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We were just wondering how many couples, and singles for that matter, use their real names? We do, but have met a few people who do not. We have also met people who use an alias while on the internet but have told us their real names once we met in person. We don't have any issues with this. Just curious as to how popular using an alias name is. It wouldn't work for us, we would forget which name we were supposed to be using! LOL!
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My husband and I are new to the lifestyle. Our experience on sls when initially talking to couples is that they want to exchange phone numbers right off the bat. Most of the time they're not specifying their names or which of them the number belongs to. It'd be one thing if this happened occasionally but in the past week alone it has happened with 3/4 of the people we've contacted or been contacted by. Is this normal?
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So I logged into Facebook today and my news feed had blown up with all the mention of the Ashley Madison hack and the fact that the leaked data appears to be valid. I'm not going to lie, despite the fact that Mr. Prufrock and I don't have an account with AM, my stomach dropped thinking about it. We do have accounts on SLS and SZC. When I read the articles, I was mostly upset for the broken families that are going to come from all this. Yeah, the parents messed up, but the kids are going to pay the price I briefly thought about deleting our accounts, but I'm not sure that would do anything. Apparently, AM didn't delete user's information after accounts were deleted, I wonder how many sites follow suit. So what about you guys? How do you all feel about online security and swinger's personals sites? Are you worried about your information? Will you close your accounts? -
How easily do you give out your phone number? Once upon a time the main form of meeting other swingers was via bulletin boards or printed swinger ad magazines. The latter often had "direct contact" ads, meaning that you provided your phone number for direct contact. That's a little creepy to me - giving out my number to god knows who. Nowadays, we have the internet, and often people complain that the internet leads to too much wasted time of back and forth on emails without any real contact. So how do you feel about giving out your number? Are you the type that is willing to give it out to anyone? Or do you hang onto it until after you really feel comfortable with someone and KNOW who's calling you before they call? Or are you somewhere in between?
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We have a bit of an issue with a swinger site. Not everyone's beloved SLS but a different one which unfortunately is the main one for our area. The problem is I do not trust it to keep details private. Something about it strikes me as underhanded potentials, plus while we were on it they had a security 'breach' of sorts in one area and I think it was from credit card info (only way it made sense). Now they accept credit cards but not paypal and from what I gather, 'gift' card style credit cards do not work since it isn't linked to anything like your address. So any ideas on this one besides the obvious not using them?
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More and more of the clubs are moving to a computerized system. But even before they did that, many clubs require that you put your DL# on your membership form. Now that more clubs are going computerized not only is your DL# on a piece of paper somewhere it is in their system files. The last time we visited Menages we found out that they have now moved to this system. We had to renew all our paperwork and added to that is they now use the last four digits of the male's SS# as your member number (no more membership cards just give them your digits at the door). How do you feel about knowing that your info is on file? -
What goes across your mind when a couple puts their phone number in their swinger profile? The last few I've seen that had their phone number even went so far as to put it in their tag line, so you didn't even have to read their profile to get it. Just curious what your thoughts are before I share my own.
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Seeing posts here about how someone lost their job over posting their pictures online, getting messages from others who want to change their screen name to "come out of the closet" a bit, and I wonder about some things. 1. Do you use the same email address to surf adult/swinger websites that you use for your family? 2. Do you post facial nude pictures on sites where they can be seen without any sort of joining process (ie. in your Yahoo Profile)? 3. Would you post said facial nude pictures in combination with information stating that you swing someplace (like a Yahoo profile) where people can see it without any sort of joining process (free or otherwise). 4. Do you use your real names (as a username or as part of your email address) when dealing with people online in regards to adult activities? If you do any of these, WHY? Why do you take such huge risks? I know we've had topics in the past about how swingers should be able to be more open about who they are and what they do, but in reality unless your job is related to swinging, your family already knows and you don't have any kids from a previous marriage, the risks are definitely there and are things you should be thinking about. It's easy for some of us who's entire lives (livelihood) is based on swinging to say that we should be more out as a group, we have a lot less to lose. But for most swingers that is not the case. Some things to think about. - Anything you post HERE (and on many other sites) can be Googled. So if your screen name is your real names, or a name you use regularly on other sites and someone Googles you, they will find you here (this is why in the registration process I suggest that you do not use your Real Names in your screen name). - If you have a profile someplace like Yahoo, anyone can view that, so be careful what you put in it. They've been used in court before. - Most sites, including this one, will do what they can to help protect you and help you be discrete but we can only do so much. You have to use common sense from the beginning. I recently saw a couple who I thought had the utmost of discretion go to all ends to wipe their online slate because they had been using screen names that were the same as names the general public knew them by and someone else decided to be indiscrete with their information. So please be careful and think things through. Think about what you may have to lose and think about what you can do to protect it. Yes, in an ideal world we all should be able to be open and honest about what we do and shouldn't be anyone else's business. But, this is not an ideal world, this is a world where what we do is still ILLEGAL in many states (the legal definition of adultery doesn't consider whether or not our spouse approves), and still considered immoral by most.
