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We just got back from our favorite lifestyle resort, where we encountered a unique situation and are hoping for some dissection here. The resort we frequent is outdoor, fully nude, and very lifestyle/sexual. This weekend's weather was bad, so there were few couples. We were hanging out in the jacuzzi when a new couple arrived. They had a room next to the jacuzzi, and after settling into their room, they joined us in the water. We started chatting with them, and seemed to have a good connection. We were both attracted to them, and seemingly them to us. After a couple of hours of talking, we asked them if they would like to go to dinner with us. They said they would. Meanwhile, several other couples joined us it the jacuzzi and we were all chatting. At some point we went to the pool to cool off a little, and stayed there for about fifteen minutes. While we were there, we noticed "our" couple clothed and heading out for dinner. We decided to go out then as well, and dressed and left. We got to our favorite restaurant (about half a mile away) and the other couple was there. They called us over to their table and invited us to join them, which we did. We had good a conversation with them over dinner, then left to go back to the resort. After we got back, my wife and I went to the playroom and had sex before going back to the jacuzzi. When we got to the jacuzzi, another couple complimented us on our energetic lovemaking, and basically gave a play-by-play account to everyone else. From here, the evening got weird for us. The couple we liked was chatting with another couple a lot, and we kept trying to remain in the conversation, but seemed to keep talking to their backs. After awhile, they started talking about going to the pool to cool off. We left, saying we'd get the migration started. After hanging out in the pool for about half an hour by ourselves, we went back to the jacuzzi. The minute we got there, the two couples left the jacuzzi for the pool. We stayed for awhile talking with another couple, and later the four of us decided to go back to the pool. Again, the minute the we got there, the other couples left for the jacuzzi. At this point we were checking each others breath and looking for obvious problems. Later, we were back in the jacuzzi and saw "our" couple with the other couple in one of their rooms. Our feelings were not hurt by this entire interaction, because we go to have great sex with each other in a fantastic environment, which we did several times. Hooking up with other couples is just icing on the cake. We were, however, confused by the sudden rude treatment from a couple that we had a seemingly good connection with. A couple of additional facts. The couple we liked had lifestyle experience, but no nude experience. We have lots of nude experience but much less swinging experience. The couple that "our" couple ended up with also had no nudist experience. In fact, both couples remained in robes whenever out of the water. Also, we have been to this resort many times, and are good friends with both the owners and the staff. Both other couples were there for the first time, and had flown in from distant places. We analyzed this experience on the way home and each of us had a different take on the sudden change. Dr H (Mrs) believes that the public sex display on the playbed was the instigator. To support this is the fact that neither couple seemed to be that comfortable being publicly nude, and may have extended that belief to public nude sex. I (Mr H) think that they simply decided they had more in common with and/or liked the other couple more. Neither explains the sudden rude snubbing, however. Any thoughts?
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Advice please.. We have been married for 10 years and,over the years the topic of swinging has arisen many times more so lately. We communicate very well and are very open and honest. My wife had very little in the way of sexual experience when we married. And I have developed a fantasy to see her with another man. So I figure lets kill 2 birds with one stone and suggest we let her experience the feel of another man and I get to live out my fantasy with maybe the option of joining in if she wants. She admits to wanting to experience another man but the only way she will move forward is to not have me there at all and the moment be private to her and whoever... I don't feel comfortable with this and this is not an option for me as I figure it is "our" sex life we are expanding and this is not sharing the experience..?? and figure this is a "win win" situation Am I being too possessive? Or is this just a no win situation we should walk away from.? From the wife - I have only ever had my husband and would like to know I am not missing out on anything. Unfortunately the idea of my husband sitting in the corner watching me have sex with someone else does not appeal. He however is not comfortable with me fixing this experience problem on my own. I think we are at an impasse. I think my husband wanting to watch is an example of him trying to control my sex life and I consider my sex life, my own - not ours.
