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I was just in a thread about a guy who is confused about his feelings. The thing that caught me off guard was that he commented about the other husband being abusive to the other wife if she didn't agree to swing. What would you do if a wife told you she was forced to swing? I feel confident that most would not play with that couple, but I guess not so much what would you do, but how would you handle it? Being a strong independent woman I couldn't imagine allowing a man to force me into a situation by abusing me. But then again, I took a lot of verbal and emotional abuse from my ex, so maybe I would. Would you feel somewhat responsible to somehow help this woman, or if the shoe is on the other foot, the man? Sub/Dom and cuckolding relationships aside, assuming they are mutually agreed upon, is there anything you could or would do? -
Why do some men try to force their wife to be bisexual? I had a couple instances where men have tried to get me to "turn out" their wife. One of the most recent told me she was Bi, and arranged for us to meet. Turned out not only was she not Bi she had no clue who I was, nor why I was there. When I questioned him he said he thought I'd seduce her. I left, and blocked his number. Another couple met with me and the woman was very affectionate when her husband was there but didn't want to be touched when he wasn't there, as she wasn't Bi at all. She was playing a roll for him. I was embarrassed and left. So why do some men try to force something that's not real? Wouldn't you be concerned it could damage your relationship? -
Hello Everyone, I joined this site yesterday because I don't know where to turn for advice or just to get make sense of what is going on. I've been with my partner for 7 1/2 yrs, I love him dearly and would do anything for him, he's my world and I have always put him first. When we got together, a few months into our relationship he told me he visited swinging clubs when he was married and the reason he did this was because his sex life at home was boring. He assured me that was his past and in me he had found the perfection he had been looking for. Our relationship was great, sex life was brilliant, and nothing could possibly go wrong. A few months later I noticed he was heavily into porn, constantly downloading porn, I wasn't concerned because I thought he's not doing anything behind my back and porn was ok. The relationship suddenly started to take a downwards turn, he became secretive and lied about his whereabouts, he'd put locks on his phone and computer, he'd set up various email accounts, bought new sim cards for existing old phones. It became very messy and difficult for me to trust him and to pull our relationship back to what it was when we started out together. We split up 3 times over the years and a lot of it was influenced by him meeting people behind my back and being secretive, the lies, etc. I had him back every time because of my love for him. He'd come back saying he'd made a mistake and loved me and didn't want swinging but little did I know that it continued like an addiction. Eventually I decided to give it a go because I didn't want to lose him but by now he'd got involved with a girl he'd met on a swinging site and they had become a couple unbeknown to me and again he left, that was two years ago. He threw himself into swinging full on with the girl and before too long became bored and came back swearing he would never want it again because he'd had enough. We got back together and this time I dipped my toe. My first experience was with a couple at their home, it didn't go as I thought it would and I was left very upset by the experience. We tried again a few weeks later and it was okay but the male party playing with me couldn't get it up. A few weeks later we started going to swinging clubs, however this left my partner angry and frustrated because I wouldn't initiate anything and I was too picky about who I would have sex with. Last year we went to a sex club and it was very busy. My partner saw a couple he liked the look of and encouraged me to stand next to them hoping we would play. There were couples having sex all around us and my partner was physically shaking like an alcoholic wanting his next drink or a drug user wanting their next fix. I was shocked at my partner's physical reaction. I didn't realize it was like an addiction for him. Anyway we didn't play and he came home in anger and low and behold he finished with me a few days later. A few weeks later we tried to make us work again and even went to Relate but he told me not to bring up the swinging. Relate helped us to communicate more. Four months ago I lost my father and traveled abroad to his funeral. When I came back partner was kind and caring but he changed again last month. I agreed for him to go to sex clubs on his own as long as it didn't affect our relationship because I desperately needed his support right now. The past two weeks have been hell; he's distant, unloving, uncaring, avoids me, and has decided to tell me that he was having sex with couples at sex clubs whilst I was attending my fathers funeral...that hurt like hell! He told me he'd been meeting couples whilst he's been away on courses whilst I've been grieving for my father and he may as well find someone who is more compatible to him and maybe a 'fuck buddy'. I couldn't hurt more right now. I'm devastated and don't know what to do. Two days ago I was tidying the cupboards where partner keeps his paperwork and other bits, I found a phone I'd not seen before and on switching it on I found he had been sleeping with men, women, and couples since he split with me last year, during the counseling, and whilst I was at Dad's funeral. He has had a fuck buddy since last November. I don't even know what to feel right now because I'm so numb. I am hoping someone could try and understand whats going on with my partner and us and give me some advice.
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We met a seemingly lovely couple for drinks and dinner. He was a friendly, but chest-thumping alpha male who jumped in to answer for his wife every time we asked her a question. Eventually I ask her what her first experience in the lifestyle was like and she said "oh I don't remember it". He jumps in and says "oh yeah - it was great! We went to a bar and I got her plastered, then picked up a guy and had him f&%k her while I took pictures. Those are the shots on our profile!" I asked her how she felt about those very graphic pictures and she said "I've never seen them. I've never even looked at our profile" When I followed her to the bathroom she wouldn't make eye contact with me or really talk at all. I asked how she felt about "all this" and she said "I guess I'll have to get used to it". Yikes.
