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Question for one and all. What sort of foreplay (If any) do you usually indulge in with your swing partners and how is that foreplay different from what you would perform on with your regular spouse/SO.
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I’m coming here for some advice about about something I’m not sure if I’m overthinking... We’ve been kind of dating/seeing a girl who I have yet to have a sexual connection with. I’ve been her only female experience, and we’re still working through lessons. My husband has been head over heels for her since we all met, which caused a lot issues between us then. Things have gotten much better, and I feel more comfortable with everything. I’ve been BI my whole life pretty much, so this patience and teaching is pretty big for me because I don’t get the full experience all the time. One boundary we have is no penetration with the other girl (there’s reasons for that). Anyhow, every time we’re together, whether in bed or not, I feel like a lot of foreplay is with her, I’m just there to have the penis in me, and the fact that he says I’m dry, well no shit, I have to push him for some sexual attention, and that’s a turn-off for me. It’s so frustrating because I’m normally not when I’m sexually aroused. He always opts to touch her, kiss her, and very passionate. I have to force us to kiss, or force his hand to touch me too, I like that stuff too. He’s very much aware of that, I have a soft, and sexy waxed vagina too, that I’m sure I could get a lot of attention and play. It feels like sometimes I’m there as the middle person to gap the bridge between them, and it’s taking a toll on my emotions. I don’t want to cause an argument, but I’m not feeling good about this, but want to make sure if I’m overthinking anything. -
About Us: My wife & I met 6 years ago when we were 30. Right away we both connected, she was smart, gorgeous and shared many common interests. I thought to myself why is a woman like this single there has to be a catch. After a few days, weeks she opened up to me and told me she had an anxiety issue (which was noticeable but not OCD) and she was a virgin still. My now wife had many boyfriends but nothing serious and was waiting for that special someone. She has however had oral with another woman 2 years before we met. I was very patient and helped my wife get over her anxiety issues (without meds), and respected her "no sex" wishes. My wife had no problem with nudity over the years but very basic hands-on foreplay during this time. Fast forward 3 years and I was that special someone, my wife was now no longer a virgin! At first things were great she was curious and we had sex countless times a day, week, month. All positions, all places there was nothing stopping her. The Problem: During this time that we started having sex I noticed she wasn't into "foreplay". She was more of a hands on woman, and didn't like to use mouth. She is also extremely ticklish all over her body so me going down on her was also out the question, I was only allowed hands-on also. Then came rules, never ever under any circumstances will she ever do Anal, and she doesn't like "doggie style". She was more of a 3 position woman. My wife (I think) has major anxiety over having an orgasm that she won't admit to me. She doesn't like the "pee feeling" and when she squirts (which is often when I am on top of her) she doesn't like getting the sheets all wet. When she is about to orgasm she locks up. - When I am on top of her she closes her legs and/or locks her hips which hurts me - When she is on top of me she has her bum so high in the air it feels like I am falling out of her 80% of the time, I don't enjoy it and go soft - We can do scissors/sideways but after awhile her legs get tired At this point I am not enjoying our "sex experiences" and tried to talk to her. My wife informs me that she believes that she missed out on "experiencing and exploring" sex in her teen years when all her friends were doing it. So I take a few ideas off the top of my head to try and help her the best I can. I get her some couples porn, get her some books like Kama sutra. I even bring her to a adult store to buy some toys to explore with. I tell her to be open and honest with me, and will help her explore. Swinging #1: While out one day, my wife asks me if we want to go over to her friends place for a few minutes. While there it was quite apparent that my wife had talked to her close friend about our "sex issues". Her friend gently eases into a conversation that maybe if my wife explores with other people and not just me she could possibly "learn" or get the "sex experience" that she is striving for. My wife informs me at this point that her, and her friend were interested in "Swapping husbands" as they don't want to feel like they were cheating and asked my opinion. I originally said I had no opinion. I think I was shocked at first to say the least. My wife wanted to have sex with another guy, and her friend wanted to have sex with me. My wife (who had been doing some research) later that week shows me a clip from "Playboys Swing" which got me interested in the lifestyle. As long as we are open, honest, and safe .... I tell my wife that I am interested but not setting this up, she had to do the work. Happily she agreed. Later that week my wife goes over to her friends place, only to return an hour later. When her friend and my wife brought it up with her husband he was quick to say NO. He said there was no way he would be able to "perform" in front of another guy. Before my wife could suggest separate rooms, he asked my wife to leave so he could speak to his wife. Since that night my wife has only had Facebook contact with her friend and it seems to have put a strain on their friendship. Swinging #2: My wife suggests we put an Ad onto a local website to see if any random NSA couples were interested. Although we got lots of emails from males wanting to watch, video tape, join in, only 1 couple in (south eastern BC Canada) replied. We sent them our semi nude, faces blocked, pictures and never heard from that couple again. Present Time: About 6 months has passed since the whole Swinging topic has come up when we put ads on a website. My wife still has the same "sex issues" listed above, yet now recently my wife has once again started seriously talking about partner swapping. She has suggested in the past week we look for local couples, advertise, look for clubs, or even travel to meet our needs. She seems more knowledgeable then me in this swinging lifestyle (Good ole Google brought me here) I really don't know how I can even approach any of my friends with this topic. I have a few concerns: 1) My wife missed out exploring with sex partners growing up as mentioned, and now that she is sexually active, and so mindset on this swapping that I am worried that if I don't agree that she will just do it anyway. She has said she wants to sleep with another man besides me once in this lifetime many times. I love my wife but when she went behind my back asking her friend to "swap husbands" I think a bit of me felt maybe I don't know my wife as well as I think I do. 2) I am worried that if she is not giving me a great sexual experience that it would be a disaster if she tried with another partner. I love my wife and have patience, where as a lot of people I know including close friends have zero to no patience. I wouldn't want to sleep with someones wife and get enjoyment while they got disappointment. 3) Am I going about this the wrong way? Should I accept this is the way my wife is and adapt? 4) Did I put too much pressure on my wife too soon, and she is doing this for me? Even though I have concerns she wants to go through with it? A year ago I was all for it after thinking about it, now not so much as I have concerns. Would like to hear from some experienced people, would you get together with us knowing some or all of this? What are your thoughts and any advice. Summary TLDR: My wife was a virgin when we met (besides an oral experience with another woman), and gave herself to me. Our sex life hasn't been the greatest to suit my needs, but seems to satisfy hers. No Foreplay, and lots of rules. After trying to help her and educate her more in sex, she talks with friend(s) who suggest she try getting more experience from another partner. My wife suggests she doesn't want to cheat on me so her friend suggests Swinging. After failing to convince a friends husband for a swap, and failed local ads the subject is dropped. Now my wife all of a sudden wants to swing again (swap partners) and she seems to have been doing a lot of research recently, but I now have issues. My wife also informed me she wants to have sex with at least 1 other person in her lifetime. I feel silly posting this to strangers, so I appreciate the time to read this, if you have anymore questions I would be happy to answer. Thank you, Kam Couple. -
As we have gotten into swinging, we have come to find that we like the lead-up to playing almost as much as we like the sexual play itself; especially the sexual discussion and building anticipation We are wondering what people do as "foreplay" - drinks and dinner - games - if so any suggestions for good ones - going to a club - other
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Hello everyone. Me and the wife had a conversation on Sunday about what we think foreplay involves...moreover what we normally do for foreplay...i.e. touch, oral, etc. So it makes me curious...what do you normally do as foreplay? I know it's an open-ended question since we all probably have done it all but what is the norm for you? Answer correctly...it's cool to know how we all stack up.
