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So, we are contemplating hosting our first house party and we are in a quandary! We have been to house parties in the past and think we have an end goal in mind - but how do we get there! Our concerns revolve around the following: 1. guests - who do you invite (couples you have played with, couples you have met, couples you are hoping to meet) etc? Our thinking is that the event is likely not the optimal venue for meeting another couple for the first time, especially being the hosts we will likely be distracted in performing our hosting duties. Do we encourage guests to bring along other couples unknown to us? 2. environment - we have been to house parties in the past and they have been all over the map in terms of the mood/environment created. It is our intent to create a welcoming, no pressure atmosphere that will encourage socializing, and, perhaps, lead to more. Everyone knows why they are there but at the same time, no one should feel pressure. How to best do this from a physical perspective (room layout, furniture) to allocation of space (making private, closed door areas available). 3. pacing - creating a "flow" to the evening that encourages people to feel comfortable and act out on their desires. We don't want this to feel contrived or artificial (such as telling everyone its time to now do move the other room and take your clothes off etc). Those of you with experience in this area, we would welcome your input please. Many thanks.
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House Party Games
spicylife42 replied to austxmark's topic in Swinger Clubs, Parties, Resorts, and Cruises
We're having a pool party Saturday and wanted to maybe play some fun games....was going to maybe have the ladies tie the cherry stem with their tongue and who ever did it fastest gets a little gag type gift like a pair of eatable panties...... thought about maybe some true or dare questions..... a competition for the guy..... any other good parties ideas would be appreciated too. -
We are having our first house party here in Austin and we are wondering what games we can have to get things started? We would like a few suggestions. We are not looking for board games as such. More like games where there is no limit of how many players. Also we are looking for games where you do not have to atcually have sex as part of the game..we want it to be flirtly and sexually charged but not actual sex. Thanks for your help.
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So, not ENTIRELY new, but not experienced either. Two swinging experiences under our belt and loving it. We were contemplating having a not new to the lifestyle but new to us couple over to our house on a weekend. We hang out and have a bonfire and just drink and BS, it's our version of bliss. We have a clean house, liquor, plenty of condoms, water bottles... What else should a good host have? Appetizers? Music? Towels lol? Seriously though, we're nervous for our second first date in 15 or so years. Any advice or stories appreciated. Thank you. -
We had our friends K and L down for an overnighter, and it was so great. We've never entertained at home before, actually. We told the kids to find someplace to be for the night, and to take the problem-dog with them (the little yappy chihuahua bastard who likes to pick fights with the other dog). So they did, and other than one of the other dogs barfing on me, it went well. It was so great to not feel rushed and to just hang out, curled up on the couches, chilling and watching TV with good friends. Adjourning to the bedrooms when the mood strikes. Making as much noise as we want because our closest neighbours are a good quarter mile away. Grabbing some cold water and chocolate covered strawberries from the fridge. Those were a total hit, by the way. Amazing what you can do with a couple of melted chocolate bars and a container of berries. Out for dinner, back home for round two - - and snuggling until somebody starts snoring. Then back to bed with your spouse...for round three...and falling asleep exhausted. Round four with your own spouse next morning before a hearty bacon and egg breakfast at a truck stop diner by the 401. We've been blissed out all weekend. It's been a long seven months of all work and no play since we last saw our friends, and we all agreed it's been waaaay too long. Mr. intuition and I were talking about how we like the idea of quality over quantity. It's not often you'll meet friends with whom you'll click so well. They're really genuine people, which appeals greatly to me. I'm a little put off by stand-offish people who keep you at arms length. I don't mean any harm to anyone, and I trust the integrity of my own relationship to feel at ease expressing ourselves as freely as we like. These two are like that, too. We'd love to find another couple or two...or maybe three...whom we could consider actual friends.
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Any suggestions on a playlist or hot & sexy songs to add to our list for an upcoming house party? Thanks.
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Curious how the forum members will respond. My new(ish) boyfriend and I are hosting a swing party, but we're not playing. As a swinger who has been on the bench for the last year, I miss the connections and friends I made while swinging with my ex. I've stayed in touch with the old party crowd and now have invited them to meet the boyfriend and hang out. Awkwardness about the ex being absent aside, would you attend a party where the hosts were unavailable for play - but still encouraged attendees to party on? We're interested in entering the lifestyle together, but not there yet. We've been exclusive a year and are living together - exploring the possibilities of the lifestyle with a new lens. I am experienced, he is not - but he has dabbled in the past and wanted to enter the lifestyle with his ex wife, but it was not her cup of tea. I long to see my friends - we've talked extensively, and he's interested to meet them and enjoy the freedoms that being around sexually open folks affords...though we are just not ready to swing yet (maybe never, maybe someday - however long that takes). We are open to nakedness, flirting, exhibitionism, and voyeurism. Given the limitations of no play with the hosts, would you still come? -
As usual, the summer has flown by and now winter is nearly here. Entertaining guests of any variety always just seems easier when it's warm and you can make use of outdoor spaces like decks, bbq area, pool, etc. For those who are regulars at hosting parties, how does your party planning change from summer to winter? -
We are going to have our first orgy at our home next weekend. We told our guests that the event would be BYOB and that we would provide light snacks, water, and perhaps wine. We are looking for suggestions for light snacks that are good orgy food. Thanks for your input.
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We are about to do a first for us, and that is play in our own home. Not a house party really, just us and another couple. We have done the same scenario before with different people, but we were the guests then. They liked separate room and we were up for it, so after some hot tub time, we just followed their lead and paired up in different bedrooms. When we started swinging, we both agreed we weren't interested in swinging at home, so there goes another rule out the window. Before we decided to extend the invitation this time, we talked about it and agreed that we wouldn't play in our bedroom, instead preferring to just make an impromptu play area in the living room or den when the time arrives. We converted our spare bedroom to a TV room for our teenager several years ago since we rarely have overnight company, so there really isn't a spare bed to make use of that doesn't feel like "ours". What about you, do you play in your own bedroom? If not, why?
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My husband and I are interested in having a couples party, what I would like to know is does anyone have advice on how to get these started. Any input on this would be a great help. -
Ok, so I'm remodeling our large basement and I'm going to be turning it into a playroom for large house parties. It won't used for any other vanilla activities. My goal is to keep all play in this area and out of the rest of the house. I might theme it (although I don't as what) and the sky's the limit on budget/design. If you could make the perfect playroom, what types of things would you have in it? -
We are members of this board, but using a different name for this post just in case anybody in this story may happen to read here. We went to a house party at the home of a couple we have gotten to know somewhat (lifestyle circles) but haven't been intimate with. They seem like very friendly and fun people. Very social. When we got there, several young kids were there. The parents of these kids and the kids are relatives of the host couple. We hear that they won't be there very long. Okay - weird they're there at all, but - okay. The parents of the kids know about their relative's/host's activities. The party goes on. People are drinking. People getting rowdier, and still waiting for kids to leave - but acting up enough that we WildHogs feel creepy about this whole thing. Someone's shirt comes off out in the yard where the kids are playing (somewhat blocked from kids view by more sober people). Ick. Inside the house, 2 women take off tops and are posing for the host, who is snapping pics of them. Kids are trying to get in the glass door at that moment. We WildHogs stand against the glass door to keep them out at that moment and block their view. (Host knows that his young relatives are trying to get in but he keeps snapping pics.) ICK. Still, we are told that kids are about to leave any minute. Feeling creepy, but we decide to stay a little longer and maybe the creepy cloud over this party will lift. Kids sent home to be by themselves (live nearby) but parents, who are drunk now, are staying. Party gets rowdier, but we WildHogs just are not catching the vibe this night. The drunkest chick there (first one with no top), appears to have a big herpes breakout on her mouth. ICK - and she's trying to kiss everybody. Everybody in the house goes into the one room where smoking is allowed. Imagine 20 smokers all lighting up at the same time, and we two who seem to be the only non-smokers there trying to blend in and be social, but leaving very frequently for oxygen. Another obstacle for breaking this mood. (It seems like the ratio of smokers in this lifestyle is far higher than the ratio in the general population.) Start talking to one nice couple outside of that room who also seemed to be coming up for air. Learned they are non-smokers, also. They're attractive. Start talking... then, drunk people butt in on us and break up the conversation. Next thing we know, drugs are brought out and served up on a platter. Mom and Dad (parents of those little kids) are now getting stoned on top of getting drunk. As soon as we see this, it's over. We leave (politely make excuses). We are so grossed out. It just seems like many of the lifestlyle people we meet are skanky like the characters in this story. Maybe our standards are too high. Maybe we want too much and are unrealistic. Maybe we just don't fit in. Maybe swinging isn't for us? Do any of you ever get to these grossed-out moments in swinging and wonder the same things? Do you ever feel like you're just burned out on the whole thing when things happen that really turn you off, making you not wish to keep meeting people like this? Do you take breaks when this happens, or is this when you simply quit? Thanks for listening. advice is welcome.
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Having given my observations before on hosting house parties, I hope it will prove worthwhile to elaborate on a few points. Also hoping I will gain from other peoples’ experiences. Furthermore, my wife and I have changed our views on some of the wisdom we have dispensed in the past. - The invitation list We have never considered having an “open house”. We know a couple who host open-house parties in that they put “We are having a party on such-and-such date” in the tag line of their on-line profile. This means that people need, at least, to send an e-mail to them to ask about the street address of the party house. Seems to have worked OK for them. The parties are lively and pretty much free of trouble. But they do have an exceptionally large house. If a lot of unexpected people show, they have the ability to accommodate. Our parties are by invitation and we invite people we already know. These do not necessarily have to be people with whom we have played. We have not so many acquaintances that we have to be concerned about trimming the list to avoid overcrowding. At first, we had our worry that maybe nobody would show and we would be sitting across from each other at a lonely table. This concern was entirely unfounded. Typically, about half to two thirds of the people we invite accept the invitation. We have learned some lessons about making our lists. Single men and single women are among our acquaintances and some of these we can call true friends. But we have lost the attention of some very interesting couples owing to the fact that they are not comfortable being in the intimate company of singles. We trust our single friends to understanding that our house parties are now and will continue to be couples-only events. - Same room, separate room, private room, group-sex room, exhibitionism and voyeurism Swinging couples have different styles and we try to accommodate. We learned from the set-ups of on-premise clubs. The little innovation of our most recent house party was a room for the couples who like to stay close to their significant others for same-room sex, either the watch-and-be-watched kind or partner exchange. As our master bedroom is sufficiently large, we added a heavy-duty motorized inflatable bed that is the same height as our queen-size. The other two bedrooms also have queen-size beds – close the door if you want privacy. Those new-style battery-operated wax candles are perfect for mood lighting. Every girl looks flattering in this light. The front office and the living room both have convertible sofas. The front room and back-yard patio, newly-enclosed with a six-foot wooden fence, are for people who like to accept critique of their physique and technique (exhibitionists) as well as the those who like to watch. - Massage table A really great ice breaker; a really worthwhile investment. - Washrooms Full-size bath towels (we know a person who showers before and after every encounter), small hand trowels, small wash cloths, condoms, Cottonelle flushable wet wipes. - Food We believe it is the obligation of the host and hostess to provide food. Guests will not have interest in a sit-down dinner. Their minds would only be working on how to make a dessert of the hostess’ décolletage than mashed potatoes and gravy. So we put orders in at the events department of the local supermarket and at Edible Arrangements. We get a little something for everyone; a sandwich ring, potato salad, fresh fruit arrangement (no chocolate), cut-vegetable tray, dessert tray (with chocolate), cheese tray with crackers, peel-and-eat shrimp, dry-roast peanuts, chips and dip, soft drinks, lemonade. The dining room becomes a meeting place countering the tendency for men to congregate in the TV room to discuss trucks or professional sports and the women to congregate in the kitchen (not even dishes to wash as we use paper plates and plastic cups). What do you guys have to add?
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Since we don't have any kids it seems like we are always inviting couples over to our house. We hardly ever get invited to the other couples house. Does this happen to others very often? We are always very hospitable and make our guest feel so comfortable that it's not uncommon for them to spend the entire night. Don't get me wrong, we love it. We love to entertain. But we've never really stayed over at another couples house. It would be a fun change.
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When you are invited to visit someone's house, who makes the first move? Dog and I went to this couples house a few weeks ago. We played pool all night. It was clear as air that the plan was to play, but hour after hour, we just kept playing pool. Dog tried to move things along by making a strip game of it. Down to no cloths and still nothing? Finally Dog got up put his hand out for the mrs. to take then finally things moved along. We went into their "playroom" and started to play...with our own partners. Then moved onto playmates. What then struck me as strange we only did oral. At no point did the other couple show interest in sex. We new about their rules, but none stated no intercourse. We then hung out and chatted for awhile. Finally at 5am Dog and I left. I was over the top tired and had to work in just a few short hours, so did Dog. I'm just not sure what to think about this. If it is your first playdate at someone else's house, should the hosts dictate(to some extent) the movement of the night? If they were a regular play couple the I could see the first move being anyone's, but first time? What do you all think? Still new and feeling things out here. -
We are currently planning to build a house next year (cross your fingers). We are figuring on about 2500sqft, Nothing fancy single story and we will be doing most of the work ourselves with the help of a few friends. The place is being planned with a eye toward entertaining with swinging in mind. I am thinking I want a indoor hottub but most seem to be outdoor? Is there something I am missing here? We had planned on it being in the house, Do we need to rethink this? Is there issues with having it indoor we are not aware of? Our idea had it joining the master bath as well as a entrance from the living room. Any input is welcome. -
Hot tubs are big in the Pacific Northwest. In the south skinnydipping was more our thing, ditto with walks on the beach at night. What's it about hot tubs that I just don't get?
