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I know you've probably seen this one before. If so point me there. If not please help us out. Here is the scenario. My wife has developed a serious crush on a male friend of ours, and would like to swing with him. His wife is hot and I'm completely in to her as well and would jump at the oppourtnity. The trouble is we don't know if they swing or would be into swinging. We see this couple regularly at parties, the baseball field and are kids play together. I know their relationship started with her having an affair with him on her ex-husband. Ultimately we value their friendship above all else and would want to do nothing that would jepordize their relationship together or ours with them. How should we approach the proposition of a swap with themor should we? -
My wife and I have been swinging for about five years. We have been experimenting new things which is great for both of us. I met a girl a about three years ago. Long and short of it we have all become close friends. Wife and I want to see if she will play. I have purchased her Victoria Secrets items, some very sexy. She loves it although have not seen her in anything yet. I took her on a very nice date for her birthday. It ended with a nice kiss good night. How far do we see if this will go? We don't want to come right out and tell her we swing, yet we want to give her signs that we want to pleasure her. Obviously we would not be pursng if we didn't feel there was a chance. Any ideas. Thanks in advance.
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I have single female friend that I've known for the last year and a half. We're pretty comfortable with each other and our kids play together on a regular basis. Over the last year I've had a couple of times when my 'playdar' has given a little bleep with her. Usually by something that she's said or a feeling that there is just something there that I couldn't quite put my finger on. You know what I'm talking about? Today we went out for coffee and were just talking, usual stuff, and she started talking about wanting to go to an event for a "meet & greet". I haven't been around too much to social events in the vanilla world but I've never heard this term used in any other format than swinging. So I asked her if she'd ever been to a meet and greet before. It might have been the way I said it but her body language and expression was kind of like omg did I say that? She didn't know about K and I and it was a reasonable response. She's very open minded and our relationship is good so I came out to her that K and I swing and had been to a M&G before. Come to find out that my friend, back in the days before she was married (and subsequently divorced) had led a very 'open' lifestyle. Interesting isn't it? *BEEP* *BEEP* When I told her that K and I swing and the parameters of our interactions with others she told me she had suspected something of the kind. So I invited her to come out with us some time to the club to enjoy an evening of dancing, a little wine, and (if she met someone she was interested in) a little play. She said she'd like to, just not right now. It's a busy time for everyone and I know that she's got some complications with her ex right now so I left it at an open invite. But that's also why I invited her, a little adult down time is sometimes just what you need. Her and I both really enjoy and respect our friendship (and that of our boys) and while we briefly discussed the possibility of a play date of the three of us we both decided that it is just that....a possibility. Why screw up a good thing? On the other hand, if our friendship takes a turn in that direction down the road it will (or will not) happen of its own accord.
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Hey everyone, I'm in a little situation and I need some serious advice. I'm friends with this couple. We're kinda like a family. I sometimes call them mom and dad. I'm 23. They are 50 and 52 years old. Okay, it all started one night when we were sitting outside. The husband was upset because he cooked dinner and nobody wanted to eat. I can understand that. Then I called him something "little". Don't remember, but then he said, "I've been called many things, but little isn't one of them." Then is wife looked at me and said, "I know, he's not little at all!" I felt that that was information that they needed to keep to themselves. Then he talked about working on the roof and his wife said that she didn't want him to work on the roof because he might fall and she didn't want to switch to electronic devices. She then turned to me and said, "I prefer the real thing." The husband said, "Oh, she just doesn't want to go out and buy a vibrator." I thought that was very unusual for them. Then another day, they had added some curtains in the bedroom. This involved moving around some pictures. I noticed that one of the newly placed pictures above the bed was really high. I asked the husband why it was too high and he replied "There might be a reason for that picture being so high." He was saying that the picture is high so it doesn't get in the way of them having sex. Soon after that, I told him that I didn't feel comfortable with the sex talk they were doing and that I felt it was a domestic issue. He agreed, but that didn't stop it. He told his wife about the "joke" he told me about the picture being too high. He said the picture is too high for no particular reason, it's just high. With that in mind, I was sitting near their bedroom (in the living room) and it is close enough to hear them speak and they know this. The husband asked the wife, "Do you wanna prove why the picture is so high tonight?" He had knee problems at the time and she replied, "Sure, but how's your knee?" "Oh, you don't need a knee for that." They said that right in front of me. Just the other night, the three of us went in the jeep to go exploring. We took the kind of flash light that you have to shake in order to charge the battery. Well while she was shaking her flash light, the husband said, "What does that remind you of?" Then the wife said, "Oh, you're so funny." in a cute way. Now this is the disturbing part. I got a phone call from the husband yesterday afternoon before I was to go back to school and he told me that the wife mentioned my name that she probably wasn't mad at me but she was mad at him. I haven't done anything and wondered why. First of all, his knee is bothering him again and with his knee hurting, he wasn't in the mood to have sex the previous night. Well she got mad at him and told him that she bet he would get in the mood if it was me (personally) there and not her. Later that day, I went to visit them, like I usually do when going back up school, and acted normal as if I hadn't heard anything. As I entered the house, the wife couldn't make eye contact with me. It was only when I said, I'm about to go that she was able to even look at or address me. I can't help feeling that they got together on this phone call idea to tell me that. Perhaps that is why she couldn't look at me. I don't know what the hell is going on. Please give me some advice!
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Here's the overview: We're having a house party pretty soon and have invited 3 couples. We all plan on spending a lot of time in the hot tub after having dinner and some drinks (no suits allowed, but nothing further has been discussed). One of the couples (call them couple A) are pretty good friends of ours and the guy told me recently that they are interested in swinging (not specifically with us, but in general). Another couple (call them couple B) are our neighbors that we have become friends with. The other couple (call them couple C) are friends of my neighbors that we are getting to know and would like to become friends with. On a recent gathering during a conversation, couple C mentioned that they were friends with a couple that swing. Unfortunately at that time, I wasn't able to get more specific information or talk to them further on the subject. I got the feeling however that they may swing themselves. So the evening has potenial for a lot of excitement. Couples A & B are pretty open minded, and from what I can tell couple C is also. Now the questions and concerns: My SO is not attracted to the guy in couple A, but has some attraction to the men in couples B & C. She is not Bi-curious. Otherwise, I'd say there's some attraction between all of the couples. My main concern is how to either bring up the subejct, or how to play it out so that playing becomes a strong possibility. The subject of swinging has never come up with couple B, and I don't know couple C well enough. I would like to just bring up the possibility, but I'm afraid of offending couples B & C. I definitely need some guidance on this as it is new to me. I appreciate any info.
