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I was just replying to LM's old thread about lowering your standards and it got me to thinking about the various times we've met people and talked with them only to decide they just weren't our cup of tea. There have been a couple of times where we either did (or would have) given them a second chance... mainly because we got that feeling of "we're being too picky", so we met with them again and again there were just things we couldn't get past. For example.... - one couple has an issue with discretion - they like to name names - another couple, the first time we met them the guy talked so much about himself and the places they go, etc that we thought they were full of themselves. In both of those cases, we tried again only to run right back into the same walls that knocked us out the first time. It has left me wondering if it's worthwhile to even give a second chance and thinking we should just trust our guts on first impressions. That said, there was one couple we would have liked to have given a second chance (after he got way too drunk at our first meeting) but we approached it badly and lost that chance... and it may have been a good thing, but we'll never know. So do you ever give second chances to people after you meet them the first time and your gut instinct says "it's not gonna be worth it".? -
I work part time in an off premise swingers club. So this may give me a small insight into this. We have certain rules that singles must adhere to. The main rule is that all singles (females included) must remain at the bar unless invited to a table/dance/play pool. That being that. I see the singles body language alot. Crossed arms, slumping in chairs and the worst of all...poorly dressed. Just by showing up is no a guarantee of a "sure" thing as most first timers seem to figure out. (Not a sure thing for us a couples either!) Take a look at yourself. Would you pick yourself up? You have to also be able to join in a conversation when it presents itself. And be able to carry a conversation. This also applies to alot of the couples that come out also. We try to dress nicely each time we go out and we like the people we deal with to be like that too. Didn't even get to the point of taking a shower before going out. And I droll on..... You only get one shot at making an impression:sad:
