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We just started talking to this couple online. When we are talking about ourselves, she says she is 8 weeks pregnant. That took us a little off guard. She says she will play until she is fat & no one wants her. That really didn't do it for the hubby or me either. When I was pregnant we totally quit swinging. I know some men are turned on by a pregnant woman, but what about women? I'm not saying they aren't sexy or anything. I felt extremely sexy when I was pregnant, except when I was 9 months pregnant in June when it was over 100 degrees with Oklahoma nasty stick heat, lol! Basically what we are wanting to know is people's opinion on swinging with a pregnant woman. While, I am pretty sure we never would, (unless we didn't know) everyone has their own opinion & we would love to hear them ! Thanks!
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I thought I'd lighten up the topic forum by asking, "What special something is it that ladies do to prepare before a special play date?" If you're a lady, share your secrets If you are a guy and so one of the lucky beneficiaries of sexy beauty secrets what are some of your favorites you seen or experienced?
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Been out of the loop for a bit and finally back in... attended my first big event in several years. The one thing that really struck me was the complete imbalance in presentation between males vs females. 90%+ of the females dressed to impress (even if they didn't dress to theme - which, of course, most did - it was Naughty Schoolgirl night), yet less than 10% of the men bothered to even dress nice (not even talking about dressing to theme, but just not in shorts and a tank top). My theory (please feel free to dispel it) is that most of those couples were there just for the girls to play and thus the guys did not feel any need to impress. About half of the guys who did bother to dress nice were single guys and actually made the statement to me that "I'm single I know I have to do more to stand out" (well played). As a woman who is there to play with guys (as much, if not more than, to play with women) it irks me that guys don't make an effort. It's a huge turn-off to see guys looking like they aren't doing anything more than running errands on a Saturday afternoon. I'd love to get ya'lls thoughts on this dichotomy, and find out if other women are seeing the same thing.
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So many attractive women with husbands who are out of shape. My wife and I are in our late 40s. Ok, I’m in my early 50s. We both exercise regularly and for the most part eat pretty well. We have met many couples where the wife is hot only to find that the husband has never exercised a day in his life. I’m missing out on many beautiful women cause my wife isn’t taking one for the team. She doesn’t care how great of a lover they are or how many times they can make her cum, she still has to find them physically attractive. Not looking for ken and Barbie but guys, please, I’m begging you, get to the gym! Lol.- 24 replies
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One thing that is puzzling to me is the apparent lack of effort by many men in the lifestyle. The lack of effort takes many forms-- scant number of photos on profiles, god awful appearance and overall creepiness. Why, as a guy, do I care? Well it's limiting my choices! Case in point-- in reviewing profiles on line, I can't tell you how many I have come across where the guy looks like a total schlump. That breaks the deal right out the gate and is a shame as a number of these schlumps have attractive wives who do try. I personally am trying not to fall into that category and make myself presentable. I am also very selective with the photos I post. We also try to post a good variety of photos instead of 87 boob shots, 114 photos of the "better" female half, and one fuzzy picture of the male. It's a team game and everyone has to want to play. Men who play the schlump role are killing me. Schlumps knock it off!! For those who do it right-- keep it up!
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Okay, this has been a bit of a theme since the beginning. Please excuse the rantish and douchey sounding component and please feel free to relate your thoughts and experiences and observations along these lines. SO DAMN SICK of couples where one partner is a 7, 8, 9 and the other is a 3, 4, 5. How can "hot couples 2+2 attraction" and action occur when an AUTOMATIC take one for the team is in place because ONE of the four is woefully underwhelming? And that take one for the teamer is usually my wife. It's why I keep telling her "Please let me find you a super sexy sane single who happens to be a 9" so he and I can spit roast you to a quivering O fest that leaves no stone unturned, or better yet send you out alone. Nope, bless her, she wants me to interface my gifts with another couple's female "strange" and won't play ball on the MMF...YET! We, as a couple, are what we like to think of as a "near-perfect 15". But the formula is what's key: We add up to our 15 by EACH of us being a solid 7.5....not by her being a 10 and me being a 5 with generous judging. (My wife claims I'm a 9 due to being tall, full head of hair, with a runner's build and a great witty wit. And here I was thinking it was my majestic, magnificent member.... I claim she's a 10 due to her tall, willowy, slender build, beautiful smile, high IQ, and magic vibrating Kegel tunnel that tastes like honey, tickles like a feather, and sucks like a Dyson Dickilator). But I digress. What's with so many LS couples where there is one partner (usually the female) who is put together, attractive, hwp, interesting, engaging, aging incredibly well, and just downright SEXY. And the other partner (usually the guy) who is, well, cripes, gone to seed, poorly dressed, rarely flossed, schlumpily attired, dull at conversation, and in many cases presumptive that my wife will be interested in him just because his wife is hot. Aaaaarrrrgggg. Are we just unlucky, or is this why so many of the girls in the LS love playing with the other girls? We've been to many LS parties where we've seen Uneven after Uneven after Uneven couple. Guys...here's a hint. Untucked shirts don't hide beer belly shelves. End of douchey, partially tongue in cheek, frustrated rant. Feel free to pillory me, or chime in with your observations here. -
I am a single male and whenever I try to start a conversation with a couple through a personals ad everything goes well (I would like to think I am a very easy to get along with guy) until we exchange photos. Now in my opinion I am a attractive guy but far from special...just an average every day guy. I was once 300 lbs so throughout my younger years my self-esteem has taking a huge blow. I have lost a good amount of weight but still seems like my appearance is the ending factor in conversations. Is it possible I just run across fakes who are only wanting pictures? If anybody would like to see what I look like I would really appreciate an honest opinion. Only G-rated pics out of respect unless you ask otherwise. -
As you know I have posted a couple threads about the trials and tribulations we have had being a "she's hot, he's not" couple. Well this is sort of similar but different. We had a interesting phenomenon occur at a club we attend the other night. Just a little background first. My wife is very good looking and she spends a large amount of time and effort in getting all dolled up before we go out and when we walk in the club the heads do turn. However we go home empty handed 75% of the time and we hardly ever have people approach us and only once have we ever gotten an offer to play from someone else. The few times that we have played we were the ones making the proposition. Anyway, the other night we took a single fem guest with us and she was nicely dressed and well groomed but she is quite plain and a little overweight. She is very nice and sexy but not runway model material. We only knew a few people at the club that night and while my wife stayed at the table with a few friends I took our guest around to show her the club and make introductions. What is weird is while we were walking around people were coming out of the woodwork to meet us and many were blatantly flirting with us and hitting on us. That has never happened before when my wife and I mingle (and we do mingle). Now we never once introduced our friend as a single fem and most of these people were folks we have never met and they couldn't have known that she was single or known that we were not together as a couple (we did not portray ourselves as a couple but people didn't give us the chance to say we weren't either). Afterwards I was telling my wife about it and she thought it was just coincidence but the differences were too striking to just be coincidence. I suggested we experiment and that we should go to the club with her really "toned down" but me as polished as usual and she thought I was nuts. I guess my questions are, am I just imagining this or was it just a fluke or is this for real? Are people more comfortable approaching and flirting with a couple that is more or less plain looking rather than a couple with a "hot chick?" and finally, have any of you ever gone to a club and just dressed very plainly and with minimal make-up and primping? And if so, what was the outcome? Common sense would say that the hotter chick would garner the greater amount of offers and attention but my experience in being with a pleasant plain-Jane was completely different. Any thoughts?
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Since we've been involved in this lifestyle we've noticed that it seems there are 2 unicorns. It is possible that this 2nd unicorn is only scarce geographically... The widely known single female AND the attractive couple. Seems attractive husbands are hard to come by, I think I would be safe to say that in the 10 years or so we've been going to events and meeting people I have only met 10 attractive husbands. This is a high estimate, I can't actually remember 10 that I can count can only remember 4 off the top of my head but hands down I can recall at the very least 30 very beautiful women. Women that would be beautiful or hot in any lifestyle. The men on the other hand are looked at on a sliding scale based on what else is available in comparison. These aren't men that I would even notice outside of this lifestyle. Wonder if anyone else has noticed this....? Or possibly if this just might only be the case where we live? I've always noticed this and hubby and I have had many talks about it, but this past weekend we went to a party and met a couple that jokingly referred to us as the OTHER unicorn and when we asked them what they meant, they said a couple where BOTH the hubby and wife are hot. Which led me here to bring it up to all of you. We're taking it one step further and saying that it is not just a hot couple that's hard to find, but that hubbies in general in our experience are normally downright ugly, at this point am grateful for average with a good personality and a decent body. Hubby wondered once if we had ever met a hot hubby with an ugly wife and the answer is NO! I think men are more visual and wind up with the best that they can get where as women connect on other levels and can look past appearance but let's be frank here, in this lifestyle I don't love these men (like their wives), so attraction is a must and your hot wife is not your ticket to ride all the rides It is good for me that chemistry isn't solely based on appearance because I have NEVER been with a man that I was immediately physically attracted to besides my husband and I don't see any light at the end of the tunnel
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This post is going to use a lot of labels and stereotypes in the quest gathering information so please turn off the PC filter and share your thoughts openly and maybe we can all seek some useful knowledge together. A couple days ago I referred to someone as a nerd and I passed it off as ok for me to say that since I am a nerd too. Always have been always will be ( I most closely resemble Gilbert from the original 'Revenge of the Nerds' movie). Anyway, I got to thinking and it dawned on me that a lot of the people I have encountered in the lifestyle could also be classified as nerds. Before we got into the lifestyle I had a preconceived notion that the swinger community would be made up primarily of the jock/stud category of men and the cheerleader/beauty queen category of women. What I have witnessed in real life is far from that. Most of the men I have seen have not been smooth talking ladies men at all and have not been players at all or even necessarily that socially comfortable or outgoing. I have come across a few single males that are totally players and probably score a lot in the vanilla world as well as the lifestyle but they have been the exception. Many of the male halves of couples I have seen have been quite passive if not downright socially awkward and uncomfortable. Ditto for the ladies. some have been physically beautiful and reasonably charming but most have been just ordinary folks and not a stereotypical cheerleader type at all. And while many of the single males have fit the jock/stud mold, the single fems I have met in person have been the opposite and many probably struggle for a date in the vanilla world. So I guess my question is, are any of your observations similar or different from what I have described? Please share your thoughts and observations on this. I often hear discussions regarding cliques and such within the lifestyle and I am wondering if this is yet another battlefield between the jocks/cheerleaders and the nerds or is the lifestyle a place where the nerds truly do outnumber the jocks?
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In the Top 100 thread on certifications someone posted the following comment: How many others feel the same way about this? Obviously most will not get in touch with a couple that doesn't seem attractive to them, but are there many of you that are reluctant to approach a couple because you think they are "out of your league"? My wife and I are a bit younger than most and many find us quite attractive. While we do want to find our potential playmates attractive... this is of course a subjective thing, and for us, physical beauty is a plus but not even close to our top priority. We're actually quite open to playing with partners that are 10-15 years older and not of the same physical body type as us. For example we both find women on the curvy side far more appealing than gym rats. Being fit is fine, but too thin is actually a turn off. I'd hate for a couple to pass us over because they thought we were in a different "caste" than they are. What's your experience? Do you regularly contact couples that are outside of your own age/shape/looks bracket? Dante -- YoungMauiCouple at SLS -
"Beautiful People Only!" Swing Clubs/Groups
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Anyone encountered this "Beautiful People Only!" thing? Anyone been to one? Thoughts? Reactions? Feelings on the subject?
