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Ok so this may be a bit taboo and yes there are plenty of issues that come with this… but our conversation (and fantasies) revolve around swapping and sex in this fashion. It might sound silly but is this frowned upon in swinger circles? Would we be blacklisted or is there a place for this? We wouldn’t be sleeping around and maybe hope to find a regular couple or 2 to have this fun with, but as a general rule what’s the community’s approach to those coming in and looking to have bareback sex?
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Swingers' opinions on sexual exhibitionism by nonswingers
LovelyLynn posted a topic in Swingers Talk
I have a question for the experienced couples on the board. For quite a while I have had the desire to be in a more sexually charged environment while having sex with my husband. Now, I have been hanging around this board and learned a lot about the maturity required to swing and I must say I am impressed by a lot of you. The reason I bring this up is because I would like your opinions. I am wanting to find some couples or groups that are open and mature like yourselves to watch while each couple has sex. I am in my 20's and find that a lot of couples around my age lack maturity when it is called for. Of course for a lot of couples at any age it seems can barely keep their own relationships together. On the other hand it seems that a lot of you put respect and your relationships above all else. Other than the fact that I am not technically a swinger (yet ), I feel you people share more in common with my ideals than most groups of people. I would love to try new things but I'm not near ready for a 4some or swapping. However, I feel that being in and getting comfortable as a couple around swingers would open the door to a lot of new experiences for me. So I was curious how the couples on here would feel about having a non swapping couple around having sex in the same room as them? Does it make a difference to you if there are just 2 couples, more than 2, group sex, or swapping going on in the room? What do you think the best way to go about it would be? Is this something that Swingers in general accept?- 23 replies
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Hi. We are in our 70's and would like get into swinging...where would we be welcome, or is there even a place for us?
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Hello everybody. Married MW couple for 18 years today. We have been out of the LS for 5 years but prior to that we where in the life style for about 10 years and had a great time. We are in our mid forties and going on the bliss cruise in November. This will be our first swinger cruise. The question is, How is mm bisexual play seen in the LS community on this Cruise? In our past experience it was always accepted FF bi play but MM was pretty frowned upon. My husband and I have had a couple MMF in the past and had a great time. We are hopping to find that again. There is something that I just love watching him get it from another guy and sharing the other guy orally together. Any and all comments greatly appreciated and recommendations encouraged. -
I was asked by "herbob" on a different thread how did I go from being an orally bi guy to topping other men from time to time. I thought it was a good question and would be interested in hearing from others how they got to the point of either topping or bottoming, which I personally don't like but whatever. The first time I ever topped another guy was during a swingers party my ex-wife and I had hosted at our home. My wife and I hosted a 'holiday' party where clothing was optional and sex was almost mandatory. LOL At the time we where playing full time with a bi guy who pretty much lived with us and who never wore any clothing while home. Which was ok by me because he was a shower, unlike me who is a grower, and I and the wife loved to watch it swing and sway as he walked or when he laid down or sat in the chair he would lift it up and lay it across his leg. God I loved looking at his cock and loved sucking it even more so! Despite his beautiful cock he had a really tight small waist and firm ass that if you didn't know it was a man's ass you'd swear he was a girl from behind. After the party I was still ready for sex but the wife had already had more than her share and as many of you ladies know she was sore and wouldn't go for any more but was open to "HIM" going down on her leaving me with full nuts and horny as hell. Despite my pleading she denied me again however while "HE" knelt between her creamy thighs licking her "HE" wagged his ass and said the words I'll never forget, "My ass hasn't been used yet so I'm nice and tight!" to which I looked at her, who was sporting a wide happy grin and his tight little brown hole and before you knew it I was lubing his asshole and then slowly guided the head of my dick into his ass. Just as I sank deep into him my wife looked at me and said, "Are you really fucking his ass?" and when I said "yes" she grunted and groaned the loudest I had ever heard her and she forced "HIS" harder against her pussy and she began to start to cum. It didn't take long before I emptied my own load deep in "HIS" ass. In a nutshell, pardon the pun, that was how I fucked another mans ass for the first time! I, and I'm sure others, would love to hear how any other guys got into topping or even bottoming.
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Question for couples with straight guys...would you agree to swing with a couple knowing the male was bi? We have had an offer, but turned it down because I would not be comfortable with a bi guy in the mix.
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Hi everyone! My wife who is African-American is brand new to swinging, that is, we went to a club last Friday night just to scout it out....she has never been exposed to the lifestyle before then...now she is very curious about the lifestyle....I am a white male who has been to clubs before....she would like to hear of experiences -- good or bad -- as well as any experiences with interracial couples such as us....we found no other black females and one black male last Friday....she would prefer white male (s).....any info would be helpful for her....thanks........
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My wife and I are contemplating swinging. I really enjoy performing anilingus and cunilingus on my wife, and I would be willing to do both on other women. I am wondering if these practices are accepted within the swinging lifestyle.
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I've been noticing that full-swap play seems to be what is most common in this community. I'm not surprised by that but a little worried maybe. My husband and I have been talking more and more about actually making my longstanding voyeur/exhibitionist fantasies come true. For me, it's mostly about watching and being watched. Though we have discussed some grey areas where fondling/stroking and mutual masturbation would be enjoyable, full swapping just isn't the plan for us. Would we be rather unpopular at clubs? Do the folks that enjoy the full experience ignore anything less? Surely it'd be assumed we were there for the full swap; what kind of reaction could we expect once we let on what our interests are? -
My girl and I are both bi. Now I am really into women, and would take woman any day over a guy, but I do like guys--well, cocks actually. My first actual sexual encounter was with my best friend when I was 12 & 13 and we were just discovering sex. We'd steal nude girlie mags and whack off together, which progressed to each of us taking turns playing the girl as we lubed up and pumped between each other's legs and ass. No actual penetration. Then we heard about blow jobs so we tried it out on each other. This lasted for about a year until we read an article on homosexuality. We were appalled. Neither one of us wanted to be queer, so that stopped. Fast forward a dozen years and I was married, in grad school in NYC and my wife and I became close friends with a gay guy-very nice looking, classy, with money and great sense of humor. My wife was a natural fag hag, and they became close friends. About a year into the friendship, she took off one weekend and left us to fend for ourselves. We had a bottle of scotch and wound up blowing each other. That started a relationship that lasted for almost a year until he got a real boyfriend, who got jealous and turned me in to my wife. I don't know why, but she didn't leave me. In any case, that was my first adult bi experience, and I was liking it, but again it stopped. About 6 years ago, mired in a sexless marriage, and getting internet savvy, I started hooking up with other a few net tramps (tramp being a good word and bi guys. I was amazed at how many bi guys there were. Finally, out of the marriage. I was introduced to my current girl. She had been into the lifestyle with her husband. She was bi. As the relationship progressed, I confessed that I was bi, too. She was curious how that would go and suggested a 3 way with another bi guy. I loved the idea and set it up. Since then, we've invited numerous bi guys to join us. She digs having two men take care of her and apparently gets turned on by the guys playing and blowing each other. So after this very lengthy introduction, I'm wondering how many couples like us are out there? How women feel about men doing each other and how many guys have done bi or are curious, and just general reactions to what I've written. There seems to be no problem with the girls getting it on, and I'm wondering if there really is no problem with the boys getting it on also?
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What Resort or Cruise would everyone recommend to expose my husband to live bisexual couples (male & female)? Live meaning the sex is often open to viewing. I know this may be a bit of a stretch but I figured it can't hurt to ask. -
We enjoyed the swinging lifestyle for a couple years, something we both highly enjoyed. Last year I was diagnosed with stage 3c breast cancer, resulting in both breast being removed, Would love to get back into the lifestyle as it was a very exciting part of our life, but very nervous about doing so. Would love to hear from others both that maybe have gone through it, or has a honest opinion as to how it will be accepted.
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20 years married and the lifestyle hasn’t been brought up. Wife wants a cruise and I brought up the adult and she thought about for a couple weeks and said yes but only soft swap I think you would call it? Said she would probably do oral and touching for us both. My question would this go over well in the community?
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We went to a house party last night at the home of some friends, some couples were familiar to us and there were a few new ones as well. A nice mix of folks looking for adult fun. One of the new couples brought another couple with them and it soon became apparent to me that their lady friend was somewhat mentally challenged. She seemed eager and willing to play, a very sweet young lady --but for some reason, I just couldn't get past the fact that she was handicapped. Hubby felt the same as I did, so we just didn't play with them. For us, I believe we handled it in a way that was courteous and allowed us to feel comfortable with the situation. However, others did play with her/them and I guess I felt, well - disturbed by it. Of course, those choices are not mine to make for others, I would never never never say anything to anyone for making such a choice. So the questions I have to pose are these: How would you feel about being in this situation? and if bothered by it, how would you handle it? Would you play with her/them? Am I wrong to be bothered by it? or to feel so strongly? A question for me to find the answer to within myself - if she had been attractive to us, would I have felt differently? Happy to clarify if others have questions back. I look forward to your words of wisdom as I believe we will run into this couple again. I just want to be able to handle it with grace in the future - and find a way to be ok with it.
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Is there any info on meeting bisexual couples? I just started thinking about trying it myself. My wife is Bi, it seems easier and more acceptable for woman than men.
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We were just at an on-premises club this weekend where a man was walking around in and playing in a thong. We heard a few people commenting on how that may have been unseemly for club wear or etiquette. Should guys be au natural under their pants or is a man wearing sexy at risk of ridicule, etc.
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We have noticed that more of the males in couples and the single males posting on different swinger sites are Bi. When did the increase in Bi men start to expand that it has become harder to find a straight couple? While I have no issue when they play straight, but we met a couple and he never said he was Bi and was trying to grab me while I was doing his wife. I was a bit shocked and not happy.
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My husband is finally home from his month long business trip and i've been showing him all the different swinger stuff that I found online. We were looking through profiles on SLS and one thing my husband noticed right away is that there are very few bi-sexual men. My husband is bi-sexual so we would want a bi couple. Almost all of the women had bi-sexual or bi-curious on their profile, but we didn't find any couples in our area where the man was listed as bi-sexual. Is this a common problem?
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A recent response got me wondering, how do you feel about poly? Does it scare you? Does it confuse you? Interest you? Does it make you want to shake your fist in the air and shout at the moon? Or are you ambivalent? Or have no feelings about it? For me, I'm interested in it and had a close encounter with it but knowing that it takes everyone involved to be comfortable with the idea, it had to be put on the back burner where it might stay forever.
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Is it just me or are there more posts about male bisexuality this month than before? This is like Christmas came late for my wife. She would love for me to explore her fantasy of me being with another man. Sadly I am a straight arrow. I would like to add that it is refreshing to see this put out in the swinging community. Where we are from there is a lot of bias towards bi men in the community. Most keep it to themselves to avoid harassment. Anyhow, happy Bi-male January. I guess bi is the new swinger male. I am sure I will be watching bi mmf porn tonight with my wife. Maybe next year honey...
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It seems that more and more people in the lifestyle are opening their minds to the old concept of "polygamy" and "polyamory." I suspect that in the history of mankind, sex in a polygamist or polyamorist relationship was more accepted and approved by people in general society than the last few hundred years. Even the Bible seems to accept having more than one wife for a husband as normal and rarely condemned, even by God. Having seen some of the reality TV showing Mormons and their history of marrying more than one wife at the same time has caught the interest and attention of many swingers and non-swingers alike. I therefore wonder if society is coming to a point where polygamists might be accepted with full rights legally in society just as it is doing now for the gay and lesbian society around the world. Will churches be supporting those group marriages like they do more and more with homosexuals in the church? Please share your thoughts on this situation.
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HI, We are a F/F lesbian couple exploring the lifestyle. We went to a club near us this past Friday and people were friendly. But we are wondering how well we will be received and what kind of results we will find. Are there many other F/F couples out there?
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A man that has E.D. has a problem, and he has only one (1) thing he can do about it and that is to get a Penial implant....Would the women accept having a cock hard anytime they asked for it ??
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Hello everyone. I am interested in everyone's views and impressions on the following situation. Mrs. and I have been married for over 20 years. We have been semi-active swingers for the last seven years--playing between 5 and 10 times a year as our family obligations have allowed. In the last year, Mrs. has been suffering with severe, clinical depression. The depression, and the drugs that are being used to treat the depression, have really done a number on her sexual interest. Meanwhile, for me, sex is a great stress reducer. And, her illness has really put me under a lot of stress. So, I have been extra, extra horny in the last several months. The difference in sexual desire is adding to an already very complicated situation. As an accommodation, Mrs. has repeatedly suggested that I go out and play with some of our friends without her. She is willing to tell anyone that she is completely ok with and has actually encouraged my playing separately. Setting aside whether I want to play without her (a lot of the fun for me came from us playing together), I am very uneasy about being "one of those guys" who is playing without their mate. I am curious what others think about this situation. Has anyone else been confronted by similar circumstances? Does anyone know anyone who has? What is your reaction generally to playing with someone under these circumstances?
