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I thought this would be an interesting poll. I didn't see where it was asked before and I was just curious. So, the question is, how many different couples/singles have you had sex with? -
Virginity....I know for me I sort of have to scratch my head and try to remember what virginity was.... Where did you lose your virginity? (no need to mention age here) I lost mine in the back seat of a '66 Rambler Classic to my boyfriend at the time, soon to become the father of my children. We parked that baby (and she was a beauty) on a back dusty road right above a dirt covered mound, beneath the stars, no trees, no brush, no grass. It was really cold outstide so we left the motor running in order to have heat. We were one with the earth in the middle of nowhere.....so we thought... Right in the middle of when things were getting really heated, and I mean REALLY heated, there was a rap on the car window (shoulda been a sign right then and there). The county Sheriff was tapping with his flashlight on our rear window. He had been called out to investigate the noise on top of the complaintants home. We were atop the first underground home built in our area! Back then they didn't arrest you for these kind of things, they just insured you left the area. And leave we did! We found another spot a county over in a state park and there I lost it. Geesh what fond memories I have of that night....of the Rambler that is... So where did you lose yours? Lori -
So, did you actually have sex in high school? We'll use the legal definition here and say that oral sex and petting don't count. Only say "Yes" if you had vaginal intercourse... Y'know? Cock in pussy. Multiple answers are allowed, so if you're a couple, you can answer for both. Mr. Alura
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So I stopped talking about the number of Guys I've had sex with a long time ago as it tends to shock people. So this is a two part question. How many men can a woman sleep with before she is considered a slut? What is the number of men that a woman could sleep with that would shock you or make you reconsider playing with her?
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I was wondering about some of the wildest things that people have done. I guess ours would be when we went to a club not far from New Orleans where there were couples on stage and we sat in the front row and watched them perform on stage. We had had a few drinks and I decided that I wanted to join the guy on stage. I went to the side of the stage and walked up, and everyone started cheering, and I started to strip. There I was naked on stage in front of about 40 to 50 other couples and I got down on my knees and gave the guy on stage a great blow job. When I got off my hubby asked me if I wanted to go up there and perform with him. We ended up having sex on stage. It was exciting and fun and I wish I could do it again.
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Where did you get your sex education? Was it from one or two of the more astute kids on the playground? Did you watch Sue Johanson or Doctor Ruth on TV? From your Mom on day before the wedding? From your Dad on the day before the wedding? From high-school sex education class? In the back seat of a Nash Rambler at the drive-in movie? European-style where you Father takes you to his favorite whore house for your eighteenth birthday?
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I saw this comment in another thread: And I thought it interesting. If you found out that half of a couple you had been talking with used to be a prostitute/escort and you were interested in the couple (prior to this) would that bit of information be enough to make you not want to play with them? If so, why? If not, why?
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People sharing what questions they ask about potential playmates and sexual history has led to some very interesting thoughts and discussions. The one I found most interesting was the idea of "wild" people are not safe. Which of course led to the discussion of what constitutes being "wild". How many partners does it take for you to decide ok this person just has had too many partners for me to feel safe with them. Are there other issues that constitute wild? At what point do you feel that you just can't trust your sexual health in the "hands" of this person or people? -
We have 29 certs over the course of nearly four years. We find the comments complimentary and nice recommendations. But do we look too slutty? Are we intimidating the less outgoing? We have received a few snide remarks. An overly certed couple who we play with have been deleting older certs to keep their numbers down. Thoughts?
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Last Thursday I went to a local club. I'd been there before with my husband, but this time I went with, well, I honestly don't know what to call him. Friend-ish person is usually how I refer to him. So, Friend-ish and I go to the club. It's a great night to be there, enough people to make it fun without it being crazy crowded. Very nice. We're hanging out in the hot tub (one of the main reasons we decided to go) and a bunch of people assume we're "together" until I start talking about hubby or he starts talking about his live-in partner or my boyfriend comes up in conversation. Then we get the look. The confused, "I'm not entirely sure what's going on here" look. So we explain we're poly, that we are somewhere in between being friends and being in a relationship, touch briefly on how our relationships work, and say life is great. One of two things seemed to happen. Either people were very much okay with this concept and it made perfect sense OR they were completely confused/not feeling it and felt the need to wander away. Almost immediately. Where I live, poly is VERY common. Open relationships in general are practically considered "normal" (at least in my age bracket, 20s-30s). Because of this, I wasn't expecting much discomfort/confusion when poly came up. HOWEVER, I still felt uncomfortable just bringing it up out of nowhere! Part of me felt like it wasn't pertinent (I mean, really - I wasn't even there to play so why do people need to know?) but another part of me thinks that this is part of who I am and I should LEARN to be comfortable talking about it, regardless of my intent when conversing with people. I guess I just wanted to ramble on about this for a while, and ask a very simple question. Is it pertinent? When you're talking to someone at a swing club (or party or whatever), would you want/need to know if they are with their ONLY partner or just one of a few? If yes, why is that information important? Do other poly folks make it clear when they are meeting potential playmates? -
My ex-wife and I were in the lifestyle for several years, and then unfortunately found out she had been cheating (several times in college, and two separate affairs during our marriage) during our entire 10-year relationship, even while we were swingers (but never with other swingers). Took me a long time to reflect on what happened, how I may have contributed, questioned swinging, etc. It took me some time and many of my friends to help me realize she had a LOT of issues, and still does. I was concerned there could be the possibility my ex-wife would try to accuse me of something false related to our swinging (I made her do it, etc.) that would eventually reveal my past to my new wife. Honestly, I approached the lifestyle with my ex-wife as a gift to her - it was all for her, not myself; I learned a lot about myself, and thought we had completely open, honest, and loving communication, never pushing each other to do something and always respecting our decisions made together as a couple, and truly thought it was improving our marriage. I give you that backstory to tell you my current story… I’m remarried to an incredible woman, and could go on for days how amazing and stunning she truly is…we’re both devout Christians and attend church regularly. A few months before I proposed (she knew it was coming, ring picked out, etc.), I made it a point to be completely honest with her and tell her about my past in the lifestyle with my ex-wife, no details, just the blunt fact. I’m honest to a fault and deeply believe I owed my now wife the entire truth, especially in case my ex- decided to falsely accuse me of something related to our lifestyle involvement. She didn’t take it very well, she was very disgusted and felt taken advantage of, etc., and I actually thought at one point she wouldn’t accept my proposal. It took a little while, but we finally worked through it, but not after some very specific questions she had about it all…which I tried very hard to still vaguely side-step (going into steamy sex details about an ex- with your current girlfriend isn’t exactly wise course of action). My current wife is more reserved and conservative in her beliefs, but popular and stylish, and not at all a prude. She immediately denounced swinging and asked if I wanted her to do the same, pictured me doing all these gross orgies with ugly people, etc…typical mainstream misconceptions and misunderstandings of what the lifestyle really is…and I explained it to her. She’s not the most confident woman in bed, part of her reserved side, but I’ve been trying to get her out of her sexual shyness shell so to speak for a while. But for the past couple years, year of engagement and year of marriage, our sex frequency has gone down considerably, almost seems like she’s disinterested. I have to initiate sex all the time, she never does oral (giving or receiving) or any other foreplay, and she makes it seem like a task to get done and over with most of the time. [side note, she’s performed oral on me once, while she was on her period because she felt obligated, which I stopped her and told her she didn’t have to just because of that and felt she HAD to please me, I’m a gentleman, and not selfish. She took it as I didn’t like how she was doing it, so she claims to this day…] It worries me, and I’ve brought up my frustrations a couple times and she actually listened, but nothing really has changed, she hasn’t opened up and communicated or appear to feel more comfortable during sex. There have been extremely brief glimpses of hope at times though (before I discussed my frustration)… like when I was trying to skirt details of explaining the lifestyle, I did ask her about her sexual history and if she had ever had a one night stand before, which she did admit to me she’s had one (so at least one, maybe more, which was a encouraging in my opinion) and I was merely relating the similarity to swinging that sex can be for fun and just for sex and to help her see that her desires are not so far off from a swinging couples, it’s along the same lines and even better if you consider the open communication. Another occasion, she initiated and for once acted like a sex goddess one night we stayed at a friend's house after drinks, wouldn’t let me get up without fucking her, she was vocal, passionate, wild, it was incredible…but she did have some drinks in her. Another - she tried to get me to have sex in a public bathroom when we were out with a bunch of friends once (work friends mind you), which I wasn’t really into and said no…which she got upset and accused me of swinging but I wouldn’t do that with her…caught me off guard a little and made me wonder her real intent for wanting to in the first place, testing me or truly acting on exhibitionism impulse. With these examples, I’d like to think there’s a sexually free woman in there somewhere, at least I hope, she just doesn’t communicate about this kind of stuff very well, and I really hope her knowledge of my past doesn’t make her feel more inadequate or insecure in bed. If anything, I had hoped it would open her up to feel more comfortable in expressing her desires and sexual prowess with me, but it has definitely not. I am not trying to get her to be a swinger, and won’t ever bring that up, ever, but I do want to have that same open communication and comfort sexually with just her that I learned from the lifestyle, complete and respectful open honest dialogue about what we both want, like, dislike, etc. I do want her to feel desire and comfort initiating sex on her own more confidently. I just don’t know where to start or how to approach…which is why I’m here, asking some old lifestyle friends for any sage advice or ideas that maybe I’m not thinking of or haven’t tried yet. -
Beginning to think I am one of the only guys my age who has not had a threesome before. Just wondering who has and has not had a threesome or more?
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I'm new here, visited this site because my wife and i are open with having sex with other people and done so some in the past. When I was still young i thought i would only marry a woman that had been only with me. Then after i found out that my fiance had screwed another guy i thought it was OK, or even hot. But overall she had fewer partners than me. Later, both my first wife and my now wife have both had more partners than me, my first wife a few more but then she fucked other guys while we were engaged and married, and my current wife a LOT more. so my attitude has changed considerable since I was young and first dating. My question is- Before you got married did you have any limits about how many previous sex partners your wife had that would be too many? Women are welcome to contribute too. Thanks to all of you.
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This is a question for couples that enjoy the swinging lifestyle. Were both inexperienced sexually when you met, only one was sexually experienced or were both of you sexually experienced when you met? Just curious!! -
What if there was a 4 digit number that could be used to identify, and screen prospective partners according to their level of sexual risk? You could think of it as sort of a credit score for having sex. Using it, you and another person could size up how acceptable one another's risk profiles were without necessarily knowing the intimate details of one another's risk profiles. So if you wanted to avoid people that have stds, such as AIDs, you could ask a prospective partner if they have it (based on test results) without offending them in the process by insinuating that they do. Furthermore, if you wanted to avoid people that are likely to have stds (based on probabilities) without insinuating anything, you could do that too. Conversely, if you are a person with AIDs, or anything else, you could use this number to disclose your condition without fear of shame, or stigma as the sole purpose of this number would be to only tell whether or not two people are sexually compatible - nothing more, nothing less. Polling Question: Would you find this useful, not necessarily as a swinger per se, but as a sexually active person?
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I was chatting with someone I might possibly like to meet. They told me they have very little experience giving oral because, in their words, it was not something they had been interested in doing in the past. I like oral a lot, giving and receiving. They say they are now interested in giving. They of course love receiving. If someone is not going to enjoy going down on me that is a deal breaker. Would you meet someone if they told you this? I have made this gender neutral so anyone can respond! -
Cheating seems to be the hot topic of late and some of the comments in the thread "more on cheating" made me wonder... is there some sort of connection between those who have cheated or been cheated on in the past turning to swinging in future relationships? Is it possibly some people's way of preventing cheating. Kind of like the idea that if drugs were legal we wouldn't have a drug problem in the US? Well if the acts that are usually considered cheating in a relationship are ok'ed by the parties in that relationship (thus they agree to swing), then cheating won't be a problem anymore. Any thoughts?
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We have had several topics/posts and discussions of late regarding sexual habits before seeking to be in or learn more about swinging in general. I am curious as to what led couples to the lifestyle in general and if their past sexual experiences played a major role in it. Do you think that promiscuity in your past led you to the lifestyle? Do you think the two are intertwined in some way? In the poll it is designed for multiple answers so that those who choose to remain anonymous can but please do not choose more than two and you need to answer differently for each of you. Lori
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We met with a couple at a club that we had been chatting with and we clicked and decided to play. When it came down to the protection part, I guess we hadn't chatted about it before then, but we found out that they normally don't use it. Of course they agreed to with us. No protection is a deal breaker for us. What I'm now wondering is if you wouldn't play with someone who doesn't use protection all the time? -
Do you keep track of how many people you have sex with? Does how many fuck buddies you have on your list play a role in your swinging satisfaction? If so, do you equate it to a score that represents how you're doing as a swinger, i.e., the more people you fuck the greater a swinger you are? I see where some people--in their ad profiles--say they aren't looking to put notches in their bedpost. Other's profiles give me the impression that for them, the more swing partners they have, the merrier they are. LM -
Just wondering how long term this has been for some of you....
