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Ok, men and women, single or couples. What is your penis size and how does it compare with the rest of us? Be truthful...
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Hi. We are new to the board and to the lifestyle. I have a question I hope to get an honest answer to. background: I started dating my wife when she was just out of high school. We've been married for 15 years now and the last couple our sex life has seemed a little stale. We have discussed the possibility of swinging. She has almost no experience other than with me. She wants to try a MFM and has said that she would like to try it with a guy who has a very large penis. Mine is fairly small. To be honest I was more enthusiastic about this whole idea before she started talking about penis sizes. I'm worried that she may find sex with me less interesting if she has sex with a guy who is very well endowed. I'd appreciate an honest answer. Am I making a mistake? Thanks in advance for your response. -
This is a real hangup/massive insecurity of mine. I posted a similar topic a few years ago and I still struggle with this. I'm an average sized guy. If my wife has/had sex multiple times with men who are larger (specifically girthier) than me, will she feel looser as a result? Would she feel tighter if I had been her only partner to date? Or does it bounce back 100% every time? How many encounters with larger men would it take before she feels looser, or does every encounter take something away tightness wise? Ideally I'd love to hear that peoole here have wives who have been with much bigger guys, yet remain just as tight as they always were pre the big guys.
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Just interested why is it you men get so ocd about your dick sizes? Mainly over girth... My husband as some of you have read in posts before is 6 inches long and 5 girth. I think he is fine, he does not see it like that feels so small when he is not. He says it is due to me having kids and that I must not feel him, this is cuz I fucked a guy who was little bigger then him and I didn't see a difference in them... Do you men really think women need bigger dick after child birth? Or that it is women don't feel anymore because of birthing children? What the hell guys, honest what's with the deal ..... -
We all know how much people vary in talent for sport or music or dancing etc both before and after training. Indeed some people are better as beginners than others will be after years of practice. Take the effect of simply drawing a bow across violin strings. It can sound like a tortured cat or something heavenly and deeply moving. Now the same thing no doubt applies to sex. The stroke during intercourse may have just as much variation in terms of how good it feels to the woman as the sound of a violin does. There must be big differences in how skillfully men move their cocks in and out. There is the skill of each stroke and the skill in being able to vary it just right as things build i.e. to make music inside you. Of course the size and shape of his cock must also make a difference but most women seem to say its much more about how he uses it. In your experience ladies just how much variation is there in thrusting skill out there? Do swingers seem any better than non-swingers? Does practice and more variety improve a man's skill or do most men never learn anything? If possible could you identify what makes thrusting good or bad? What difference does all the stuff that happens before any thrusting make? What about other things he may do during thrusting? I'm aware that a lot of other stuff from talking to touching to kissing and oral action happens too and that there are huge differences here too. I'm also aware that looks have an impact on the overall experience as well. However I don't want to make this discussion too broad. Lets talk about thrusting skill for now. If other skills contribute via preparation or atmosphere creation then mention it.
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First off, my wife and I are new swingers. What I mean by "new" is that we haven't dipped our feet in all the swinging lifestyle has to offer as of yet. (Which will change with time.) Instead we've been taking things slow, and currently are only having MFM (Male-Female-Male) threesomes. I enjoy sharing her with other guys, and she enjoys being shared. Anyways, I'm 5.5" inches long, and about 5" thick. As I mentioned above, I enjoy sharing my wife with other guys, and with that said, the idea of guys with bigger penises filling her pussy drives me wild... Unfortunately she has brought up that she prefers smaller, because anything above 6" inches and within my girth is too much for her, and is painful. She admits she would like to try bigger but is hesitant due to the discomfort/pain. I bought her a 7.5" dildo but she doesn't like to use it because of the pain/discomfort. My question for everyone is: "How can we get her use to it so that she can enjoy cocks bigger than myself?" After all, it seems like the average size guys we come across whom seem to have the best potential in what we're looking for are often 7"-9" inches with thick girth. Because of her discomfort with anything bigger then 6" inches our potential playmates seem to be limited. (Not that there is anything wrong with anyone smaller then 6" inches, but overcoming this would leave a bigger window of opportunities!) Thanks.
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So I have been looking through the posts and see a lot of the "does size matter?", so I did some googling on it and found some rather disturbing posts about men wanting to commit suicide over it. Some already sadly have done just that, from what I could find these guys were still over 3.5 long - yes it’s smaller the average but Gee wiz taking your own life. Anyway they say that many more men have died because of the size thing then they know because no one has really done any studies on this. So my question is how the hell did we get to this? I see on this site some posters have said a big dick was life changing and others go on about more. Their husbands don’t seem to mind. This makes me think that the thinking behind a true swingers mindset must have some type of safety switch or something, and why can we not find their thought pattern and use it to help so many of these guys out there? For me I don’t want to see one more of these guys die because of some thing they can not do anything about. (well I don’t want any one to die for anything) What are your thoughts?
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My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for several years now, though we do a lot of separate swinging. There haven't really been many issues, and we're very much in love and committed to each other. Today, however, I ran into a new situation that I'm having some problems with, and would appreciate any help or advice anyone has. My wife was just with this guy who has a massive dick, like seriously huge. The first time they were together it actually hurt her really bad. The second time though she had an incredible experience and came three times. Now, I'm average in size...about 6.5" long and on the lower end of average in girth. This is the first time she's been with anyone this large, and she described how the sensation of him hitting her deep inside, though initially painful, just sent her over the top with pleasure. Now, one part of me is of course incredibly turned on by this. And part of me is happy for her, I mean, shouldn't that be the idea? And I do trust the situation in all other aspects. However, part of me is extremely insecure and jealous. Realistically, I can't possibly give her that sort of stimulation with what I'm packing. She's never even been multi-orgasmic before today, so...I'm feeling pretty inadequate. My fear is that she's going to enjoy sex with him so much more that our sex life is now going to pale in comparison, and just not be nearly as enjoyable, and as it's a physical issue, there's nothing I can do about it. Does anyone have any experience with this situation? I would really appreciate any feedback, advice, or stories! -
So I met this guy at work, and although I was already married, I knew he wanted me and I kinda wanted him. After talking to him about several different topics and even talking with him and Mr. Bangs, we realized we would end up as great friends, no matter that he wanted me... he knew his limitations. He found a girlfriend, and I guess they had conversations about trying to be in the lifestyle and called us. We decided to go to their house, since that would make them more comfortable. He started playing around with his girl until eventually he was banging her on the couch across from us. So, Mr. Bangs decided to do the same to me. The guy escorted his girl to us, and she started going down on me. I was sitting on the couch, Mr. Bangs got behind her, and the guy got in front of me for me to --- well, "sing into his mic". This is when everything went downhill. The two guys are very disproportionate in "size". When Mr. Bangs entered the other girl, she let out a huge moan. As soon as she did, the guy got softer than overcooked pasta. He was mush. Everything came to a halt. He then decided to try to get Mr. Bangs out of the picture and still keep the action going with just me and them two. He tried to coach us into several scenarios that no one but him was happy with. They went back to the couch they started on, and all we kept hearing from her was "yes, you please me, too", "there's nothing wrong with your size", "I make the same noises when I have sex with you". We decided it wasn't worth it and left. After that experience, we decided to tell other men BEFORE we start that there may be a size difference, and hope they're comfortable with it. Haven't had a problem with that since.
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The very 1st time... Was it exciting, nerve racking, defeating? What was the conversation after the fact, did it effect you two negatively? Also did you discuss it before it happened? We are new and I am just unsure how it will effect me and/or her. She has been with 3 other guys since we started about 3/4 months ago. I have not had to deal with the above question yet, so looking for some insight from others.- 43 replies
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Married Couple ready to enter the Lifestyle... I’m having some reservations after window shopping profiles, some males don’t show their member, they just show the female. Then there’s the hung like a horse guy comparing flashlights and what not to his pride and joy! Now, is being undersized in comparison, 5 inches, going to be an issue? My wife seems to likes it! LOL I understand she’ll have fun with the larger version mentioned above, and I have no problems with that, in fact, I can’t wait to hear her screaming out in ecstasy playing with a bull! So, my worries, is this going to make it harder finding playmates? Playmates that you “want” to play with? Considering other female being use to the “larger” package, is she going to be interested in playing with a smaller one?!? When does penis size come into the conversation? Or, am I being a typical guy focusing in on penis envy?? Want my wife to have the best options available seeing how we want to play with couples... Threesomes, no brainer... Thanks in advance for your advice and commits...
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Me and my wife have been talking about our exes and all the things we have done with them. I discovered that I am the smallest (Penis Size) one way or another that she has ever been with sexually. I understand that most women will say when confronted face to face that size isn't that big of an issue. There are a thousand different metaphors for the length and width "It's not the size of the wand, Its the magic in it." " It's not the size of the boat is if you can keep it in port till all the passengers have gotten off." I need a female's perspective, does size count? I measured and discovered I am 6 inch long and 3 inches around is this small or normal.
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We are going to have a vanilla dinner with a couple who we like very much. We’ve played with them many times. The problem: their husband is 6’3” and very well hung. My wife is 4’10, 90 LBs., never had a baby and has post-menopausal self-lubrication difficulties. You can see where this is going. She finds it uncomfortable to have intercourse with him. We like them as friends and we want to stay friends, but we are afraid we may insult them. Should we just tell it like it is? Anyone have a good spin on this?
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My husband has a 6 inch penis and the people we swing with are about the same size. But every now and then I will be with someone who has a huge penis. The largest I have ever had was a very thick 8 inch penis that hurt when he entered me. I didn't enjoy it at all during the entire time. Has anyone else had this problem where they just can't get used to a large penis inside them? -
We're talking cocks here folks...so ladies (and men who like men too).........how big is TOO big?? Ok, for me there are two considerations.....there's really no such thing as too big when I'm admiring, stroking and even sucking but there are entirely new rules when it comes to putting it inside me. I've been with a few REALLY big guys and it seems to me that after about 8" it's just too much and starts to hurt. But that same dick is a lot of fun to do other things with and just the sight of it makes me incredibly turned on. Then there's thickness...I like thick ones too...both the look and feel.....and haven't had one that was too thick to fit inside although there were one or two that really stretched me in a good way. I usually get REALLY wet anyway so that helps. Oh and also I wonder what people think about circumcised versus uncircumcised. I must say that I love the way a circumcised cock looks and feel the exact opposite about uncircumcised...and I know that uncircumcised is SUPPOSED to feel better but I've never noticed a difference. Kat
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So a few years ago I had all the confidence in the world. I have a fairly mellow personality, down to earth, 6 ft. tall about 230 lbs. and in shape (gym rat). That confidence went away when my ex wife cheated repeatedly and would tell me how much better they were because they were much bigger downstairs than I am (right about 5 inches erect). This crushed me psychologically, emotionally and almost spiritually. I left her and have moved on to the love of my life (grade school crush) and we're set to get married next year! Occasionally I struggle with the memories of my past because I never wanna experience that again. I've perfected my craft (of working with what I have more than just my junk) and my fiance tells me she loves me and "it" almost daily if not multiple times in the day which is nice. This has done great things for my confidence!! Here's the dilemma... The one thing I left out is that I'm a black man. I'm not small in any other way besides downstairs which is COMPLETELY opposite of the stereotype. I don't want to get into this and someone see me wanting to experience their first BBC and I let them sending me right back down that rabbit hole I came from. Am I over thinking this? Has anyone experienced this before if so what did you do and how did you get past it?
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It is "QUITE OBVIOUS" that some of us have too much time on our hands...literally. Due to all the talk on penis size, what's too big, what's enough...etc., EBF, (our fearless leader in innovation) was feeling a tad more than bored yesterday and found a way to determine actual length of the male winkie. I must admit it makes sense to me as now there are no more guessing games as to where the penis is actually measured. Seems that some men tend to measure in what they perceive as their favor. Not any more Gentlemen. Ladies, you can now determine it for yourself, and best of all it's free! EBF and I have agreed to share our original PM's on this subject that is sure to make a major impact on the world of choosing your sexual partners as to what is most comfortable for you. Materials required: Your hand A ruler As originally PM'd by EBF: My response to EBF: Now, Ladies please comment on this new measuring method (and even the men if they care to comment). Take a moment to measure the widest part of your palm (it helps to use a table as your base so that you get an accurate measurement of your palm. Then using your ruler or for some who made need a yardstick... place your hand back on the table as if you were going to do a karate chop and add place the measuring device atop the widest part of your palm. Add the additional inches of your desired winkie. Reality will stare you straight in the face. Something to ponder... Are you that deep or are they really that long? Does a wider palm on a female make for a deeper love cushion? -
I was having this discussion with some friends about why it is that so many guys who feel the need to post a pic of their dick often don't bother to even get it hard first. The comment was made that it was likely the difference between a show-er and a grow-er, and perhaps all these guys who don't bother to get hard are just "show-ers" and therefore getting it hard wouldn't help them. So, that got me thinking... guys are you a show-er or a grow-er? Show-er = You are about as big soft as you are hard (you might grow a little, but not enough to brag about). Grow-er = When you get hard your dick grows A LOT (heck, you might even look like you've been hanging out in cold water until you get it good and hard).
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@Ladies.... What is the idea cock size you prefer to be fucked by?
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Ever since our first child, my wife has come to really enjoy playing with most of my hand inside of her. We have a dildo that is 6.5" in circumference, and I just bought an even larger one, as that one wasn't challenging for her at all - although she did LOVE it. I told her I was getting a bigger one, that I really wanted to see her challenge herself, but oh, holy hell! This thing is huge. 14" long and just short of 8" circumference. She's gonna be terrified when she sees it. I have no real question here, other than do other women here occasionally enjoy playing with toys that big? Did you come to this realization after children? I find it so hot to watch her trying to fill herself up, and even hotter to let me do it.
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The It was how big?? thread about the results of a scientific survey of penis size got me wondering. If you look at the numbers on average penis size, and then you look at a shelf full of dildos at the toy store, there seems to be quite a disconnect there. Is the average dildo bigger than the average penis because women WANT them bigger, meaning that's the true attraction, feeling something larger inside you? Or, is it design and marketing simply to sell more product by staying consistent with the cultural lore that bigger is always better when it comes to penises and penis-like toys? Or maybe it's because when a dildo design engineer measures 8 inches, it's really 8 inches, but when a real live guy does that measurement, it's...approximate
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Hello, there! So, you’re interested in double penetration but you aren’t sure what it is, if it hurts, or if you’re even interested in it. Well, if you have two patient men and some lube (just in case!) it won’t hurt. Promise. Okay, so maybe you aren’t totally naïve about double penetration. You’ve either seen it in porn or heard about it from someone who watches porn. Or perhaps you’ve noticed that you enjoy being played with anally during sex and have entertained the thought of being sandwiched between two men. For all intents and purposes, let’s clarify what double penetration is before we go on. We’re talking about a male/female/male threesome (MFM) where one male is penetrating the woman vaginally and the other male is in anally. Some might qualify a DP as oral with vaginal/anal penetration but for this article, we will refer that position as a “spit-roast”. I suppose the next step is finding a suitable male playmate to join you and your partner or two males if you are a single woman. Or perhaps you are the single male, in that case, this next part is just as important. A swinging single male with experience or swinger husband with a hall pass (wife verified) is crucial. For one, the males involved will not only be in the same room together naked but they will be in close proximity to one another! Limbs will touch and, from what I’ve heard, males can feel each other move inside the woman during the double penetration. You’ll want to make sure that such incidental contact doesn’t freak him out, and if it does, then find another. Another reason for picking a male in the swinger community versus a male from the non-swinger (vanilla) community is the greater chance that he will be able to perform. Using a vanilla male will increase the odds that he will be too nervous to achieve an erection, more likely to bail, or not show up at all. Now that you know what double penetration (DP) is, you’re interested, and you have your participants picked out and ready to go…when should we go at it, you ask? Foreplay, massages, blowjobs, handjobs, spit-roasting—these are great ways to get acquainted with each other’s bodies and ready for the main attraction. Decide beforehand whether condoms will be used for anal and/or vaginal sex. The use of condoms for anal sex will provide playmates the opportunity to quickly take it off and switch to vaginal sex if desired. Let’s talk about positioning. There’s the cowgirl position, the reverse cowgirl position, the side-by-side-by-side position, the standing position, and the sex swing position. The height and size of the DP participants may determine which positions will work or not. Also, be aware of which positions give the woman the most pleasure. Some enjoy anal sex which might mean cowgirl position might work best because the male on top will be in the position to thrust into her anally. If a woman enjoys having her G-spot stimulated, then the reverse cowgirl might be best. If having both men thrust at the same time is a must, the side-by-side-by-side position is one to try. As for the standing and sex swing positions, those will highly depend on height and athleticism of everyone involved. If engaging in a DP for the first time, it is recommended that the venue be intimate and private so that the male participants will not have extra unnecessary pressure to perform in front of an audience. It’s also a good idea to know where the necessary supplies are (condoms, lube, bathroom/wash clothes) in case they are needed. Here are two of the most important things everyone involved needs to have: patience and a sense of humor! Be prepared that a DP might not happen the first time you attempt it. Technical difficulties may occur. One or both men might not be able to keep an erection during the positioning and maneuvering. It might take some time to figure out who goes where and who goes first in entering the woman. If it doesn’t work the first time or with a certain position, don’t be afraid to try something different to achieve a DP! And remember, if it doesn’t come to fruition in this MFM, try it again during the next MFM. Have fun and happy DPing!- 19 replies
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My wife is in her late 20's, very attractive and voluptuous as well so she gets alot of attention from the opposite sex but her thing is that she wants the biggest dick possible and i know it's her favorite and it seems like that's only what gets her off.... now I've let her be with 2 separate men on the side and they were both very very large and she became very obsessed with both of them because of this reason. Now she doesn't hook up with them anymore currently but has anyone else been through something like this before? Or is this a cause for concern?? Please hit me up...
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So.... I usually am with crowd that says you shouldn't fret over sizes, etc. Most men worry about their wife having a man with a larger cock and then somehow them not measuring up to that afterwards. I'm not worried about that. My wife has had a previous boyfriend before we were married that was huge. My question is this -- if we play with a couple that we are acquainted with... he's VERY big. I'm 1000% average US male. Maybe a little on the low side of average but still in there. Anyway.... I'm a little intimidated that his wife is going to be completely underwhelmed after having a guy regularly that is huge at home and then experiencing a dude that is completely average. I know I know.... I don't normally worry about this stuff, but in this case there is a huge difference, and she's used to the monster. :p Ladies? Thoughts?- 14 replies
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I have been wearing a cock ring for the past month and I have noticed when I do get aroused my cock gets thicker and hold my ejaculation longer while building up my erotic arousal and watching the wife shacking out of control as she calls "out of body experience" from the girth my new cock experienced. So, what is your experience as a man wearing one and as a woman receiving the pleasure?
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