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We desperately need expert help!! We are going to a really big party in 3 weeks... it's a party we've been looking forward to for over a year. A TON of super hot people are going including about 10 couples we've talked to and/or briefly met, but desperately want to spend more time with. A few of them have even invited us to pre and after parties! Well, here's the problem: In addition to all these couples we really want to focus on meeting, there are 3 couples going that we're good friends with. We really like them, but they tend to be reserved and clingy. We worry that they will be shy and want us to be their introductions to people and/or expect that we will just be available to play with them. We hate to say this, but we don't want these other couples messing with our mojo and dragging us down. We want to be super social butterflies that flutter from here to there to there without any reservation or baggage. We don't want to ignore or offend these other couples (we love hanging out and playing with them on private dates) but we also don't want to have to worry about watching over them, making sure they are having a good time, worrying that they are being left behind, worrying that they are upset that we're not giving them more attention or inviting them to parties that we're being invited to. Hey, maybe we'll be the ones that aren't having any luck meeting new people and they will, and then we'll wish they were bringing us along... the shoe will be on the other foot. So, what would you do in this situation? Would you hint in advance that you'll be off on your own, doing your own thing that may not include them? Would you wait it out and see if they are clingy and then try to find a way to hint that you want to do your own thing (this is SUPER hard and didn't work for us last time with one of these couples that REALLY wanted to play with us at a party). Or, are we acting like high school kids trying to be too popular at the expense of others and we should include our friends in the stuff we do? -
We just got back from our favorite lifestyle resort, where we encountered a unique situation and are hoping for some dissection here. The resort we frequent is outdoor, fully nude, and very lifestyle/sexual. This weekend's weather was bad, so there were few couples. We were hanging out in the jacuzzi when a new couple arrived. They had a room next to the jacuzzi, and after settling into their room, they joined us in the water. We started chatting with them, and seemed to have a good connection. We were both attracted to them, and seemingly them to us. After a couple of hours of talking, we asked them if they would like to go to dinner with us. They said they would. Meanwhile, several other couples joined us it the jacuzzi and we were all chatting. At some point we went to the pool to cool off a little, and stayed there for about fifteen minutes. While we were there, we noticed "our" couple clothed and heading out for dinner. We decided to go out then as well, and dressed and left. We got to our favorite restaurant (about half a mile away) and the other couple was there. They called us over to their table and invited us to join them, which we did. We had good a conversation with them over dinner, then left to go back to the resort. After we got back, my wife and I went to the playroom and had sex before going back to the jacuzzi. When we got to the jacuzzi, another couple complimented us on our energetic lovemaking, and basically gave a play-by-play account to everyone else. From here, the evening got weird for us. The couple we liked was chatting with another couple a lot, and we kept trying to remain in the conversation, but seemed to keep talking to their backs. After awhile, they started talking about going to the pool to cool off. We left, saying we'd get the migration started. After hanging out in the pool for about half an hour by ourselves, we went back to the jacuzzi. The minute we got there, the two couples left the jacuzzi for the pool. We stayed for awhile talking with another couple, and later the four of us decided to go back to the pool. Again, the minute the we got there, the other couples left for the jacuzzi. At this point we were checking each others breath and looking for obvious problems. Later, we were back in the jacuzzi and saw "our" couple with the other couple in one of their rooms. Our feelings were not hurt by this entire interaction, because we go to have great sex with each other in a fantastic environment, which we did several times. Hooking up with other couples is just icing on the cake. We were, however, confused by the sudden rude treatment from a couple that we had a seemingly good connection with. A couple of additional facts. The couple we liked had lifestyle experience, but no nude experience. We have lots of nude experience but much less swinging experience. The couple that "our" couple ended up with also had no nudist experience. In fact, both couples remained in robes whenever out of the water. Also, we have been to this resort many times, and are good friends with both the owners and the staff. Both other couples were there for the first time, and had flown in from distant places. We analyzed this experience on the way home and each of us had a different take on the sudden change. Dr H (Mrs) believes that the public sex display on the playbed was the instigator. To support this is the fact that neither couple seemed to be that comfortable being publicly nude, and may have extended that belief to public nude sex. I (Mr H) think that they simply decided they had more in common with and/or liked the other couple more. Neither explains the sudden rude snubbing, however. Any thoughts?
