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In your opinion is there such a thing as a woman acting too slutty in the lifestyle? In my swing circle being called a slut is a good thing, it is use as a term of endearment but being called too slutty is not. BTW- we define a slut as a woman who likes to play and is very open minded. I was at the club one night and a woman told me that I had better be careful, that I was being too slutty just because I was dancing topless. I know, the horror, a woman dancing topless in a swing club! She then went on to tell me that men don’t want to play with a woman if she is too slutty. Now this was from a woman who had 4 guys lined up giving them blowjobs in an open room, putting on a show. Not that I think that was too slutty. I think her thinking is a little skewed. I know a woman that will screw anything with a dick, she doesn’t care who or what it is attached to. I am not sure if that is being too slutty or just not being very careful. So guys, if you think that there is a line where a woman has crossed over from being a slut to being too slutty, what is that line?
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Question for one and all. What sort of foreplay (If any) do you usually indulge in with your swing partners and how is that foreplay different from what you would perform on with your regular spouse/SO.
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We all know how much people vary in talent for sport or music or dancing etc both before and after training. Indeed some people are better as beginners than others will be after years of practice. Take the effect of simply drawing a bow across violin strings. It can sound like a tortured cat or something heavenly and deeply moving. Now the same thing no doubt applies to sex. The stroke during intercourse may have just as much variation in terms of how good it feels to the woman as the sound of a violin does. There must be big differences in how skillfully men move their cocks in and out. There is the skill of each stroke and the skill in being able to vary it just right as things build i.e. to make music inside you. Of course the size and shape of his cock must also make a difference but most women seem to say its much more about how he uses it. In your experience ladies just how much variation is there in thrusting skill out there? Do swingers seem any better than non-swingers? Does practice and more variety improve a man's skill or do most men never learn anything? If possible could you identify what makes thrusting good or bad? What difference does all the stuff that happens before any thrusting make? What about other things he may do during thrusting? I'm aware that a lot of other stuff from talking to touching to kissing and oral action happens too and that there are huge differences here too. I'm also aware that looks have an impact on the overall experience as well. However I don't want to make this discussion too broad. Lets talk about thrusting skill for now. If other skills contribute via preparation or atmosphere creation then mention it.
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Most couples know each other’s sexual limits with each other very well and respect them even while participating in the lifestyle. Sometimes the couples’ limits are established overtime by personal comfort norms. They settle because the spouses are not agreeable or don’t reach the point of stepping beyond and breaking out. The lifestyle offers an opportunity that may excite a spouse to venture beyond the comfort of their relationship with their spouse. Is there a point where you have gone beyond where you go with your spouse? How would you feel about it if you were told by your spouse that they did? I know it should be discussed but did you decide not to bring it up and elected to keep it your secret? Would you go there again?
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I am curious, when you are with another partner for the evening do you tend to have a new approach to adventure? Does the opportunity to be with someone new give you the feeling that you are free to reach out to new levels that you may not share with your spouse? Do you do things like swallow or go down on your new partner and not your spouse? Do you ever just let go and accommodate the requested new situation pushing the agreed upon boundaries/limits of your spouse? Do you have stronger or multiple organism's with you new partner? Do you have sex more times during the evening encounter than with your spouse? Do you look forward to a specific partner that elevates your experience?- 3 replies
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I was listening to swingercast again and I don't remember if it was the hosts or someone they were talking to that said they felt like people who made a lot of noise when they were cumming (screamers) were typically faking it... adding the noise in for drama, basically. And I believe something was said to the point that noisy guys are cheesy. Maybe not those exact words. So I want to know, what your opinion is about screamers (and those who are just plain noisy in bed). Are you? If so, is it real? or are you adding it for drama? Are you noisier or quieter at a club (or with others in the room) than you are when it's just the two of you? And how do you feel about others that are noisy? Does it interrupt your groove? Do you feel like they are just putting on a show?
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From another thread: I thought this would be a great thread so here it is! For those of you who have a swing partner/FWB that is better suited to your sexual tastes than your spouse, would you care to expand on that thought? -
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Tonight we were at a house party. We were in the hot tub and I started making out with a guy I'd seen earlier and thought was attractive. He was quite cute... but he had what I'd consider an over-active tongue during kissing. Does anyone else find that there's something of a divide between people who kiss slowly, use their tongues slowly, use their lips etc., and people who seem to stick it in there and wiggle it like a teletubby on five cups of coffee? I'm just curious. It's obvious from my post which I prefer... but I'm only one person. I am wondering what others think. Oh, and we tend to find that "over-active tongue" people tend to come in couples, which makes sense. Over time you get used to how your SO kisses, and each person's kissing style probably evolves to become more like theirs whether or not we realize it. Comments?
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While reading the comments in another thread about penis size, I thought about hard or fast intercourse. I am quite petite and I can't take too large of a penis. But with even average guys, I can't take hard intercourse. I prefer it slower and softer which I know isn't for everyone. I also find that it feels so much better when the penis is going in and out at a slower pace, I tend to feel everything much better. I do have girlfriends that just love to be "pounded", as they say. But that actually can hurt me due to the shallowness of my vagina. How do you like it? Hard and fast? Slow and sensual? Or a mixture of both? Why do you like it a certain way? Carol xoxoxo
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Hello, We've been in the lifestyle for about a year. We've really enjoyed it, and it's changed our lives for the better in countless ways. However, we're having some issues with the style of sex that lifestylers seem to want and expect from us. Perhaps we're a little vanilla in our own right, but neither of us have experienced the type of techniques as we have with the couples we've met in the lifestyle. After talking about it this morning, we thought that we would post this question to the swingersboard community and see if what we're experiencing is typical of swingers in general, typical of swingers in our area, or just a run of bad luck on our parts. Let me start by saying we're not judging anyone's style or technique. We fully understand that everyone has their way of doing things and that they do what they enjoy. It could be that lifestylers tend like it one way, and it's just not our thing. Please understand, we're also not saying EVERYONE does what I'm going to be describing, but it has been the most common technique. I'll get to the meat of things: We've been with about 15 couples in the past 11 months. It seems that the vast majority of the people we've been with like a faster style of sex. The best way to describe it is to compare it to what you would see in pornos. Go fast, go hard, and pound her until she's sore. We're both 40 and have both been with our share of partners. We both think we were good lovers and neither of us ever had any complaints. At the same time, neither of us had really experienced anything like this in the vanilla world. We both tend to prefer slower and sensual style of sex -- not that there's not a place for going faster on occasion, but it was never like it is in the lifestyle -- where I've had women pace me (moving my hips) at a quick clip from literally the first thrust. Mrs. O'swinger always felt she gave a good BJ, but the guys she's run into in the LS seem to want to (as she describes it) "f*** her face" -- thrusting quickly in and out of her mouth. She doesn't really care for that. It's all just a little too much for us. It's too fast and not very sensual. We find it animalistic and impersonal. We both feel a little out of our element. So, here's what we want to know: Is this the norm? Do you find that this is what most LS'ers want as well? Is this what you enjoy? We are NOT looking for advice on finding compatible couples. This is the first step in doing exactly that. We just want to get a handle on how common this is so we know how to approach getting what we want. If we hear that this is the preferred style of sex in the LS, we'll handle things one way; if we find it's just been a run of bad luck on our part, we'll handle it another. Thanks for the input!
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Several ladies of this forum have said, "It's not the size, it's knowing how to use what he has." Perhaps you ladies could tell us exactly what a man who "knows how to use it" does? Husband of Alura
