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My wife, Wendy and I have experimented in swinging in the past by inviting a friend to join us in bed on several occasions. This Saturday Wendy and I were at a pool opening party and she had a bit too much to drink and too much sun. We were at her boss' house and he directed us to a room where I could lay Wendy down for a bit. He had hit on Wendy in the past but wasn't a total jerk or anything, he was nice enough to help me get her in bed, but I noticed he was also taking this chance to feel her. Wendy was nearly asleep/out and I should have just said "Ok, I can take it from here". I don't know what came over me but when he put his fingers at at the hook/clasp of her bikini top between her breasts and looked at me, I just nodded and he looked back to her for a sign of her noticing. Her eyes were closed and I just kind of stood there as he slowly undid it and very gently pulled her top apart and to the side so she was topless. He felt each breast gently and then softly kissed each nipple. Then he stopped and said thanks, you have no idea how long I've wanted to see and touch your wife's breasts. Then he left. I'm not sure what to tell Wendy or what I should do. I feel I let her down, which I know I did, but I'm not sure what step to take now? -
We went to a party this weekend, and some moronic guy (someone neither of us knew, werent attracted to nor talked with at all) saw a chance with my wife and took it. She was resting on a half wall ledge, and he came up, pulled down her top and bra, and started licking her breast. Bad bad bad. She then popped up, saw it wasnt someone she knew (she isnt into sneak attacks anyway, so she was ready to scold whomever it was) and said what the hell do you think you are doing, and he started saying "sorry if I offended" as he ran like the wind. I was in the other room at the time and didnt see anything except his backside. Didnt know what he had done when I saw him running by, otherwise I would have done something physical with him. He ran out the door and left. We immediately told the hosts, but none of the bystanders had a very good description of what he looked like and most of the rest of the attendees were too occupied or drunk to be of any value. Really gave us a good view of why bystanders at a scene dont notice details very well. So we scanned the attendance list, cross referenced with profiles, but since he's the guy half, its very likely that his picture isnt shown and we wont find him. We've narrowed it down to 10 profiles, it's all a guess beyond that. Bleh. It didnt really bother my wife a ton, she doesnt feel criminally assaulted, not sure if I can say the same for me though. If she ever spots the guy at a future party, Im going to have serious trouble holding back. If and when we do figure out who he is, he will be blacklisted for sure.
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So one of the Cardinal Rules of Swinging is "no means no". But at a club, or in any type of open play environment, from some people's accounts what they felt was a clear "No" was sometimes still subject to interpretation by the receiver. Let's say you are playing and someone is trying to join in, and you say no. Does that mean they should clear the area far enough to where they aren't in your bubble any more, or since it's a public play area, do they have the right to sit just far enough away to not be actually touching you but they are still focused entirely on you? What about if they are doing that and masturbating too? So, what does "No" mean to you - "no, I don't want physical contact with you" or "no, I don't want to be an object of gratification for you even without physical contact"? Have you ever encountered this before? How did you handle it? -
Mr Indy and I had an unfortunate incident at a club last night, and it has prompted us to discuss a few things we want your opinions on. Here is the question: As a woman, it seems that in order to say NO, you have to have been violated atleast once. (I am only talking about getting groped, nothing more) Something has to happen to generate the NO response for you, and to me that mean you have already been violated. It seems in my experience, single men are the ones that take the NO and move on. The married guys are the ones that don't. As a woman, do you accept the liablity that undesired groping is going to happen just because you are at the club and dancing seductively? Or.... Do you expect the club to be steadfast in a proactive stance against this and protect your right to dance seductively/suggestively by educating and watching over the men in attendance? Do you immediately inform the club 'bouncers' after the first unpermissive touch and ask that the man be removed or talked to, or do you allow one slip and on the second attempt go to the authorities?
