Your dick is fine - old post for new guys that worry

Hey here's a old post that I think was one of the best about the dreaded size matters. I'm only putting a link to it because there's been a bit of talk about the size matters in some of the posts lately (and I could not work out how to revive it lol.)

Confession: I LIKE smaller penises!

So go and check it out.

Regards.

I can appreciate the amount of reassurance throughout this forum concerning penis size. But a kind word here or there won't repair the damage done by a single cruel phrase concerning one's size.

The guy mentioned in the link is a slightly exaggerated version of what many of us experience. He most likely had an experience where his size was brought into play and probably will have a hard time living with that.

It's nice to read that there are plenty of women around that are fine with an 'under-hung' mate. It would be really nice if the woman that aren't, could keep it to themselves.

If you are advertising for 8" and the guy you meet exposes 5", sure, call him out. But if a new lover is undressing for the first time and his size isn't what you expected, maybe not saying anything would be nice. He knows. He's doing his best.

I can appreciate the amount of reassurance throughout this forum concerning penis size. But a kind word here or there won't repair the damage done by a single cruel phrase concerning one's size.

 

The guy mentioned in the link is a slightly exaggerated version of what many of us experience. He most likely had an experience where his size was brought into play and probably will have a hard time living with that.

 

It's nice to read that there are plenty of women around that are fine with an 'under-hung' mate. It would be really nice if the woman that aren't, could keep it to themselves.

 

If you are advertising for 8" and the guy you meet exposes 5", sure, call him out. But if a new lover is undressing for the first time and his size isn't what you expected, maybe not saying anything would be nice. He knows. He's doing his best.

I agree with what your saying for sure but I think it's more than a kind word here and there. We guys need to look out for each other in and out of the LS. The girl that started the post already has a 8 inch husband and her point is that there were some things that a smaller than 8 inch can do with a lot more comfort. I think we need to start realizing that not all chicks want big dick.

I suppose because of my early introduction into GB's, MFM, and the like I got to see first hand how a lot of the bigger guys just did not get the same amount of sex as I did - sure everyone wanted to see it but few want to date them, and myself being on just a half a foot long there has always been bigger guys but I never saw any of them get a blow job to the base of their dicks or do their chicks anally - guys, the average range is a dream come true! There are so many chicks out there that want your size for all sorts of nasty things to do with them and to them lol.

We just need to rethink it a bit, yes some chicks love the bigger ones and thank god for that otherwise those boys would never get any.

Some people are just not at all nice and it would not matter if you have a small cock or a big one they will always find something to try and bring you down - sadly some people even on here do it to their own husbands (though I think in their excitement to tell their story they forget men have feelings too, even their own husbands).

So guys be confident and go and give those girls some fun.

Regards

I want to play with a woman who I find attractive, but if her boobs or other parts are a little bigger or smaller than average, who cares! My wife and I are not measuring, timing or rating our partners. It is about personality, effort, attractiveness and chemistry. We are trying to have a little fun, not set Olympic records. We are looking for playmates who feel the same way and we generally find them. I learned in my college dating career to keep my body evaluation comments to myself.

Also, my wife is petite and is not a particular fan of large penises. I think she would choose average every day of the week.

I have had women decline to play with me (the man) in a less than artful way. But I get to go home with my sexy wife, the women missed a potentially fun experience and we move on to a couple who are receptive to us!

Any woman who comments on a guy's penis size in a derogatory way is way out of bounds!

Wow reading through that thread was a bit of an eye opener for me , thanks for bringing it to light.

I honestly never considered a lot of the things discussed in it.

Somebody posted recently in another thread that a lot of the time when a couple is specifically looking for a very well endowed cock it is quite often being driven by the male who likes to watch his wife handle a big one, from some of the profiles I've read I think this may be more true than people realize.

Personally I find voluptuous ladies a real turn on , generally speaking. That doesn't mean I don't like skinny girls , attraction can start with a smile and does not depend on a particular body shape or breast size, I don't know why I never figured girls thought the same way.

Wow! I just had a conversation with someone that wants to meet at the next party. We were chatting about what she likes and she said she loves mfm and I add that Im no stranger to that and willing to dp. SHe said as long as I wasn't hung then yes.And asked about my size so I said seven (I don't lie on my dick) but when she asked for thickness I said around size of a magnum marker she laughed and said "that is not going anywhere near my butt".Lesson learned that not everyone is a size queen.

Wow! I just had a conversation with someone that wants to meet at the next party. We were chatting about what she likes and she said she loves mfm and I add that Im no stranger to that and willing to dp. SHe said as long as I wasn't hung then yes.And asked about my size so I said seven (I don't lie on my dick) but when she asked for thickness I said around size of a magnum marker she laughed and said "that is not going anywhere near my butt".Lesson learned that not everyone is a size queen.

That sounds about right. I have posted somewhere before about a husband that was not allowed anywhere near his wife anally but she liked DP, so I got the job - but the husband would have traded me his for mine just to be able to experience that side of her even just once.

I have a few story's like that actually - nope I never want to trade my cock for bigger no matter how much advertising says I should or the random chick that says if it is not X size, don't bother.

Regards.

As a guy I've never understood why so many guys seem to be obsessed with penis size. The only times I've ever personally heard a women commenting on the subject - with the exception of one coed who gave a half-hearted "you're so big" because she thought that's what every guy wanted to hear - was to observe conversationally that a guy was too big (either for anal or because he had painfully hit her cervix).

As a guy I've never understood why so many guys seem to be obsessed with penis size. The only times I've ever personally heard a women commenting on the subject - with the exception of one coed who gave a half-hearted "you're so big" because she thought that's what every guy wanted to hear - was to observe conversationally that a guy was too big (either for anal or because he had painfully hit her cervix).

I agree, but I think just as the girls had to go though the whole "your body isn't good enough" mentality, especially from advertising, males that were just asses, and worse themselves, men are going through this as well more than ever. Self-acceptance is hard when the popular view is bigger is better even if for most chicks that not so true. Just as we need to support our female friends against this crap I think we need to support our male friends as well.

Now for the bigger guys I'm not saying they are not any good lol, we just need to see that everyone has something to offer and that basing you choice on a body part only is well just cheating yourself from some very wonderful people that may even be good friends in the long run.

Regards.

I wanted to reply to this thread because of my personal experience. My wife and I are new to the LS, and we're trying this to not only to start finding new ways to enjoy ourselves, but for me to gain confidence.

Prior to my wife, I've had about 75% of my exes tell me I wasn't big enough for them. It's a very difficult and heartbreaking thing to hear. I've been carrying that with me, even into my marriage. And even before I got married, I happened to overhear my now wife tell one of her good gay friends how much she enjoyed bigger cocks.

My wife has been trying to tell me my size is decent. I'm about 4"-4.5" but in the back of my mind I have this fear that she's just saying that to try and make me feel better. But it's extremely difficult to get it out of my mind.

We're hoping that trying something will help me build confidence. After reading that most guys aren't that much bigger than me kinda eases my mind but it'll take a while.

Thanks for allowing me to tell my story. I hope I can start enjoying myself sexually. I know my wife needs it.

Question for you, T_and_C: Does your wife have good orgasms with you? Then your penis is 'big enough.'

My wife has no preference in sizes of penises, just what the guy could do with it, and with the other erotic portions of his body (such as his mouth.) She was of the 'it's not how big it is, but what you can do with it' camp.

We've had many great times with guys who couldn't even get it up, if they had a good attitude about it and kept trying to have fun with her. And a soft penis is much worse than a small penis.

Don't worry about it, go into it with a good attitude, your new partners and you should have a good time.

I think men are more obsessed with their size than women. I have had a fear of what guys think of my size. I posted that my clitoris is large and that I fear I am not tight enough. I also think if you are reading this board you may think that every guy is large. The fact, and you can look it up, is under 6 inches. Only the men on here are average at 7-8 inches NOT. What is true is men come in different shapes and thickness. We also know some guys grow more than others.

My big fear has been a guy won’t feel me. Also I don’t like how I look there. Nobody has ever complained. It’s just me.

Now let me make you feel better. A recent story from a party I was just at. My friends have been having parties that we started to go to a year ago. We live 4 hours away so we only have been to a few. It’s my college girlfriends and their partners. We were at a party and there was a guy I never saw. He acted as if it was his first time. He was the last to undress and he held a towel to cover up. Don’t ask why I approached him. I usually don’t approach guys, guys usually join after I am with someone. When I did approach I did think damn. Not because he was small but because I was afraid I was too loose for him to enjoy. I didn’t measure but he was smaller than my hand. I know he was nervous. We played. He was actually attentive and seemed like a good guy. I put on condom on him. It was a little loose. I ended up on top. He did slip out a few times and I knew it would be better if I more or less rocked on him. I was able to orgasm and it wasn’t faked. When we were both done and I got off the condom was still in me. He was more worried than I was. We ended up laughing together and he asked if I faked it. I assured him I didn’t. I never mentioned size. I just said it was great.

I don't even look at his size, unless it is longer than 6 inches or thicker than usual - and then it scares me. I prefer average 3-5 inches. Fits my mouth and cunt snugly. I have had a few big ones - didn't wish to disappoint them, so I rode them, knowing that I can take in only as much as I like. I have also been with guys who can't get it up, but they give such wonderful head, and I am happy to be with them. I don't care about pricks.

Thanks for all the replies. I'm very grateful that there are women here that say they enjoy penises around my size and mean it. Like I stated before, after being told I'm too small repeatedly to my face, being laughed at after disrobing, and also being given numerous excuses about exes didn't want to go down on me is very discouraging and it shattered my confidence for a very long time. This is going to be a long process.

My wife had stated that I have indeed given her an orgasm through vaginal penetration. But using my past experience as an excuse, I assumed she only said that to make better.

I'm working hard to build confidence back. My wife wants to have another woman give me a blowjob because she has problems with opening her jaw for extended periods that limits her time on my dick. I just hope I don't disappoint. This is where I'm nervous.

I don't even look at his size, unless it is longer than 6 inches or thicker than usual - and then it scares me. I prefer average 3-5 inches. Fits my mouth and cunt snugly. I have had a few big ones - didn't wish to disappoint them, so I rode them, knowing that I can take in only as much as I like. I have also been with guys who can't get it up, but they give such wonderful head, and I am happy to be with them. I don't care about pricks.

Understand your preferences and not arguing, that's fine, I respect that. However I would point out that the consensus of reliable medical studies (non-self measured!) puts the average white Caucasian (and all others except Black and Asian) penis at 5.5" long. So 3-5" is actually very short to less then average. And incidentally 3" or less is termed a micro-penis - candidate for possible medical intervention - such as is available that is. Just for the record the average Black penis is actually slightly shorter (but thicker) but the upper range has a higher percentage of longer ones - so "The BBC" is kind of a partially true myth. The average Asian penis the shortest and thinnest (sorry guys). But the overall averages of the 3 groups go from 4.5" to 5.5". There is also a lot of overlap between the 3 groups. Remember also that the correct measurement is along the top surface from torso to tip (the "insertable length"). So all those beer can photos and stuff are deliberate exaggerations, your balls are not part of your penis. Incidentally the verified record holder for length is a white gentleman from NY at 13.5" and if I remember correctly 2" thick, so not a thickness record. He says it's a double edged sword (excuse the pun) and one can understand why.

All that being said. Whatever one preferences, whatever works for you is great, be it long, short, thick, thin or average and what you do with it is as or more important as size to most people.