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What sex acts do you consider to be "reserved" for your significant other and/or very very special friends? You could vote for multiple items on the poll! -
Hi this is Petra, member of a three-woman, two-guy closed poly family. I am a long-time member of the Swingersboard, so if you want more background, you can look at previous posts. We are all now in our thirties and have found that while it used to be that the two guys could adequately take care of us three women, that is shifting. The guys have slacked off a little, while the women's desire for sex has increased. While it helps that we girls are bisexual and can help each other, we also seem to need (or at least want) more frequent sex with the guys. Penis-in-vagina intercourse is what we girls want, and the three of us women cum relatively easily, so a quick screw is satisfying. Anyone else facing a similar situation? The way we have primarily addressed this is by making one of our guys service two girls, her cumming while he holds back, then taking care of the second. Any thoughts? -
I just read a statistic (and you know how accurate they are) that 50% of couples in the lifestyle have sex 4 or more times per week... We typically "monkey around" 5 or more... We laugh about how weird we are when one of us wants to take the night off... I'm not complaining... Anyway - my question would have made a great poll, except I have no idea how to do something so technical (I have just managed to figure out fishing for ants with a stick.). Is the average dorrect? Granted, couples with small kids or big kids who are high drama/traffic/maintainence might have trouble finding THAT much alone time. But I am curious about the rest of us. And do you think it has anything to do with being involved in swinging, or is the opposite true - that you are involved in swinging because you had a highly charged sex life before hands. I'd vote for that, since we have actually "settled" into a 5 time per week pattern... We have always been highly active sexually and see swinging as more of a "spill over". Anyway - what are the REAL stats? Spoomonkey -
Hi all. Need advice or perspectives. My boyfriend and I wanted and had an open relationship from the beginning. I stopped wanting to have sex with other people for my own reasons but didn't mind that he still hooked up with others. But now that we've been together for awhile he doesn't want to have sex with me as much as he used to. I know its normal for sex frequency to decline after the "honeymoon phase" so I guess that's to be expected. He says he didn't want to have sex any more often with his ex girlfriends when he was monogamous in long term relationships. Trouble is, it's a lot less often than I want it. It started bothering me that he'd turn me down often while always on the lookout for new people. I know novelty has its own appeal and doesn't necessarily have anything to do with me, but it was still bothering me so we closed the relationship. Closing the relationship didn't make him any more interested in sex with me than he was before. If anything, maybe a little less. So I don't know if I should look at this like any other couple with a mismatched sex drive which having sex with other people has nothing to do with, thereby making the restriction pointless and maybe even counterproductive? Or maybe if he does continue to have sex with others he'll be less motivated to put effort into our sex life over time? I think I might end up resentful about the attention he gives others but I'm not even sure that's rational IF it's not actually taking anything away from me. Then again maybe it'd just be unfair that I'm sexually frustrated and he's getting extra. Or maybe that's not unfair because I could be with others and choose not to. He really wants to do swinging with me but I find it too aggravating because we've never agreed on people and had it work out. Then I've ended up upset from getting the overall impression he's not interested in me unless other people are involved, but hes just got a thing for group play. I just want a decent sex life with my own partner and not let all this cause unnecessary issues but I feel bit guilty asking for monogamy because it kinda goes against the original terms of our relationship. -
I'm curious about how everyone's sex lives have changed since they have began swinging. Has it gotten better, stayed the same, or has there been changes for worse? I would like to hear from the vets as well as the newbies to the lifestyle. Thank you for your input
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We talk a lot about how often you'd like to have sex if you could have it as often as you want. But how often do you NEED it? How long can you go before a lack of sex actually starts to affect your mood and interactions. Where it gets to a point that when you finally have sex you can feel the stress evaporate and everything is better.
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I need some advice. This is the perfect spot to ask, as some of you know our sex life has been rocky, bordering on non-existent throughout our 42 years of marriage. My wife has never really been sexually active prior to our marriage and she has had lukewarm interest in our sexual activity. At times she has little interest in sex, and I get the feeling she is doing it because, "he has gone long enough I need to fuck him". She for a period of 12 years would not allow any oral sex between us, finally I pushed the issue enough so she gave in, but I get the feeling she is not enjoying sucking my cock, enjoys me going down on her, although I can get her to cum. I have tried many many times to get her to talk about her sexual fantasies and she says she has none. I have tried to get her to sit down with a cup of coffee the next morning and discuss our sexual play and to tell me what she liked what she wanted better and she wont talk about our sexual play, just silence. A few weeks ago I tried to discuss the reasons she doesn't seem to have much sexual desire and really is not too aggressive in bed or doesn't initiate sex with me and I asked her is she was a lesbian and did not want to have sex with me or men. She got really upset, shouted no she was not a lesbian and began to cry and left the room. Conversation ended at that point. It got me thinking did I finally hit the nail on the head. Her reaction was far too strong for a simple question based on my three year battle to improve our sex life. She has not spoken of that conversation since and our the sex between us has again gone to zero. In your opinion could she be a lesbian and refuses to acknowledge the fact and where do I go from here? I would be thrilled if she was at least it would explain our sexual problems and we could work on finding her a steady gf for her pleasure. I will be anxious to hear your thought. Thanks
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Ok, it's Friday, time for another bama poll! This one was spawned by a earlier thread this week that caught my attention and I thought would have led to a more thorough investigation, but the basis for that question was not quite forthcoming! So with no further adieu: What aphrodisiacs have you tried to increase your sex drive? (These may be ones you use, tried before, or tried when you were naive enough to believe they work!)
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Ok, just watched last week's episode of "How I met Your Mother" (The Naked Man) and after Robin had sex with a guy just because he was naked, Lilly was trying to come up with a list of 50 reasons to have sex (her husband had said the only good reason to have sex is because you are in love). So how many reasons to have sex can we come up with. I'll start with some of the ones I can remember from the show..... 1. because he was naked sex 2. Revenge sex 3. make-up sex 4. He thought I was making a move so I just went with sex 5. break-up sex 6. cuz I can't get to sleep sex 7. Having sex to change the subject Copy the list from the previous post and add to it and see how long we can make it.
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Here's a simple little question for you... They say practice makes perfect. Have you found that through swinging you and/or your partner have gotten better in bed? It also seems that what a lot of swingers seem to enjoy sexually could be considered somewhat extreme (i.e.; DP, gangbangs, dungeon play etc...) Would you say that your experiences as a swinger has made you more receptive or for lack of a better word, more "kinky"? or are these things that you were already doing before you got into swinging?
