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A question for the ladies... did you experience any negative feelings after first time with a male other than your significant partner? Feelings like guilt, shame or regret? If so, how did you reconcile them so you could happily move on and enjoy the lifestyle? I should add... I don’t mean if the sex wasn’t good... assuming it was a great experience.
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My wife has an intrest in swinging, we have talked about it and the thought really excites her but at the same time she can not help but feel like it is cheating on me but I tell her that it is not, we are not lying about anthing we are just enjoying a very erotic and extremely sexual time together. I would be there participating in the magic. I really enjoy giving my wife sexual pleasure it turns me on big time and the thought of having another guy or two helping me has been a fantasy of mine and is now become a very strong fantasy of hers so much that her sex drive has been better then ever. Everytime we talk about it or we watch anything with multiple partners she has incredible orgasms. I know she wants to try it but she is having a hard time with the guilt feeling. Does anyone have any advice or words of comfort for her.
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The two above comments/quote came from another thread about the potential guilt of swinging. It made me curious as to which side of this line most swingers fall on? Would you rather have a little regret for something that you did (and maybe wish you hadn't) or remorse for never having tried it? I know for me there are a lot of things in life I'd love to try and I try to do most of them. However, when it comes to swinging there are two of us involved. I guess my situation is somewhat different since I was able to experience a LOT (if not most) of my swinging related fantasies with my ex. However, even with that there are things that Pet is not comfortable with that I'd be perfectly happy doing again, but I'd rather not REGRET leaving him unhappy. I don't really feel any remorse for lost opportunities because of this, because in the end, I'd have much more remorse if doing something damaged our relationship than I would ever have for not doing something that I wanted to try. For me, it's like all things, you weigh the positives and the negatives and you determine which one you will regret more - doing it or not doing it. When it comes to swinging there are a lot of times where the actual act doesn't really live up to the fantasy. In those cases, there are times where I kinda wish I'd kept it a fantasy. I don't regret doing it, nor do I have remorse for having never done it, but the fantasy was way more fun than the memory. Had the situation turned bad or had it been a situation where Pet wasn't happy and it caused us grief then I would have way more regret for doing it than I'd have remorse for not doing it. Not sure if that all made sense or not. -
OK sports fans... another lengthy post. LOL I have been reading other posts for about 3 hours, and have several questions. One lengthy thread about guilt danced all around my question, but did not help. We have been taught that premarital sex is bad, sex between singles is bad, between ANYONE but your marriage partner is bad. Heck, sex itself is bad. Sex with yourself???? OOOHHHH, really bad. So what am I doing on a swingers site? Trying to find out if if is for us. Since youth, (a long time ago, LOL) we have been taught sex is a bad thing outside marriage, and DO NOT ENJOY it when you do it. So, how do we get over this indoctrination? Jealousy can be a part of this, but not in this question. Please, no sermons on jealousy here. I just want to know how others overcame this indoctrination. IN my case, (husband), I can overcome it better, but my wife has a REAL problem overcoming the "anticipated???"guilt. We have not started anything yet, we are waiting for "the right moment", so your advice is anticipated. I have several other posts on other topics, so please do not confuse them with this question. There are also several other "guilt trip" problems my wife has, and they will be addressed later in other posts. Thank you.
