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We received a PM today from a single guy. There were a couple of reasons why we weren't compatible, but the biggest reason was probably a little weird. He stated that he worked at the local video store. Normally, where a guy works isn't the first thing he puts in his PM, but in this case, he did - and to be honest, we rent there all the time... We'd hate to think that renting would be awkward if we hooked up - or worse, if we didn't. I mean - are we going to suddenly stop getting coupons in the mail? Are the "rent two - get one free" deals going to suddenly cease? Will we ALWAYS get the DVD that has been dog chewed and left in the heat? Swinging is fun, but the idea of ruining my peace of mind while renting a flick just isn't appealing. So - what are the weirdest reasons you've ever said "no"? Granted, any reason is a good reason. After all "no means no" regardless of why you say it. But how many "left field" no's do we have floating around out there? Spoomonkey
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We usually just say we are not a match. So as to not hurt anyone’s feelings. We’ve received quite a few of their husband would do our wife, but their wife is not interested in our husband. Ouch! Lately, some people just don’t respond. I used to think this was rude, but it hurts less than a rejection. Thoughts? Can’t be a snowflake in swinging?
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Just a question regarding couples that contact you on sites like AFF, if you are not interested in the couple, do you have a polite way of saying no? Yes, a lot I ignore, but if it's a couple that you see locally... Nice people, but I not interested in the female. I don't really want to say why... now we are polite people.. good old country folks. Just wonder if anyone had any ideas... sorry, if this is a stupid question.
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I contacted a couple a couple of weeks ago based on their location, profile, and a picture of the wife. I thought Mr. Sunbuckus would find her attractive and at the time, I really liked how they had worded their profile. We've exchanged emails and all of our correspondence has been friendly and nice. However, it wasn't until last night that we finally got a picture of the husband...and I'm not attracted. I wouldn't mind being friends with them (which is what they are looking for) but I don't know if it would go farther than that. I asked Mr. Sunbuckus about his attraction to the wife and he said, "I could have sex with her." They would like to meet us next weekend but with the lack of attraction, would it be worth our time? Another concern is that since we were the first to contact them, I am not sure if they are attracted to us. The wife claims that the husband doesn't care about looks at all...which kind of makes me wonder if it's really true or if she's just saying that because he saw our pictures and doesn't find me attractive. *throws up hands* In either case, it doesn't really fuel the fire if the male counterpart doesn't find me desirous. What is the deal? And what should we do?
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So we went out and met this couple last night at a bar. We really clicked with the girl - she was super sweet and funny and cute. But her boyfriend got sloppy drunk and was EXTREMELY forward and rude and even braggy. I'm all for honesty, but within 15 minutes of meeting them he was asking very personal questions. I also felt like the conversation totally centered around him and what he wanted, when the original plan was for it to just be the girls playing this time while the guys watched. He kept asking me (the female in our couple) personal questions, while at times completely ignoring my bf and his gf. We ended up leaving without going home with them and I'm really glad about that. It seemed that in his state things would have ended up going badly. It's just unfortunate that we clicked so well with her when her boyfriend was so rude and off-putting. I'm wondering the best way to tell her that we really liked her but that things probably won't work out because of her boyfriend... Maybe we can try to meet again without the drinking? In any case, we learned a lot and my boyfriend (who was a little nervous to begin with) feels a lot more comfortable with the prospect of swinging. We'll keep looking for a better fit. I'm so glad to have found this community of supportive and helpful people
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As you remember, we are the ones who had extensive phone conversations with male half of other couple. We met/played with them this past weekend...if you can call what we did "played" at all. I will try to be brief, but I'm just so flustered over the whole thing and I think I handled it badly. History: This is only second couple my hubby and I have played with, our first couple who are also regulars with us, had been in the LS a very long time and were very experienced yet not pushy, and we have grown to love and appreciate them, esp. after our recent fiasco. So we met up for dinner, then back to a motel for drinks and to see how everyone clicked. In our ad on the other site, I made no bones about my size, I am big, not huge, but definitely overweight. Other female was heavy as well, but more curvy, whereas I stick out a bit in the belly. My hubby and I were both very attracted to her, him not so much, but he wasn't bad looking either. Other female and my hubby flirted a lot at dinner, I was literally quivering with anticipation of what was to come. We go back to motel room to play cards, have a few drinks, then go from there. We're all feeling pretty good and as I am an exhibitionist, I am the first to lose my clothes. Other male exclaims to me: "Damn, girl, you look 9 months pregnant" I know my belly is probably my worst feature, so I laugh at him and agree. Later I get up to fix myself another drink and then he says "your ass is huge and your thighs are really wide" and this time I am getting insulted so I give him a dirty look and bang my bottle down on the table. Other female says something to him and then he tells me that I'm taking it all wrong. WTH??? Then, other female, who has some health problems, says she isn't feeling well and my hubby and I look at each other, the flirting stopped after dinner, and it was clear she really wasn't into this at all. So I got up and got dressed, thinking we would just be friends and continue the cards or even suggest turning in for the night. Other male immediately starts telling me to undress again, that other female's illness would resolve after a few more drinks. My hubby and I exchange looks again, but I sit there with my shirt on. Other female says she has to pee, and goes into bathroom with other male trailing her. My hubby and I decide to somehow tell them politely that we aren't into this as we aren't pushy people and think other female is uncomfortable. They come back into the room and they start undressing. Other male motions to me and hubby so we undress and lay on the bed and make out, thinking maybe they will join us but no swapping, we are into each other and are hot by this time and ready to just go at it, just the 2 of us. So we start in and other gal again says she isn't feeling well but other male is begging her by this time. My hubby gets really mad and excuses himself to the bathroom, I follow and am quite upset myself. We don't play separately but other male is hollering for me, my hubby tells me to just go out there and fondle a bit but that is it. I go out there and other male grabs my head and pushes me down into her vagina and is moving my head up and down, which is NOT the way I do things. Then he whirls me around and shoves 3 fingers up into my vagina, badly injuring my cervix. I try to squirm away with tears streaming down my face and asked him to please stop, he snaps at me that he knows what he is doing, and that is it. I go into bathroom with my hubby crying and bleeding too. My hubby is irate at this point, not at me, but at other male and we stay in the bathroom all the rest of the time. They get done and say they are going back to their own room. We are very relieved...polite the next morning but have no plans to communicate or anything with them again. Then other male starts texting me, I do not respond. What should we have done differently? Hubby and I talked and we have decided to continue only with our regular couple...which is sad because I'm sure there are others out there that aren't like this new couple, but now we feel we have been badly burned. Help! Mrs. HR -
My boyfriend and I are fairly new swingers. Started about 6 months ago, and have had a few encounters. We've had 3 MFM's, been with 3 couples and on New Year's Eve, attended our first party. When we arrived, there were 2 other couples, 2 single men, and a single woman who came with another couple. The single woman was quite young (22) and feeling overwhelmed. She decided she wanted to leave. The couple she came with decided to leave with her and take her home. So that left the hosting couple, my boyfriend and I, and the 2 single men. I decided, to stay and have a good time. My boyfriend was very pleased that I didn't want to leave. We played and had a good time. I found out there is something better than being the center of attention of 2 men. being the center of attention of 3 men. We also played with the host couple. Again, we had a good time. She is bi-sexual. I would call myself bi-curious. I do not find myself attracted to her. Her SO, has ED and does not enjoy giving oral sex. I'm not attracted to him either. But the 4 of us played together and had a good time. So far, no problems, right? They like us very much and want to become regular play partners. My boyfriend, in his enthusiasm, readily agreed. We have since talked about that. He agrees we need to talk about things together before he commits us to anything. I have explained to him my position. I feel like there's not much in this situation for me. I'm not interested in playing with her. And he doesn't do oral and has ED. We are looking for friends in the lifestyle. They want to be friends too. But they also want to be friends that play. My boyfriend would be fine with that too, except he now knows how I feel about it. I'm ok with friends. I just don't want to play with them. I would like to attend parties they host. I would be ok with some play at the parties with other people to also play with. So here's the situation. My boyfriend and the other couple want to play. I'm the hold up. I'm interested in being friends with them, but not playing. They called last night, wanting to get together as a "four-some" sometime this weekend. I said we could just hang out, play cards, I'd make them dinner, and see where it goes. I'm feeling very pressured to play with them because I know that's what everyone except me wants. How do I tell them I don't want to play, just be friends, without hurting their feelings? Sorry this was so long. Thank you to everyone for reading and sharing your wisdom. -
I need some opinions... I got a job waitressing at a pretty upscale restaurant, and me and my fiance' decided to have a threesome with my male manager. We engaged in some pretty hardcore sex on a few occasions but it was always know that I would NEVER do anything without my fiance'... Well I guess my boss thought I was a whore anyways, and tried to get my to suck he dick in the office after work. And when I turned him down he still continued to grab at my pants button and trying to kiss at me. So I told him that if he continued to fuck with me, he would no longer have a dick for me to suck. Well,the next day, I went into work, and one of the other managers said that I was fired. When I asked why she said it's because my male manager said that my cash outs were over fifty bucks short last night. o I had to leave. Should I fight it? I mean I wouldn't want the job now, I can get another one, but it's just the principle. Right?
