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We had been talking about having a MFM experience for quite some time in some away from home city, perhaps abroad. Our goal is for my wife to have her ultimate sexual experience as you know things "dry up" after more than a decade of same person sex (routine). We actually came upon an old friend recently divorced and someone we were both very comfortable with. Our staged MFM actually started over several glasses of merlot and a good meal followed by a visit to a handful of local pubs. We headed back to his place joking the entire way about all things sex. Our guards were all down and I asked my wife if she would consider a MFM with our friend. At first she nodded no... but as the conversation grew warmer she did not say no but "yeah that could be fun"... Fast forward as we were massaging her and slowly taking off her skirt to give her a massage our hands began cover her body. We stopped up and asked is this ok for each of us and we all smiled. I wanted to see where things went without me so I stepped out to get some water. As I returned he was kissing her thighs as he massaged her. I sat and watched until she asked me to join in again. I did and finally I started pushing the effort by removing her bra and pulling down on her panties while slowly glancing her pussy. She moaned as we took turns touch her pussy, rubbing and feeling the juices build up. I started kissing her breasts and our friend began licking her pussy finding her clitoris immediately sending her into ecstacy. She kissed me hard, almost as it was me giving her the experience myself. Her legs spread apart and I told her I wanted our friend to start and if that was ok. She said.. "Yes"... he positioned himself between her legs pulled down his pants, she leaned up and pulled down his underpants exposing his cock. He gently rubbed her pussy with his cock teasing her all the way. I slowly backed off sitting on her side... I joked about him taking the "bull" role. He smiled as he is smaller than me. I noticed immediately he took his role seriously, he was in heat as he probably had not had another woman since his break up. She looked to me and I smiled and watched, blew her a kiss and I told him to give her a great experience... he slowly began inserting his cock into her and she rolled her eyes and moaned. We never discussed protection as we knew each other so well. He began grabbing her ass and hips, squeezing and then grabbing her breasts super hard. I told him and her to speak dirty and loudly. Express themselves... both uncomfortable with the request it took a second then he started asking her how she liked it... he then started asking me if I liked seeing this... He asked her all were in agreement. He asked her "do you like my cock..?" "do you like it better than his" he asked? Tell me... he demanded an answer. She said..."yes I like cock"... "no do you like mine better than his?" as he pumped slowly but deeply. She "responded... yes... yes... I like the feel...". "what do you want...?" he asked her, she responded "to fuck me, fuck me, a fuck a baby in me..." My heart dropped as he pushed harder and harder. They then stopped as she clawed at the bed. I started to join back in and she pushed me away...saying her nipples were sore... he turned her over and rammed his cock into her again driving deeper and deeper.. he looks to me.."how do you like seeing me fuck her, I want to cum inside her" as he slapped her ass, She groaned... "more more.." as he fucked away. I stood like a zombie at their side. He summoned me over to look at his cock going into her back and forth... It was very erotic. She could not even see me anymore as he fucked her. He then slowed down and told me..."i am going to fuck in her in the ass..." something she would not agree to with me. I said.."is it ok"... he told me to shut up and he was in control... she looked at him and said.. "put it in..." and he started pushing into her ass. He pumped a few times going deeper each time, slapping her ass. OMG she said... and fell to her stomach where he prounced on her back his cock now in her pussy again. Fucking her like an animal in heat. She pushed me away as he grabbed her arms driving his cock into her. "you like this..." "yes"... she responded... breathing heavily... He asked her again..." is my cock great... what do you want from my cock that he cannot .." she moaned. "I will fuck you like a slut , a professional prostitute... I have never done that but can imagine how hard I would fuck them.." "yes" she said.."fuck me, fuck me harder, I would love to have your sperm in me, your seed..." Yeah you want a little "name withheld" to grow in you.." "yeah".. as he fucked her. She rolled over again and he took her legs and put them over his shoulders driving deeply again... he looks at me..."I am good at this... she really wants my cock.." do you want his? he asked her... She said no..."I only want yours please fill me with your seed, I love the feeling of cum in me..." He slaps her hips and then slows down... unleashing his cock in her. He slowly comes out, his cum pouring out of her, he then tells her.."aw come up here and suck my cock"... she does and licks as she cannot get enough of him in her. I sit there ... he heads to the bathroom, she covers up... keeping me a safe distance. He returns, and says "wow"... She smiles, heads to the bathroom looking a bit ill and worse for the wear. I wanted to talk about it but they were too exhausted. As we slept I was awaken by their conversation... she said.."I have never been treated like that before..." he said he had never done that before... and she said...he was like an animal in heat... his cock was so hard and felt so great and she has never ever felt so much cum in her before...I pretended to sleep when I felt the blanket move. He was moaning as she sucked on his cock again under the sheets. She hates blowjobs normally... as she jerked on his cock he pulls her up along side of him and slowly inserted his cock in her probably cumming again. Needless to say... the next morning was very very odd. We all kept a distance from each other.
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What the hell is wrong with single men in this lifestyle? My wife and I recently decided to seek out a single guy for some occasional threesome fun, and besides the usual morons who replied and bragged about being a “dominant bull” (GOODBYE!!!), we had a few promising replies who initially abided by what we stated we required. I (husband) do the initial screening, chat with the guy for awhile, where I set the ground rules, including that he’s already gotten all the pictures (G-rated) he’s going to get, and to show respect for my wife. I then have my wife communicate with him directly (her desire). Invariably, the guys then lose their minds, request naked photos, try to get sexually graphic, etc. They literally fuck up a free lunch, because they can’t control themselves. What the eff is wrong with these guys?? Abide by our rules, be respectful, and you can possibly have regular NSA sex with a gorgeous woman, but they still manage to fuck it up. <rant off>- 38 replies
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WTF???? Yeah so I'm only two years into this lifestyle...but STILL...I've seen it every time I go to a public swing club. Tonight it annoyed me to no end. I'm in a room...WITH THE DOOR CLOSED...AND A FOLD-UP CHAIR SORTA WEDGED IN FRONT OF IT and there are signs EVERYWHERE saying NOT to open closed doors. This fucking perv pushes the door open---looks in and says "Oh excuse me" I could see if he was WITH a woman--and he was looking for an empty room. But it was the same freak I saw walking around jerking off at every piece of ass he saw. THAT'S IT - I'm done. No more public clubs...only private house parties for me! These PATHETIC single men are annoying. -
So we are new to swinging for the most part. We've had some experiences in private with other males and females. We are very interested in going to a swingers club but also nervous at the same time. My husband is worried about boundaries being respected and possibly pushy men. We are a secure couple so that's not the issue, we just don't want to deal with that type of behavior. Is this a problem we might run into? -
The above came from a reply on an entry to my blog regarding an overly aggressive female at a M&G. Thinking about the question above I thought it was an excellent question, and worth sharing. We've definitely dealt with both, and both have left us running away to the point of trying to avoid them later. I had one aggressive male that became my shadow at a party to the point that I finally first had to say he needed to give me some space... and eventually had to just leave the party to get away from him altogether. While Pet has encountered plenty of crazy females that attached themselves to him, but this one was a bit different. She actually scared a guy we didn't think could be scared by anyone. I've also encountered overly aggressive women when I was a SF that actually had a lot to do with why I chose to not pursue swinging as a single. From my standpoint I'd almost say the overly-aggressive woman is worse, because women are often allowed to get away with a lot more and therefore not as likely to take a hint that they are acting inappropriately. -
A couple very close to us has contacted us via SLS. They probably live within 4 miles of us. The man describes himself as a Cuckold and he wants me or me+Leia to come fuck his wife while he watches. Is this safe? A few things come to mind 1. What if I can't perform with some perv staring at me while I'm working. 2. What if he's a weirdo and tries to axe-murder us. #2 only exists because he's being very pushy. Here's a sample chat Him: when can you come over, wife needs to fuck tonight Me: we would want to meet for coffee first and see if we even click, then maybe setup a playdate. Why don't you send some face pics so we can see you? Him: /sent pics Me: /sent pics Me: wow your wife is quite beautiful, I'll make sure to show to my wife when she gets home tonight, and if she's interested we'll email you for a good time to have a meet over coffee Him: Where is your wife tonight? Me: Why do you want to know where my wife is? Him: When will she get home? Me: (internally I'm kind of not liking his pushiness now and why he's prying so much into our personal lives) Me: She'll get home when she gets home, why do you want to know? Him: I just want to know if she agrees and likes my wife so she'll let you out Me: Look, we won't be able to swing anytime soon, we need to meet in person first and see if we even like each other Him: So what time will your wife be getting home? So I'm honored and excited he wants me or me+leia to fuck his wife, but god damn why is he so impatient and pushy? So that's why I have fear #2, he seems a little insane. Thoughts? Should Leia and I feed this guy? sounds like an easy lay, and his wife is gorgeous, (in pics at least). Should I fear for our lives? We're complete strangers to each other, and he's acting a bit odd. Thanks.
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In my past (pre-married, vanilla), I've struggled with being too much of a sexually inert, passive guy. I thought that being respectful of women meant that you didn't display your sexual interest in them. This, of course, had the side effect of making them uninterested in me because they saw me as asexual. Now that my wife and I are venturing out into the lifestyle, I'm working on purging myself of all the baggage that I've been carrying around. I don't want to make the same mistakes in the swinging world that I made the first time around in the vanilla world. It seems to me that there's a difference in someone who's sexually aggressive and one who's sexually expressive. I want to show off my sexual side, not act like a tool. So what are your opinions on the difference? Obviously, there are common sense things like "No means no", "Respect another couple's boundaries", "Don't be a stalker", etc, but I'm looking for something deeper than that. Women, when you're looking for a swinging playmate, what are the traits you're looking for? What draws you in? What makes you think "I want to hook up with this guy!" ? What kinds of behaviors turn you on and turn you off? What can a guy do to let you know he's interested in you? -
We just got a note on SLS from a couple that we've met ONCE at a social. We barely talked to them then other than the husband telling me that his wife really wanted to get with me (she had not spoken to me at that point). It gave me the feeling of one of those "oh your bi, then you'll do me" moments that I'm not so fond of. So we haven't ever really had any desire to connect with this couple. Our profile currently has posted that we are "away due to recovery from illness". So we get an email from them today asking how long we will be AWOL because they really want to meet with us and want to us to go away with them for a weekend in the mountains.... Is it just me or is that a bit forward on their end? Even if we might be slightly interested in them that would seem a bit forward to us... I could see it if it was a couple we'd hooked up with or at the very least had dinner with and confirmed there was a connection to follow on. But this is a couple that we haven't even really had a conversation with, and like I said I don't think the lady has spoken to us yet...
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We were at a club last weekend. We were in the hot tub and there were lots of other couples in there as well. My wife started dancing (nude). Another female decided to join her. Well, before you know, they are kissing and sucking each other's nipples and going at it. They moved over to the steps and kept up the action. Well another female that we know came over and joined in on my wife as well. It was very hot, but I guess it was a little too hot because alot of other people just thought that it was ok to just help themselves to some feeling and kissing. They were single males. I eventually had to break it up because more and more people were making their way over. It could have easily gotten out of control. Maybe I'm a party pooper but I didn't see anyone else offering up there wives for something like that. I mean, what goes through a guy's brain that just because these women are playing in an open forum that it's an open invitation for anyone. I guess it's the same with the meeting sites. We state specifically in our profile that pics are required in order to chat. I must answer about 10 emails per day without pics. These people for some reason believe that just because a woman is in the lifestyle, that she is desperately seeking any sex that she can get. But back to the club....I know I did the right thing but some people acted like I committed a crime or something. -
Do the ladies prefer Gentlemen or Cavemen?
Spoomonkey posted a topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
Okay - here's the thing... I am a gentleman... Maybe too much of one, but I am not sure - so I thought I'd ask you fine folks! When I am in a club, I am not uber-aggressive. I like to move slow, to make sure that I am not crossing any lines - that all of my "actions" are welcome. I can be aggressive - very much so - but the first time playing, I like to move a little bit slower. And, once outside of the playroom (say the next time I see a woman) I don't "assume" that I can bury my tongue down her throat... I tend to be a little more "reserved" about that. Now - the women I have played with twice get more of a "full sense" of spoomonkey - but at that point, I have a pretty good feel of what is okay and what's not. But here's my question - and I think it is a pretty good one... As a "swing wife" what do you prefer? Do you enjoy a more reserved guy who is keeping himself in check to make sure of what you like? Or are you more interested in a "take charge" kind of guy who goes for what he wants, letting you either enjoy or reject what he is doing? My instinct, having been in the lifestyle is actually the latter - that women like a guy to be a bit more aggressive. But - I wanted to hear from you guys. Help me gauge it. The perfect playmate is somewhere between gentleman and caveman. But... Where? -
Playing Hard to Get and Hurt Feelings
nice_cpl_n_bama posted a topic in Finding People to Swing With
Hi everybody, As you may have read, we went to our first house party last night. While it was overwhelmingly good there was one snag. There was a couple there we have played with in the past. Given my usual shyness I naturally made a move on the lady I already knew. She just gave me a kiss and wandered away. I took that to mean that she was really interested in someone else that night. I moved on to other interests. Laurie and I ended up spending most of the night with a different couple. The lady who seemed uninterested ended up leaving early. It turns out that she really likes to play hard-to-get and be pursued a bit. She apparently had hurt feelings because I didn't chase her. Laurie says the lady just had too much to drink while we were busy elsewhere and got depressed from it and that I shouldn't worry about it. I thought that I should sent an apology note. Laurie says that we didn't do anything to apologise for and once the booze wears off our friend will realize that hard-to-get is a plan that just doesn't work with me. So, should I go with the apology or listen to my wonderful wife and leave it lie? -
We had some old time friends over. And we always do g/g play with them. But the female half said she wanted to try more. But I did question that a bit. She just didn't seem ready and to me maybe never will be. I talked to my husband about it. But he just wasn't getting that same feeling. I told him I would hate to killl a good friendship. And he agreed. So we both talked to that couple over and over again asking them all kinds of questions. So even in doubting I went into the night with an open mind. I definitly wouldn't have minded a full swap night with them but I didn't want anything sour between us either KWIM. So of course the guys were kind of pushy about it at first but playfully. And she just seemed so unsure to me. But she does wear the pants in her relationship so I didn't worry about her husband pushing her just me and my husband. We have always been open about things we like and she knows we are meeting new people. So I just was worried she is trying to compete with others or something. She can get that way sometimes. So we started the night with me and her like normal. But then she moved to be with my husband. Which we have done soft swapping with them once. SO I thought things would be cool. But me and her husband were watching her and my husband for a bit will rubbing eachother. Well I guess she didn't want us to watch. Next thing I know she grabs me by the freakin neck and throws me at her husband cock! I was piss her husband was pissed and so was mine. I don't know what she was thinking. So we were like what was that! She was like well I don't want my husband to feel left out. He was like I wasn't. Ok so then we talk about it and move on. Basically I got her husband off and her and mine husband were still playing. SO me and her husband tried to watch again. And then she started saying more crap why aren't we doing this or that. SO then we are like you two want sometime alone or what. SO I went to the kitchen her husband went upstairs to use th bathroom. And she starting having fun with my hsuband gain yeah! Her husband comes back down and she starts playing with both. I'm happily watching all of this. That's one of my biggest turn ons. So then she starts yelling where is Jess blah blah. So I was like well I was watching. She starts saying how she wants me to fuck her husband okkkkkkkkkkkkk. SO I go up stairs to get some stuff and was on my way back down. She starts yelling at me. I finally just said ok you know what you are starting to piss me off and you really are making me uncomfortable. (I don't think she wanted her husband to see her and minehusband together) they are completely two different sizes her husband being the smaller one and she doesn't want him to feel bad. Also she has never been with anyone other than her husband. Ok so anyways I said you are making this uncomfortable for me and I am sure I am not the only one. You are just making this to hard and it's supposed to be fun. So of course silents hits the room I feel like the big elephant standing there. I go up stairs cause no one says a word. My husband follows me. I told him I was sorry probably shouldn't gone off like that. But I just couldn't deal anymore. And when I get like that I just blow. And he knows. He said he couldn't beleive how she was acting. It told him how I knew this wasn't a good idea and I was afraid of this. She is a really intess person when she is stressing. So we talked and I came back down stairs and told them I was sorry for what I said and how I said it. I truely was sorry for how it came out. I was just so uncomfortable. So we talked with them about how we felt of why she was acting that way. The talk went well. Then I asked to speak with her husband alone. Because her and my husband talk all the time they play around and goof off. They are just way more comfortable with eachother in general. Her husband is very quite and shy. So it was a nice talk. He told me alot of things I didn't know of how he felt. And I told him I need to hear things. I love to be talked to dirty and I need to know my boundries I can't just guess haha. We have known eachother for 2 years. So then I talked with her again one and one. And that went well. SO then we ended up having a pretty good night. I just had to share and get it off my chest. We have been with another couple and had a great time all around. And we just had such a hard time that night but it still turned out well. And we all could still hung and laugh in the morning together. They just really need to work on thier communication skills with us and eachother. She was very reserved though with my husband. And I hope she learns to loosen up and just let go a bit. But I think she is afraid of offending her husband. Becuase of this size. Which I have told it's a non issue for me and he does other things quite well anyways well thanks for reading my expeirence. Comments are welcomed.
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Hello.. My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for about 4 mos now. We have had 2 experiences so far. The first one was how shall we say...REALLY BAD. They didnt take there time with us, too push and to be honest, they just didnt do it for us physically. Its mostly our fault on the first couple I think. We wanted to do this so much that I think we kinda jumped the gun. The second experience was last sunday night. It was like night and day from the first couple. Really cool people, very attractive and for the most party, took things slow. OK.. so whats my problem? Well.. it has to do with the guy from the other couple. We where up front about everything before we met. We told them we where newbies and had a bad first experience. We told them the guy was too pushy and we also told them that we wanted to move slow. Well.. from the time that we got to their house to when we left, he was ALL OVER my wife. PAWING here.. touching her.. kissing her. I mean, i know thats what the lifestyle is all about.. but still why didnt he remember about the fact that we wanted to go slow. He knew we had a bad first experience and yet, I just felt he was too forward and pawy on my wife. As soon as we left and my wife and I talked about the experience we both said the same thing. Did he have to be like that the whole night?? Really.. we both said the same thing to eachother:) When we where actually having sex and involved with the other couple in the bed, it was awesome and it all good. He just didnt want back off afterward. I think there comes a point where you need to back off on new people. Give them some room, ya know. He should have started slow with my wife like i did with his... then slowly crank things up. Then at the end of the night when things where over, I think there should have been a cool down point as well. I mean, should he have been totally trying to make out with my wife as we opened the door to leave? People, if im way off base here, please say so, but offer advice to us. Dont flame. We really want to get the most out of this lifestyle. If im being too prudish or boring, let me know. I just feel that he went a bit too far and should have remembered our sitution(being newbies) alittle better.
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Hi, this is my first post, I'm very new to this (just registered at SLS 4 days ago). I have absolutely no swinging experience. I put up a profile as a single female at SLS saying that I was just curious about the lifestyle and wanting to look around before making contact. I mean, I went into my fantasies and put up pictures and all that...but I made it clear I'm just trying to decide whether I want to do this or not. ANYWAY, a man in his late 40's sent me an email and we did some instant messaging the day before yesterday. He does get me hot and bothered but he's into a lot of things that I just wouldn't be into. He tried to im me again yesterday and I didn't answer because he's a little too intense with what he wants and he's making me feel uncomfortable. When I didn't answer his im, he kept sending me emails ( like 5 or 6 )saying that I need to talk to him, that he's sorry if he scared me off, that he sees i'm online and at the sls site, why won't I talk to him. He tried to instant message me every couple of hours. Finally at about 10 last night, I answered and told him I didn't feel comfortable with the things he's into etc. He said he's sorry that we should just meet for a few minutes or talk on the phone. We ended up im'ing for a couple of hours last night but I told him I wasn't ready to talk on the phone yet and I didn't give him my phone number. Well, guess what just happened? He just now called me! He didn't even have my last name! I answered the phone and he said hi and I asked him who he was, he said his name and I asked him how he got my phone number. I had told him I was a real estate agent so he said he went through the real estate books until he found my picture and my cell phone number was there with it. It totally threw me that he did this, I feel very very uneasy about it. I only talked to him for a second and then told him I had to go. And I thought 'at least he doesn't have my home number', and just now as I was writing this he called my cell number again, I didn't answer and then my home phone rang and it was his same number. I am so freaked out right now. I have no idea how he found my home number. Is this something I should be concerned about or has this happened to anyone before? It seems so out of line to me. Any advice is much appreciated. -Jenniferblue -
Mrs. Beaverz and I are contemplating starting our adventures at a club sometime in the next year. We are obviously not familiar with the club scene and have some concerns about the typical behavior. We both would have a difficult time if it is common for men to take liberties (such as groping) without the consent of the women. We would hope that all the men would be gentlemen until the appropriate place and time. In the right setting we image it can be very erotic, but being new to this we would want to take it rather slow. We just don’t want to get in a situation that we’re not expecting. We would appreciate input from those that have experienced clubs and can provide some insight on typical behavior. I realize this may be a stupid thread, but we’re just trying to cover all the bases. -
Hey all! First off, great board. Its nice to have a resource to go to here for those new in the lifestyle. We have a question to ask the board, but need to do so anonymously , as it may be a delicate situation. So while we will try to provide details, we can't get too specific. To describe us, we are a younger couple (in our 20's), who are pretty new to the lifestyle. We are very much in love, and will be getting married this year. To describe our relationship, we are extremely in love, and consider ourselves to be equal in every respect. We fall on the exhibitionist side of the fence, and have decided not to play with others, as we have both decided that we wouldn't be comfortable with sharing each other. (but being watched is totally our thing!). Anyway, here's the short and sweet of our problem. There is this swing club we've been going to, and being a good looking young couple we get a lot of attention there. Well, we meet this professional photographer who is affiliated with the club, and he seems like an extremely nice guy (he also says that he and his wife are not swingers, he just does a lot of photo work in the community). Anyway, we offers to do a free photo shoot with us (he asked us, we didn’t pursue it), as long as we let him use our pics in his portfolio. So of course we think....score! We agree. He seems very trustworthy, and on his initial meetings with us he even gives us the inside dirt on who to avoid in the club, even though some of the people he tells us to avoid are friends and /or associates of his. We tell him we want not only hardcore pics, but regular ones as well....classy, artsy, what have you. But when he does the shoot, he only does the hard core pics, and steers away from the other kind (although we should have pushed for it, but we didn't). It was ok, but he does a lot of shots where the female half of us is featured (we'll call her Mary) and a lot of solo shots of her, and the few solo shots of him (we'll call him Steve) we had to really push for it. So basically the shoot was much more centered on Mary, when we wanted it to be more about us. That didn't make us feel 100% comfortable, as we are both beautiful and we want shots that feature both of us. I mean, granted they were free, but we didn’t ask for the shoot…he offered it and asked what kind of shots we wanted. Anyway, we think everything is all good, the pics come back great, and he starts emailing Mary. Again, its all innocent, but he is almost too nice. Plus he begins to lavish Mary with praise...so hot, gorgeous, huge fan, the object of everyone’s desires, etc etc. At first signing off his emails with Hugs, and eventually up to Love. Again, it seems innocent at first, but as it continues it just seems weird, but Mary (with Steve's knowledge...no big deal) emails back because there is nothing concrete to base our weird feelings on. We feel maybe we were being too suspicious. He then wants to do another free photo shoot (although he has the pics he needs), and when Mary tells him over email that we want the classy, non erotic ones we didn't get before, he steers back towards doing the hardcore stuff. Then, after making comment after comment about how gorgeous Mary is, but never saying anything about Steve (we are both very attractive), Mary comments in an email that she wishes more people made comments on Steve (and yes we understand that females tend to get more attention). Over the next couple of emails, he states that Mary is much more attractive then Steve and that creates an imbalance in the pictures, and that Steve should be happy to bask in Mary’s glory, and to just be happy that he gets to be with her. He also makes reference to him just being a 'prop' in the pictures. Of course we were offended. Its one thing to make a comment about one of us being attractive, as we both get compliments like that. Its quite another to basically compliment one person at the other person’s expense. Now we are aware that most guys are going to look at the female part of the couple, but the fact the he is a PROFESSIONAL photographer, making those comments was over the line we feel. Plus, we feel that neither one of us has to bask in ANYONE’S glory. We have too much self respect for that. We bask in OUR glory…it is not all about one person. That, and the fact that he keeps wanting to do more free photo shoots with us (when he already has a couple hundred pics of us), is just starting to get weird (like too much of a good thing…definitely a red flag). We are starting to think maybe he gives a lot of free photo shoots away to good looking couples, instead of just us as he mentioned, and that maybe he has other intentions. Again…we are both very secure in ourselves, but this just seems very strange. We were offended, plus looking back it sees that he was taking us under his wing (giving us dirt on others) a bit too soon, when he didn’t really even know us at all…for example telling us not to trust couples where they are just into single females or couples, and not single guys, because then they are probably swinging because the guy in the relationship is pushing things forward, not both (if it were both wanting to swing, then I guess single males would be just as welcome, by his logic). Thing is, before we decided that sharing was not for us, that’s the direction we went...single females or couples (Mary is bi). It just seems that he is trying to get on Mary’s good side, develop quick trust, and make it a Mary and him vs Steve sort of deal. So here's the question...are we both overreacting? Like we said, we both consider ourselves to be equal, and most see us that way. And in our pics, we like them to be of both of us, as we feel that being together is one of the most beautiful things in the world, because we are truly in love and we want that portrayed in our pictures. Its just that when we got that last email, about how Steve is ‘less’ then Mary, how he creates an imbalance in the pictures, how much of a fan of Mary’s he is, how Steve is basically a ‘prop’ for her in the pics, and that Steve should be happy with it and just live with it…taken along with everything else is just raising some serious red flags. If we aren't overreacting, what would be the proper response? We are probably just going to ignore him, and not answer any more emails. Or should we write him back and confront him? What does everyone think? Thanks for your help... Mary & Steve
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What do you do when someone uninvited crashes your playtime?
m & j posted a topic in forums_forum_29
What do you do when someone uninvited crashes your playtime? We were at a club and we were enjoying each other. We were the only ones in the jacuzzi room. A cell phone rang, and this guy came into the room to take his call in the relative quiet (which was ok with us). When the call was over, he walked over to the massage table I was laying on (face-down, hubby was busy between my legs!) and put his hand on mine. I shooed his hand away and he walked away. A little later on, we hooked up with a couple on the same massage table. The ladies on the table; one man at each end. Next thing I know there is a clothed male crotch grinding into my foot. I thought it was the male of the other couple. It wasn't. It was the same guy from before. My husband got a little torqued at him. Told him to scam, "...you weren't invited." The guy actually said, "oh it's okay." Hubby says, "no it's not" and he finally left. We're fairly open but want to have the right to choose who we play with. We don't prefer to participate in any kind of free-for-all. What do ya'll think?
