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Husband Upset at Lack of Opportunities because of Kid
UnsureFuture15 posted a topic in Swingers Talk
We've been in the lifestyle on and off for six years. Stopped during pregnancy and first two years of child's life. Lately he's been getting mad that we can't swing every weekend. When we discussed getting back into the lifestyle, I said maybe one to two weekends a month. He agreed. Now he gets angry that we get messages about parties or guys that want to meet up, but we can't because his mom or my mom can't babysit overnight on short notice. Our mom's are great babysitters and love to, but I don't think it's fair to call them Saturday morning to ask if they can have a sleepover Saturday night. Also, my husband won't ask his mom, so I have to. The example that has me livid with him occurred last night. Him "so my mom can't babysit tomorrow night? " Me "no, she has your niece all day tomorrow" Him "well did you ask?" Me "no, because she said 'I'm going to be exhausted Saturday because I'm going to have ivy all day. So it'd be hard to have a sleepover'" Him "well you should ask her" Me "why? " Him "there's a party tomorrow night" Me "I don't want to pressure your mom if she has ivy scheduled, especially since your mom is having a sleepover with our daughter next weekend. " Him "fine, whatever. Don't you know anyone else who can babysit?" Me "my parents are our of town. Your sister can't (she has a heart condition), can you think of anyone? " Him "no, I guess our night is ruined. " Me "when my sister is back from overseas she can." Him " that doesn't help us right now, does it? " Me "sorry" From that point on, he didn't talk to me for the rest of the night. He was the one who wanted to start trying for kids when got married and now he's mad that we can't swing every weekend. I don't trust non family babysitters. Next weekend, I'm suppossed to take him on a ghost investigation for his birthday, but I feel like I should just cancel it so he can plan some swinging thing since that's all he cares about anymore. Am I overreacting in his behavior last night? Thanks in advance. -
Like many we have met through the lifestyle, we are parents of a younger child. We agreed we would never have an encounter at our house, mostly because we don't want our son knowing our business. He's too young to stay by himself all night, so we are always looking for sitters and people to watch him while we go out. We don't have any family in the surrounding area, and there's other problems with that too... Hence, we're feeling a little aggravated; not at our son, but at the lack of availability of decent sitters... What we have found, is that the only people we feel meet our prerequisites, are other swingers. (The fact that they understand our situation is an added bonus, and might even help reduce the cost of the hotel if we split the same room.) So we're tempted to offer to watch their kid(s) one night if they will watch ours the next, and this would probably work well since we live closer to where the clubs are than many we have talked to. (It's a Texas thing...) But we still feel apprehensive about it... How would other parents feel about letting a couple you know swings watch your kids? It's a given, they would have to be decent people, but that's usually not a problem with swingers... Would you be willing to trade off nights, provided it was convenient for both couples, of course? Does anyone know of any alternative or have any suggestions for finding someone to watch the kiddo? Thanks,
