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The Age Old... why haven't they replied?
JustAskJulie posted a topic in Finding People to Swing With
This is a specific example of a general issue. All those cases of people wondering why someone hasn't responded to their message yet... I have to wonder if some of them aren't cases similar to what we are experiencing below (we are the ones who haven't responded yet). Ok, so we have this message in our inbox on SLS and it's been there for a couple of days. We know it's there and we've read it through our mail history (but haven't actually opened it). We've been on there quite a few times, so why is it we haven't opened it? Because this is like the 10th email on SLS from this couple, the first came in about a week and a half ago. They live 90+ miles away so it's not like we get a lot of opportunities to meet them. They contacted us FIRST and now it's like they want to have this online friendship or something, which is all great. But I'm just not in for talking about all the details of YOUR day with someone I don't really know and haven't met and may or may not meet. We visit the area where they live quite often (Nashville) and we might meet them at some point if they get out to Menages... So anyway, I was looking at this message sitting there for the 7th or so time and thinking.... I wonder if the people on the other side of this message are the same ones we see posting here asking "why haven't they responded?". It's not that we won't respond, we will. But hell, as soon as we respond they will respond again and I just don't have the time to keep that conversation going, let alone the interest (yet). And to be honest, the constant back and forth is tiring and is (if anything) making me lose interest in them rather than building it. So, we wait a few days in between responses, to cut down on the number of responses we have to give. -
My husband and I started swinging in 2003. We took a year off after running into some "not so nice" people in the swinglifestyle. Once we had put some distance and time between ourselves and these people, we became active again (3 months ago) We went back to the same group that originally intorduced us to the lifestyle and there had been some GREAT changes including kicking some people out who where not really friendly towards NEW swingers. NOw that we have returned, we are feeling good about swinging again and have had two play dates with married couples. The second one went GREAT, and we look forward to playing with that couple again...if they call. The first one seemed to go fine only I (female side of theCherryss) was having my menses and could only be a FLUFFER as well as play with the wife of the other couple. This was known ahead of time and my husband and I was assured that it would be fine. This couple was new to swinging and wasn't sure how much they wanted to do anyway (that's what they told us before playtime began). After everything was finished the other couple went to their room (they rented two "unconnecting" rooms and theirs was next door to ours). We woke up the next morning and left the hotel. When we tried to instant message them, there was no response. We waited to hear from them and have not. This sort of thing seems to happen alot. Even if we don't play with a couple, it seems that once we meet them, or they see our pics and we meet, after a couple of instant messages.....they just "fall off the grid" and never communicate with us again. What are we doing wrong???? We are nice looking and in pretty good shape. We don't do drugs or drink and we have GREAT stamina in the bedroom! We are puzzled and wondered if anyone could shed some light on this for us???
