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I've been thinking about is sex. Squeezing into the 23 hours per day that I have rather graphic, NC-17 type thoughts, has been this one: "Is swinging just 'meaningless' sex?" Don't get me wrong - I don't feel like there is any deep connection that happens with playmates, and most of the time, you play with someone never to see them again. That is fine. Most want friends, but most (I would assume) don't want the sex to be any deeper than just a fun time. But, still, the idea that what we do - swinging, or whatever you want to call it - is just meaningless friction with a random body... To me - that would be disinteresting. There is always a little something more involved. There is an element of flattery when someone attractive is attracted to you. There is an element of acceptance that someone would be open to something so intimate - or animalistic - with you. There is something self-affirming about it all. I don't think it ever gets - or should get - any deeper than that. But if it were truly "meaningless" what would be the point? The idea of "meaningless sex" just doesn't work for me - but maybe I have simply not completely digested what it is about it that bothers me. Recently, we played with a couple whom we will never play with again for various reasons - but even then - the experience wasn't a meaningless one... I don't know... I'm rambling, but trying to put in words what it is that I am thinking... Anyone feel where I'm coming from? What are your thoughts?
