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From a couple of recent polls, it is clear that a large percentage of participants on this board have not yet engaged in any swinging-type activities (whether that is soft swapping or full). We wonder what is the primary reason that you haven't taken the plunge. You are only allowed to pick one. While you likely have more than one reason, we'd like to know which reason is the primary reason. So, you have to pick one. If you don't see your reason, please select other and post it in reply. Thanks! -
We had been married for 29 years and everything in our marriage was fine apart from sex, I was my wife’s one and only but after all those years things had become a little stale sexually, we still loved each other and got on fine and in all other departments were soul mates. I knew I had to try to improve this situation. I decided to take my wife away on vacation, to a hot place where no one knew us and decided on Cozumel in Mexico. She is quite conservative when it comes to sex and the thought of someone who knew her seeing her behave “improperly“ would quickly cool any chance of excitement for us. We arrived and the apartment was everything we could wish for, we dumped the cases and headed for the beach. After a long day relaxing on the beach we went to our room and showered, had a few glasses of wine while we were getting ready, then we went off to a restaurant for a nice meal. With some more wine and a little attention from the waiter we relaxed and chose our meal. I told her how sexy and beautiful she looked and that many of the men in the restaurant had sneakily looked at her when we arrived and that I thought the waiter was eying her up and flirting with her, she giggled and told me “shut up, he’s a good 10 years younger than us and he’d never fancy me“. I said “I’m sure he’s trying to look down your blouse, maybe you should undo your buttons a little to tease him, I dare you.” She giggled again knowing that this was one of my fantasies. She answered me by saying ” maybe I will” (which I took to be a no). With that the waiter asked if we had decided what we wanted and we gave him our orders and had some more wine, then my wife smiled and undid two buttons on her blouse showing more cleavage. Even though she has small breasts, they looked ravishing, and I could feel my cock rising under the table. The waiter returned with our starters and gave me mine but hovered over my wife, before placing her starter on the table, I just knew that he was having a good leer at her small but perfect breasts. When he left the table I asked my wife if she had noticed him, she replied “I think your right, I could feel him staring down my blouse, are you sure your ok with it?” I replied “of course I am, I’m loving you being so sexy, and I don‘t blame him at all.” We continued eating our starters and sipping our wine really enjoying ourselves (particularly me at my wife being so sexy). The waiter returned to collect our dishes and hovered once again over my wife while making “small talk” and having some laughs with us. He returned with our main meal, telling my wife what a beautiful lady she was and he hopes she enjoys the meal. Before we could refill our wine glasses the waiter came over with “cocktail of the house special” explaining that it was a free bonus drink for us because he was enjoying serving us (he must have been loving looking down my wife’s blouse) The cocktail wasn’t to my taste but my wife informed me that she was loving it and was quite prepared to drink mine as well !!!! We ate our meal and my wife adjourned to the toilette, returning with her make up freshly applied and a smug smile on her face, I asked her “what has amused you?" and she replied.…“nothing, yet". The waiter came to the table for our dishes and I noticed his eyes open wide and I heard a slight gasp coming from him as he retrieved my wife’s dish. As he goes away, I looked at my wife and realizing she is giggling, I asked her “what has amused you?" She replied “take a look” and I realized that she had removed her bra, AND that her nipples were hard and poking against the thin material of her shirt, she was smiling and enjoying the situation. I reluctantly paid for the meal (as I was enjoying this and didn’t want it too end) and asked the waiter’s advice of where to go for a quiet romantic drink. He replied, ”come with me, I will show you." As my wife got up from her chair, she wobbled a little from the effect of the drinks and giggled. I held her arm and gently guided her outside. The waiter immediately joined me and put an arm around her waist, as did I, so we were both supporting my giggling wife. He told me "Let's go this way. I’ll show you.” We laugh and joke as the three of us as we walk through the trees toward the bar he knows. I look at my lovely wife and notice that the waiter had moved his hand up from her waist to under her shirt and was feeling her breast!!!!! I instantly got hard! I caught his eye and winked at him, encouraging him. We stopped in a dimly lit patch of trees where he turned my wife toward him and kissed her. My wife just giggled and said “naughty boy” but didn’t move away. Before she realized it, he quickly undid her shirt, allowing her breasts to fall free. Her nipples were hard in the dim light. I placed myself in front of her and showed him to her back where he put his hands around her breasts while I kissed her from the front. Suddenly I heard my wife gasp and then tremble a little, then I realized he was finger fucking her. I placed my hand near her pussy, where I could feel his fingers fucking her. I started to rub her clit, propelling her toward an orgasm. Before she could realize what was happening I peeled her pants off, giving him full access to her very wet and juicy pussy. She murmured with delight and moaned softly, “I love you”, totally ignoring the fact that there were two of us making her excited. We lowered her gently onto the ground. I continued to kiss and play with her. She opened her legs slightly. Our waiter noticed this and quickly unzipped his trousers and placed his cock at the entrance to her pussy. When he gently starts to push it into her tight little pussy, she started to tremble again and started to fuck back at his cock, the first ever cock apart from mine to enter her pussy! I was in seventh heaven and moved back a little to watch my beautiful wife being fucked by this stranger and being totally caught up in the moment. I was so excited. She was really fucking him and he was fucking her as hard as he could. She seemed so sexy, so hot. I was so turned on. I watched as his buttocks clenched and he shot load after load of his hot cum into her pussy and womb, and much, much too late, I thought "condom" !!!! He finished and she still laid there making fucking movements, so I laid down on top of her and placed my cock into her cum filled pussy. It felt so hot and slippery. She started to come again and I noticed the waiter alternating between biting her nipples gently and nibbling her neck, she was in ecstasy ..........and so was I, as I soon felt the urge to cum. It was too soon but I couldn’t hold it. She received another load of cum into her pussy. I could feel it leaking around my cock and running down my balls, it felt so good. I smiled and winked again at the waiter and he smiled back and picked up her pants and indicated to me he wanted them ....I nodded my assent, he wiped my wife’s soaking pussy with them and carried them away with him, another trophy I suspect. I didn’t care, I was so proud of my wife, how sexy and erotic and beautiful she looked. I helped my wife back to our apartment and undressed her and put her to bed. I couldn’t resist fucking her one more time, I was so turned on. When she awoke the next morning she asked me if I enjoyed myself last night and what did I think of the night?, I told her that last night was the sexiest and most beautiful I’d ever seen her and how much I loved her. I then asked her if she had enjoyed the night. She replied “I really enjoyed myself, but things are a little hazy after the cocktails in the restaurant. But, I remember us having sex outdoors and it was fabulous.” I asked her if she could remember the details, she smiled and said “I think so”. I said “come on then ,what do you remember”? She replied “I think I gave my gorgeous hubby something he’s always wanted.” I sat there open mouthed, not sure what to say. She smiled and asked me if I’d enjoyed the “treat”, I replied “oh yes, it was fantastic”. She replied “I think the waiter enjoyed it also” and laughed as she explained that she was nowhere near as drunk as what I’d thought and that it was an act “because she’d wanted to give me something I’d wanted for so long ,to prove how much she loved me”. I was stunned and in a state of shock. My wife had finally ,after all these years, given me what I’d always wanted. I held her and kissed her and immediately felt my cock stir again, she said “hold it big boy, I have more planned for this evening" !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can’t wait to see what she has in store for me tonight, but I know I’m going to love it.
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Our sex life is still fantastic. Roleplay during sex is still hot. Wife and I are enjoying the other guy possibility. We talked about it and she is a little interested but still reluctant. She has a best friend growing up who she hasn't seen in years. They were close. I know her well. She had flirted and touched me in the past. One time she told me, "Why don't you come down here and do me?" I froze on the phone. A few seconds later she said, "I'm playing!" I thought of that for a long time. Me having sex with my wife's best friend! She was a hot Latina like my wife. To this day still no infidelities between us. My possible swinger MFM fantasy has become an FMF fantasy. I obtained the girl's number. I text her. Back and forth. I'm not telling her who it is. She says no more games. I apologize using her nickname. A few minutes later she texts "who is this?!" Reeled her in. I tell her. We laugh. Reminisce a little. A little flirting back and forth. I tell her the three of us should hang out. She is in another state. She says, "Hell yeah. We can arrange that. What dates?" I'm going to look for tickets. I didn't think she would be so willing. She actually had me backpedaling like when we were younger. She says "I have family down south. " Here's where I get brave. Maybe it's the weed. I tell her, "This is what we do. No kids. 3-4 days. Hotel. Dinner. Bar. Alcohol in the room. Patron and 420. Beach. Order in." She's like that sounds great. I tell her don't tell my wife, I want her to be surprised. She agreed. In the next two months, I will start to open up to her before she gets here. It can only work if all three of us agree. But she is coming anyway. So we will be partying. Hoping to be swinging. If not then at least I'll get stoned on the beach. Can't wait for your SWB responses...
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I have found someone I would like to be in more of a FWB situation rather than relationship but open to the possibility of it being long term. But labels aside, I've gotten the feeling my new friend has some reservations/hesitation because I'm married. He obviously knows this is okay, but I'm having a hard time getting him to follow through on meeting up since I asked him. Is there anything I should/could say or do to help ease his mind? -
:HELP: From all the things I have read about swinging, it seems as though it is always the husband who wants to swing and is trying to persuade his wife to join him. In my case it has turned out just the opposite. As I may have posted before, my DH suffers from complete erectile dysfunction as a result of medical conditions and required medications. For the past few years our sex life has consisted mostly of him performing oral sex on me which is good but not completely satisfying. DH knows I was very promiscuous when I was single, and I suspect that was something he once found very intriguing about me. Around a year ago we were confessing our fantasies and I admitted one of mine was to have vigorous interracial sex with a good-looking, muscled and virile black man like some of the XXX videos I have seen. He said he realized how much I must miss PIV sex and that his pet fantasy was always to watch me having sex with another man, preferably one that did not pose a love-interest threat. Assuming I would not be highly likely to become possessively and romantically attached to an African-American man, especially if I were to experience swinging in an interracial threesome, the idea seemed so exciting and non-threatening he joined a kinky interracial sex group that facilitates, among other things, interracial cuckolding, which is what he seemed to want at the time. As an uninhibited exhibitionist (who often thought I would have made a good porn actress) I became very excited about trying this. We have had some delays in carrying this out because of his medical issues, but it is still something I want very badly to get into and now, without any definite explanation, he seems to be dragging his feet. I would really appreciate any helpful comments or suggestions from anyone about persuading a reluctant husband.
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My girlfriend has been quite reluctant and hesitant about swinging or the idea of it. It's really new to both of us. When we have sex I used to bring up the idea of swinging and us being with another couple... she has been keeping quiet. Today I brought it up again and she played along... kept telling me about how she is imagining how another guy is fucking her, etc. Seemed to turn her on quite a bit. And she even mentioned how I'll be enjoying the other girl, etc.... all in the heat of the moment. And after that we didn't speak about it. This is heading in the right direction isn't it? I don't think we are ready to swing yet or anything... but I'm ready to escalate our fantasizing to a new level... any suggestions? I'm very interested to know who or what type of guy she fantasized about, etc.
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My wife is reluctant to discuss her sexual fantasies. Now we have been with anther couple and his wife & I both know that my wife loved the experience of fucking another man. But still she is not forth coming in talking about her sexual thought....Anyone got answers...?? Confused.
