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My wife is interested in going to a local club in Louisville Ky. She herself is self conscious about her body as she is a bbw. I find her wonderfully beautiful but I love larger sized women. I am very protective of her “in a good way” and very much want it to be a positive experience for both of us. I read on many of the clubs websites of how their club has the “hottest most beautiful” couples. I am 48yrs old and she almost my age. My question is, will going to a club be a positive experience or have we missed the boat and uncomfortably be an object of ridicule until we decide to up and leave. We clean up pretty well and I can rock a casual suit as well as the next guy, but I’m not a 24yr old paratrooper any more either.
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I am at the mature end of the swinging demographic as are my play friends. The ladies have their share of curves and character lines and often prefer to wear something when younger, fitter ladies prefer total nudity. This is just to say clothing is totally OK if it makes you comfortable. This is not a photo shoot. This is intimacy and mutual giving. Besides, a little color and texture is nice to see and feel. When I know my partner is shy I can adjust and just observe that as a boundary. Now, go shopping.
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Hi there, my hubby and I are quite new to the swinging scene, been doing it for about a month now, have had a few soft swaps and 2 full swaps. At first we thought the problem was to do with condoms, we never use them at home but it is a big must for us while playing with others, so we have been practicing at home with them and now we have kind of mastered them, however when swapping hubby struggles to keep his erection after putting one on. He has tried Viagra...didn't work. We have tried drinking, not drinking, but it always ends the same way, he can just about keep it up to penetrate the woman for a brief time but then loses it, as of yet no other woman has managed to make him cum. I always try to be reassuring for him but I am struggling now to come up with things to try or things to suggest for him to try. I feel like when he has managed to cum with another woman thing will be easier (I could be wrong) but I don't know how he can keep himself hard enough to get that far. He knows I can get him hard again quite easily and quickly so when he know he is going soft on him he comes straight to me to get him going again. Does anyone else have this problem or does anyone have any suggestions to help us get past this? We would hate for our swinging lifestyle to be cut short as other than this problem we really are enjoying it. Thanks for reading.
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Hello all. I am a 32f. Husband is 35m. We are interested in trying swinging but something is giving me pause. I am not an easy lady to bring to orgasm. Completely alone with my own hand I can come in 5 minutes. Oral by my husband on me, takes maybe 30 minutes (if it works at all). Vibrators don't do much (not even the Hitachi, but sometimes they do. It's a crapshoot). And I don't orgasm vaginally. I am nervous that my inability to orgasm will turn playmates off. How would you react if the wife of the other couple could not orgasm? Would it be off putting if I were to try to bring a vibrator into bed? Would it make you less likely to swing with us again? I do enjoy sex and the excitement of the whole adventure, my biology and mind is just such that orgasm is hard for me around other people.
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So, the wife and I are moving forward in our adventure. She's not comfortable with the idea of going to our new playmates home to play, we're both in agreement that we don't want to bring her to our home (aside from the mess, we right now want to keep our home as our "us only" place), so that leaves on-premise parties or getting a room. How do you more experienced folk do it? Do you get a room for however long you and your playmates want, even if you have to pay for a night, and check out when you're done? Do you plan it for you or them to stay over night and check out in the AM (of course, many of you might spend the whole night with your playmates, see below for the wife's feelings on that for us)? Do you find a motel with "special" rates (ick, ick, ick)? Now, while the idea of the three of us spending the night together in a hotel doesn't bother me, the wife right now doesn't feel comfortable with that, either. And she's driving the bus, I'm just standing next to her making suggestions... I'll admit, I'd feel kind of "odd" checking three people into a hotel room, then a couple hours later checking out. Of course, part of me also wonders how often just that sort of thing happens, or how often people check in for a couple hours to grab a nap on a long drive... I'd bet most hotel staff are used to such things... Anyways, thanks for any ideas. J&K -
We've been slowly getting back into the swing of things...moving at my wife's comfort level. We've been visiting clubs locally over the last couple of months... Have yet to play with anyone, but definitely enjoying being around other like minded, sexy people. Here's the situation: My wife tells me she's not ready to play with couples, but very interested in having another female to join us, while I watch at first and then join in later. I'm fine with that, so we've contacted some single females, but they never follow through...no big deal, shit happens. So, the other day my wife says she would feel more comfortable playing with another female by herself without me there. At first, I'm thinking to myself 'sure that would be HOT' But after thinking about it a bit, I thought to my self 'what does she mean more comfortable without me' So, when I ask her about her comment, she said 'she doesn't know what to do and would feel embarrassed and on display doing anything in front of me' I told her, we're both new and no one knows what to do exactly the first time at something like this and we should not be embarrassed or uncomfortable doing anything in front of each other, ever. She says that 'she can't help how she feels and I should respect her feelings...she says, it's only for the first time and then she'll be more comfortable being with couples and doing other 3somes. I told her, I personally don't have a problem with her being with another female, but it bothers me that she feels that way about me She now feels like she should have never said anything and she doesn't want to swing anymore. Any advice with this mess, would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
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I am wondering if there are men out there that are afraid of premature ejaculation when they swing for the first time????? I am also wondering if the men are afraid of their performance with the other woman?????
