutations churning in his head. He came out with an "I don't know, I'll have to talk to Jo" All to soon the girls were done, at least for the moment, as they came up for air, Kevin took Jo's hand and they walked down the beach aways, while the rest of us jumped into the water again. Chris and I ended up together in water just thigh deep, locked in a deep kiss her hand stroking my cock through my suit. L and Tim were rolling around in the shallows also kissing. After a bit more play we saw Jo and Kevin coming back towards us we all left the water to join them as they reached the blankets. I looked at them with a question in my eyes, Jo reached out and took my hand and pulled me towards her, I glanced at Kevin and he nodded his head, I wrapped my arms around Jo and kissed her lightly, teasingly. We fell to the blankets as we continued to run our hands over each other, Chris tackled Kevin like she hadn't had a cock in years, she soon had his suit off and his cock in her mouth up to his balls. After that I lost track of who did what with whom but we were all exhausted by the time it was time to head home.

Reading some of the other blog posts reminded me of this. Wow 17 years ago we took a family trip to Disney with my parents and my sister and our then 5 year old son. We were staying in one of the wilderness cabins, all 6 of us, needless to say things were a little tight and there was no way L and I were going to get any alone time, not that we didn't try. We used every ruse we could think of from sending the parents and sister to the pool with the boy to feigning a headache so we could head back alone, someone was always there. It was L's B-day while we were there so we took a night and went to dinner Just the 2 of us, after dinner we went and saw a comedy show. we got back to the cabin around 11 pm, my father was still up watching tv. Knowing that we once agian were not going to be alone I gathered up a few of our sons things and said I was headed to the laundry to get them washed for the next day. L said she thought it was a great idea and picked up a few more things and said she would join me, we got the wash started and went out to sit on a bench and enjoy the warm Florida night we started kissing like two teenagers. At this point in our lives we didn't consider ourselves swingers, even though we had, had many encounters with our friends suducing them, and such. L went in to check the laundry and move it to the dryer, she was wearing a soft filmy summer dress, I knew that she was bare under the dress as I had removed her bra and panties to put them in the wash, I came up behind her and slid the dress up, caressing her thighs and sides, letting just the tips of my fingers graze the sides of her breasts, I was kissing and lightly biting her neck and shoulders, she turned in my arms and we started kissing deeply right there in the brightly lit laundry, Her dress landed on the sandy floor as we continued to kiss and fondle each other. Soon my shorts and shirt hit the floor as well. Soon we were both panting, L dropped to her knees and took me in her mouth, I just leaned back against the washer and let her work her magic. After 10 minutes or so I picked her up and sat her on the washer and returned the favor, I had not seen her this wet in a long time. She pulled at my hair and squeezed my head between her thighs as she came, quietly whimpering and biting her lip to keep from screaming. I then pulled her down and bent her over the washer and entered her from behind, giving her the long slow strokes that she loves, I brought her off again before pulling out and shooting my load all over her ass and cunt. As I steppped back and leaned against the dryer behind me I cought a movement, I looked over and there was a older couple watching us, she had his cock in her hand an he had his in her shorts from behind. As I looked he spurted cum in long streams. They turned as red as Keys sunset and quickly hurried away. L had seen none of this as she was still recovering, the dryer buzzed as I was pulling my shorts back up, we quickly finished getting dressed and grabbed the dry clothes and ran for it, giggeling all the way back to the cabin. This started our affair with public sex, taking risks of getting caught. The next night we did it in the open shower by the pool, no one was there to see that we noticed. We have had many episodes where we have been caught, or where it was very close each as exciting as the first. K

Couples Cruise Review for the April 25-30th on Radiance of the Seas. Let me preface this review with the fact that while some of the comments and review may seem negative, we are booked for the November Cruise in 2012 and plan on keeping the reservation, even though we could cancel it now without penalty. If it was 'that' bad we would not be going on another one. I say this now so people who quit reading half way don't get the wrong impression. First lets start with the good. The organization on the part of the Couples Cruise people was very good, at least from the guest stand point. Perhaps they were working behind the scenes like crazy to keep things working on their end, but on the guest end it looked smooth and polished. In fact I was surprised just how much organization and money went into it. This was a true take over, where 90% of the onboard activities were swinger/sex related. They had classes on squirting, teaching more people the joy of water sports (sorry can't resist and its true, more on that in another post), erotic massage, erectile dysfunction, bondage, and others. There were pre-arranged theme parties every night, pool parties, couples speed dating, meet and greets based on websites, etc. They also had more traditional themes (if not content) with comedy shows, movies, and that sort of thing. Now we did not do many of these things, and you couldn't do all if you wanted to since many overlapped in time. So I can only give a bit of a review of the ones we participated in. Our experience started out simple and cruise like enough. We got to the cruise terminal, and did what everyone would do at a swingers cruise, looked around for people we would find in our swinging strike zone physically. Now while we are a 'picky' couple, we are not exacting. We are looking for couples in reasonable shape in our age ranges. We looked around and saw neither. They say cruising is more of an elderly hobby, and apparently the fact that it is a swingers cruise didn't change that. Even though we are late 30's, we were some of the youngest people we saw while getting on board and filling out our paper work. Some of the people were quite literally one foot in the grave, and while I thought 'more power to them , some day that will be me if I'm lucky', it just wasn't what we were looking for as swing partners. After the cruise, talking to a Couples Cruise organizer he stated the average age on this cruise was six years older than the last one. Luckily, while a majority of the cruise was of an older age group, there was a substantial enough minority of 30 somethings to keep things interesting in that department. Speaking with these couples the constant complaint was the same though about the small number of 30-40 years age range couples. My fear is that because of these complaints, as word gets around fewer couples in our age range will sign up and it will cascade down. I fear this sort of thing because the experience overall was good. Where else are you going to get 1150 swinger couples together for five days? So age ranges aside, most of the people were very fun and friendly. There were a handful of people who might be categorized as 'freaky' but only a handful and of course they were all talked about by everyone else so perhaps they got what they wanted. On the surface you wouldn't be able to tell this from any other cruise, other than the lack of children from a distance, and up close it was a lot more chatty and friendly than an average cruise. Jokes in the elevators (and the elevators are worth mentioning later in the 'bad' section), random chatting with anyone next to you, just overall friendliness was a lot higher on this cruise than others. Once you got below the surface things were different, the rules were rather simple, nudity only on 3 decks, hallways, and topless in the disco. The rest was suppose to be standard attire. Well this is a group of swingers, and some enjoy rather extreme exhibitionism. So 'covered' became a bit of a joke, as someone would be completely nude under a very very wide mesh dress and it would be 'covered'. Mind you these are not complaints but observations. My running joke for the trip at dinner was never has a Royal Caribbean cruise had less panties worn on formal night. Some of it passed from 'sexy' to 'slutty' to 'just really poor taste', but taste is subjective and while I might find EE implants with stretch marks, barely covered by a horizontal strip of fabric 1.5 inches wide inappropriate for dinner, I'm sure some think thats just awesome. Surprisingly open sex was less of an issue than I thought it would be. The rule was 'no sex outside your room or the playroom' and almost everyone stuck to this. In fact the only overt sex act I saw outside of the allowed areas was a man giving another man a bj on the last night in a very dark area (was an MMF). I guess they figured they couldn't get in too much trouble it being the last night, as the Couples Cruise people were good at keeping things within the rules. The theme parties were a lot of fun with some people really going all out with their costumes. If you go I'd really recommend bringing costumes for the themes as it was a lot more fun that way. My only complaint and one I will forward to CC's is that the parties don't need to start at 11pm (well officially 10 outside but high winds made everyone go to the disco regardless). With all the activities onboard, shore excursions you need to get up early for, and just being worn out from all the activities, being up to 3 am every night and getting up early looses its charm. There really is no reason to start the party late on a ship thats about 95% swingers. No kids to put to bed, that sort of thing. I heard this from just about every couple we talked to. Most of the time the party didn't get into full 'swing' until around 1145, but I would bet if the party started at 9, it would be going by 10. Still, lateness issues aside, they were good parties because they were full of swingers. The down side is they were the same party every night in different dress. It wasn't any different beyond the costumes. The same bar with the same music. This brings me to the music. It could use improvement. Its too loud by the pool for starters if you want to talk to people (you know so you can fuck them later). It was also the exact same techno style remix of popular songs played over and over. Why they had a DJ I don't know, just put in a mix tape and it would have been the same thing. The disco has basically the same type of music, and was the same for every party. Some icebreaker activities etc would have been a very nice touch. The playroom was interesting. Basically a very large room off the bar was converted into a giant playroom with both individual beds, group beds, and a giant group bed. They also had a chocolate room which I'll get to later. Despite its size the play area was usually packed. These were mostly older swingers who just wanted to fuck, anything and everything. (Vegas Lee you would have loved it ). It really wasn't our thing but obviously for a lot of people, they really enjoyed it. Then there was the chocolate room. When we took the early tour of the playroom on the first day of the cruise this area looked mostly the same as the rest, a little to the side. A man in front of me said 'why is this the chocolate room?' and no one knew the answer. Now Mr. Chicup here isn't a newbie, but I don't know everything about swinging and apparently I didn't know this one. It seems the chocolate room is for white women to have sex with black men. Now these were not black men who were normal passengers (and there were more than a few), but black men who were brought along to do this servicing. I'm going to assume they were officially for security, but unofficially it was 'where da white women at?'. I was unaware that this sort of thing required its own special side service on a cruise that was aimed at couples 100%. It seemed a bit out of place compared to the rest of the cruise and activities, but then again, I don't know what the market it for this sort of thing. Based on how packed the play room was, my feeling is it would have been better to just have had that part of the main playroom as beds were in very short supply and there were often open ones in 'the chocolate room'. Let me make a brief statement on the g-spot squirting seminar. Anyone who has read posts on squirting in this form knows I believe very strongly its pee. Well in this seminar, within about a minute of simulation, despite 100 people watching and a camera shoved in front of her vagina, she managed to 'squirt' across the room, now thats a fast orgasm. A couple we met there said they saw her chugging water all morning prior to the seminar. Just take it for what you will and enjoy your water sports. As one man stated when we were talking about it 'its all in the marketing'. So anyways, overall, the experience froum the swinging side of it was quite good. There are some changes I'd love to see for the next one, but over all I think CC did a good job with everything.

It is best to live without expectations. That way, you are never disappointed when things don’t work out the way you planed them! Such is the case of my recent experience. In the last year or so, I have been communication with this individual through swingersboard, Yahoo and texts! It has been a great learning experience and ever better friendship! What I have learned from her I will use with Mrs. CXXC. This is the perfect relationship if you ask me! It is a great give and take! As I said in the beginning, when one walks into a situation without expectation, on is generally pleased with the outcome. When we first became aware of the potential to actually spend more than a quick lunch together, my playmate and I were both cautiously optimistic. In our heart of hearts, we were really hoping that we would be able to spend more than a couple hours in a crowded eatery only to part ways with a kiss and a yearning for one another. Little did we know, fate, the universe, the gods, what have you, would be on our sides. As most of you should know, I travel for work a good deal. I happened to be in my playmates area for a day and thought it would be great to get together for lunch and possibly more. Her husband, it turns out, had a date scheduled for the same night! PERFECT!!!! We met for lunch, her husband was charming, polite and very generous in that he told me that he felt comfortable letting his wife go to my hotel room with me! The three of us split up, she with me, and I headed to the hotel. The normally short (15 – 20 minutes) ride from our meeting place to my hotel was dragged out by rush hour stop and go traffic! My playmate was fit to be tied. I could tell she was counting the moments till we were at the hotel. With her feet upon my passenger side dash board, I took the liberty to see just how excited she was. Needless to say, she was VERY!!! That dress was a perfect choice for her to wear that day! In the hotel room, we enjoyed long, passionate, slow and powerful kisses. Our bodies crushed against each other. Her moans of pleasure with each caress or touch of my hand gave proof that this was long desired and wanted. Her body responded to the very smallest of touches. My hands could light gently upon her and elicit moans or a gasp. Her body would quiver, tremble or writhe under my manipulations. Her excitement at my touch evident in her very moist nether region! Then the tables were turned! She placed her lips upon my manhood and I thought I had died and gone to heaven! This woman is masterful at oral pleasure! I have not yet been able to find words to best describe her talents other than the base, crude and foolish, “WOW! FUCK! DAMN! OMG! THAT WAS HOT!!!!” So, I was pleased when she decided to perform orally upon me for more than a minute or two. In fact, she gave me an exceptional orgasm with that wonderful mouth of hers! WOW!!!!! She is as adventurous as she is sexy! We had sex is virtually every position in the Kama Sutra! Well, not all but most of them! She knew no limits to her desire or want! Out orgasms were loud and shook the room! While performing orally for her, she literally screamed! I laughed silently at what the neighbors must think! LOL We went from investigating each other’s limits to pushing them! From vanilla to animalistic. Missionary to anal. It was hot and horny in that room, I will tell you! And this woman kept giving and giving. I have to say, I have not had a more fun solo experience to date! She is absolutely AMAZING! She stated in the beginning that she had some difficulty in cuming. Well, that was not at all true! This woman literally SCREAMS when she cums! And she came several times! Twice while I performed orally! Her orgasms are VERY STRONG and earth shattering! (Not to mention deafening) Her kisses are soft and sweet yet can become powerful and with ferocity! She is really quite the lover! I have to say, over and over, Ms. Fuse is an amazing bed mate and even more fun friend! Fate smiled upon me that day and I PRAY that they smile upon me time and time again! Ms. Fuse, I completely and utterly enjoyed your company, presence, body, and teaching! I hope I can teach you something! Mr. CXXC

Today, good reader, I will regale you with a tale that may help you understand how my year is ending! This story is based upon the love/hate relationship have with my hot tub. Oh the joys one imagines when, with eyes closed, one sees that crystal clear and steaming water, churning in turbulent motions just waiting to sooth the sore and aching muscles after a long hard day’s…….. (Fill this section in with whatever activity you happen to have been doing just before reading this blog. The creator of this blog takes no responsibility for any illegal, immoral or fattening activities engaged in by the reader.) Ok. I have very few rules when it comes to my hot tub. These rules are there to ensure the enjoyment of the hot tub by my guests and Mrs. CXXC and me. They are easy to remember: 1. NO PEEING in the hot tub! 2. No male body fluids in the hot tub! 3. No clothes in the hot tub. 4. No eating foods in the hot tub. 5. No electronic devices in the hot tub. 6. No pets in the hot tub. 7. No men outnumbering the women in the hot tub unless Mrs. CXXC desires it! 8. No more than 8 people in the hot tub. 9. NO TOUCHING THE THEMOSTAT in the hot tub. 10. NO PEEING IN THE HOT TUB!!! Numbers 1 and 10 are self explanatory. I don’t soak in your toilet……. And so on… The male body fluids in the hot tub is just gross. If the guy’s gonna shoot a wad, he better be aiming AWAY from the water or she swallows ever drop. Ewwww.. I am grossing myself out just thinking about it! I don’t like clothes in the tub as the detergent ALWAYS messes up my Ph. Once it’s gone, it is like juggling chainsaws to get it right. I generally have to drain the thing and start over. Food and pets in the hot tub will screw up your filters and even the chemical balance. Mustard on a hot dog can kill it faster than….. well, clothes! Number 5, although one may think it’s silly, is a REAL important one! Don’t believe me? Go ahead, sit in your home bath tub, plug in the toaster. Ok now, put it in the water with you! See what I mean? Number 7 is a no brainer. Unless Mrs. CXXC wishes to be surrounded by naked men for her pleasure, I DON’T what a sausage fest in my hot tub! Number 9, if broken will have you sitting on the side lines shivering as the rest of us use your old seat for a foot rest! Trust me, it is perfect! Just the way it is! 101 degrees is as hot as ANYONE needs! So there you have it! My simple rules and even an explanation of each! So why did I just go through all of that? Well, it’s like this. SOME ASSHOLE DIDN’T READ THE RULES!!!!!! People have worn clothes in my hot tub. People have PEED (Trust me, I can tell) in my hot tub. People have been touching my thermostat!!!!!!! I’ve yet to see evidence of any male fluids, but I am still not convinced! So the Ph and the balance of various chemicals was so out of whack, I had to drain it again after only 30 days! It was NASTY! I mean YUCK!!! Heat up a frog pond and you would have a better experience! It was just plain disgusting! So, I had to start from scratch! I opened the spigot to drain the water and watched the nasty germs, bugs, no-see’ums go bye-bye! Rubber boots, rubber gloves and scrub brushes in hand, I did battle with the hot tub. From top to bottom, I bleached the living daylights out of that sucker. The air tem was around 50 so I wasn’t too happy about being both wet AND cold! Breaking out the shop-vac, I suck up all the debris and standing water from the bottom of the tub. I rinse it down and begin the process of scrubbing once more. You can’t take any chances with germs and nasty things that only show up under a microscope. I purge the lines, flush them clean as well. Hose it all down again and remove the nastiness. The process, though it sounds time consuming, is rather quick once you have a system down. As I do this every three months at the very least, unless someone doesn’t follow the rules, I have created a system to drain, clean and fill that sucker in just under three hours! Well, that was until today! Once I had the tub filled, the new filters installed and the bromide tabs in place, I was ready to go. I hit the breaker and stood back to see the tub come to life. Uhhhhh…… Ummmm…. Now what? I could hear the motor of the main pump running. The water was simply not churning as it normally does when in the heat cycle. So, I trip the breaker and reset it. Nada!!! Houston, we have a problem! Well, I crawl under the deck (its easy to do as I built the space large enough for me to get in and out of easily even if I have to lug a pump out with me.) and take a look around. Everything seems to be connected. Crap, I bet I have a clog in the output heating jets. So, I kill the power, unfasten the hoses connected to the pump, release the valve and water comes rushing out perfectly. Ok. That not it. I try the other end coming from the filter system. Same. Water flows easily and with great volume. What the hell! So I think and I think. Perhaps something is in the hose that will let it flow back but not forward. So I fish the sucker in every direction and from all associated jets. Not a blockage in sight! WHAT THE HELL????? Ok. The pump is brand new, but maybe it was defective. So I pull it out and while sitting on the deck, disassemble the sucker. Huh! There’s that frog! What’s with all the pine needles? The pump fan looks great and spins freely. The motor turns when I spin the pump fan. Huh! Perhaps it doesn’t work though! So I put it all back together, plug everything but the water back up to it. I turn on the power and I can hear that pump running. I get back under and see the pump fan spinning to beat the band! Ok. So everything works like it should. There are no blockages. There are no defective parts. The hoses are filled with water, the filter is working properly, WHAT THE HELL??????? I re-connect the hoses to the pump and try once more with a prayer. God hates me today! Sigh! What in the world is wrong with the tub? Sitting on the cold wet ground, scratching my head, my mind darted back to the late 90’s. My best friend at the time had a 1969 Ford Thunder Hawk with a 429 under the hood. This car was amazing. It was cherry! The only problem it had was that if you started the vehicle while it was cold, ran it for under 10 minutes and turned it off, the thing wouldn’t restart for no less than 30 minutes. What’s this got to do with the hot tub? Hang on! I’m getting to it! Well, one weekend, we decided to make a real effort to figure out the issue with the car. So, we gathered our tools and with determination set to finding the problem. We decided against tearing the engine out unless it was completely necessary. This was a wise decision. We never would have discovered the issue had we done so. In our initial attempt to discover the cause, I was tracing the wiring harness to see if there was a short somewhere. In so doing, I noticed a ½ inch vacuum hose was collapsed upon itself. I followed it to its end, unhooked it from the connection and it reformed. I shouted to my buddy to try to start the 429 Thunder Hawk. He did! It roared to life! It was a faulty vacuum hose that kept it from restarting while it was cold! We had a vacuum lock! Vacuum lock! Huh! I wonder………. With the hot tub in heater mode, I began to release one of the hose connectors. I hear a distinguishable HISSSSSSSS…… INSTANTLY, the water began to flow! I HAVE A FULLY FUNCTIONING HOT TUB AGAIN!!!!!!!!!! Well, here we are, the holidays upon us! We have both family and friends coming to Savannah to visit! These same family and friends wear bathing suits when using my hot tub. Sorry! I know I have rules, but I just can’t even consider seeing my in-laws nude! I am certain they even pee in the thing as I never see them get out no matter how many beers they have! I am on the fence right now. Do I shut it down just before they get here? Either way, I am going to have to drain and clean it again in three weeks. AAARRRGGGHHHH!!!!! Be prepared to read about a mass murder in Savannah by a man waving a toaster over his head while standing in a hot tub. Also stay tuned for the net adventure in REVENGE of the Hot Tub!!!

Ok.. Now if you have been following parts 1& 1a, and then part 2, you know that, it our firm belief that sharing fantasies and talking about them is the greatest ally you have in moving things from fantasy to reality. This brings us to a issue that most every person on the planet runs into at some point, if they are involved in the lifestyle or not.. Personal issues or Hang Ups.. Now I am going to be a bit controversial here, and use the idea put forth in the first blog, that, for the most part, its us guys that put the idea to our lovely partners, spouse or girlfriend that gets the topic of swinging to the for front. I can tell you, regardless of the beauty, or the size, a woman will still have some sort of personal pet peeve or issue regarding their looks .. And considering that fact that this involves getting naked with other people, often somewhat strangers, this can be compounded. Now then, lets be honest about a few facts, usually when we are dating the compliments on looks come fast and furious from our lips, to their ears.. Since we are being honest, while I am sure the words I LOVE YOU are SAID a number of times, when was the last time you told her she looked good, hell when was the last time you told her she looked sexy? When was the last time you caught her in her bra and panties, and told her hot she looked, or better yet, showed her ! Confidence in ones self is the best way to combat these issues and the people that we love get armed for this combat by US. If they KNOW they look great, then its not an issue. Its by hearing it constantly, and being honest with them, that builds the confidence. I have heard from so many people just getting started how, they are worried about looks.. And to be frank and honest, wanna know a real secret? Take a trip to ANY store or mall on a Saturday. Observe the people walking the mall, down thru the aisles. Does anyone stand out? Maybe, but they are everyday people.. These people look the same as the people that your local club has for clientele.. Just like the people SHOPPING, the people SWINGING look like EVERYONE ELSE. A old joke used to be around that I wouldn’t be a member of a club that had people like me as a member.. But that’s the honest truth, Its not just the beautiful people but EVERYONE.. Gentlemen come in all shapes and sizes as well as cock sizes.. And women are the same.. All shapes and sizes.. Boobs in sizes from the 26a cups to the 60EEE cups.. From the twiggy types, to the Big Beautiful Women ( Swinger Termz: BBW) and trust me, there are just as many Men lusting after ALL these types as there are Women. Whats a bigger issue, is the fact that almost every person we know that is in the lifestyle, is worried about one thing more important than looks.. Discretion Way back in the 80’s another old phrase was used a lot, and it holds true for this lifestyle.. What you see here, what you hear here, what you DO here, let it stay here But that’s a topic for another chapter.. Ok, time for another example.. Rich and his wife, Lauren, are just getting into the lifestyle, and after much discussion, they decide to go to a meet and greet held at a local watering hole Friday night. From Monday thru til Friday, Lauren was freaking out over what she would look like, what she would wear, and more importantly, what she didn’t tell Rich, would anyone ELSE find her attractive.. She chooses three outfit’s a day, and by the end of the week still has no clue as to what to wear.. Friday morning she makes up an excuse and ducks out of work early, and goes to the local mall, and buys a new outfit.. Friday evening comes and they head out, because the meet and greet is held at a regular bar, they arrive and walk in.. and the first problem arises, SURPRISE, it’s a bar full of people, all dressed like people out on a Friday nite.. Rich orders a few drinks and Lauren is having severe nerves, questioning everything from her dress, to where are these people.. Then almost by chance she overhears a conversation between two women in the restroom, discussing the events of last weekend, and what brought Lauren out of her trance was.. And Jimmy shaves the hair off his.. .. She pushed her nerves aside and asked, Umm, are you here for the meet and greet.. And almost as fast as she said it, she regretted it, fearing they might not be.. They both broke into a big smile and introduced themselves.. They led Lauren out to the end of the place where a group of people, like everyone else in the place was hanging out and having a great time.. The two women set off introducing her, as she was trying to get Rich’s attention.. By the end of the night, they had made a dozen new friends, been offered a dozen email addresses, and twice that in telephone numbers.. The ride home was more discussing the conversations and the new people they had met than anything else.. Now, while Lauren was nervous about a Vanilla meet and greet, its really no different than any other activity.. Just the degree, or pace at which things happen. On premises clubs, or house parties are a dimension to themselves, but again, its everyday people. The reason I say a dimension unto themselves is because its completely normal to see people in all manner of dress, and undress there.. Hell, the first house party we went to, we were greeted by the hostess, in a pair of black panties and a white dress shirt, hanging wife open. Now that having been said, remember each place has their own rules, and you can expect various stages of undress. Some may not allow it in public, and others could care less. Most of these places have all sorts of people show up, from those that jump in right away, to people who come week after week, and never get naked. Others who go, and never play with anyone else, but love it when people watch them.. Again, these people are the same as everyone else.. From the lovely, to the normal.. From the firm and fit to the round and curvy... to the soft and fluffy.. But the biggest thing that anyone needs to understand when getting involved, is that, if at any time, from the first meeting right up to the final seconds before actual intercourse, its perfectly fine to say STOP.. Or NO.. No means NO , and Never needs to be explained.. Its also, perfectly fine, if someone doesnt float your boat to say no thank you.. With the number of people involved, its YOUR choice, who and when you play.. So, lets sum up.. The only issue anyone SHOULD have is about what they are comfortable WITH, not what they look like. People are people.. It doesn’t matter if they are super models, or every day folks.. People in this lifestyle come in all shapes and sizes.. And remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder, not the mirror that you judge YOURSELF in.

Talk it out.. What exactly does that mean, Well if you have read part 1and 1a, about fantasies, you know that just having such a vivid imagination isn’t the only thing you need. At some point you need to express these desires to your SO(significant other) In this Blog entry, I will try to give some ideas and suggestions on how to approach this most daunting of tasks.. ACTUALLY TALKING TO YOUR MATE ! Now this should be easy for any couple considering the lifestyle, because, in reality, unless you already have great communication skills, you really shouldn’t be consider this lifestyle. But, lets suppose for a minute of two that, your shy about how to talk to the person, who lovingly, shares your bed, about your desires.. If this lifestyle has the draw on you, enough for you to have found your way here, and moreover to this blog, then being shy about what you want shouldn’t impede your progress. Suppose we use the example in the fantasy part 1a, Remember Terri? Terri had been bouncing around the internet, for sometime and like everyone learning the internet, She found her way to a site, that she accidentally clicked on. It contained real life stories and experiences of people, Men and Women.. Before she knew it she was getting turned on at the idea of being the center of attention of 7 horny guys. It had been a secret fantasy she held for years, and reading the story, brought it all back, in a hurry. The Problem was her husband Mike, was brought up in a religious home, and while sex was great, never lacking in anyway, the story got thoughts bouncing thru her mind, and body. .. <SNIP> Lets stop right there.. And examine the scenario, Terri a healthy woman, married, stumbled her way onto a site that she never would have been on, on purpose.. The fantasy she had kept secret for years, re awoke.. Lets continue.. Later that night, She practically attacked him, and when he pressed her to what brought this on, she told him a story she had read online.. Before long he had drug all the details of the story out of her, and could see how it excited her.. And gave him the courage to admit to her that, the thought of seeing his lovely wife, surrounded by hard cocks, 2, 3, or 10, all seeking her intimate places turned him on immensely .. That night he and she shared the story was one of the best sex sessions, and orgasms for both of them in a long time.. <SNIP> Ok.. Here is what we call the Y'see Timmy moment, sort of like directly from the old TV shows.. Terri, who got turned on, and then after being pressed by her husband, who saw this was out of character for her, And while grateful for the changes needed to know why.. When she was finally HONEST with him about everything, the story, and finally how it had been a fantasy of hers.. He opened up and started confessing his desires to her.. And was rewarded with some of the best sex they had shared.. And more importantly, it started a whole new chapter in their lives, as they shared more about what they liked in and out of the bedroom. And given the fact that now Mike had a better understanding of his wife, started surfing sites that they had never been to.. A few lifestyle sites.. So, Is a revelation like this what you can expect, maybe, but in all honestly, proably not.. That story is the best you can hope for.. A WOMAN interested, and the man needing to be talked into it.. Now then, I can offer suggestions, and if followed might make it easier.. Again this is supposing that you have read part 1 and 1a.. Which covers fantasies and what to do with them, which is all about talking, and sharing yours , and theirs .. But at some point, AFTER that sharing has gone on, comes a time to talk without a bed.. The first step is to choose your weapon.. Meaning, after having been given all that ammo, you need to pick a fantasy to chase.. Preferably one you and your mate share.. Again looking back to part 1, You know we talked about the whole, 1 guy 2 women, while sure, maybe your wife harbors a bi fantasy, there is one part of this reality that you need to understand, unless you already KNOW a woman that is willing, finding one can be difficult. More likely, there has been one fantasy or maybe two that you both find erotic and a turn on. Focus on one, what is required to make that happen? Suppose we go the other direction, and the idea of sharing your wife with another man, while you both pleasure her, is acceptable. If you choose that direction, it requires less hunting as it does for a single woman, but, can have a few pitfalls. Remember the lifestyle is not about emotions, its about having fun. Recreational sex, like this, is all about being in the moment. If you are the husband/boyfriend , you need to be able to deal with the emotional part, of seeing your wife/girlfriend being pleasured, having sex, and hopefully great sex, with another guy, without getting jealous about it. The emotion always rears its ugly head, but, if you can remember the key parts, that is just sex for the sake of sex, or for the sake of fun.. And that, really, at the end of the night, she is still coming home with you.. Lets get back to the current theme we will discuss the emotional components in another chapter.. Now then, Best suggestion, take the other person out on a date, like you did when you were actually dating, go to a romantic dinner, do something afterwards.. And bring it up casually.. Ideally, you want to offer the idea of their fantasy.. And you need to ask how they would feel about really doing it.. Now, expect to get refused .. The thing is, after the fantasy sharing, and the now enticement that, they can actually HAVE this.. You have been planting a powerful seed.. So, like I said, expect to be reused flat out.. But, expect a few questions.. Be ready to answer them.. How? .. Simple we find someone, that is into this too ( Do Not Offer ANYONE, that you both already KNOW, this can lead to too many issues)… Where? We can figure that out.. If pressed, say we can get a hotel room, in the next town/city over.. And the big one, Why? Because, I love you, and seeing you happy, would make me happy, and we can share this together.. Now for the important KEYS.. If they are asking, and then stop, you stop, do not press.. Allow them to digest.. If they say No.. let it drop and go back to working the fantasies.. Chances are, it wont be too difficult later that evening.. And finally.. Remain calm and cool about it.. If things become tense, just say forget it, and lets enjoy our night.. Because you have put it out there, the idea is going to get thrashed thru HER mind.. And hopefully, it wont be too long before its brought back up.. Now the next chapter deals with a big thing as well.. Personal Issues, or Self esteem.. So, lets sum up.. Talking about your desires can be a bitch, but until you actually do it, you really wont know where the other person is coming from.. For all you, know, they are ready willing and ABLE.. Just that you havent expressed yourself.

So what I found to be handeld differently between the majority of Swingers I know in RL (mostly people from three diffrent Europen Countries) and on this board (mostly US people) - Over here people don't care about cheating singles. We think it is their problem if they get caught doing something they should not do - The idea of Off-Premise. While there are M&G gatherings where people can go just to meet and talk, they usually have a back room for play also. - The Onlookers. I don't think I ever came across someone who was just in a club to watch the freaks having sex. I guess the entry fees here are high enough to ensure that only people who at least have some interrest in swinging actively think it is a better place to hang out then a regular night-club - The idea of bareback. If it happens then only behind closed doors. People who (would) openly admit that they don't use condoms (would) have a hard time finding playmates or in the case of some clubs even being allowed inside. - F/F play On a regional plattform it is often said by some bi-women that most couples that are listed with a bi-curious female are not to be taken siriously. Those profiles are mostly being handeld by the husband who wishes that is wife would engage in bi play before his eyes. But if they happen to get together the woman often turns out to be against it outright or that she will lay flat on her back and endure it because her guy wants her too. I also see very little f/f play in the club, but I guess this is because my club of choice has a monthly girls only party, and that most genuine bi or bi-curious ladies attend there. I guess this is it for now...

This is not meant to be a complete guide to having a house party. But having recently hosted one at our own home and having been a guest at another couple's home, we thought we would assemble a few tips we hope will be helpful for those who are contemplating having a party of their own. If you do not already have one, buy a massage table. Send invitations saying where, when, general nature of the event, and include a list of who has been invited. Describe party etiquette and expected behavior. Invite only people whom you have met yourselves or who have been recommended by trusted friends. Don't wear yourselves out preparing a feast on the day of the party. You will have no energy left over for fun. Order food trays from the deli and have some soft drink and fruit juice ready. Turn all televisions to a music channel and hide the remotes. Anyone who wants to watch a sports event can plan a party of their own. Lock the liquor cabinet. Encourage guests to bring their own favorite wine, beer or spirits. Don't wear yourself out fussing over people to assure they are having a good time and fail to have a good time yourselves. Be ready to accommodate overnight guests even if everyone is local and let everyone know in the invitation that beds (or sofas or mattresses) will be available. You would not want to have it on you minds if someone drove home impaired and did not make it safely. Leave towels, wet wipes, disposable paper cups, mouthwash and wash cloths in the bathrooms; have condoms and KY lube on a stand next to every bed. Leave the mess until the next day.