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For some reason we have had a rash of newbies contacting us and wanting to meet over the last couple weeks. I posted a few days ago about one of the couples and now two more have made legitimate offers and in chatting quite a bit with them, everything seems to be on the up-and-up. We have not been newbie hunters in the past and most of the people we have gotten involved with have been more-less equal to or greater in experience than us. When it comes to newbies we are pretty, well...newbies. The recent ones appear to be very attractive and very similar in background and preferences as us and we are sincerely interested but we don't want blow it by freaking them out nor do we want to go so slow that they lose interest and move on without an honest attempt. So I guess what I am looking for is some down to earth advice and insight on going out with newbs. I don't know if I even have any specific questions, we are just looking for some pointers and words of wisdom on how to deal with complete newbs and how to put them at ease enough that they aren't running for the hills but at the same time give things a chance to happen so that we don't waste what little time we have playing nurse-maid to wannabes that may never develop (I hope that made sense). I guess what I am saying is we want to make some friends and playmates as opposed to finding some students that we want to mentor. If you are a newbie yourself, how would you like to be treated so that you don't freak out or get turned off/scared away? What would put you at ease so that you are comfortable in exploring your interests with a couple that has had some experience and are a bit more self aware? And if you are an experienced swinger that has a background in dealing with newbs, what advice and wisdom would you offer? We are open to any ideas and advice. -
Hi everyone, thanks for the warm welcome yesterday. I have a question. We've posted ads in several places and had a few experiences. We're still sort of scratching our heads about protocol and etiquette. The other day we received an email for a nice couple, a bit older than us, who seem to want to take us under their wing, so to speak. Almost like they'd like to be mentors to us. Has anyone else run into such a thing? What are your thoughts? I'm grateful to some extent, as it would be nice to have someone to bounce things off of in a non judgemental sort of way. I'm just wondering what others had experienced when they started swinging and what they thought of this. Thanks in advance!
