Sprocket
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Australia
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Management
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30 years of mf, mfm, fmf, mfmf,
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Does anybody else find anal a turn-off?
Sprocket replied to Tadahiko's topic in Let's Talk About Sex
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You are not alone in experiencing the mental conflict that is part of the journey into swinging. The excitement generated by thoughts of anticipated pleasure and fun is very powerful. Then the thinking turns the other way in regards to jealousy issues, you being so or your partner not coping seeing you ejoying sex in a way that he has never experienced with you. And then the thinking about who you might be meeting and will there be an attraction great enough that you actually want to progress to intimacy. All heavy stuff on the mind. There are lots of stories here similar to yours and there are many who will give you advice. But I am sure that most will say that to have a problem free and fun swinging lifestyle you should be starting with a very strong and stable relationship with your partner. There are many relationships that have ended because of involvement in swinging. Many of those relationships were on rocky ground prior to entering into swinging and the swinging just made things worse. Having sex with other people while having relationship issues is unlikely to resolve the relationship issues. Good relationships are built on good communication between the partners. Open discussion without judgement and conflict. Respecting eachothers feelings and needs. Only when you have talked together about swinging and set any boundaries or limitations and then feel totally comfortable should you proceed. If you are torn now, then more talking with your partner is needed before proceeding any futher. Take it slowly and don't be pressured into anything you are not 100% happy about. Swinging is a lifestyle choice that can be fun and add excitement to life. But it should not be done at the expense of one of the partners happiness. Best wishes in resolving your situation.
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In life I have found, "the more you ask"for, the more you get". Be the leader and ask for what you would like to do. Sometimes our ladies would like to try different things but are shy or embarrassed to ask. If you lead the way by talking openly about what would be nice to try then I am sure your partner would be happy to please you, and hopefully herself. Kind wishes
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Enigma..... Albums _ MCMXC a.D and The Cross of Changes
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Years ago I spent some time learning about tantra and its practices. Particularly about having the ability to reach orgasm without ejaculation of semen. It is not something that is just physical. For couples who want to explore a deeper intensity of their relationship and sexuality it is an amazing journey well worth exploring. After much practice of the teachings I was able to orgasm and continue with an erection for further orgasms without ejaculation. Much to the delight of my partner. But not every time I made love. Taking time to building passion and excitement in an erotic way to build sexual energy is empowering. Giving and taking the pleasure of an orgasm without loosing that sexual energy is key. But then life changed for me. Cancer required removal of my prostate. I was lucky and found a fantastic surgeon who carefully removed the prostate while leaving me with the ability to maintain erections and a great sex life. So now, I don't ejaculate for every orgasm. And when you have had ladies who enjoy having a cum shot in or on them It can be a disappointment.
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Would this work for a first experience?
Sprocket replied to kai33's topic in Curious About Swinging?
Keep it simple, start slow and enjoy the thrill of just thinking and talking about fun with others until the you want to actually do it. You can't second guess what might or might not happen until that moment arrives. Just take things slowly until you actually meet people you feel comfortable with. You can only know how you feel emotionally when the moment arrives so it is essential that you and your partner are on the same page. And the first swinging encounter needs to be one that leaves one or both of you not feeling so good about it. Good luck to you and just have fun. -
Advice would be appreciated -newbie and having doubts
Sprocket replied to anonxx's topic in Curious About Swinging?
Your anxiety about entering into swinging events is normal. The excitement of what may take place is very enticing, However, it comes with relationship breaking risks that are not always obvious when excitement is dominating thoughts. As always in good relationships, open and honest communication between partners is paramount. It seems that you may not have that level of relationship as you indicate insecurity is on your mind. If you value and want to continue to build your relationship then it would be silly to risk it without him opening up about how he truly feels for you. Only when you feel rock solid emotionally with him can the swing lifestyle be considered. Many relationships/marriages have been damaged or ended because of swinging. Should your current partner not want to commit himself to you and YOUR interest in the swing lifestyle remain enticing, then take the plunge as a single girl. You will meet some wonderful people and likely to have some great sex on the way. -
Can you tell us about your first MFM?
Sprocket replied to Lips & Tongues's topic in First Swinging Experiences
The first time…… There have been many versions of MFM since the first time. Like starting out as a middle aged married couple exploring the fun of same room swinging with other couples where one time the wife of the other couple decided not to play but to watch her husband and I pleasure my wife. The night starting with drinks, dinner and flirting leading to fun times in the bedroom where my wife was the centre of attention. We slowly undressed her with lots of groping and caressing along the way. Then it was her turn to undress us guys. Along the way sucking and stroking each cock as it was uncovered. We were alternating with playing with her sensitive nipples and wet pussy as she was sucking our cocks. We then laid her on the bed, I spread her legs wide for the other guy to get a good look at her waxed pussy and then invited him to fuck her missionary style while I caressed her all over, focusing on her nipples. She was loving it. Us guys changed places only this time doggy style so she could suck on his hard cock. It was all horny fun to be able to watch her being pleasured and the way she was responding back like a greedy girl. She came many times either while being fucked or orally. Us guys held out for quite a while but when the other guy came in her pussy, I couldn’t help but cum all over her lovely tits while she was stroking me. That long term marriage came to an end but have since explored more MFM fun with other couples as a single man. Many of those couples trying MFM for the first time. The most memorable MFM for me was with a fun couple where the lady loved DP. They were in town on holidays and in a coffee shop and we started chatting, in which the banter got hotter by the minute. They invited me to their hotel room and within a short time we were naked and the lady being pleasured all over. She wanted to ride me so I laid on my back and had my cock in her pussy quick smart and she was fucking me beautifully. Before I knew it, her partner slid his cock in her arse. She was loving it. The sensation of another cock sliding against mine while inside her pussy was unbelievable and the excitement of it all made it hard not to cum immediately. The fun went on and on for hours and we covered her inside and out with cum. That first time DP was very memorable. -
What to bring to a club?
Sprocket replied to Tahoe's topic in Swinger Clubs, Parties, Resorts, and Cruises
The best thing you can take is a happy smile and fun mindset. The rest will work itself out. Don't overthink it. -
What to bring to a club?
Sprocket replied to Tahoe's topic in Swinger Clubs, Parties, Resorts, and Cruises
Down under here in Australia, all our domestic power is 240v. -
How has Menopause affected your swinging Menpause
Sprocket replied to let's do it again's topic in Swingers Talk
Like others have experienced, my ex wife lost interest in swinging and sex in general which was unfortunate. After my marriage dissolved I met a lady who, not long before we met, underwent hysterectomy surgery resulting in hormonal issues. However, her interest in sex did not skip a beat. We had some very long and wonderful sessions of lust. Unfortunately she was not into the swinging lifestyle. -
Should I let my wife play alone with other females?
Sprocket replied to Mike6216's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
Don't let other peoples opinions sway you. Your friends comment is just his opinion and has no relevance to what you and your wife share. Seems to me your wife has been very open with you and wanted you to share in her exciting encounter. That should put any insecurity, you may have, to rest. But, solid relationships get their strength from both partners being open in their conversations and the trust it builds. Enjoy in her excitement and what flows from it. -
Are your wife sharing thoughts something that your wife is 100% with. Have you even discussed it with her? Unless you are both on the same page about you sharing her then there is a good chance your insecurity may bubble to the surface. Sometimes, thoughts and fantasies are best kept just as thoughts and fantasies.
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